EPTi mean, that's sad and no one should ever be assaulted, and underestimating women is a bad idea, but still...
dude got beat up by a girl.
and now his friend is gonna go out with that girl?
harsh, man, harsh.
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sc2superfan101
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i mean, that's sad and no one should ever be assaulted, and underestimating women is a bad idea, but still... dude got beat up by a girl. and now his friend is gonna go out with that girl? harsh, man, harsh. | ||
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beetlelisk
Poland2276 Posts
On May 31 2012 06:14 Chill wrote: Correct. Don't chase her. Your friend has already made it clear he has feelings for her still. Instead of victimizing the friend look at him in this way - the girl doesn't want him anymore. If he truly wishes her happiness then he should respect her choices. That's what I did when once I was in the friend's shoes. | ||
Chill
Calgary25989 Posts
On May 31 2012 09:23 beetlelisk wrote: Instead of victimizing the friend look at him in this way - the girl doesn't want him anymore. If he truly wishes her happiness then he should respect her choices. That's what I did when once I was in the friend's shoes. He's said explicitely that he still wants her and still loves her, not that he wishes for her happiness and respects her choices. What she wants is irrelevent in this situation. You're a better man than most and better than I would be. If the OP considers this guy a friend at all he should forget about this girl considering there are likely 100 just like her he can easily get. | ||
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beetlelisk
Poland2276 Posts
On May 31 2012 09:59 Chill wrote: He's said explicitely that he still wants her and still loves her, not that he wishes for her happiness and respects her choices. What she wants is irrelevent in this situation. You're a better man than most and better than I would be. If the OP considers this guy a friend at all he should forget about this girl considering there are likely 100 just like her he can easily get. I know that it wasn't stated that he wishes for her happiness etc, I'm saying that's what he should do if she is unwilling to cooperate. How what she wants is irrelevant? This friend is supposed to take her by force if she doesn't want to be with him? Besides, we don't even know the details behind their break up, so we can't judge the girl really and just say "ignore her". Maybe the friend was boring her or maybe he was an asshole to her. If the reason for the break up was the latter or something of that sort then, I think, he has no grounds to try to hold anyone back. Maybe OP will tell us more details so we can get better stance on the situation. OP definitely should talk with the friend before getting involved with the girl more and IMO this conversation should shed some light on what is OK to do. I think I'm coming from a position of someone who is relationship - starved and that's why I don't wish for OP to just forget about his girl. He didn't say if he really has so many other opportunities and character, and self-confidence among other things, that make it easy for him to get girls. This may be more complicated than it seems. | ||
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Shock710
Australia6097 Posts
Its up to u, whether u want this guy as ur friend or if u want this girl, in this case u cant have both because he isnt over her. Plus if this guy is someone ur going to spend a lot of time with, if u end up choosing the girl that friendship is basically over and IF u break up with the girl sometime later, u'll have neither. Its up to you. | ||
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