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docvoc
Profile Blog Joined July 2011
United States5491 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-08-23 04:45:13
August 22 2012 22:31 GMT
#1
Hey TL! I'm back with another blog, that is of course about my girlfriend. Now, I'm not going to bore you with all the boring mushy gushy stuff; however, I think you all might [/s]sustain yourselves[/s] enjoy an argument my girl and I had.

The background


As a reference, to those who read my last couple blogs, my gf is not insane or crazy but well within her rights, she is not this.
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      Like many males, I masturbaet. Though I come from a religious family, masturbating has never been some untouchable thing. I have personally done that since I'd say 14-15 which is medium for most guys. My girlfriend knew that I did that, its not like masturbating is some terrible thing. In fact she would sometimes, when we couldn't be together, i.e. over the phone, masturbate with me. As much as I love giving out personal tastes of people that I love, thats is where I'll stop describing anyone but myself.

      As a backstory to the day itself, it was terrible and full of 1st world probs. I got into a crash with a pole because it was put in the back of a parking lot and I had too many people in my car, i'll get to that in a sec, and luckily no one was hurt, including my car, but I was pissed nevertheless. There were WAYYY to many fucking people in my car; I had driven to say hey to a friend who had his birthday, ended up driving to the wrong TCBY, then finally arrived when they were all leaving, so of course being the good friend I am, I drove people (4) home. I had done terribly in school, and by terribly I mean I fucked up a lab HARD, I got a B on an english test that I could have aced, I wouldn't be so angry if I didn't know inside that I could have done so much better, and I'm generally angry at my IB program because we do not get the perks other schools get for no reason other than the fact that the year before me just screwed it all up for us.

Lets be clear about a few things here.
  • Masturbating is not a bad thing, and is healthy
  • Masturbating is something I have been doing since about two years ago
  • Masturbating is something my girlfriend did not seem to have any issues with
  • I do not blame my debate coach for any of this
  • about 50% of females masturrbate compared to about 90% of males
  • about 50% of females are ok with their partner watching porn, compared to males being once again near 90%
  • My girlfriend thought about dumping me over this


Now back to the story!

The Story


      I was talking with my girlfriend yesterday, and she had been told by the tech worker at our school - also our debate coach - who we are both quite close to, and is around our age (young 20's, we are 15-16, 17-18 [gf is first 2, I am second 2]), that, "If Lee (yeah thats the name I go by) were to stop watching so much porn he might actually do his debate work." Now to give you some info on this, I am the most medalled person on our debate team.
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Though that remark was funny at the time, it got my girlfriend thinking, and eventually, last night that is, questioned me. She asked me if I watch porn and if I masturbate. I, and rightfully so answered truthfully, I do both. She was not happy. She was in fact quite angry about it. Now, as I stated, 90% of guys masturbate, and with good reason, its healthy, especially for single guys. My girlfriend was furious. She was, "upset on so many levels," and I just could not understand it at all. I could not tell if she was angry because I was watching porn or because I was masturbating because she questioned me and it seemed so ambiguous. I previously thought at worst she was generally ambivalent to the fact. Boy was I FUCKING WRONG. She was absolutely pissed - she gets very passive aggressive btw - and thought about breaking up with me, which was a text I got the next day after she decided to forgive me. She was so angry at me that she actually considered breaking up with me, this is 4 months after she said that she thought I was the "one" for her, the guy she was destined to fall in love with. Don't go apeshit on her for saying that, where I live (Memphis, Southern area of the U.S.) it isn't uncommon for people to marry their highschool sweethearts. She felt like I was cheating on her, with my right hand, but nonetheless cheating on her.

Now onto the two sides to the argument, I want your opinions, and I'd like them to be as impartial as possible, take both sides into account please.

Two Sides to the Argument


      My side of the argument will go first, mainly because I want her side to be last in order to make sure you guys read it. My argument is centered around the thesis that since I love her and only her, some random girl, I.E. porn (which i am willing to give up) should not have any effect on our relationship, and that masturbating is healthy, so much so that it si unhealthy to not do that.
  • It is unhealthy not to masturbate, for a couple reasons, 1. is that it leads to semen build up and unhealthy semen, which feels terrible; 2. because it allows me to not feel horny constantly as a teen male, hormones are incredibly rampant at my age and since I am personally a slow grower, they will continue for at least a couple more years
  • I should be allowed to have control over MY body, no one is allowed to tell me what I can and cannot do to my body
  • Guys that say they don't masturbate are liars, they physically have to, its a biological need
  • Pornography is one way to make the action take less time, I personally last a long time, much longer than most guys that I know, and because of that, porn makes it not a 30 minute ordeal.
  • I'm willing to give up porn, but if I have to do that, then my girlfriend has to take a larger, more sexualized role in my life (this one is not really an argument, but everything is an action reaction, you can't just leave a vacuum and just say, GO FILL IT!)


      My Girlfriend's argument. Please read this since its the other gender's opinion. Her thesis relies on the idea of "cheating." I will be giving a lot of sub points to these, not to be patronizing, but to clarify the points.
  • She, as a girl doesn't have to masturbate, therefore if she gets little out of it, why should she expect a guy to. (note, this may seem stupid, but if you have never experienced an orgasm that you gave to yourself, but rather one given to you by another person, this is more understandable.)
  • She has guy friends who say they don't masturbate or watch porn (most of the guys on this site will recognize this line as complete and utter Bullshit, but she takes it as a fact. For her, there is no reason to think they are lying.)
  • I'm looking at other girls with lustful eyes. It doesn't matter that they are unattainable, or that I would never leave her for them, the idea is that she is not my muse compared to them. Its like I'm cheating.
  • She frankly dislikes that I do masturbate, and about 50% of girls are on her side here, she thought it was like a once a month thing, but now that she realizes that it is more like 1-2 times a week or maybe 1-2 times a month, she likes it much less.
  • She frankly does not like the fact that I watch porn, she thought it was a joke, but realizing I do is kind of a rude awakening, about 50% of girls agree with her on this also.


So guys, the idea lays in your hands, what should I do? I do not want to lose my girlfriend, I love her, but for me this is too far (as in not being in control of my body). I don't care about porn, having a girlfriend WAYYYYY outsurpasses it, but not being able to masturbate would be a huge blow in my sexual health, I'm trying to be as mature as possible about this right now. I am not sexually addicted, but at the same time I understand where my girlfriend is coming from on this one. Yet, we don't live together so its not like she can satisfy my sexual needs with a snap of the fingers. Well TL what do you think?

Please try to take this as seriously as possible and not turn into one big sex joke, LOL.
EDIT: changed all words that were baiting or masterbaiting to its correct spelling for maturity sake, and to make it easier on readers.

EDIT #2: I am a stupid-ass punk kid, haha. Thank you guys for all the comments, I told her some of the stuff you guys had said, and also thank you so much for all the reasoned responses, you guys are great . She said baiting was fine, but that porn made her feel like she isn't enough to please me, which she very much is, but I understand where she is coming from. Than you so much to all the help guys, I sincerely appreciate it .
P.S. Best community on teh interwebz.

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Aerisky
Profile Blog Joined May 2012
United States12129 Posts
August 22 2012 22:39 GMT
#2
Unfortunately I have no advice to offer, but that was a pretty fun read lol.

I don't know if you think you might end up married to her but for what it's worth, the fact that both of you guys are in high school partially explains a lot of this. :x You guys are 17 ffs and I've got to side with you here mostly.
Jim while Johnny had had had had had had had; had had had had the better effect on the teacher.
Shock710
Profile Blog Joined December 2009
Australia6097 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-08-22 22:42:12
August 22 2012 22:41 GMT
#3
Cant u just bait to her? Just say give me a recording doing couple of things with you or take a couple of pics, just convice her that way, if shes thinking that ur cheating it wont be a problem if ur thinking about her.
dAPhREAk gives Shock a * | [23:55] <Shock710> that was out of context -_- [16:26] <@motbob> Good question, Shock!
RoyGBiv_13
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States1275 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-08-22 22:44:55
August 22 2012 22:44 GMT
#4
Please try to take this as seriously as possible and not turn into one big sex joke, LOL.


I'm not the one bating over baiting....

This is one of those issues that will go away over time as you both grow older. If youre willing to tell this to the internet, why not a real life adult willing to help your girlfriend understand?


On August 23 2012 07:41 Shock710 wrote:
Cant u just bait to her? Just say give me a recording doing couple of things with you or take a couple of pics, just convice her that way, if shes thinking that ur cheating it wont be a problem if ur thinking about her.


Right answer. Get nudies out of this.
Any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic
docvoc
Profile Blog Joined July 2011
United States5491 Posts
August 22 2012 22:47 GMT
#5
On August 23 2012 07:44 RoyGBiv_13 wrote:
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Please try to take this as seriously as possible and not turn into one big sex joke, LOL.


I'm not the one bating over baiting....

This is one of those issues that will go away over time as you both grow older. If youre willing to tell this to the internet, why not a real life adult willing to help your girlfriend understand?


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On August 23 2012 07:41 Shock710 wrote:
Cant u just bait to her? Just say give me a recording doing couple of things with you or take a couple of pics, just convice her that way, if shes thinking that ur cheating it wont be a problem if ur thinking about her.


Right answer. Get nudies out of this.

See I did talk to her about this, but at this time she is resolute. Also I'm not in touch with anyone but her parents, who at this point think we are no longer having sex.

On the second topic, I would, but recently where I live someone got busted for that since its technically child pr0n.
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docvoc
Profile Blog Joined July 2011
United States5491 Posts
August 22 2012 22:49 GMT
#6
On August 23 2012 07:39 Aerisky wrote:
Unfortunately I have no advice to offer, but that was a pretty fun read lol.

I don't know if you think you might end up married to her but for what it's worth, the fact that both of you guys are in high school partially explains a lot of this. :x You guys are 17 ffs and I've got to side with you here mostly.

Thanks for the compliment ^^, also I'm not saying I will end up getting married to her, but I'm just saying that her opinion of that is more common than one would think. Also yeah we are very young which does feed into this.
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thoraxe
Profile Blog Joined March 2007
United States1449 Posts
August 22 2012 22:50 GMT
#7
baiting this baiting that, why can't you just put masturbating? I was confused for the first half of your post. You type it out fully later on, I don't know why you could do that since the beginning.
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Burns
Profile Blog Joined December 2010
United States2300 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-08-22 22:56:25
August 22 2012 22:53 GMT
#8
wait, wtf is baiting

edit, never mind, why not just call it what it is, or is masturbation an untouchable word

also if your girlfriend gets upset over a silly problem, how do you think she would react over a real problem
What do you mean you heard me during the night, these are quiet pants!
babylon
Profile Blog Joined April 2011
8765 Posts
August 22 2012 22:53 GMT
#9
On August 23 2012 07:50 thoraxe wrote:
baiting this baiting that, why can't you just put masturbating? I was confused for the first half of your post. You type it out fully later on, I don't know why you could do that since the beginning.

Yeah, I was so confused as to what OP meant. Never heard "baiting" before in my life until now. Usually it's "jerking off" or "beating one out" or masturbating.
docvoc
Profile Blog Joined July 2011
United States5491 Posts
August 22 2012 22:57 GMT
#10
Changed the OP to make it the full song. Also really you guys have never heard that? Its pretty commonly used where I am, also yeah jerking off and beating it are popular, but not as mono-syllable.
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Antimatterz
Profile Blog Joined October 2010
United States1010 Posts
August 22 2012 22:58 GMT
#11
On August 23 2012 07:31 docvoc wrote:
the idea lays in your hands


You so punny.
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Lyter
Profile Blog Joined February 2010
United Kingdom2145 Posts
August 22 2012 23:01 GMT
#12
so a 15-16 year old girl is having a hissy fit at something very childish? Can't say I'm very surprised. The correct response to "do you masturbate" when in your teens is always no, every guy says no, every guy know every other guy is lying, but girls buy that shit so easily to repress the ridiculous amount of insecurity and jealousy that all teenage girls possess
Kalingingsong
Profile Joined September 2009
Canada633 Posts
August 22 2012 23:02 GMT
#13
I honestly don't think you can reason your way out of this by justifying baiting.

Maybe you can negotiate like this: "I'll masturbate less, if you do xyz for me." etc
Dess.JadeFalcon
MisterD
Profile Blog Joined June 2010
Germany1338 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-08-22 23:07:06
August 22 2012 23:05 GMT
#14
you put value into a 15 year old girl saying you might be "the one" for her? oO You expect a 15 year old girl to have a stable, funded opinion about something? what is wrong with you? :D (same goes for trusting your own opinions btw, see below)

also, close to 20's is NOT "similar" age to 15 and probably not to 17 either, so much changes in that short time at that young age..

but .. quit justifying with "not masturbating is unhealthy" x) your explanation sounds like you feel the need to go at it at least every second day or you would die, that's definitely not required to be healthy. And keep in mind that you don't know how you would actually feel if she would do it too, unless she actually does it. You may think you are fine with it, but it might as well be that you feel your "manliness" attacked by it since you are obviously not providing enough or some crap, so don't judge based on what you want yourself to feel if it were so.
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Kalingingsong
Profile Joined September 2009
Canada633 Posts
August 22 2012 23:07 GMT
#15
On August 23 2012 08:05 MisterD wrote:
you put value into a 15 year old girl saying you might be "the one" for her? oO You expect a 15 year old girl to have a stable, funded opinion about something? what is wrong with you? :D

also, close to 20's is NOT "similar" age to 15 and probably not to 17 either, so much changes in that short time at that young age.


amen, finding out that people masturbate is like finding out there is no santa claus for some people. Give it time. lol
Dess.JadeFalcon
docvoc
Profile Blog Joined July 2011
United States5491 Posts
August 22 2012 23:12 GMT
#16
On August 23 2012 08:05 MisterD wrote:
you put value into a 15 year old girl saying you might be "the one" for her? oO You expect a 15 year old girl to have a stable, funded opinion about something? what is wrong with you? :D (same goes for trusting your own opinions btw, see below)

also, close to 20's is NOT "similar" age to 15 and probably not to 17 either, so much changes in that short time at that young age..

but .. quit justifying with "not masturbating is unhealthy" x) your explanation sounds like you feel the need to go at it at least every second day or you would die, that's definitely not required to be healthy. And keep in mind that you don't know how you would actually feel if she would do it too, unless she actually does it. You may think you are fine with it, but it might as well be that you feel your "manliness" attacked by it since you are obviously not providing enough or some crap, so don't judge based on what you want yourself to feel if it were so.

It is unhealthy, idk if you have gone a month without it, but you tend to get semen build up. its not healthy and it hurts a lot, along with the fact that it makes hormones go off the charts lol. Also I am confused by the other part of your statement.

about the statement she made about being the one, I'm not putting weight on it, I'm saying that simply for the gravity of what her breaking up with me would be. Thats an enormous break. Its supposed to be a showing of how meaningful this is for her.
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haduken
Profile Blog Joined April 2003
Australia8267 Posts
August 22 2012 23:13 GMT
#17
Don't matter where you got the apetite, so long you get home for dinner it's all good

Rillanon.au
SnipedSoul
Profile Joined November 2010
Canada2158 Posts
August 22 2012 23:25 GMT
#18
LOL, your gf thought you only masturbate once a month? A lot of guys do it multiple times a day! Tell her that and take pics of her reaction.
docvoc
Profile Blog Joined July 2011
United States5491 Posts
August 22 2012 23:33 GMT
#19
On August 23 2012 08:25 SnipedSoul wrote:
LOL, your gf thought you only masturbate once a month? A lot of guys do it multiple times a day! Tell her that and take pics of her reaction.

I used to watch a lot of the CoD Youtubers, and I still watch some of my favorites, but one of the things that Woody's Gamertag said that has always stuck with me is that if he only masturbated once a day, "it was a slow day."
User was warned for too many mimes.
P7GAB
Profile Joined June 2012
Canada486 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-08-22 23:39:53
August 22 2012 23:39 GMT
#20
well the obvious solution is to jerk off as much as you want and not tell her about it
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