i know there are a bunch of girl problem threads on TL, and I don't know what I'm expecting for here, but I just felt like I wanted to tell somebody and see what they say. So here goes...
I met this girl this year March at a sort of get together at a friends place. I got her number and we started talking and we really hit it off. She is pretty hot and single at the time and I was like wow, this is amazing that this girl likes me! Then two days later, i see that our mutual friend and her are in a relationship... bleh
But we keep talking and get along with each other amazingly... and then I tell her that I like her. She says the usual that our timing is really bad and she just got into a relationship and I'm like yeah its cool I just wanted to tell you that. Ok, the other thing is that she's end of second year in university and i'm end of fourth year (just about to graduate). So yeah, over the summer we get really close, but then I get a job in california (she already knew this, which is why she didnt wanna break up with her bf either).
Now that i'm in California, we start talking even more.. like crazy a lot. I'm the first person she speaks to when she wakes up, goes to bed, and every hour in between. I guess we really like each other. Shes pretty awesome too.. she's hot and parties and stuff, but used to be kinda of a nerd, and we can relate to so many things.
Over the summer she even mentioned she thought about long distance, but we both said that would never work...
I was gonna end the story here... but I guess i'll tell you guys the whole story
So now.. yeah I come back to Canada for the holidays, and I see her.. and then things get messy. Her bf finds out we saw each other and she lied about it and they break up. And then two days later she sends me an email saying that she has to defriend me on fb because she doesn't want to be lying in every relationship she's in... but she told me a bunch of times (even when I saw her) that she wants to break up with him, but just is waiting for the right time (last time she wanted to break up, one of her bf's friends msged her and was like ... heyy where are we going for new years.. and she felt bad)
anyways... its obvious to both of us that we really like each other, but there's all this other shit involved. the biggest problem is that i'm working in cali and she's (now in third year) in school.. and I mean even once she graduates, she's probably will be doing more school or working in canada. And I'm working in silicon valley companies and it seems unlikely i'll move back to canada
I know everyone tells me there'll be more girls... but she's so perfect for me you know. Its like such a good fit. the right balance of partying and nerdyness and music and ... blah.. everything. just talking to her is so awesome.
anyways.. oh yeah, forgot to mention. after seeing her the first time over the break.. i was like fucking sigh.. i like this girl so much. and then my friend said yo just tell her to go long distance see what happens. so i did, i figured might as well try, and she said what was obvious that its too hard and yeah..
i don't know what to do guys. i guess i feel like there is nothing to do. i honestly just wished there was some hope that one day we could actually get together
thanks for reading this
EDIT: thanks for all the replies. couple things... our mutual friend isn't really a mutual friend.. i met them both at the same time. also, i'm pretty sure we aren't in a friendzone.. when i went to see her we nearly slept together (well we slept together, nearly had sex but i didn't cos of well some stuff she said before about how she doesnt wanna cheat and i respected that cos i actually like her)
but yeah thanks for these responses they are actually helping me