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Its seems that all I`ve been up to lately is getting involved with complicated girls. Not that I dislike it, but sometimes, oh man... sometimes...
So, a little rundown of recents events in my life:
- Dumped by last girl (ref here: Previous blog)
- Last christmas, an ex-gf texted me saying she missed me. She was single for the time being, so why not?
- We stayed together until end of january, when she told me he still loved her ex. It destroyed me. I was kind of in love with her...
Since then I've been chatting with that girl best friend, which is a nice and funny girl (now ex is girl A and friend is girl B). Girl B and me get along really well and lately we've been sexting a lot, I mean, A LOT. We're kind at each other, with the only thing holding her down is her friendship to A. Is clear to me that she like me, and I do liker her, of course it all started as a possible casual sex, but now I not sure...
She says it would be like betraying girl A coz she still likes me. I don't even care anymore about A, but no matter what I try, I can't get girl B to leave behind those thoughts.
Any ideas?
  
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Don't push it. Respect her decision. She has to come around on her own if you want a chance at a successful thing here.
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Please learn to respect women. They like when you appreciate their mind for instance, not only their body.
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bullshit from the nice guys above, her friend dumped you so she has absolutely nothing to say here. girl B needs to grow some ovaries
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i agree with sweden on this one
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If your ex dumped you, then she has no claim to you. If she still likes you, and refuses to let her friend get with you, that is a double standard she cannot possibly justify. I understand that she would not want her friends dating you, but this just feels so damn high school. She seems like a basic bitch man, and this is some basic shit.
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if your ex gf is actually a he, then I would gtfo of that relationship anyway
more seriously, what about a threesome? That way it's casual and they both have equal dibs on you?
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so supposedly some kind of triangle right ? just don't go overboard and avoid the story becoming alike school days(anime)
do what you are happy about. i guess
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On April 26 2014 01:58 NeuroticPsychosis wrote:
Please learn to respect women. They like when you appreciate their mind for instance, not only their body.
I do respect them. I’m not pushing girl B into doing anything she does not want to. I think time will tell but if I there was something I could do about it, it would be better, don’t you think so?
On April 26 2014 02:22 CYFAWS wrote:
bullshit from the nice guys above, her friend dumped you so she has absolutely nothing to say here. girl B needs to grow some ovaries
On April 26 2014 02:35 docvoc wrote:
If your ex dumped you, then she has no claim to you. If she still likes you, and refuses to let her friend get with you, that is a double standard she cannot possibly justify. I understand that she would not want her friends dating you, but this just feels so damn high school. She seems like a basic bitch man, and this is some basic shit.
I agree that she don’t have to feel the way she feels but I understand it. girl A is a nice person but too insecure about her feelings and that’s keeping girl B from going out with me.
On April 26 2014 03:30 goody153 wrote:
so supposedly some kind of triangle right ? just don't go overboard and avoid the story becoming alike school days(anime)
do what you are happy about. i guess
Maaaaan, that ending! I hope i can avoid this situation but you never know…
On April 26 2014 02:54 lantz wrote:
if your ex gf is actually a he, then I would gtfo of that relationship anyway
more seriously, what about a threesome? That way it's casual and they both have equal dibs on you?
A threesome would be the perfect ending to all this. Sadly, It never happens to me… but one can only hope, right? 
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Battle her down until her health is in the red, and then throw a pokeball to capture her. Higher level girls may take a megaball or ultraball to capture, so make sure you have them equipped.
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To quote family man:
"old girlfriends are like old tax returns" . Nobody is keeping anybody from doing anything. From what you explained, to me it looks like girl B is making up excuses. If she where really in love with you, she would be with you, not only have sex with you. I mean she calls you, says she is lonely, then 2 months after she says to you she is still in love with her ex? why didn' t she call him in that moment of loneliness and crisis? oh she was lonely phisically. In my experience, women are much more aggresive and confident about what they want from men.
I suggest this: ask someone who knows everybody, and ask them especially of the relationship that is beetwen girl A and B. It seems you know both pretty well, but you might not see things objectivly in this case cause your too much involved. Ask and look, how does girl B treat (or treated in the past) with other men? Do you know the ex that she claimes she was still in love with? what kind of a person is he? How much does girl B share with you about her life? do you know her parents? childhood friends? problems? joys?
I would suggest doing these things, and taking some time for yourself, to think things over once you have this information. Also it would be better to be discreet and not letting girl B know of these things, and avoid asking any of these questions directly to her. Thats my opinion.
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If a relationship starts off with complicated bullshit, all it will ever be is complicated bullshit, and it will end as complicated bullshit.
You don't have to figure out women like this. If a girl gives you mixed signals or dances around or can't make up her mind, that's just who she is. Congratulations, you've figured her out. There's nothing underneath. There's no depth. There's no such thing as waiting around for her to figure out what she really thinks. This indecisive push-pull thing is what she is actually all about. It's all she is, and all she has to offer.
She's getting a thrill out of tying you up in knots. She likes the attention and sense of power it's giving her. She's trying to make you think there's something more down the road, but this is it. This is not a means to an end or a process. This is the goal. She's reached her goal by making you think you still have to reach yours.
Even if this turned into a relationship, it will always be more of this same shit. You will always feel confused, trying to understand what she really thinks.
Respect women for their minds? Sure, but from everything you've described, there's nothing about this girl's mind to respect. Move on, and find yourself a woman with some maturity.
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Then how do I go about this? I have seen girls act the way you described yet I can feel that she is being honest (or at least she does a good job acting...)
Do I give her some time to think and when that time comes, if she didn't decided anything tell her to fuck off or do that right now?
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You don't have to tell anybody to fuck off. Just spend your time on something better, like... anything else. Why do guys have this idea that women are the center of the universe?
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Probably because they need women to fulfill their biological purpose and thus are hard (hah) wired to think that.
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On April 25 2014 23:46 Gleen wrote:She says it would be like betraying girl A coz she still likes me. I don't even care anymore about A, but no matter what I try, I can't get girl B to leave behind those thoughts.
Any ideas?
To quote Nate Dogg (I think): "How'd I get her to leave with me? Conversation and Hennessy."
Girl B will go for it if you keep doing what you're doing and wait for the right moment when her inhibitions are lowered.
As for the threesome, I believe that the majority of girls will never do this and nothing you can do will change that. But there are some that will. The only way to find out is to try. Next time you are sexting/chatting with Girl B, and she is saying how she doesn't want to date you because of Girl A, show a bit if an emotional side and say "I understand how you feel, some days I still miss her a lot." Pause for a moment to let this sink in. Then say "besides, she has a great ass don't you think?" See if girl B will engage in talk about how hot and sexy her friend is.
If she won't then probably just forget about the threesome. If she will, then just keep going and see where it leads.
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On April 28 2014 00:46 ziggurat wrote:Show nested quote +On April 25 2014 23:46 Gleen wrote:She says it would be like betraying girl A coz she still likes me. I don't even care anymore about A, but no matter what I try, I can't get girl B to leave behind those thoughts.
Any ideas? To quote Nate Dogg (I think): "How'd I get her to leave with me? Conversation and Hennessy." Girl B will go for it if you keep doing what you're doing and wait for the right moment when her inhibitions are lowered. As for the threesome, I believe that the majority of girls will never do this and nothing you can do will change that. But there are some that will. The only way to find out is to try. Next time you are sexting/chatting with Girl B, and she is saying how she doesn't want to date you because of Girl A, show a bit if an emotional side and say "I understand how you feel, some days I still miss her a lot." Pause for a moment to let this sink in. Then say "besides, she has a great ass don't you think?" See if girl B will engage in talk about how hot and sexy her friend is. If she won't then probably just forget about the threesome. If she will, then just keep going and see where it leads.
Hey, it turned out the way you said (not the threesome part), but she acepted going out with me. In fact, I'll see her in a few hours.. just for a casual sex, but it's something right?
Expect a update some time soon!
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On April 27 2014 08:07 Ashakyre wrote:
If a relationship starts off with complicated bullshit, all it will ever be is complicated bullshit, and it will end as complicated bullshit.
You don't have to figure out women like this. If a girl gives you mixed signals or dances around or can't make up her mind, that's just who she is. Congratulations, you've figured her out. There's nothing underneath. There's no depth. There's no such thing as waiting around for her to figure out what she really thinks. This indecisive push-pull thing is what she is actually all about. It's all she is, and all she has to offer.
She's getting a thrill out of tying you up in knots. She likes the attention and sense of power it's giving her. She's trying to make you think there's something more down the road, but this is it. This is not a means to an end or a process. This is the goal. She's reached her goal by making you think you still have to reach yours.
Even if this turned into a relationship, it will always be more of this same shit. You will always feel confused, trying to understand what she really thinks.
Respect women for their minds? Sure, but from everything you've described, there's nothing about this girl's mind to respect. Move on, and find yourself a woman with some maturity.
What the fuck? I don't mean to belittle you at all, but have you had experiences in the past that led you to believe this? There are tons of ways people can be confused about their feelings and there's nothing wrong with that, nor does it close the door on legitimate and meaningful relationships in spite of uncertainty. What you propose is perhaps something that exists but I really don't think it's the norm.
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On April 29 2014 08:26 EatThePath wrote:Show nested quote +On April 27 2014 08:07 Ashakyre wrote:
If a relationship starts off with complicated bullshit, all it will ever be is complicated bullshit, and it will end as complicated bullshit.
You don't have to figure out women like this. If a girl gives you mixed signals or dances around or can't make up her mind, that's just who she is. Congratulations, you've figured her out. There's nothing underneath. There's no depth. There's no such thing as waiting around for her to figure out what she really thinks. This indecisive push-pull thing is what she is actually all about. It's all she is, and all she has to offer.
She's getting a thrill out of tying you up in knots. She likes the attention and sense of power it's giving her. She's trying to make you think there's something more down the road, but this is it. This is not a means to an end or a process. This is the goal. She's reached her goal by making you think you still have to reach yours.
Even if this turned into a relationship, it will always be more of this same shit. You will always feel confused, trying to understand what she really thinks.
Respect women for their minds? Sure, but from everything you've described, there's nothing about this girl's mind to respect. Move on, and find yourself a woman with some maturity.
What the fuck? I don't mean to belittle you at all, but have you had experiences in the past that led you to believe this? There are tons of ways people can be confused about their feelings and there's nothing wrong with that, nor does it close the door on legitimate and meaningful relationships in spite of uncertainty. What you propose is perhaps something that exists but I really don't think it's the norm.
Yes, and so have a lot of other men too. Every good relationship I've been in started off in a very straightforward way, and every toxic woman I've met relied on me giving her the benefit of the doubt in regards to unclear or contradictory communication.
Tell me, what's wrong with demanding maturity from women?
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On April 30 2014 10:25 Ashakyre wrote:Show nested quote +On April 29 2014 08:26 EatThePath wrote:On April 27 2014 08:07 Ashakyre wrote:
If a relationship starts off with complicated bullshit, all it will ever be is complicated bullshit, and it will end as complicated bullshit.
You don't have to figure out women like this. If a girl gives you mixed signals or dances around or can't make up her mind, that's just who she is. Congratulations, you've figured her out. There's nothing underneath. There's no depth. There's no such thing as waiting around for her to figure out what she really thinks. This indecisive push-pull thing is what she is actually all about. It's all she is, and all she has to offer.
She's getting a thrill out of tying you up in knots. She likes the attention and sense of power it's giving her. She's trying to make you think there's something more down the road, but this is it. This is not a means to an end or a process. This is the goal. She's reached her goal by making you think you still have to reach yours.
Even if this turned into a relationship, it will always be more of this same shit. You will always feel confused, trying to understand what she really thinks.
Respect women for their minds? Sure, but from everything you've described, there's nothing about this girl's mind to respect. Move on, and find yourself a woman with some maturity.
What the fuck? I don't mean to belittle you at all, but have you had experiences in the past that led you to believe this? There are tons of ways people can be confused about their feelings and there's nothing wrong with that, nor does it close the door on legitimate and meaningful relationships in spite of uncertainty. What you propose is perhaps something that exists but I really don't think it's the norm. Yes, and so have a lot of other men too. Every good relationship I've been in started off in a very straightforward way, and every toxic woman I've met relied on me giving her the benefit of the doubt in regards to unclear or contradictory communication. Tell me, what's wrong with demanding maturity from women?
Nothing, surely. But I don't understand what your post has to do with the blog.
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