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intrigue
Washington, D.C9935 Posts
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ninazerg
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Shock710
Australia6097 Posts
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d00p
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On November 11 2013 09:12 Shauni wrote: orcish brute. What a slutty landwhale she must have been. Thanks for the laughs. | ||
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IceCube
Croatia1403 Posts
 + Show Spoiler + Not sure if Shauni is trolling so I won't speak any further. | ||
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weikor
Austria580 Posts
You are alone for a reason, change your attitude! | ||
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TOCHMY
Sweden1692 Posts
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Russian Federation3631 Posts
I think the the PUA community thread should reopenened as clearly the demand for internet romance girl therapy is very unsatisfied on teamliquid.com as is. Maybe you could get some 1 on 1 coaching with posting all-stars such as squattincassanova (RIP). | ||
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NotJumperer
United States1371 Posts
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PUPATREE
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have your gains been decent lately or still snapped up? | ||
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Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
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Shauni
4077 Posts
On November 11 2013 23:20 Djzapz wrote: People who are trying to help it confuse me. Given his outlook, it's like you guys are trying to get him to have success in finding his own 'slut' that he can disrespect. I don't want to think about the kind of disgusting things he'd say if he got dumped down the line... uck. Did you just call me it? Also On November 11 2013 09:43 Djzapz wrote: What the fuck a "hug". Man I don't want to make you feel self conscious but try to take a step back and try to imagine what people think when you randomly ask for a hug from a stranger. I want to believe that society isn't as backwards and cold to make asking a stranger a hug into a hostile action. I have no idea why you're taking offense at this, even if an old smelly alcoholic would come up to me and ask me for a hug I'd gladly give one to him. On November 11 2013 23:07 PUPATREE wrote: you have a lot of experience for someone so afraid! well done putting yourself out there! hopefully you become more comfortable with more experience have your gains been decent lately or still snapped up? Too much cardio for real gains. But I started eating more and went up 3kg last month. Probably mostly fat though. Can't squat or deadlift so mostly just working upper body and core atm. On November 11 2013 11:00 run.at.me wrote: I thoroughly enjoyed this and most of the readers here are socially inept so your tone is likely misunderstood. They're all sluts, and the slut should have given you a hug. If any of what you say is true, this is a matter of self confidence, silence with girls is awkward for you. Once you are comfortable with yourself, being around women is no different to anyone else, only the attraction makes things fun. Keep working on it, try make conversation not because you think conversation with a girl would increase your chances, but because you want to be a guy who can hold a decent conversation. Basically talking to a girl is an opportunity to practice a skill you want to accomplish for yourself, not for the outcome of hooking up with her (bonus)z Practice makes perfect and rejection is a part of the fun I know this is the appropriate way of viewing things, but the reason I'm still terrible at these things is because I can't force myself to find rejection or similar incidents fun (or even meaningful). I have a difficult time just refraining from banging my head against the wall for weeks after I've embarrassed myself. On November 11 2013 14:47 Mstring wrote: You seem very focused on what you can get from women. Shift focus onto what you can give. When you give, then you will receive. You're right in that I'm very self absorbed and it is a decent point. But the reason of me being egocentric is mostly because I find it difficult to comprehend other human beings, especially females. How can I give a hug instead of asking for one? How can I even begin to satisfy needs in others without understanding them first? If you're far too insecure to believe you can benefit others emotionally, physically or even materialistically. Even something simple such as giving people presents for Christmas is a nightmare for this very reason. | ||
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Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
On November 12 2013 00:20 Shauni wrote: I want to believe that society isn't as backwards and cold to make asking a stranger a hug into a hostile action. I have no idea why you're taking offense at this, even if an old smelly alcoholic would come up to me and ask me for a hug I'd gladly give one to him. It's not considered a hostile action... I think you might be a little daft. Reasons why asking for a hug given your circumstances is ridiculous: -Nobody 'asks' for hugs, it sounds desperate -It looks especially desperate if you want someone to come out of a car to hug you. Friendly hugs for hello and good bye don't happen on demand. -If you're that desperate of a hug, you also come off as creepy -You're trying to corner a person in hugging you while they kind of 'owe' you. The hug can come off as 'payment' in her mind. Not cool. It sounds like I'm overthinking it but that's an explanation of why most people wouldn't have a good first impression of somebody who asked for a hug. I don't hug strangers. People don't hug before establishing some sort of friendship or a relationship of some description, even if it's just a formal relationship. If I were a woman and a stranger asked for a hug, first off I would be think it's odd, which by itself is not a problem, but I wouldn't be surprised if you had a general creeper vibe to yourself. I don't think you're hostile but just reading your blog, I'm a bit skeptical. Literally asking for hugs, calling girls sluts, meh. I wouldn't hug you, you're kind of a dick. Not hostile though. Perhaps it's not your fault, there's that theory that all that cum is clouding your judgement :D. Note: If you're likable and fun, you can actually pull it off. But if you come off as a guy who wants a hug (this is what you seem to be), then good luck...? | ||
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aTnClouD
Italy2428 Posts
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46263 Posts
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Shauni
4077 Posts
On November 12 2013 01:02 Djzapz wrote: It's not considered a hostile action... I think you might be a little daft. Reasons why asking for a hug given your circumstances is ridiculous: -Nobody 'asks' for hugs, it sounds desperate -It looks especially desperate if you want someone to come out of a car to hug you. Friendly hugs for hello and good bye don't happen on demand. -If you're that desperate of a hug, you also come off as creepy -You're trying to corner a person in hugging you while they kind of 'owe' you. The hug can come off as 'payment' in her mind. Not cool. I think you're the daft one here. Of course it's desperate, if it wasn't desperate then there would be no point, right? It's only okay to hug someone when you don't actually need it? What kind of messed up logic is that? Are human beings not allowed to embrace and yield to desperate emotions, helplessness, "creepiness" or whatever? Plus who cares if she sees it as payment? Society is full of minor actions of prostitution, it happens in every conversation, at every job, in every school, at every party. You associate the action with something YOU think other people react to the inquiry. You don't think people should 'ask' for hugs because it collides with your own social norms. It has got nothing to do with me or the people I potentially talk to. If I ask someone for a hug, I don't do it because I want sex appeal or because I want to sound cool. Which is what you seem to think all social actions should strive toward. | ||
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Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
You're more likely to have success if you're not desperate. Desperate guys are pathetic and nobody wants them. You're allowed to be desperate but it's not a reason to start calling girls sluts. And you should care if she sees it as a payment you dumbass. It's basic human decency. As for the rest of your explanation, it's just you clumsily trying to justify your bullshit by assuming that some social norms are bad. You're no better. | ||
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chadissilent
Canada1187 Posts
With that said: Girl #1 - you're fucking weird. There's nothing wrong with being a Good Samaritan and expecting ANYTHING in return is just stupid. If some random fuck wanted a hug from my gf in exchange for something of hers that he had, he'd be getting a dick-punch. Girl #2 - she thought you were hot and wanted to hook up. You shot yourself in the foot repeatedly there. Girl #3 - same thing. She wants snoo snoo and you just start sharing feelings. When I hook up with a girl on vacation, we hook up and might talk after. All pretty lighthearted shit. Other times, one person just leaves and that's it. You're obviously not bad looking if these girls keep approaching you, but god damn man - learn some social skills and stop being creepy. Why don't you go out one night and get shut down 50 times so you can get rid of your paralyzing fear of rejection. | ||
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Serejai
6007 Posts
On November 12 2013 00:20 Shauni wrote:...banging my head against the wall for weeks after I've embarrassed myself. You must have one killer headache after making this blog, then. | ||
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