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EJK
United States1302 Posts
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Torenhire
United States11681 Posts
tips: Don't refer to women as sluts. Even when they are being one. I've done the "I get a hug for this right?  " before but a) never to a random stranger I've never met, and I never used the word "payment" haha. b) you have to pull it off in a silly flirty way, can't be like...I GET HUG NOW I mean, in your situation, she didn't even get out of the car - she was being defensive as it was, you should have just known it was never going to work and move on. No big deal, you did a cool thing to a random stranger, why not feel good about doing that than hating the girl for not wanting to hug a random person she's never seen before. Rejection isn't meant to be fun or meaningful...I don't know where you got that expectation from? If I ask a girl out, and she's like...yeah, no thanks.. I'm not going home to do a replay analysis on things, it's like. WELP THAT SUCKED and you move on. Djzapz is right, and you're not necessarily wrong...it's not about "what" you did, more as "how" you did it, and what the scenario was... Get a therapist, dude. Tell your stories to them and not us - it's not a negative or a bad thing, either. They can help you spot your own flaws and help you overcome them. You'll be better at coping as well as handling your own fears/anxieties in the long run, it's a win/win situation. | ||
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EJK
United States1302 Posts
On November 12 2013 06:13 Torenhire wrote: I'm no squattincasanova but let's start small here... tips: Don't refer to women as sluts. Even when they are being one. I've done the "I get a hug for this right? " before but a) never to a random stranger I've never met, and I never used the word "payment" haha. b) you have to pull it off in a silly flirty way, can't be like...I GET HUG NOW I mean, in your situation, she didn't even get out of the car - she was being defensive as it was, you should have just known it was never going to work and move on. No big deal, you did a cool thing to a random stranger, why not feel good about doing that than hating the girl for not wanting to hug a random person she's never seen before. Rejection isn't meant to be fun or meaningful...I don't know where you got that expectation from? If I ask a girl out, and she's like...yeah, no thanks.. I'm not going home to do a replay analysis on things, it's like. WELP THAT SUCKED and you move on. Djzapz is right, and you're not necessarily wrong...it's not about "what" you did, more as "how" you did it, and what the scenario was... Get a therapist, dude. Tell your stories to them and not us - it's not a negative or a bad thing, either. They can help you spot your own flaws and help you overcome them. You'll be better at coping as well as handling your own fears/anxieties in the long run, it's a win/win situation. therapy is expensive man if you want a good tehrapist | ||
dravernor
Netherlands6192 Posts
On November 11 2013 11:51 Serejai wrote: can you hook up with riku please Nice one Serejai -_- Some solid advice right there. Shauni I find your views on females both fascinating and disturbing. What surprises me most is blunt and brutally honest you are in your blogs. Assuming that you aren't trolling, given how much negative attention/feedback you have gathered. | ||
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Shauni
4077 Posts
On November 12 2013 06:56 draverjai wrote: Nice one Serejai -_- Some solid advice right there. Shauni I find your views on females both fascinating and disturbing. What surprises me most is blunt and brutally honest you are in your blogs. Assuming that you aren't trolling, given how much negative attention/feedback you have gathered. I find it difficult to ventilate to actual human beings, this is the only place I can speak my mind without caring about what kind of responses or reactions I get... On November 12 2013 05:38 Smurfett3 wrote: please lower your expectations holy crap, you are aiming for the superbowl and you are only a JV football player, thats how off your expectations are Why do you think I have high expectations? I don't think so at all. I find most females attractive enough to date on the street in my age category (or younger). As long as they aren't hamplanets or painful to look at. The problem is when most of them open their mouths. They're noisy, obnoxious and conceal their insecurity with small talk, makeup and always have to be around other people because they cant deal with themselves. | ||
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ninazerg
United States7291 Posts
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Torenhire
United States11681 Posts
On November 12 2013 06:24 Smurfett3 wrote: therapy is expensive man if you want a good tehrapist I know they're expensive, first hand lol. spending some cash is definitely better than this, though | ||
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Emnjay808
United States10666 Posts
Do people still think Shauni is trolling? Take a real deep breath and realize that he is being 100% fucking serious. | ||
Milkis
5003 Posts
On November 12 2013 09:03 Emnjay808 wrote: I read the first paragraph and had to stop there. Do people still think Shauni is trolling? Take a real deep breath and realize that he is being 100% fucking serious. Honestly I thought he was serious until he started writing these blogs. The blogs get really hard to take seriously given how he words things... so I have to try and convince myself he's serious everytime. | ||
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vndestiny
Singapore3458 Posts
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LaNague
Germany9118 Posts
Ok, in the offchance that this is serious and you are really this broken: When girls are approaching you even though you are allready being weird from a distance, it means you are very attractive to them, so you dont actually have a reason to be desperate. | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32157 Posts
On November 12 2013 08:05 ninazerg wrote: I want to hug Shauni x3 neg her before she turns into a slut shauni | ||
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AnachronisticAnarchy
United States2957 Posts
On November 12 2013 03:00 Shauni wrote: I think you're the daft one here. Of course it's desperate, if it wasn't desperate then there would be no point, right? It's only okay to hug someone when you don't actually need it? What kind of messed up logic is that? Are human beings not allowed to embrace and yield to desperate emotions, helplessness, "creepiness" or whatever? Plus who cares if she sees it as payment? Society is full of minor actions of prostitution, it happens in every conversation, at every job, in every school, at every party. You associate the action with something YOU think other people react to the inquiry. You don't think people should 'ask' for hugs because it collides with your own social norms. It has got nothing to do with me or the people I potentially talk to. If I ask someone for a hug, I don't do it because I want sex appeal or because I want to sound cool. Which is what you seem to think all social actions should strive toward. Holy fucking shit. I mean, I could excuse your downright stupendous lack of social skills and unbelievably, immeasurably awful and inaccurate views on women, but you calling another guy daft? You reject society's views and behaviors while being driven slowly insane because the resulting dissonance between your values and society's causes extreme isolation. You say that you don't have high standards and yet you deride nearly every single girl you mention as a slut or a landwhale or orcish brute. You whine and moan about how you don't understand people while refusing to acknowledge that your views on people are flawed. Hell, you even refuse to be cool while complaining about how you aren't cool. You say that you don't care about what people think about you then flipflop on your very next blog. I could go on, but the point is you're a miserable, spectacular failure in the social arena and you acknowledge this fact, and yet you refuse all forms of advice and help. You refuse to admit fault even when it is manifestly evident that what you are doing right now is simply not working. You hold on to some naive hope that when you get "confident" you'll stop failing, but really, "confidently" sniffing a girl's jacket won't make that girl despise you any less. You walk a path that can only logically lead to failure, you acknowledge this and you refuse to change, refuse to take any criticism, any advice, any attempt to get your miserable ass some help. Instead you hop on Team Liquid and make a blog bitching about the social failures you have done nothing to fix. Actually bother to think for half a second and do SOMETHING to fix that fucked up head of yours or shut up. You have no business hating and insulting others for your failure. | ||
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soujiro_
Uruguay5195 Posts
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EJK
United States1302 Posts
On November 12 2013 08:05 Shauni wrote: I find it difficult to ventilate to actual human beings, this is the only place I can speak my mind without caring about what kind of responses or reactions I get... Why do you think I have high expectations? I don't think so at all. I find most females attractive enough to date on the street in my age category (or younger). As long as they aren't hamplanets or painful to look at. The problem is when most of them open their mouths. They're noisy, obnoxious and conceal their insecurity with small talk, makeup and always have to be around other people because they cant deal with themselves. I mean...like why the fuck would the girl give you a hug for finding her season train pass thing. That right there, expecting a hug is having high standards for the outcome of your encounter with a female. small talk does not make someone insecure. It means they are just being friendly by using pleasantries to create comfort in a conversation before it leads to more intimate topics. Make up makes girls look hot if they are good at it, not all make up is bad. only 10-20% i would consider bad. whats wrong with being around other people? seriously? what if they are extraverts and enjoy the company of other people to preferring to be alone, that doesn't make them not able to deal with themselves, it just makes them different | ||
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Hryul
Austria2609 Posts
On November 12 2013 08:05 ninazerg wrote: I want to hug Shauni x3 I want to hug you while you hug Shauni! <3 <3 + Show Spoiler + Can I has be creepy too? But in all seriousness: Shauni you seem to be a bit off balance jumping from one extreme to the other quite swiftly. And if it's just about sex, buy a hooker. it really isn't that big of a deal. It might actually release a lot of stress. | ||
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TyrionSC2
United States411 Posts
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Bereft
United States1007 Posts
it sounds like the fundamental issue you face is that you find certain social norms (which you perceive as constructed and fake) as despicable -- correct me if i'm wrong. this translates to a huge scorn of women because they appear more conforming and sensitive to social expectations than guys. what you need to realize is that while women and men can in many ways be different, they aren't a foreign, unfathomable and fake species. they experience the same challenges, emotions, and insecurities as we do. that you find them more conscious of how they are perceived should not be a point of disdain -- if anything, it's more of a curse to be hyper aware of how others perceive you than to not care. say you unknowingly befriended someone on IRC and became super good friends with them -- then you found out they were a woman. how would that change your perception of them or how much you value their friendship? if just knowing they're a woman changes how much you value them as a person, you need to think about your overarching assumptions about women and what exactly you're valuing here. | ||
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IceCube
Croatia1403 Posts
On November 12 2013 08:05 Shauni wrote: I find it difficult to ventilate to actual human beings, this is the only place I can speak my mind without caring about what kind of responses or reactions I get... Why do you think I have high expectations? I don't think so at all. I find most females attractive enough to date on the street in my age category (or younger). As long as they aren't hamplanets or painful to look at. The problem is when most of them open their mouths. They're noisy, obnoxious and conceal their insecurity with small talk, makeup and always have to be around other people because they cant deal with themselves. This, my friend is goddamn truth about women. But you need to get pass this simple facts and look on the bright side of things. Like what would make a good girlfriend FOR YOU? What qualities you look for in her? Make your mind and go with that thoughts toward finding the right FOR YOU. You will find one day, the girl that makes you feel special, isn't noisy, obnoxious and doesn't small talk..well perhaps she'll do that things but you'll fell in love and see pass it. | ||
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Sejanus
Lithuania550 Posts
On November 11 2013 14:47 Mstring wrote: You seem very focused on what you can get from women. Shift focus onto what you can give. When you give, then you will receive... ...your place in a friendzone. Seriously, this whole thread is creepy. | ||
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