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Doodsmack
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States7224 Posts
April 27 2013 06:31 GMT
#1
So tonight, I go to a bar along with a friend who was meeting up with his girl, who has two pretty good-looking friends with her. I talk to the one throughout the night. I guess it was just normal conversation, but there was some teasing from me and physical contact from her. On the cab ride home it turns she lives right across the street. She was saying she was hungry and then was like "let's good food, where are we gonna get food." I tell her I could make something at my place. We end up chasing her neighbors dog around who was out in the street. So we end up in front of her door and she says something like "we each have food". She smiles and hugs me. I say let's hang out again and get her number. She gives me her number and then says she's engaged so she doesn't want me to get the wrong message LOL. The fuck man. How do I distinguish between that and when a girl is actually interested? Guess you pretty much have to guess and hope for the best. Never did look to see if she has a ring. Maybe I'm at the age I should do that.

Anyways. Played video games too much in life and missed out on girls. Need to make something happen. It's the approach I'm afraid of though. In this case I was introduced so it was easier. That's an incredible fear to get over, if you have it. Shyness is a bitch. It's a long road up from here, boys. Need to find some major motivation.

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MysteryMeat1
Profile Blog Joined June 2011
United States3292 Posts
April 27 2013 06:57 GMT
#2
from what you've said she just gave the wrong signals completely
"Cause ya know, Style before victory." -The greatest mafia player alive
SamsungStar
Profile Blog Joined January 2013
United States912 Posts
April 27 2013 07:03 GMT
#3
Yeah... she was definitely a bit too flirty for a girl with a ring on it. Then again, lots of engaged people want to squeeze in as many nights like the one you described before they get hitched. And she did let you know at the end she was engaged, so she didn't string you along all that much. At least you had fun chasing the dog? :D

I don't think you need any mentality of making something happen though. That tends to make things worse. You seem pretty well adjusted to women. The right one will come along sooner or later. Just put yourself out there to meet new people, but don't try too hard to close the deal with every cute girl that you run into.
pebble444
Profile Blog Joined March 2011
Italy2503 Posts
April 27 2013 07:50 GMT
#4
I don t wanna say anything bad about the girl, but my interpretation was that she wanted to "do something with you that night" , she was looking for an adventure only for that night.

"wanna get some food" wanna do something with you tonight

I mean how could she fail to mention she was engaged till she was at her door? or she just wanted to flirt harmesly, without actually doing anything

"never did look to see if she had a ring" prolly never had it on for the night

anyways even if i would suggest against going with a woman who allready has a man. Its a douchbag move.

Being introduced makes it all the much easier but i know what you mean. Kinda difficult to make a move outta the blue if you have difficulty with that. Its a long road up from here, but the problem seems to be the ice-breaker. Work on that and you ll be fine. Its not easy but it will be rewarding
"Awaken my Child, and embrace the Glory that is your Birthright"
Kuni
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Austria765 Posts
April 27 2013 08:12 GMT
#5
Girls tend to get in closer contact with nice guys they want to be friends with. Many female friends of mine were very "attached" to us, a friend of mine and me, who used to hang out a lot with this group of girls, and they were always kissing, hugging, going for cuddles etc. and we were only friends, nothing more. Hanging out at night, grabbing or making food or whatever, is not really unusual for friends, is it?
Women don't always wanna fuck you like mad, when they talk to you. You know, they also want to make friends, like everybody else.
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matiK23
Profile Joined May 2011
United States963 Posts
April 27 2013 08:13 GMT
#6
Well at least you made a connection to meet her hott friends. Bridesmaids anyone?
Without a paddle up shit creek.
Recognizable
Profile Blog Joined December 2011
Netherlands1552 Posts
April 27 2013 09:34 GMT
#7
On April 27 2013 17:12 Kuni wrote:
Girls tend to get in closer contact with nice guys they want to be friends with. Many female friends of mine were very "attached" to us, a friend of mine and me, who used to hang out a lot with this group of girls, and they were always kissing, hugging, going for cuddles etc. and we were only friends, nothing more. Hanging out at night, grabbing or making food or whatever, is not really unusual for friends, is it?
Women don't always wanna fuck you like mad, when they talk to you. You know, they also want to make friends, like everybody else.


This.
r.Evo
Profile Joined August 2006
Germany14081 Posts
April 27 2013 13:33 GMT
#8
Need to find some major motivation.

If being happy about your sexual and emotional life with the other sex isn't enough motivation, no one here can help you.
"We don't make mistakes here, we call it happy little accidents." ~Bob Ross
ViceRoyce
Profile Joined August 2011
Poland21 Posts
April 27 2013 14:15 GMT
#9
just watch simplepickup channel on yt man.
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CosmicSpiral
Profile Blog Joined December 2010
United States15275 Posts
April 27 2013 17:25 GMT
#10
On April 27 2013 17:12 Kuni wrote:
Girls tend to get in closer contact with nice guys they want to be friends with. Many female friends of mine were very "attached" to us, a friend of mine and me, who used to hang out a lot with this group of girls, and they were always kissing, hugging, going for cuddles etc. and we were only friends, nothing more. Hanging out at night, grabbing or making food or whatever, is not really unusual for friends, is it?
Women don't always wanna fuck you like mad, when they talk to you. You know, they also want to make friends, like everybody else.


I would imagine that it is very different in the United States, where such things are normally frowned upon.
WriterWovon man nicht sprechen kann, darüber muß man schweigen.
Myles
Profile Blog Joined March 2010
United States5162 Posts
April 27 2013 17:28 GMT
#11
On April 28 2013 02:25 CosmicSpiral wrote:
Show nested quote +
On April 27 2013 17:12 Kuni wrote:
Girls tend to get in closer contact with nice guys they want to be friends with. Many female friends of mine were very "attached" to us, a friend of mine and me, who used to hang out a lot with this group of girls, and they were always kissing, hugging, going for cuddles etc. and we were only friends, nothing more. Hanging out at night, grabbing or making food or whatever, is not really unusual for friends, is it?
Women don't always wanna fuck you like mad, when they talk to you. You know, they also want to make friends, like everybody else.


I would imagine that it is very different in the United States, where such things are normally frowned upon.

Yea, we have to stupid outlook on this. They were actually talking about it on the radio the other day and it was pretty much commonly accepted that if you're a girl you can't be very nice or it's expected that you want to hook up.
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CosmicSpiral
Profile Blog Joined December 2010
United States15275 Posts
April 27 2013 17:58 GMT
#12
On April 28 2013 02:28 Myles wrote:
Show nested quote +
On April 28 2013 02:25 CosmicSpiral wrote:
On April 27 2013 17:12 Kuni wrote:
Girls tend to get in closer contact with nice guys they want to be friends with. Many female friends of mine were very "attached" to us, a friend of mine and me, who used to hang out a lot with this group of girls, and they were always kissing, hugging, going for cuddles etc. and we were only friends, nothing more. Hanging out at night, grabbing or making food or whatever, is not really unusual for friends, is it?
Women don't always wanna fuck you like mad, when they talk to you. You know, they also want to make friends, like everybody else.


I would imagine that it is very different in the United States, where such things are normally frowned upon.

Yea, we have to stupid outlook on this. They were actually talking about it on the radio the other day and it was pretty much commonly accepted that if you're a girl you can't be very nice or it's expected that you want to hook up.


In our country physical intimacy and sexual intimacy are assumed to be one and the same (for some weird reason).
WriterWovon man nicht sprechen kann, darüber muß man schweigen.
QuanticHawk
Profile Blog Joined May 2007
United States32159 Posts
April 27 2013 18:15 GMT
#13
On April 27 2013 17:12 Kuni wrote:
Girls tend to get in closer contact with nice guys they want to be friends with. Many female friends of mine were very "attached" to us, a friend of mine and me, who used to hang out a lot with this group of girls, and they were always kissing, hugging, going for cuddles etc. and we were only friends, nothing more. Hanging out at night, grabbing or making food or whatever, is not really unusual for friends, is it?
Women don't always wanna fuck you like mad, when they talk to you. You know, they also want to make friends, like everybody else.


yeah sure bro everyone knows that a girl saying she is hungry after a night of drinking code for 'i want a huge slab of meat between my buns'
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Darkren
Profile Blog Joined February 2010
Canada1841 Posts
April 27 2013 18:51 GMT
#14
She probably just wanted a one night stand with you ( AKA just SEX) and nothing else.

Don't think only men cheat, girls do it as much.
"Yeah, I send (hopefully) helpful PM's quite frequently. You don't have to warn/ban everything" - KadaverBB
Integra
Profile Blog Joined January 2008
Sweden5626 Posts
April 27 2013 19:02 GMT
#15
She played you, plain and simple.
"Dark Pleasure" | | I survived the Locust war of May 3, 2014
Doodsmack
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States7224 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-04-27 19:43:08
April 27 2013 19:42 GMT
#16
Reading my OP again, it may not be completely accurate. It's not like we were flirting and talking the whole night. We went to a second bar and there, she was kinda talking to other people and not me. Only once we realized we're neighbors and she was asking where we could eat, when there very clearly is no place to go at that hour where we live, did I think to ask her to my place. And then her hugging me before I asked for a number, combined with everything else, led me to believe she was single. But really, I have no clue lol. There are a lot of times in my life where I'm just thinking "What the fuck is going on right now". Do you guys have that thought too?
CosmicSpiral
Profile Blog Joined December 2010
United States15275 Posts
April 27 2013 20:43 GMT
#17
On April 28 2013 04:42 Doodsmack wrote:
Reading my OP again, it may not be completely accurate. It's not like we were flirting and talking the whole night. We went to a second bar and there, she was kinda talking to other people and not me. Only once we realized we're neighbors and she was asking where we could eat, when there very clearly is no place to go at that hour where we live, did I think to ask her to my place. And then her hugging me before I asked for a number, combined with everything else, led me to believe she was single. But really, I have no clue lol. There are a lot of times in my life where I'm just thinking "What the fuck is going on right now". Do you guys have that thought too?


You're overthinking things. You mistook the girl as being attracted to you and she wasn't. It happens to a lot of people.
WriterWovon man nicht sprechen kann, darüber muß man schweigen.
Stratos_speAr
Profile Joined May 2009
United States6959 Posts
April 27 2013 20:56 GMT
#18
On April 28 2013 04:42 Doodsmack wrote:
Reading my OP again, it may not be completely accurate. It's not like we were flirting and talking the whole night. We went to a second bar and there, she was kinda talking to other people and not me. Only once we realized we're neighbors and she was asking where we could eat, when there very clearly is no place to go at that hour where we live, did I think to ask her to my place. And then her hugging me before I asked for a number, combined with everything else, led me to believe she was single. But really, I have no clue lol. There are a lot of times in my life where I'm just thinking "What the fuck is going on right now". Do you guys have that thought too?


It doesn't seem like you're doing anything wrong. As long as you don't try to jump girls in public or make very aggressive advances without knowing if they're taken, you're fine. If anything, I'd still blame this girl for leading you on to an extent. Mis-communication like this happens a lot, and all you need to do is keep doing what you're doing; put yourself out there, react to opportunities, but don't awkwardly force stuff to happen, and you'll get plenty of chances to start dating women.
A sound mind in a sound body, is a short, but full description of a happy state in this World: he that has these two, has little more to wish for; and he that wants either of them, will be little the better for anything else.
ieatkids5
Profile Blog Joined September 2004
United States4628 Posts
April 28 2013 01:05 GMT
#19
i just assume they're all not interested in me, but then flirt/pursue them anyway. then it's not disappointing when they are actually not interested, and it's a nive surprise when they are.
obesechicken13
Profile Blog Joined July 2008
United States10467 Posts
April 28 2013 01:42 GMT
#20
You seem to have a good head on you. GL OP.
I think in our modern age technology has evolved to become more addictive. The things that don't give us pleasure aren't used as much. Work was never meant to be fun, but doing it makes us happier in the long run.
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