girls and social issues - Page 4

On November 13 2013 13:16 Bereft wrote:
while the implications are a bit alarming, i actually find your candor in your blogs refreshing and i think some of the comments to your blogs are a bit harsh. then again, these commentors probably know you better than i do.

it sounds like the fundamental issue you face is that you find certain social norms (which you perceive as constructed and fake) as despicable -- correct me if i'm wrong. this translates to a huge scorn of women because they appear more conforming and sensitive to social expectations than guys.

what you need to realize is that while women and men can in many ways be different, they aren't a foreign, unfathomable and fake species. they experience the same challenges, emotions, and insecurities as we do. that you find them more conscious of how they are perceived should not be a point of disdain -- if anything, it's more of a curse to be hyper aware of how others perceive you than to not care. say you unknowingly befriended someone on IRC and became super good friends with them -- then you found out they were a woman. how would that change your perception of them or how much you value their friendship? if just knowing they're a woman changes how much you value them as a person, you need to think about your overarching assumptions about women and what exactly you're valuing here.