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Hey TL, I'd just like to post this on the American Labor Day since its kind of a day of rest and I think this applies haha
Hey TL, this blog is going to be a bit more formal (in theme, not actual text sans the lack of emoticons) than usual, simply because it’s a more important topic, at least compared to my normally poorly written rambles. I’ll try to make it humorous, but please don’t let that diminish the fact that I’d like life advice from those wiser than myself, not too hard considering I’m a 17 year old.
1st world problems
Everyone has this happen to them at some point. People just have a bad week. Everyone has a bad day, at the least every now and again; in this case, however, I’m talking about a visceral feeling, a deep instinct that you would have to try your hardest to make your worse than it already is(well unless your car blew up with you in it). I’m not talking about the kind of week where its just Ho-Hum, I’m talking about a week where you just radiate sad. Its an emanating feeling, it just comes out of you. Its not something you can control, its just a way that your smile turns, it’s a reflection of the shit that your week has become. The twinkle of your eye disappears, the smile in your eyes vanishes, but nothing terrible has befallen you
this week was one of those weeks
yeah that looks like it would suck
To be frank, its 1st world problems. I did not lose my job, I did not lose my weekly meal, I did not lose a loved one (though I almost did), nor did anything happen that would make suicide ever cross my mind. Now, I say this to trivialize my issues, but also to find a common ground with you all. No one I know has something horrendous befall them constantly, it happens sometimes, but I think everyone who reads this blog can associate with what I was feeling. I know that some people’s problems will eclipse mine, I wholeheartedly agree with that; however, I will respectfully interject with the fact that this is MY blog, and therefore I would like to get advice from those who have been through what I am feeling, some might even venture to give me advice.
yeah its unimportant, js
My Terrible Week
My week consisted of the following list,
- My grandma revealing to me that she has skin cancer, and was being treated for it. luckily she thinks its gone
- Getting my stupid ass into a car crash with a pole I couldn’t see while backing out due to people blocking my rear-view mirror. No one was hurt and my car was fine
- My girlfriend was quite angry with me viewing pornography while in a relationship (My previous blog was on this INSERT LINK), she even thought about breaking up with me. Luckily, she did not break up with me.
- I received some grades that I wish I hadn’t, nothing terrible, but not something I’m proud of for the beginning of Senior year.
- I learned that apparently I am a special case and will not be receiving free time in my IB classes at all. Luckily this is minor, but was a piss off
- I learned that what I thought I knew about the IB program I am in is completely wrong, and also that I can’t help but feel like I made the wrong program choice.
and though none of these are ground breaking, I can’t help but feel shitty afterwards. All’s well that ends well is what I keep telling myself, but even though everything turned out fine, maybe because I feel like dodging dangerous objects being flung at me 7 at a time isn’t my favorite past-time.
I’m not skilled enough for that hobby
What Have We Learned?
So far the answer to that question is… Nothing at all.
I was not seriously injured by anything that happened last week, yet I feel like there was a lesson to be learned that I’m missing. I feel like there is something here that I’m not seeing, my vision of the proverbial forest is clouded by my insistence on seeing only the trees. I guess my question to you TL is something along the lines of, what should I take away from my near critically bad week. If you were to think about what would happen if my week had taken a turn for the worse, my grandma would be near death, I’d be single, I’d have totaled my car and possibly caused an injury. The tests I realize were just a manifestation of my frustration at my week, and yet it seemed like this week was somewhat inevitable.
![[image loading]](http://www.pow33.com/images/forest-light-900.jpg) Hows that for proverbial
TL, there are a lot of people here that have had lives not nearly as charmed as my own, and I’d like to ask everyone, what can I take away from this week, what growth can I make, how can I change this to prevent this from happening again? How can I bounce back?
Just a quick message from the sap author: It means a lot to me that people actually care enough to comment on my blogs, you guys are amazing, Keep calm and TL on  .
Also song recommendations while reading this blog include
Brett Dennan: someday
The Strokes: someday
Hot Chelle Rae: Tonight, Tonight
 
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First, call up some friends and go drink a few beers. Read the rest of this post tomorrow morning.
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Hey dude, you were drinking last night, you're probably a little dehydrated. Grab a glass of water and come back.
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Okay, here we go. Like you said, there's been a lot that's happened in the last week to get you stressed out, and although none of it's particularly terrible it can really be a drain on your morale.
The good news is that the first couple points you made, you probably already feel a little better about. It just takes some time for the stress to leave your body, keep chugging, tell yourself to relax about them, and you'll be good to go.
As for this IB program...I know nothing about IB programs, but it's only the first week of September, is there any way to change this? The people you ask are probably going to try to discourage you from switching, but make sure you keep asking until they tell you straight up "No, it's impossible, stop bugging me" or "well, alright, if you really want to...". That is, of course, if you really think there's some other program you know you'd rather switch to, or something. Otherwise my other advice stays; just ride the wave, and don't beat yourself up about making the "wrong" choice.
That's how you should bounce back...which was the last question you asked. The first question, about how to prevent these weeks from happening again, I'll say this:
Uhh, almost everything was really not something that can be prevented, sorry :/ Bad things happen to relatives, people have arguments with their significant others, and little car accidents just kinda happen sometimes. One thing for sure is that you should do more extensive research on things that you're going to be committed for for a long time, like this IB program, but if the case is actually that you were fed wrong information then it's just another thing you'll get over in time.
The best advice I can give is to try and find the things that make you happy, so you can do those when these kind of weeks occur (hopefully there will be few and far between) (also oh my god how cheesy was that). In your free time, start picking up some hobbies, some with and some without your girlfriend maybe (I like swing dancing), and try to find one or two things you like that you can do maybe once or twice a week. That way, if something bad happens again, you'll be able to think "at least tomorrow night I've got [x] to take my mind off this". You've probably already got some hobbies, go do them even if right now you don't feel up to it; afterwards, you'll realize it was a good idea.
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Hmm interesting read good luck on IB.
I'm working my ass off on labor day as a student, so much work -__-
...that reminds me... Gah must focus!!
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Just wanna lyk your girl is pretty immature if she wants to break up with u for watching porn. She should understand men have needs and its perf normal for guys to endulge themselves in porn. I got my ex's to watch porn with me lol. One of them even gave me head as I watched it lol. Anyway thats in the past, and you need to let her know that you might dump her if she's so pissy over something like that
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The thing that you can take from this, is that you're still standing on your own two feet. Life has thrown you a couple of curveballs and in the face of adversity you chose to stand your ground. The things that happened in your life recently, you met those challenges like a man. You didn't come on here and complain, or whine about how crappy things are, you just simply stated the recent events in your life. Life does not become easier. As you yourself mentioned, other people have gone through worse things. Unfortunately, you yourself will go through worse things later. What you can take from this, is that when trouble arises in your life, you will meet it head on and only become stronger in the process.
On September 04 2012 09:29 GhostOwl wrote:
Just wanna lyk your girl is pretty immature if she wants to break up with u for watching porn. She should understand men have needs and its perf normal for guys to endulge themselves in porn. I got my ex's to watch porn with me lol. One of them even gave me head as I watched it lol. Anyway thats in the past, and you need to let her know that you might dump her if she's so pissy over something like that
Bad advice. She's just letting you know how she feels. Some girls are okay with it, some aren't. Doesn't mean she's immature, just means that's the way she is. I'm not going to lecture you on your life decisions, but generally speaking porn doesn't enhance a relationship. Most girls prefer if you're fantasizing about them. She's probably not mad at you watching porn, so much as she's hurt that you need someone else to turn you on. Once again, not trying to tell you how to live, but that's probably how she feels.
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On September 04 2012 12:16 Fumanchu wrote:
Bad advice. She's just letting you know how she feels. Some girls are okay with it, some aren't. Doesn't mean she's immature, just means that's the way she is. I'm not going to lecture you on your life decisions, but generally speaking porn doesn't enhance a relationship. Most girls prefer if you're fantasizing about them. She's probably not mad at you watching porn, so much as she's hurt that you need someone else to turn you on. Once again, not trying to tell you how to live, but that's probably how she feels.
FINALLY SOMEONE GETS IT! thanks jewish god (talladega nights)
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About your previous blog, I had a peek through, and I've read books on this shit: it's not the masturbating that's a problem for her, its the lust and porn. She may possibly be a bit overwhelmed/put off knowing you pleasure yourself fantasizing over her, but there's no way she won't be jealous and feel inadequate, if it turns out you aren't satisfied by being turned on by her, and have to seek your sexual stimulation and satisfaction worshipping imaginairy videos that she can never live up to or best, since they're outta-this-world fake (that's the point of Porn, since if it showed what sex is really like, it'd be far less fast, sexy, or captivating). There's a big (phisiochemical) difference between masturbating, and fapping to porn. The latter is much more effective, affecting, and dividing.
Other thing: IB .... YAAAAAAY FUNNNN "What should I take away from my near critically bad week?" Don't let IB make it into a near-life-threatening-critical-level-season. It sounds like you're in the first (of 2) years of IB, so I'l reply assuming that is the case: do your shit early. Regardless how strict or lenient your teachers are, no matter how far off the deadlines are, learn to do your assignments comfortably in advance. This is from someone who submitted their EE 2 months after the "final deadline", and only got through the 'big crunch' by a big whopping divine miracle, for which I am truly greatful.
The sooner you learn to complete things before the-night-before-they're-due, the better, as that's exactly what you'll need to do in College. Its ok to ask your teachers for input to explain things you don't get (so don't be put off thinking you're hogging their time or looking silly, it's their job and pelasure to help you learn), and even do multiple drafts of essays and lab writeups before they're due. With due dilligence, the second year, where essays and labs get jumbled into 'internal assesments' and form a part of your subject grades, you'll already have a nice stock of work you are confident in, and the discipline to solve all the tasks on time.
The more you work your first year, the less of a pain the second year, and in view of how nasty scond year can possibly become, please, please heed my warning and take some of that pressure off in first!
Otherwise, GL HF and it'll get better dun't u worry!
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