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I'm sure y'all have talked about this in one way or another with friends..
But last week I was surprised to find out that a girl I've been playing volleyball with is a stripper. We aren't dealing in any way.. actually I'm still recovering from a heartbreak from back in the summer. I'm not sad, but just not .. ready I guess.
Anyway, her and I talk and joke around a lot and she's open about her occupation. Somehow the topic of her dating life came up.
We were talking about the type of people strippers date.. lol and it came full circle with me. I'm a student but also an actor.
I was asking her.. "Didn't your ex's feel uneasy at all?"
But she just said, it's a job like any other. A service, etc.. and then she asked me about acting. What if I got a role on a TV series on HBO or something and I was constantly simulating sex scenes and making out with girls, etc except now, there's way more people watching.
I was trying to say like.. well it's simulated and what you're doing is real..?
I don't know guys, I'm sure she's had practice arguing this before and I had nothing.
Lol.. I don't think she's "dirty" at all. She's actually really funny and charismatic.
But my question to you guys..
Would YOU date a stripper? Not just date but have a long term relationship with.
I'm not gonna lie.. I felt uneasy about the idea at first but.. it'd be hypocritical for me to tell my girlfriend she can't shake her booty around and then I go an act in a film where I make out with other girls.
 
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Even though this needs more pics  , this could be a very interesting discussion- should not have made this as a blog imo.
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Italy12248 Posts
I don't know. I suppose i could cope with it if i really cared for her. It would definitely be hard though. But then again, i am not an actor so eh.
It's obviously one of those things that really changes a lot from person to person, for some it might be ok for others it would be impossible.
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To be honest, I don't think I would, but it depends on the person. A lot of strippers seem like they're very narcissistic and like they have no other talents but to make men desire them.
Now, it's a case by case basis. There are some jobs *cough* prostitute *cough* that I don't think I would find acceptable. Stripper is on the fine line of, well, she's not really doing anything. Just making guys, ummm, you know  I don't think that it's the most honorable of jobs, and if I had a daughter and I found out that's how she made her money I'd probably kill her, but it's everyone's own preference.
If she's funny and charismatic (obviously she can't be bad looking lol) I'd say that obviously for some people she'd be perfect. I think I could date a stripper if I really wanted to cause they're not really doing anything but teasing, but it would be a little awkward at parties or w/e if you're talking and someone asks your girlfriend what she does for a job lol...
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United Kingdom10823 Posts
Difference between a stripper and a hooker dude, so I probably would if I liked her enough. Plus if you like her, you like her. Doesn't matter what job she does.
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Yeah I would. I don't see a difference between a girl who goes out and gets drunk and gets with a dude like every weekend and a girl who gets paid to do pretty well the same thing. Honestly, I think it would be fun as well. Almost all strippers i've met at strip clubs are really charismatic and fun to chat with, plus the sex would probably be awesome.
So hell yes to dating a stripper (assuming she's clean though obviously).
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No, it doesn't need pictures.
If you are uncomfortable with the idea at the start then it ends right there. Of course she has a lot more to say about it because she does it and she has her reasons.
Dating a stripper and pornstar are very different things as well.
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i would date TWO strippers
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Yeah I would absolutely, it wouldn't really bother me. This is far better then her not having a job, for instance.
It depends on what type of person you are. I know of some guys who would be really jealous all the time and upset about her work.
If you like her and shes fun to be around and it doesn't bother you; who cares what other people think?
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You see the other guys only get to smell the cake for money...you'd get to taste it for free. Depending on circumstance I wouldn't mind dating her. But marrying her would be a different story.... I highly doubt a career stripper would be devoid of some qualities incompatible with a long term relationship.
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Yeah I guess I would. But I would be really uneasy with her being a nude stripper
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On February 04 2012 22:09 jjun212 wrote:
Would YOU date a stripper? Not just date but have a long term relationship with.
I'm not gonna lie.. I felt uneasy about the idea at first but.. it'd be hypocritical for me to tell my girlfriend she can't shake her booty around and then I go an act in a film where I make out with other girls.
Uh yeah ...
Well first off, when choosing to date someone, I wouldn't consider their occupation the main deciding factor. However, future prospects can always be a consideration for a marriage. So marrying someone who doesn't work and play games all day ... not really the smartest choice around ... but stripping? Well, it's not the best occupation in the world, but it's far from the worst imho.
If it's a career choice, I might worry about what she'd be doing when she was 35 ...
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If stripping is something thats just.. for the moment, temporary or whatever then i guess i could live with it. If it was "i dont want to be anything else then a stripper" i probably couldn't handle it. Because well your lifetime goal is to be a stripper? Way to go! Would also make me think the person is very stupid and dumb, don't think i can have a longtime relationship with anyone that has sub highscool education.
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Date for fun, yeah. Dunno about serious relationship though, don't know if I want my kids to ask me "was mommy really a stripper?". Not a problem for other people but I'd rather not have a daughter who thinks that's alright.
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On February 04 2012 22:55 unkkz wrote:
If stripping is something thats just.. for the moment, temporary or whatever then i guess i could live with it. If it was "i dont want to be anything else then a stripper" i probably couldn't handle it. Because well your lifetime goal is to be a stripper? Way to go! Would also make me think the person is very stupid and dumb, don't think i can have a longtime relationship with anyone that has sub highscool education.
There are many girls who get sucked into it because the money is so good and they never get out. -_-
Some do it to pay for college and they still go back to doing it.
Dating a stripper wouldn't be ideal for you.
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Poll: Would you date a stipper?YES (72) 62% NO (45) 38% 117 total votes Your vote: Would you date a stipper? (Vote): YES
(Vote): NO
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I actually wouldn't date women doing many different professions, even a ton of non sex related professions, so I have no problem at all discriminating against dating somebody for her profession in this case. I actually put a huge importance on how people spend their time and what they do in life - if I don't like it, that goes a huge way towards me not liking them as a person overall.
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United States22883 Posts
It sounds like she's got a pretty mature handle on what she's doing and why she's doing it and that's far more important than what she's actually doing. I completely understand having some resistance to it at first, but I think you'd probably get used to it and it doesn't hurt to give it a shot. At least she's being up front about it, which takes away a lot of the resentment you might feel if you didn't know about it and in a way, it could build more trust than a relationship with a "normal" girl might have.
Plus she probably has a lot more spending cash than a normal partner.
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When you are looking for a life-long partner what do you want their morals to be?
A) Someone who previously offered sexual favors for a price. (definition of favors being visual in this case)
B) Someone who believes that to be morally wrong and keeps her sexual life private.
Sure, the money is tempting. Get naked and make a ridiculous amount of cash for dancing, but later when that person is looking for someone of quality in marriage (ie: life-long partner), it would be hard to find a morally upstanding person to share your life with because they would not share those morals. (obvious from lifestyle)
I could never be with someone who extorts themselves in any fashion for money. I have certain pre-set rules in a relationship. You don't do things that would bother you if your partner did them. IE: Flirting, cheating, or dancing naked in front of the other sex....
Being friends is just fine. I have had a few female friends who stripped, and plenty of others who openly did things that I am completely against, but for a relationship I have a higher standard.
But that is just my opinion.
*Post note: I would never date an actress either for the same reasons. Fake or not, how would you feel if your GF / BF is in a sex scene with someone else?
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I wouldnt be able to date a stripper or an actress doing alot of tv sex scenes, even if i fully trust them i would just feel off with it.
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