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Hey guys! Some of you may remember me from my previous girl blogs.
Well, the gist of it is that I fell in love with this girl that I meet on the bus / way to school. I'm going to be rather brief and what most might consider brash in the girl blog. Maybe I'll change as this blog progresses, who knows?
Continuing from where I last left off, I said that I wanted to talk to her, and confront her. However, after I wrote that blog, my encounters with her have been rather brief, say about 5 seconds. Some days, I don't even see her at all. With the start of this year, I have only seen her thrice if my memory serves me correctly.
In an attempt to tell my tale in a chronological manner, I will go back to last year. I didn't see her for about a month or two because holidays had started (from last blog). On Christmas, I decided that I would go to church ( an old friend invited ) me to see how it's celebrated in churches even though I'am an atheist (Religious harmony, guys). Well it was interesting to see the happenings, and when the sermon ended and it was time to leave, holy shit guys.
The girl pops out of nowhere. We met each other at the exit of the chapel and looked each other right in the eyes. I don't recall her facial expression, because everything became a blur as I was giddy with excitement. Take note that I was talking to my buddy before I left the chapel (he stayed in the chapel instead of leaving as he had stuff to do) as well. Our eyes met, sparks flew for me, and the moment ended in a flash. We couldn't just clog up the exits right? Yes, I know that I should have said something, but the shock and euphoria I was going through at the moment overwhelmed me and disabled me of any rational thought.
So I went home kicking myself.
Later that night, I was browsing facebook, chatting with my buddy (church one). I went onto his wall and saw that he recently became friends with the girl. I didn't know her name prior to this, I was just curious what girl he recently became friends with (call me a stalker) and I simply clicked on the name. I asked my buddy if he was close with the girl. He replied that he knew of her existence, but never bothered to make any sort of contact, vice versa.
So I'm just sitting there, thinking to myself "This changes everything." Her blog, info , and everything was accessible to me. Naturally, I dove in. I read her tumblr, apparently she's 2 years older than me (I had suspicions of this, not a big deal right?).
I still check her tumblr occasionally, and her facebook. But not very frequently because the intense passion that I had for her, perhaps have died down a little. I don't know if I still like her or not. It's a terrible feeling, uncertainty
When I did see her this year, my heart would always jump. Oh, it seems that I have forgotten to include an important piece of information - she gives me signals. Feels weird to say it, and it's probably how I choose to perceive her actions, it's the same with almost every "Does she like me?" blog or girl blog anyway, so I won't elaborate too much on this.
I also can't visit the church anymore because I'am preoccupied with tuition and other stuff on Sundays. Well, I don't know what to do about this as I sit here on Valentines Day.
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Man up and say hi!
Some opening line i thought of "Hey i saw you the other day at the church, i knew i recognised that cute face from somewhere, Hi i'm Azera"
And you're not a creep, i facebook stalk all the time =P
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Facebook stalking is more than half the fun on that site. The rest if Farmville I am told, so you're not a creep
Also, I agree, man up and ask her. Also, definitely call yourself Azera. I'd estimate about 80-90% of people call me Hassy IRL as opposed to my real name
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On February 14 2012 18:34 Hassybaby wrote: Facebook stalking is more than half the fun on that site. The rest if Farmville I am told, so you're not a creep
Also, I agree, man up and ask her. Also, definitely call yourself Azera. I'd estimate about 80-90% of people call me Hassy IRL as opposed to my real name
My RL name is Ezra anyway :D
Also, maybe the question here is whether it would be feasible to send her a message on facebook?
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there are girls who straight up will not consider dating any guy that is younger (even if only a day younger). so age does sometimes matter.
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On February 14 2012 18:48 blabber wrote: there are girls who straight up will not consider dating any guy that is younger (even if only a day younger). so age does sometimes matter.
Ah well, you never know
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On February 14 2012 18:49 Azera wrote:Show nested quote +On February 14 2012 18:48 blabber wrote: there are girls who straight up will not consider dating any guy that is younger (even if only a day younger). so age does sometimes matter.
Ah well, you never know right, well obviously all girls aren't the same so you don't know til you try. just saying that age can be a factor for some girls.
i probably wouldn't try to contact her through facebook unless you've had some actual real-life interaction with her... at least know each others' names
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On February 14 2012 18:52 blabber wrote:Show nested quote +On February 14 2012 18:49 Azera wrote:On February 14 2012 18:48 blabber wrote: there are girls who straight up will not consider dating any guy that is younger (even if only a day younger). so age does sometimes matter.
Ah well, you never know right, well obviously all girls aren't the same so you don't know til you try. just saying that age can be a factor for some girls. i probably wouldn't try to contact her through facebook unless you've had some actual real-life interaction with her... at least know each others' names
hmm that seems reasonable. I'm actually taller than her if that helps anything haha.
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On February 14 2012 18:52 blabber wrote:Show nested quote +On February 14 2012 18:49 Azera wrote:On February 14 2012 18:48 blabber wrote: there are girls who straight up will not consider dating any guy that is younger (even if only a day younger). so age does sometimes matter.
Ah well, you never know right, well obviously all girls aren't the same so you don't know til you try. just saying that age can be a factor for some girls. i probably wouldn't try to contact her through facebook unless you've had some actual real-life interaction with her... at least know each others' names
Yeah definitely don't go through facebook unless you've met before. Its just creepy to get a random message from someone you don't even know.
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On February 14 2012 19:45 FractalsOnFire wrote:Show nested quote +On February 14 2012 18:52 blabber wrote:On February 14 2012 18:49 Azera wrote:On February 14 2012 18:48 blabber wrote: there are girls who straight up will not consider dating any guy that is younger (even if only a day younger). so age does sometimes matter.
Ah well, you never know right, well obviously all girls aren't the same so you don't know til you try. just saying that age can be a factor for some girls. i probably wouldn't try to contact her through facebook unless you've had some actual real-life interaction with her... at least know each others' names Yeah definitely don't go through facebook unless you've met before. Its just creepy to get a random message from someone you don't even know.
Haha, very true.
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You found out her facebook/tumblr information and now you suddenly don't like her as much anymore?
What's that about?
Is it the age thing? 2 years is nothing.
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Go out and get some other girl while you ponder your situation. Very easy on Valentine's day.
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haha dude. you are still young man. got lots more opportunities out there! anyway, you never talked to her at all?
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On February 14 2012 20:45 Turbovolver wrote: You found out her facebook/tumblr information and now you suddenly don't like her as much anymore?
What's that about?
Is it the age thing? 2 years is nothing.
What? No, it's nothing to do with that. It's just a flame that's died down a bit.
On February 14 2012 22:33 JMave wrote: haha dude. you are still young man. got lots more opportunities out there! anyway, you never talked to her at all?
Yeah I know, so I won't mull over this for long. I haven't talked to her at all, weird, I know :D
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On February 14 2012 18:40 Azera wrote:Show nested quote +On February 14 2012 18:34 Hassybaby wrote: Facebook stalking is more than half the fun on that site. The rest if Farmville I am told, so you're not a creep
Also, I agree, man up and ask her. Also, definitely call yourself Azera. I'd estimate about 80-90% of people call me Hassy IRL as opposed to my real name My RL name is Ezra anyway :D Also, maybe the question here is whether it would be feasible to send her a message on facebook?
O.O Erza Scarlet? Do you also take luggage the size of houses when you're off on a trip?
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On February 14 2012 22:55 Hassybaby wrote:Show nested quote +On February 14 2012 18:40 Azera wrote:On February 14 2012 18:34 Hassybaby wrote: Facebook stalking is more than half the fun on that site. The rest if Farmville I am told, so you're not a creep
Also, I agree, man up and ask her. Also, definitely call yourself Azera. I'd estimate about 80-90% of people call me Hassy IRL as opposed to my real name My RL name is Ezra anyway :D Also, maybe the question here is whether it would be feasible to send her a message on facebook? O.O Erza Scarlet? Do you also take luggage the size of houses when you're off on a trip? Sorry, I don't follow T.T
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I would say: follow the advice of others in this thread and try talking. You don't have to be a stud or make her fall madly in love with you on your first conversation. Just talk. Otherwise you're just spinning your wheels, wanting desperately to go somehwere/anywhere but not moving at all.
Think of it like Theorycrafting. In SC, theorycrafting is great and can be helpful but if all you do is theorycraft and never actually play the game, then what good was your theorycrafting? None of your ideas were realized and you end up wasting your time. At some point, you just have to start playing. You won't win every game, just like you can't get win over the heart of every girl; but win or lose, you've moved forward. You don't have to deal with the infinite possibilities, you just have to deal with her reactions.
tldr: Get over your ladder anxiety and say hi :DDD (I say this as someone who was in a vaguely similar situation to yours and eventually got up the courage to ask her to lunch and eventually ask her out. Lunch went well but the confession...not so much :p But at least I had something concrete to work with and I could move forward. My failed confession has become like another replay I can analyze and figure out how i could have done things differently ^^)
Good luck~~~!! I know it's easier said than done but the scariest part is always before it happens.
[Actually right now I'm also trying to psych myself out to ask out a girl to lunch today. haha T.T It's easier to type advice than to follow it :p]
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Awww yeah, the huge influx of girl blogs on V-day! Take bold steps and ask her out. Be nice and polite and all but make it abundantly clear that you felt something special about her (in a non-creepy way). You got this bro, may eSports Gods smile upon you today.
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You could try this:
1) Continue/resume going to church with your friend.
2) The next time you encounter her, say something like this: You: Hi......You look familiar....are you from XXX secondary school? Her: Yea......How'd you know? You: Oh...I take bus 9123245 at the bus stop next to Blk 9238239 at 7am every morning and I noticed someone who looks like you who's usually there at that time lol......So its you then? Her: YEA!! YOU'RE REALLY OBSERVANT!!! You: Absolutely ^^ WOW so u must live really near me then? Her: YA! Where do u stay!? You: Blk 238723784! Her: Cool! You: What's your name? Her: ABEWUDUHEF
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