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So yesterday I found an active season train ticket with a phone number and a heart on the back. Figured I'd send a text asking her if she wanted it back. Indecisive as females are, she kept changing the date as to how to pick it up and our conversation became annoyingly long. I was deciding I would collect a hug as a reward and perhaps something more lasting, assuming she wasn't a landwhale. So we finally arrange a time and place and the slut comes in a car with her boyfriend... And doesn't even step out of the car. Hopeless beta as I am, I could not even ask her to get out of the car and give me a hug while her boyfriend was watching. She probably brought him for safety. All she did say was "I'm sorry I do not have any money to reward you with" and "Thank you" while I muttered "No problem" as her boyfriend swiftly drove away. Fuck. Even those baby steps are too great for me. I'm stuck with the same kind of emotions as after an incident 3 years ago.
A beautiful but obnoxious girl who worked in a small cafe shop randomly asks me to stay and hold her company as she closes the store when I was buying some protein post workout. She said I was a bit weird for not saying anything at the cashier and she wanted to help me be more social. She wanted to "cure" me. Of course I realized that the slut had as many problems as myself, but I went along with it, for curiosity if nothing else. We hang around for an hour or two and although I already felt uncomfortable with the situation she decides to invite me to her place on a whim. I was pretty apathetic at this point but became more and more terrified as we made our way to her apartment. She suddenly asked me whether I was gay, then a small chat about bullying in school and how it shaped us.
I become disgusted with myself even while writing this, because as soon as my bubble bursts and I'm in unknown water with human beings (mostly females) I do not know - my brain freezes and can't concentrate on anything but how I appear in the minds of the others. The situation doesn't improve by failure to conjure a proper sentence in a situation like this. So you can imagine how pathetic and lost I felt being in her apartment playing Guitar Hero and drinking some beer with her alien friends. They went out clubbing after a while, awkwardly bidding farewell as they obviously didn't want me around any longer. But it was a beneficial learning experience right? Wrong. The reward is merely self loathing and regression to an infantile stage where I my insides start wailing if mother's comforting tit is absent.
Another time on a cruise, a really cute short blond haired girl asks me if I want to come back up to dance while my legs were busy trying to navigate down the stairs to my room. We had been exchanging glances all night long and since I was not man enough to take initiative I guess she felt obliged to. I dance as if I'm Jesus on crack and a random black girl who disagrees with my technique tries to teach me how to dance more casually. She engages in the stereotypical crotch dance from MTV hip hop music videos with me to a couple of beats until then my little blonde haired angel jealously looks in my general direction and I try to friendly disengage the displeased orcish brute and get back to her. We share a pretty romantic time together while gazing upon the black ocean and the starry sky. I ask for her number (I can actually do this when I'm very drunk, believe it or not), we talk about philosophy and music and go back to our respective cabins. Sexual intercourse was difficult due to her sharing room with her mother, but it was the only time in my life where such a progression would feel natural.
On the next day when I sober up we meet up and I tense up not knowing how to hold a proper conversation with a pretty girl. We just sit around and say nothing, a bit awkward for the most part but as I was exhausted from lack of sleep and hung over I didn't even feel like trying too much.
We part ways telling each other to keep in touch, I message her a few times during the next week with stupid small talk. She replies pretty short and dismissive a few times but seeing as I was madly in love I didn't want to take the signals and kept on composing guitar songs in her name. After a while she stops completely followed by a long reply that basically sums up that she isn't looking for a (distance) relationship but doesn't want to 'hurt my feelings'. I just said that I didn't care, that I don't want a girlfriend anyway and that she was just misinterpreting me. Probably could see through the idiotic and blatant lie. She still hurts so much. Probably because it was one of the closest encounters I had to grasping mutual love. And she was such a gentle and sensitive being, so far from all the sluts I encounter daily.
I can recollect painful memories on and on but you get the point. I don't make any progress with females and the sexual frustration is slowly eating my insides. Fuck.
 
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Stopped reading at "i would collect a hug"
You are a real fucking weirdo shauni.
Read further, stopped at "the slut arrived with her boyfriend" what the living fuck is wrong with you? o.O Someone lost a season train ticket. That automatically means its a hot young single woman who wants your dick? She came to collect her train ticket dude.
2nd edit: I understand at this point its a huge troll, with the black stereotyping and mummy issues. In fact i knew that when i clicked on the shauni blog but i like to give benefit of the doubt. Whether this is a joke or not, you need to think about what is coming out of your mouth (read: fingers) before saying it and probably seek some form of counselling.
Stop calling every girl who talks to you a slut. Dem cashier girls amirite?
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Even though this is most probably a troll post, it's still creepy as f**k.
Well played Shauni
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On November 11 2013 09:24 NeThZOR wrote:
Sluts everywhere lol.
Only a slut if you don't sleep with Shauni, otherwise you're an angel.
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What the fuck a "hug". Man I don't want to make you feel self conscious but try to take a step back and try to imagine what people think when you randomly ask for a hug from a stranger.
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Don't ever find one of my sister's season train tickets...
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I thoroughly enjoyed this and most of the readers here are socially inept so your tone is likely misunderstood.
They're all sluts, and the slut should have given you a hug.
If any of what you say is true, this is a matter of self confidence, silence with girls is awkward for you. Once you are comfortable with yourself, being around women is no different to anyone else, only the attraction makes things fun.
Keep working on it, try make conversation not because you think conversation with a girl would increase your chances, but because you want to be a guy who can hold a decent conversation. Basically talking to a girl is an opportunity to practice a skill you want to accomplish for yourself, not for the outcome of hooking up with her (bonus)z
Practice makes perfect and rejection is a part of the fun
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can you hook up with riku please
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This is like a whole new level of awkward.
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I used to be you. Not to insult you - I'm not comparing our intelligence, but I know exactly how you feel. Years after I was through with it all I came to realize that I should have probably payed for a prostitute just to get used to the process. You lose that fear of failure that way (at least I assume you would). You know damn well you are many times smarter than people currently banging these chicks, so the issue is not your inability to hold a conversation, but confidence that w/e you say will be accepted and appreciated enough for you to not worry.
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One advice that is hard to accept - just tell them you are very inexperienced with dating but you would love to try. Something like that. You will get an honest answer and you won't get into an awkward situation. Looking for that one "understanding" girl could take a lifetime, so just stop pretending that you know what you are doing for a change, see what happens. It really is a good approach.
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On November 11 2013 13:40 usedtocare wrote:
You know damn well you are many times smarter than people currently banging these chicks
Lol what. IP check for shauni plz :-D
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Sorry to hear about your troubles. Keep on trying, because the right girl for you is out there. Sometimes you might not see it at first glance. One great way to know if you are sexually compatible with someone is through pheromones. People naturally release pheromones, and if you are aroused through the scent of a particular person's pheromones, it indicates that you have high sexual compatibility with them. Keep on collecting hugs as rewards because it is a great way to get close enough to someone to ingest their pheromones. Otherwise, you can pick up people's pheromones by nasal inhalation of their articles of clothing, such as their jacket. Don't give up, and keep us updated!
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On November 11 2013 14:02 Capped wrote:Show nested quote +On November 11 2013 13:40 usedtocare wrote:
You know damn well you are many times smarter than people currently banging these chicks Lol what. IP check for shauni plz :-D
Sad.
You are obviously good at reading people, I hope you choose a compatible career path.
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You seem very focused on what you can get from women. Shift focus onto what you can give. When you give, then you will receive.
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On November 11 2013 14:24 Chairman Ray wrote:
Sorry to hear about your troubles. Keep on trying, because the right girl for you is out there. Sometimes you might not see it at first glance. One great way to know if you are sexually compatible with someone is through pheromones. People naturally release pheromones, and if you are aroused through the scent of a particular person's pheromones, it indicates that you have high sexual compatibility with them. Keep on collecting hugs as rewards because it is a great way to get close enough to someone to ingest their pheromones. Otherwise, you can pick up people's pheromones by nasal inhalation of their articles of clothing, such as their jacket. Don't give up, and keep us updated!
rofl you guys are too much
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Washington, D.C9934 Posts
if it almost happened once, it can happen again. much better than never getting close, right? you can do it! try to stay positive, if only because despair and desperation are generally very unattractive traits. meanwhile you can always work off your frustration with whichever hand you prefer, and dont let your taste in porn become irreparably depraved lest you actually find a girl and can no longer find her arousing.
good luck
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i hope this is a troll, and that no one ever refers to all pretty girls as sluts and ugly ones as landwhales...wtf is wrong with you
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On November 11 2013 09:12 Shauni wrote:
orcish brute.
What a slutty landwhale she must have been. Thanks for the laughs.
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Damn boy. Sluts everywhere! 
+ Show Spoiler +Not sure if Shauni is trolling so I won't speak any further.
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this just makes you realise that we are responsible for our own luck in life. Getting a small insight to how this guy things of girls just tells you exactly why he has troubles, and even if this is in some ways a troll post, its pretty accurate to how some people think.
You are alone for a reason, change your attitude!
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If this isn't a troll, and if Shauni's previous blogs aren't trolls either, then I fear for the girl who hooks up with Shauni...
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Russian Federation3631 Posts
r u ok friend???
I think the the PUA community thread should reopenened as clearly the demand for internet romance girl therapy is very unsatisfied on teamliquid.com as is. Maybe you could get some 1 on 1 coaching with posting all-stars such as squattincassanova (RIP).
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you have a lot of experience for someone so afraid! well done putting yourself out there! hopefully you become more comfortable with more experience
have your gains been decent lately or still snapped up?
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People who are trying to help it confuse me. Given his outlook, it's like you guys are trying to get him to have success in finding his own 'slut' that he can disrespect. I don't want to think about the kind of disgusting things he'd say if he got dumped down the line... uck.
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On November 11 2013 23:20 Djzapz wrote:
People who are trying to help it confuse me. Given his outlook, it's like you guys are trying to get him to have success in finding his own 'slut' that he can disrespect. I don't want to think about the kind of disgusting things he'd say if he got dumped down the line... uck.
Did you just call me it?
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On November 11 2013 09:43 Djzapz wrote:
What the fuck a "hug". Man I don't want to make you feel self conscious but try to take a step back and try to imagine what people think when you randomly ask for a hug from a stranger.
I want to believe that society isn't as backwards and cold to make asking a stranger a hug into a hostile action. I have no idea why you're taking offense at this, even if an old smelly alcoholic would come up to me and ask me for a hug I'd gladly give one to him.
On November 11 2013 23:07 PUPATREE wrote:
you have a lot of experience for someone so afraid! well done putting yourself out there! hopefully you become more comfortable with more experience
have your gains been decent lately or still snapped up?
Too much cardio for real gains. But I started eating more and went up 3kg last month. Probably mostly fat though. Can't squat or deadlift so mostly just working upper body and core atm.
On November 11 2013 11:00 run.at.me wrote:
I thoroughly enjoyed this and most of the readers here are socially inept so your tone is likely misunderstood.
They're all sluts, and the slut should have given you a hug.
If any of what you say is true, this is a matter of self confidence, silence with girls is awkward for you. Once you are comfortable with yourself, being around women is no different to anyone else, only the attraction makes things fun.
Keep working on it, try make conversation not because you think conversation with a girl would increase your chances, but because you want to be a guy who can hold a decent conversation. Basically talking to a girl is an opportunity to practice a skill you want to accomplish for yourself, not for the outcome of hooking up with her (bonus)z
Practice makes perfect and rejection is a part of the fun
I know this is the appropriate way of viewing things, but the reason I'm still terrible at these things is because I can't force myself to find rejection or similar incidents fun (or even meaningful). I have a difficult time just refraining from banging my head against the wall for weeks after I've embarrassed myself.
On November 11 2013 14:47 Mstring wrote:
You seem very focused on what you can get from women. Shift focus onto what you can give. When you give, then you will receive.
You're right in that I'm very self absorbed and it is a decent point. But the reason of me being egocentric is mostly because I find it difficult to comprehend other human beings, especially females. How can I give a hug instead of asking for one? How can I even begin to satisfy needs in others without understanding them first? If you're far too insecure to believe you can benefit others emotionally, physically or even materialistically. Even something simple such as giving people presents for Christmas is a nightmare for this very reason.
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On November 12 2013 00:20 Shauni wrote:
I want to believe that society isn't as backwards and cold to make asking a stranger a hug into a hostile action. I have no idea why you're taking offense at this, even if an old smelly alcoholic would come up to me and ask me for a hug I'd gladly give one to him.
It's not considered a hostile action... I think you might be a little daft.
Reasons why asking for a hug given your circumstances is ridiculous:
-Nobody 'asks' for hugs, it sounds desperate
-It looks especially desperate if you want someone to come out of a car to hug you. Friendly hugs for hello and good bye don't happen on demand.
-If you're that desperate of a hug, you also come off as creepy
-You're trying to corner a person in hugging you while they kind of 'owe' you. The hug can come off as 'payment' in her mind. Not cool.
It sounds like I'm overthinking it but that's an explanation of why most people wouldn't have a good first impression of somebody who asked for a hug.
I don't hug strangers. People don't hug before establishing some sort of friendship or a relationship of some description, even if it's just a formal relationship. If I were a woman and a stranger asked for a hug, first off I would be think it's odd, which by itself is not a problem, but I wouldn't be surprised if you had a general creeper vibe to yourself. I don't think you're hostile but just reading your blog, I'm a bit skeptical. Literally asking for hugs, calling girls sluts, meh. I wouldn't hug you, you're kind of a dick. Not hostile though.
Perhaps it's not your fault, there's that theory that all that cum is clouding your judgement :D.
Note: If you're likable and fun, you can actually pull it off. But if you come off as a guy who wants a hug (this is what you seem to be), then good luck...?
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Try this. An ancient italian legend says that if you take off your penis and slap a slut in the face she will be forever yours.
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I'm gonna go ahead and give you a 5/5 because it seems like you need more points in your life.
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On November 12 2013 01:02 Djzapz wrote:Show nested quote +On November 12 2013 00:20 Shauni wrote:
I want to believe that society isn't as backwards and cold to make asking a stranger a hug into a hostile action. I have no idea why you're taking offense at this, even if an old smelly alcoholic would come up to me and ask me for a hug I'd gladly give one to him. It's not considered a hostile action... I think you might be a little daft. Reasons why asking for a hug given your circumstances is ridiculous: -Nobody 'asks' for hugs, it sounds desperate -It looks especially desperate if you want someone to come out of a car to hug you. Friendly hugs for hello and good bye don't happen on demand. -If you're that desperate of a hug, you also come off as creepy -You're trying to corner a person in hugging you while they kind of 'owe' you. The hug can come off as 'payment' in her mind. Not cool.
I think you're the daft one here. Of course it's desperate, if it wasn't desperate then there would be no point, right? It's only okay to hug someone when you don't actually need it? What kind of messed up logic is that? Are human beings not allowed to embrace and yield to desperate emotions, helplessness, "creepiness" or whatever? Plus who cares if she sees it as payment? Society is full of minor actions of prostitution, it happens in every conversation, at every job, in every school, at every party. You associate the action with something YOU think other people react to the inquiry. You don't think people should 'ask' for hugs because it collides with your own social norms. It has got nothing to do with me or the people I potentially talk to. If I ask someone for a hug, I don't do it because I want sex appeal or because I want to sound cool. Which is what you seem to think all social actions should strive toward.
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Sigh.
You're more likely to have success if you're not desperate. Desperate guys are pathetic and nobody wants them. You're allowed to be desperate but it's not a reason to start calling girls sluts.
And you should care if she sees it as a payment you dumbass. It's basic human decency.
As for the rest of your explanation, it's just you clumsily trying to justify your bullshit by assuming that some social norms are bad. You're no better.
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maybe your binary view of how acceptable a woman is the problem here 
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The more you reply, the more it seems that your OP wasn't a troll.
With that said:
Girl #1 - you're fucking weird. There's nothing wrong with being a Good Samaritan and expecting ANYTHING in return is just stupid. If some random fuck wanted a hug from my gf in exchange for something of hers that he had, he'd be getting a dick-punch.
Girl #2 - she thought you were hot and wanted to hook up. You shot yourself in the foot repeatedly there.
Girl #3 - same thing. She wants snoo snoo and you just start sharing feelings. When I hook up with a girl on vacation, we hook up and might talk after. All pretty lighthearted shit. Other times, one person just leaves and that's it.
You're obviously not bad looking if these girls keep approaching you, but god damn man - learn some social skills and stop being creepy. Why don't you go out one night and get shut down 50 times so you can get rid of your paralyzing fear of rejection.
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On November 12 2013 00:20 Shauni wrote:...banging my head against the wall for weeks after I've embarrassed myself.
You must have one killer headache after making this blog, then.
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please lower your expectations holy crap, you are aiming for the superbowl and you are only a JV football player, thats how off your expectations are
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I'm no squattincasanova but let's start small here...
tips:
Don't refer to women as sluts. Even when they are being one.
I've done the "I get a hug for this right? " before but a) never to a random stranger I've never met, and I never used the word "payment" haha. b) you have to pull it off in a silly flirty way, can't be like...
I GET HUG NOW
I mean, in your situation, she didn't even get out of the car - she was being defensive as it was, you should have just known it was never going to work and move on. No big deal, you did a cool thing to a random stranger, why not feel good about doing that than hating the girl for not wanting to hug a random person she's never seen before.
Rejection isn't meant to be fun or meaningful...I don't know where you got that expectation from? If I ask a girl out, and she's like...yeah, no thanks.. I'm not going home to do a replay analysis on things, it's like. WELP THAT SUCKED and you move on.
Djzapz is right, and you're not necessarily wrong...it's not about "what" you did, more as "how" you did it, and what the scenario was...
Get a therapist, dude. Tell your stories to them and not us - it's not a negative or a bad thing, either. They can help you spot your own flaws and help you overcome them. You'll be better at coping as well as handling your own fears/anxieties in the long run, it's a win/win situation.
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On November 12 2013 06:13 Torenhire wrote:I'm no squattincasanova but let's start small here... tips: Don't refer to women as sluts. Even when they are being one. I've done the "I get a hug for this right? " before but a) never to a random stranger I've never met, and I never used the word "payment" haha. b) you have to pull it off in a silly flirty way, can't be like... I GET HUG NOW I mean, in your situation, she didn't even get out of the car - she was being defensive as it was, you should have just known it was never going to work and move on. No big deal, you did a cool thing to a random stranger, why not feel good about doing that than hating the girl for not wanting to hug a random person she's never seen before. Rejection isn't meant to be fun or meaningful...I don't know where you got that expectation from? If I ask a girl out, and she's like...yeah, no thanks.. I'm not going home to do a replay analysis on things, it's like. WELP THAT SUCKED and you move on. Djzapz is right, and you're not necessarily wrong...it's not about "what" you did, more as "how" you did it, and what the scenario was... Get a therapist, dude. Tell your stories to them and not us - it's not a negative or a bad thing, either. They can help you spot your own flaws and help you overcome them. You'll be better at coping as well as handling your own fears/anxieties in the long run, it's a win/win situation.
therapy is expensive man if you want a good tehrapist
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Netherlands6189 Posts
On November 11 2013 11:51 Serejai wrote:
can you hook up with riku please
Nice one Serejai -_- Some solid advice right there. Shauni I find your views on females both fascinating and disturbing. What surprises me most is blunt and brutally honest you are in your blogs. Assuming that you aren't trolling, given how much negative attention/feedback you have gathered.
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On November 12 2013 06:56 draverjai wrote:Nice one Serejai -_- Some solid advice right there. Shauni I find your views on females both fascinating and disturbing. What surprises me most is blunt and brutally honest you are in your blogs. Assuming that you aren't trolling, given how much negative attention/feedback you have gathered.
I find it difficult to ventilate to actual human beings, this is the only place I can speak my mind without caring about what kind of responses or reactions I get...
On November 12 2013 05:38 Smurfett3 wrote:
please lower your expectations holy crap, you are aiming for the superbowl and you are only a JV football player, thats how off your expectations are
Why do you think I have high expectations? I don't think so at all. I find most females attractive enough to date on the street in my age category (or younger). As long as they aren't hamplanets or painful to look at. The problem is when most of them open their mouths. They're noisy, obnoxious and conceal their insecurity with small talk, makeup and always have to be around other people because they cant deal with themselves.
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On November 12 2013 06:24 Smurfett3 wrote:Show nested quote +On November 12 2013 06:13 Torenhire wrote:I'm no squattincasanova but let's start small here... tips: Don't refer to women as sluts. Even when they are being one. I've done the "I get a hug for this right? " before but a) never to a random stranger I've never met, and I never used the word "payment" haha. b) you have to pull it off in a silly flirty way, can't be like... I GET HUG NOW I mean, in your situation, she didn't even get out of the car - she was being defensive as it was, you should have just known it was never going to work and move on. No big deal, you did a cool thing to a random stranger, why not feel good about doing that than hating the girl for not wanting to hug a random person she's never seen before. Rejection isn't meant to be fun or meaningful...I don't know where you got that expectation from? If I ask a girl out, and she's like...yeah, no thanks.. I'm not going home to do a replay analysis on things, it's like. WELP THAT SUCKED and you move on. Djzapz is right, and you're not necessarily wrong...it's not about "what" you did, more as "how" you did it, and what the scenario was... Get a therapist, dude. Tell your stories to them and not us - it's not a negative or a bad thing, either. They can help you spot your own flaws and help you overcome them. You'll be better at coping as well as handling your own fears/anxieties in the long run, it's a win/win situation. therapy is expensive man if you want a good tehrapist
I know they're expensive, first hand lol.
spending some cash is definitely better than this, though
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I read the first paragraph and had to stop there.
Do people still think Shauni is trolling? Take a real deep breath and realize that he is being 100% fucking serious.
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On November 12 2013 09:03 Emnjay808 wrote:
I read the first paragraph and had to stop there.
Do people still think Shauni is trolling? Take a real deep breath and realize that he is being 100% fucking serious.
Honestly I thought he was serious until he started writing these blogs. The blogs get really hard to take seriously given how he words things... so I have to try and convince myself he's serious everytime.
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Oh Shauni. You haven't changed from your last blog at all lol.
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trollercoaster, weeeeeeeeeeee.
Ok, in the offchance that this is serious and you are really this broken: When girls are approaching you even though you are allready being weird from a distance, it means you are very attractive to them, so you dont actually have a reason to be desperate.
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On November 12 2013 08:05 ninazerg wrote:
I want to hug Shauni x3
neg her before she turns into a slut shauni
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On November 12 2013 03:00 Shauni wrote:Show nested quote +On November 12 2013 01:02 Djzapz wrote:On November 12 2013 00:20 Shauni wrote:
I want to believe that society isn't as backwards and cold to make asking a stranger a hug into a hostile action. I have no idea why you're taking offense at this, even if an old smelly alcoholic would come up to me and ask me for a hug I'd gladly give one to him. It's not considered a hostile action... I think you might be a little daft. Reasons why asking for a hug given your circumstances is ridiculous: -Nobody 'asks' for hugs, it sounds desperate -It looks especially desperate if you want someone to come out of a car to hug you. Friendly hugs for hello and good bye don't happen on demand. -If you're that desperate of a hug, you also come off as creepy -You're trying to corner a person in hugging you while they kind of 'owe' you. The hug can come off as 'payment' in her mind. Not cool. I think you're the daft one here. Of course it's desperate, if it wasn't desperate then there would be no point, right? It's only okay to hug someone when you don't actually need it? What kind of messed up logic is that? Are human beings not allowed to embrace and yield to desperate emotions, helplessness, "creepiness" or whatever? Plus who cares if she sees it as payment? Society is full of minor actions of prostitution, it happens in every conversation, at every job, in every school, at every party. You associate the action with something YOU think other people react to the inquiry. You don't think people should 'ask' for hugs because it collides with your own social norms. It has got nothing to do with me or the people I potentially talk to. If I ask someone for a hug, I don't do it because I want sex appeal or because I want to sound cool. Which is what you seem to think all social actions should strive toward.
Holy fucking shit. I mean, I could excuse your downright stupendous lack of social skills and unbelievably, immeasurably awful and inaccurate views on women, but you calling another guy daft?
You reject society's views and behaviors while being driven slowly insane because the resulting dissonance between your values and society's causes extreme isolation.
You say that you don't have high standards and yet you deride nearly every single girl you mention as a slut or a landwhale or orcish brute.
You whine and moan about how you don't understand people while refusing to acknowledge that your views on people are flawed.
Hell, you even refuse to be cool while complaining about how you aren't cool.
You say that you don't care about what people think about you then flipflop on your very next blog.
I could go on, but the point is you're a miserable, spectacular failure in the social arena and you acknowledge this fact, and yet you refuse all forms of advice and help. You refuse to admit fault even when it is manifestly evident that what you are doing right now is simply not working. You hold on to some naive hope that when you get "confident" you'll stop failing, but really, "confidently" sniffing a girl's jacket won't make that girl despise you any less.
You walk a path that can only logically lead to failure, you acknowledge this and you refuse to change, refuse to take any criticism, any advice, any attempt to get your miserable ass some help. Instead you hop on Team Liquid and make a blog bitching about the social failures you have done nothing to fix.
Actually bother to think for half a second and do SOMETHING to fix that fucked up head of yours or shut up. You have no business hating and insulting others for your failure.
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good luck finding the right slut
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On November 12 2013 08:05 Shauni wrote:Show nested quote +On November 12 2013 06:56 draverjai wrote:On November 11 2013 11:51 Serejai wrote:
can you hook up with riku please Nice one Serejai -_- Some solid advice right there. Shauni I find your views on females both fascinating and disturbing. What surprises me most is blunt and brutally honest you are in your blogs. Assuming that you aren't trolling, given how much negative attention/feedback you have gathered. I find it difficult to ventilate to actual human beings, this is the only place I can speak my mind without caring about what kind of responses or reactions I get... Show nested quote +On November 12 2013 05:38 Smurfett3 wrote:
please lower your expectations holy crap, you are aiming for the superbowl and you are only a JV football player, thats how off your expectations are Why do you think I have high expectations? I don't think so at all. I find most females attractive enough to date on the street in my age category (or younger). As long as they aren't hamplanets or painful to look at. The problem is when most of them open their mouths. They're noisy, obnoxious and conceal their insecurity with small talk, makeup and always have to be around other people because they cant deal with themselves.
I mean...like why the fuck would the girl give you a hug for finding her season train pass thing. That right there, expecting a hug is having high standards for the outcome of your encounter with a female.
small talk does not make someone insecure. It means they are just being friendly by using pleasantries to create comfort in a conversation before it leads to more intimate topics.
Make up makes girls look hot if they are good at it, not all make up is bad. only 10-20% i would consider bad.
whats wrong with being around other people? seriously? what if they are extraverts and enjoy the company of other people to preferring to be alone, that doesn't make them not able to deal with themselves, it just makes them different
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On November 12 2013 08:05 ninazerg wrote:
I want to hug Shauni x3
I want to hug you while you hug Shauni! <3 <3
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But in all seriousness: Shauni you seem to be a bit off balance jumping from one extreme to the other quite swiftly. And if it's just about sex, buy a hooker. it really isn't that big of a deal. It might actually release a lot of stress.
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Have you ever read The Stranger by Camus? You resemble Meursault a lot....
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while the implications are a bit alarming, i actually find your candor in your blogs refreshing and i think some of the comments to your blogs are a bit harsh. then again, these commentors probably know you better than i do.
it sounds like the fundamental issue you face is that you find certain social norms (which you perceive as constructed and fake) as despicable -- correct me if i'm wrong. this translates to a huge scorn of women because they appear more conforming and sensitive to social expectations than guys.
what you need to realize is that while women and men can in many ways be different, they aren't a foreign, unfathomable and fake species. they experience the same challenges, emotions, and insecurities as we do. that you find them more conscious of how they are perceived should not be a point of disdain -- if anything, it's more of a curse to be hyper aware of how others perceive you than to not care. say you unknowingly befriended someone on IRC and became super good friends with them -- then you found out they were a woman. how would that change your perception of them or how much you value their friendship? if just knowing they're a woman changes how much you value them as a person, you need to think about your overarching assumptions about women and what exactly you're valuing here.
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On November 12 2013 08:05 Shauni wrote:Show nested quote +On November 12 2013 06:56 draverjai wrote:On November 11 2013 11:51 Serejai wrote:
can you hook up with riku please Nice one Serejai -_- Some solid advice right there. Shauni I find your views on females both fascinating and disturbing. What surprises me most is blunt and brutally honest you are in your blogs. Assuming that you aren't trolling, given how much negative attention/feedback you have gathered. I find it difficult to ventilate to actual human beings, this is the only place I can speak my mind without caring about what kind of responses or reactions I get... Show nested quote +On November 12 2013 05:38 Smurfett3 wrote:
please lower your expectations holy crap, you are aiming for the superbowl and you are only a JV football player, thats how off your expectations are Why do you think I have high expectations? I don't think so at all. I find most females attractive enough to date on the street in my age category (or younger). As long as they aren't hamplanets or painful to look at. The problem is when most of them open their mouths. They're noisy, obnoxious and conceal their insecurity with small talk, makeup and always have to be around other people because they cant deal with themselves.
This, my friend is goddamn truth about women. But you need to get pass this simple facts and look on the bright side of things. Like what would make a good girlfriend FOR YOU? What qualities you look for in her? Make your mind and go with that thoughts toward finding the right FOR YOU.
You will find one day, the girl that makes you feel special, isn't noisy, obnoxious and doesn't small talk..well perhaps she'll do that things but you'll fell in love and see pass it.
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On November 11 2013 14:47 Mstring wrote:
You seem very focused on what you can get from women. Shift focus onto what you can give. When you give, then you will receive...
...your place in a friendzone.
Seriously, this whole thread is creepy.
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--narrowly escaped the troll--
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On November 13 2013 13:16 Bereft wrote:
while the implications are a bit alarming, i actually find your candor in your blogs refreshing and i think some of the comments to your blogs are a bit harsh. then again, these commentors probably know you better than i do.
it sounds like the fundamental issue you face is that you find certain social norms (which you perceive as constructed and fake) as despicable -- correct me if i'm wrong. this translates to a huge scorn of women because they appear more conforming and sensitive to social expectations than guys.
what you need to realize is that while women and men can in many ways be different, they aren't a foreign, unfathomable and fake species. they experience the same challenges, emotions, and insecurities as we do. that you find them more conscious of how they are perceived should not be a point of disdain -- if anything, it's more of a curse to be hyper aware of how others perceive you than to not care. say you unknowingly befriended someone on IRC and became super good friends with them -- then you found out they were a woman. how would that change your perception of them or how much you value their friendship? if just knowing they're a woman changes how much you value them as a person, you need to think about your overarching assumptions about women and what exactly you're valuing here.
I just wanted to say thank you for your kind words. And yes you are pretty spot on. I wouldn't say I would value a girl less if I became good friend with her on IRC unknowing, I actually don't think I'm valuing women less than men. My physical attraction to them usually weighs up most issues I have with their personalities. If I find them remotely attractive.
They are like stuffed animals to me. They are cute, I adore them, I want to be comforted by them in bed, but it'd be really uncomfortable and annoying if they started talking, right? Even if she has a personality I'm not disgusted by, it doesn't really add anything to her value so I still wish she would just shut up and hug me.
Maybe I should get a dakimakura...
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I like your blogs, Shauni. It feels genuine.
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