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Silidons
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Clazziquai10
Singapore1949 Posts
As for that "close friend" of yours, the fact that she unfriended you when you needed help speaks volumes about her poor character. Forget about her, or at least try your best to. She's not worth your time. | ||
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dragoon
United States695 Posts
This one is about how to deal with negative/position emotions ~ http://blip.tv/day9tv/day-9-s-musings-emotions-as-kittens-and-ninja-stars-5837973 This one, my personal favorite, is about positivity in general. http://blip.tv/day9tv/day-9-s-musings-being-relentlessly-positive-5837990 . Remember, everyone has the rite to a pursuit of happiness. The only way to truly pursue something is to be able to achieve. Everyone, including you, has the ability to be happy. You just have to tap it. | ||
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AnachronisticAnarchy
United States2957 Posts
Another thing you could do is fix your underlying problem. A lot of times depression has an underlying problem. For me it was my lack of empathy from Asperger's making me chronically insecure due to lack of knowledge about social crap. Finally, you can wait. Oftentimes, depression will sort itself out, as by its very nature, it is irrational. Depression is basically being sad for sadness' sake. It only exists because it still exists by a certain point in its development. I used both of these methods to get out of my ten year long suicidal streak. | ||
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HowitZer
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acerockolla
United States219 Posts
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askTeivospy
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also you're smarter than people in here just randomly telling you to blindly take medicine, but be careful about doctors too. There are plenty of dogtors out there, so if he does prescribe something but you feel even worse // you feel like it'll be a vice for you later on then quit it early imo | ||
thedeadhaji
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Been there, can definitely speak for its virtues myself. Hopefully having us read your words will bring some solace to your mind. | ||
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FFGenerations
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you need to identify your problems, ie that you hate yourself and why do you hate yourself then identify the solutions and things that inspire you (or search for something, since you're young you might not have something yet... ). it has to be a concept or feeling that you believe in and would want to strive towards because it stirs up an emotion that you can trust in for example if you love martial arts/jackie chan/fighting then you can start training in a gym/club , and any time you start to lose your way you will be able to remember how much you love martial arts (watch a film to inspire yourself) and that will re-energise your emotional willpower once you start to achieve your goals again , everything else (confidence, girls) will start to take care of itself by itself. and consequently you have learnt some valuable life lessons. how to live, how to help others to live, and of course the fact that you can trust women innately about as far as you can throw them | ||
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Denzil
United Kingdom4193 Posts
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Horiz0n
Sweden364 Posts
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youngminii
Australia7514 Posts
and then it gets better | ||
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Bojas
Netherlands2397 Posts
Go talk to a psychiatrist. Especially if you have suicidial thoughts on a daily basis, trust me. TLers can give all sorts of advice but with dealing with a depression the best thing you can do for yourself is to talk to a professional. Don't worry about your parents. If your sadness if the cause of their sadness then the best thing you can do to help them is help yourself. Do it. | ||
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Deleted User 109835
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Deleted User 61629
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OpticalShot
Canada6330 Posts
- Running/exercising - this is good, one summer I failed to land any research/internship so I decided to fuck working altogether (didn't want a sales/service part-time job kind of thing) and just went around exercising a lot. It helps your mind by keeping a solid goal in your head (make sure you set a specific weight/muscle/whatever goal), and it's always a nice feeling when you step out of shower and check out the sexy beast that is you in the mirror. - Meeting new friends - obviously in life you meet different people, old and new. Losing one doesn't mean you have to gain one of similar traits to "fill the gap" or "restore the balance". You don't have to go full out and aim directly to replace the lost spot. Instead, have an open mind and open heart. Be ready, be accepting, and discover/re-discover friendships as you ride along the flow. - Gaming - not as physically healthy as exercising, but a viable option nonetheless. After all, this is TL. I wouldn't recommend this as a long-term solution or as a goal in life. Still, immersing yourself in the virtual world of competition helps you take your mind off the troubles at hand in real life. Not harmful to enjoy at healthy doses, but don't get too deep. All of the above, I agree with. However, from my personal experience, I found what I needed in music. - Music - it's super-broad, as in you can do anything from listening / playing / composing / etc. You don't have to be a talented prodigy who's taken lessons since the toddler ages to enjoy music. It's never too late to pick up an instrument - I have several friends who started playing the piano at age 20+. Classical guitar is a popular one amongst college students. If you have the comfort of a proper house, trying out a drum set would be nice too. Hell, if you're not the instrument-type, try singing? You don't have to take an active part in playing anyway, you can choose to sit back and enjoy whatever music appeals to you. The thing is, once you start exploring music, there are so many paths to follow, each with great depths you would have never imagined. I don't imagine that all your troubles would go away when you dive into music, whichever way you decide to. Music is not a magical source of happiness that people can immediately find the answers from. I do, however, know that music (specifically, I'm a pianist) held me together in the tough times. I wish you the best, and feel free to PM me if you want to know more about the wonderful world of classical music! =) | ||
Brutaxilos
United States2629 Posts
On March 12 2012 23:20 Inori wrote: I know this will sound harsh, but.. kid, you don't even know what "losing everything" means so stop using this phrase like something actually bad happened. Losing everything = losing your parents, seeing your house with all belongings burn down, your wife/child getting murdered. What you're experiencing is what majority of teenagers go through. You have a roof over your head, loving/caring parents, good means to educate yourself. That's already more than a lot of people not even dare to dream about. In 2-3 years this stupid feeling will be over. To make this time go by faster I recommend finding a healthy hobby (i.e. sports, NOT more computer games). P.S. And yes I've also experienced literally same problems, which is why I'm so sure they will go away once you get into 20s. I understand that. That makes me feel worse. Life only gets worse... Great. | ||
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