• Log InLog In
  • Register
Liquid`
Team Liquid Liquipedia
EDT 15:26
CEST 21:26
KST 04:26
  • Home
  • Forum
  • Calendar
  • Streams
  • Liquipedia
  • Features
  • Store
  • EPT
  • TL+
  • StarCraft 2
  • Brood War
  • Smash
  • Heroes
  • Counter-Strike
  • Overwatch
  • Liquibet
  • Fantasy StarCraft
  • TLPD
  • StarCraft 2
  • Brood War
  • Blogs
Forum Sidebar
Events/Features
News
Featured News
Classic Games #3: Rogue vs Serral at BlizzCon9[ASL20] Ro16 Preview Pt1: Ascent10Maestros of the Game: Week 1/Play-in Preview12[ASL20] Ro24 Preview Pt2: Take-Off7[ASL20] Ro24 Preview Pt1: Runway13
Community News
SC4ALL $6,000 Open LAN in Philadelphia7Weekly Cups (Sept 1-7): MaxPax rebounds & Clem saga continues25LiuLi Cup - September 2025 Tournaments3Weekly Cups (August 25-31): Clem's Last Straw?39Weekly Cups (Aug 18-24): herO dethrones MaxPax6
StarCraft 2
General
Weekly Cups (Sept 1-7): MaxPax rebounds & Clem saga continues #1: Maru - Greatest Players of All Time Team Liquid Map Contest #21 - Presented by Monster Energy Classic Games #3: Rogue vs Serral at BlizzCon What happened to Singapore/Brazil servers?
Tourneys
Maestros of The Game—$20k event w/ live finals in Paris RSL: Revival, a new crowdfunded tournament series Sparkling Tuna Cup - Weekly Open Tournament SC4ALL $6,000 Open LAN in Philadelphia LANified! 37: Groundswell, BYOC LAN, Nov 28-30 2025
Strategy
Custom Maps
External Content
Mutation # 490 Masters of Midnight Mutation # 489 Bannable Offense Mutation # 488 What Goes Around Mutation # 487 Think Fast
Brood War
General
Pros React To: SoulKey's 5-Peat Challenge ASL20 General Discussion BW General Discussion BGH Auto Balance -> http://bghmmr.eu/ BSL Team Wars - Bonyth, Dewalt, Hawk & Sziky teams
Tourneys
[ASL20] Ro16 Group B [Megathread] Daily Proleagues SC4ALL $1,500 Open Bracket LAN CPL12 SIGN UP are open!!!
Strategy
Simple Questions, Simple Answers Muta micro map competition Fighting Spirit mining rates [G] Mineral Boosting
Other Games
General Games
Nintendo Switch Thread Stormgate/Frost Giant Megathread Path of Exile General RTS Discussion Thread Borderlands 3
Dota 2
Official 'what is Dota anymore' discussion
League of Legends
Heroes of the Storm
Simple Questions, Simple Answers Heroes of the Storm 2.0
Hearthstone
Heroes of StarCraft mini-set
TL Mafia
TL Mafia Community Thread
Community
General
Russo-Ukrainian War Thread US Politics Mega-thread Things Aren’t Peaceful in Palestine The Games Industry And ATVI UK Politics Mega-thread
Fan Clubs
The Happy Fan Club!
Media & Entertainment
Movie Discussion! [Manga] One Piece Anime Discussion Thread
Sports
2024 - 2026 Football Thread Formula 1 Discussion MLB/Baseball 2023
World Cup 2022
Tech Support
Linksys AE2500 USB WIFI keeps disconnecting Computer Build, Upgrade & Buying Resource Thread High temperatures on bridge(s)
TL Community
BarCraft in Tokyo Japan for ASL Season5 Final The Automated Ban List
Blogs
The Personality of a Spender…
TrAiDoS
A very expensive lesson on ma…
Garnet
hello world
radishsoup
Lemme tell you a thing o…
JoinTheRain
RTS Design in Hypercoven
a11
Evil Gacha Games and the…
ffswowsucks
Customize Sidebar...

Website Feedback

Closed Threads



Active: 1288 users

The rules of my life (Rule 2)

Blogs > Torte de Lini
Post a Reply
1 2 3 Next All
Torte de Lini
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Germany38463 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-10-31 18:47:50
October 31 2011 18:45 GMT
#1
Nice round of readers last time, so let's try and keep this going, I hope rule two entertains as much as rule one

Remember; these are rules of my life, not in general and only towards things that affect my life personally (and should you apply these rules to your own life, they should be only with whatever directly interacts with you, not in general).


Welcome.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KID8HAU2eBA&feature=related


Rule #2 is a tie for me. I know which one I usually go with, but the other one also has a more resounding worth that's stuck with me for the longest time. The current one I'm referring to is a lot younger, but a lot more core to my once pessimistic outlook on a life. I'm not some optimistic upbeat with the capacity to tolerate everything and everyone. I'm not a social creature, extending himself in every direction to make sure I touch you in some way or another (the forums might dictate otherwise by my activity, but I assure you, I like my sanity and sometimes my solidarity [especially when I'm writing these sort of dialogues]). Rule two stems from the question: "Why?" and has probably the biggest clashes of arguments and in the end: grudges. I have fumbled a few times with it and now I no longer talk to these people. Once I strike you off, I cut off all communication, I don't talk to you, read your e-mails nor do I even mention your name.

Of course, to get there, you'd have to be unbelievably malicious.

Rule 2: Is simple. You cannot hate anyone entirely and by that branches the idea that you can never know someone entirely. The issue with rule 2 is that you let people off too easily or justify their actions for them, which enables them. In most cases it works quite well for me. By agreeing that you can never hate someone's entirety, you account that they are a multifaceted human and thus you've only encountered a part of them you don't like or enjoy being around.

This is increasingly hard on the internet, especially with a lot of stupidity going around (no offense). But if you combine rule 2 with the question "Why?", you unknot the intentions, motivations and views of people into something that's sound, rational or properly emotionally-based. That's not to say that what they're doing is right nor even acceptable, but it helps you understand why they do what they do and thus perhaps help you in accepting a part of them while rejecting another. Acknowledging they're human is obvious, too obvious, but in the midst of our emotions, assessment of the person as we first get in contact with them, somehow we forget just how human they are and how human they can or would be under the right circumstances, maybe they're acting this way because they've forgotten how human you are? You ever see someone, just for a moment, you try to feel what they're feeling or you look at them as someone with a thought-process and their gestures, expressions and facial changes are all in their mind, morphing at incredible speeds. That person is thinking just like I am, etc. etc.? It's a scary feeling when I do it for too long.

I've been doing this since high-school and it's helped me a lot through the joking racism where an olive-skinned guy was the closest to an African-American they've seen in real life [(despite knowing I'm Egyptian, Ecuadorian, Italian, Swiss and American) just to clarify, they know I'm not black, but everyone else was pale-ass white. Whiter than snow!]. When I realize that they're not saying these words to hurt me, but because they don't know how to properly talk to me (given that my French was rather poor and I was a very comedic guy [since I couldn't express myself as clearly as I can in English] and because I would enable them by joking punch them and insult them back, it became an established way of "bonding". Granted they got more out of it than me, but it helped me be friends with many social circles I would typically never be a part of and it helped me get through three high-schools of varying private-levels (public school to prestigious private to sports-school semi-private schools).

I've hated the actions people have done or some of their personality that rubs me the wrong way, but I would realize that these people aren't who they are if they didn't think it worked in one way or another (and perhaps it does and creates a confident circle of friends that allows this sort of behavior or perhaps it doesn't, but it isn't my place to correct them with my own faults [Rule 3]). In this particular situation, this person is acting this way, but how would he be in another situation. Would I respect him or her if she acted differently in a similarly social occasion amongst different people, scenario, environment? If I hate them, I dismiss them and I miss out on an opportunity to meet them, their associates or their way of life and I don't get to express a diverse way of seeing the world, seeing my peers or learning something more from someone I would typically dismiss. Why waste a chance at something more? If the person turns out to be even more with what you aren't pleased with? Walking back is quicker than moving forward with the person; just turn around and walk back.

You hurt your chances by hurting others.

**
https://twitter.com/#!/TorteDeLini (@TorteDeLini)
Torte de Lini
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Germany38463 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-10-31 18:50:45
October 31 2011 18:48 GMT
#2
As always: Follow me on Twitter: @TorteDeLini
Additionally, consider following this great player: @NRGLucky Fool

[image loading]

The cat sleeps towards me, but the great city lies behind her sleepy eyes

https://twitter.com/#!/TorteDeLini (@TorteDeLini)
Probe1
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States17920 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-10-31 18:56:08
October 31 2011 18:51 GMT
#3
I too feel your pain as the whitest person in Florida. Truly it's harrowing to go out every day and, at best turn a slightly darker shade for a few days until I revert to paley pale.

J/k racism sucks and it takes too much effort better to just hate on stupid people.

I thought I could screw up your advertising post but I was 4 minutes too slow. I haven't slept since yesterday ish.
우정호 KT_VIOLET 1988 - 2012 While we are postponing, life speeds by
Torte de Lini
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Germany38463 Posts
October 31 2011 18:53 GMT
#4
You can't unless you contribute, that's basic bylaw of not being a youtube video.
https://twitter.com/#!/TorteDeLini (@TorteDeLini)
marttorn
Profile Blog Joined May 2011
Norway5211 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-10-31 18:56:36
October 31 2011 18:54 GMT
#5
Holy... You're like a pro blogger too?! Two blogs in one day, AND the 1st reply is you plugging your twitter?! SICK

edit: Two blogs by norwegian days, that is. Which I officially deem to be the official measure of a day.
memes are a dish best served dank
Torte de Lini
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Germany38463 Posts
October 31 2011 18:54 GMT
#6
Two blogs in two days.
https://twitter.com/#!/TorteDeLini (@TorteDeLini)
Probe1
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States17920 Posts
October 31 2011 18:59 GMT
#7
I feel like I'm meeting you half way. I actually read your blog this time but my post was terrible. One day we may have nice things.

BUT NOT TODAY
+ Show Spoiler +


On October 31 2011 12:52 Probe1 wrote:



[image loading]

      
      
      


WOOLOLOOO!
sorry i have a problem i can't stop posting that. on bf3 day of release i would constantly type AMERICA every time i capped a point and it's turned my brain to mush ._.
우정호 KT_VIOLET 1988 - 2012 While we are postponing, life speeds by
Torte de Lini
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Germany38463 Posts
October 31 2011 19:01 GMT
#8

I thought I could screw up your advertising post but I was 4 minutes too slow. I haven't slept since yesterday ish.


So no BF3? Let me know when so I can time my work and play :3
https://twitter.com/#!/TorteDeLini (@TorteDeLini)
Lexpar
Profile Blog Joined March 2009
1813 Posts
October 31 2011 19:06 GMT
#9
Whats the point for having a second post below the first just for self advertising and a cat picture?
Torte de Lini
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Germany38463 Posts
October 31 2011 19:08 GMT
#10
On November 01 2011 04:06 Lexpar wrote:
Whats the point for having a second post below the first just for self advertising and a cat picture?


Try and focus more on the subject than things you can't control or change.
https://twitter.com/#!/TorteDeLini (@TorteDeLini)
Divinek
Profile Blog Joined November 2006
Canada4045 Posts
October 31 2011 19:10 GMT
#11
On November 01 2011 04:06 Lexpar wrote:
Whats the point for having a second post below the first just for self advertising and a cat picture?


gotta inflate post count somehow bro
Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by stupidity.
Oh goodness me, FOX tv where do you get your sight? Can't you keep track, the puck is black. That's why the ice is white.
Probe1
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States17920 Posts
October 31 2011 19:10 GMT
#12
I'll be up at like 3:30am tomorrow your time :\ I'll catch you guys the day after. I caught a cold on the first.. cold day of the fall last friday so I pretty much played bf3, watched crappy movies and slept all weekend. oh well, i get to wake up and have breakfast before GSL for once. woo :D

bonus- i've passed the point of coherency but i've been laddering all day. due to circumstances that are entirely my fault (tanking my mmr by quitting every single zvz out of spite and exhaustion during ladder lock), i requalified as platinum. i am working on a platinum and below zvz build that involves massing spine crawlers and lings to break a natural. it's like when nestea did it except with 15-30 spine crawlers and a lot more giggling
우정호 KT_VIOLET 1988 - 2012 While we are postponing, life speeds by
Torte de Lini
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Germany38463 Posts
October 31 2011 19:11 GMT
#13
On November 01 2011 04:10 Divinek wrote:
Show nested quote +
On November 01 2011 04:06 Lexpar wrote:
Whats the point for having a second post below the first just for self advertising and a cat picture?


gotta inflate post count somehow bro


Try and focus more on the subject than an arbitrary number people care more about than the very person himself cares.
https://twitter.com/#!/TorteDeLini (@TorteDeLini)
Probe1
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States17920 Posts
October 31 2011 19:14 GMT
#14
The relevance of post counts died somewhere around last year, if not earlier. However, I would like to take this opportunity to embrace my guardian icon. Thank you for pointing that out marttorn.
우정호 KT_VIOLET 1988 - 2012 While we are postponing, life speeds by
Torte de Lini
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Germany38463 Posts
October 31 2011 19:15 GMT
#15
I think people who value the number or pay attention to it more than the content have equally nothing to say than the very person they deem saying nothing but only posting to raise their number.
https://twitter.com/#!/TorteDeLini (@TorteDeLini)
marttorn
Profile Blog Joined May 2011
Norway5211 Posts
October 31 2011 19:19 GMT
#16
On November 01 2011 04:14 Probe1 wrote:
The relevance of post counts died somewhere around last year, if not earlier. However, I would like to take this opportunity to embrace my guardian icon. Thank you for pointing that out marttorn.


It died along with rock, hip-hop and everything else I don't like nowadays! Humbug!
memes are a dish best served dank
ComaDose
Profile Blog Joined December 2009
Canada10357 Posts
October 31 2011 19:20 GMT
#17
Can you never love someone completely because you can only know parts of them?
BW pros training sc2 is like kiss making a dub step album.
Torte de Lini
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Germany38463 Posts
October 31 2011 19:21 GMT
#18
On November 01 2011 04:20 ComaDose wrote:
Can you never love someone completely because you can only know parts of them?


Yes. But you know enough of the parts you encountered to accept them as a whole and thus can be with them regardless of what imperfections arise (they only emphasize the perfections you enjoy and live for).
https://twitter.com/#!/TorteDeLini (@TorteDeLini)
Probe1
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States17920 Posts
October 31 2011 19:23 GMT
#19
My favorite posters have been the pm from a lurker with one post and an account from early 2010 thanking me for a LR thread or something. That makes me smile inside.

There's a lot of nice people on TL.

That doesn't even make sense i'm so tired i'm going to go now.
우정호 KT_VIOLET 1988 - 2012 While we are postponing, life speeds by
Lexpar
Profile Blog Joined March 2009
1813 Posts
October 31 2011 19:24 GMT
#20
Is there some sort of option were I can like, subscribe to Torte de Lini, then I can read your posts ad-free?
1 2 3 Next All
Please log in or register to reply.
Live Events Refresh
[BSL 2025] Weekly
18:00
#14
ZZZero.O61
LiquipediaDiscussion
[ Submit Event ]
Live Streams
Refresh
StarCraft 2
RotterdaM 873
PiGStarcraft465
IndyStarCraft 280
SteadfastSC 189
Codebar 27
JuggernautJason22
Vindicta 8
StarCraft: Brood War
Britney 19696
Sea 1179
sSak 255
firebathero 219
Dewaltoss 106
ZZZero.O 61
sas.Sziky 48
Rock 31
Dota 2
The International109743
Gorgc12683
Counter-Strike
pashabiceps1152
Foxcn725
Stewie2K263
Super Smash Bros
hungrybox44
Heroes of the Storm
Liquid`Hasu178
Other Games
Grubby2182
FrodaN2039
Beastyqt564
B2W.Neo434
Hui .183
mouzStarbuck148
ArmadaUGS82
SortOf75
rGuardiaN46
MindelVK17
Mew2King14
SC2_NightMare1
Organizations
Other Games
gamesdonequick1895
StarCraft 2
ComeBackTV 1511
Other Games
EGCTV673
StarCraft 2
WardiTV228
CranKy Ducklings121
Other Games
BasetradeTV14
StarCraft 2
angryscii 1
Blizzard YouTube
StarCraft: Brood War
BSLTrovo
sctven
[ Show 21 non-featured ]
StarCraft 2
• EnkiAlexander 56
• printf 40
• musti20045 17
• OhrlRock 3
• LaughNgamezSOOP
• AfreecaTV YouTube
• intothetv
• Kozan
• IndyKCrew
• sooper7s
• Migwel
StarCraft: Brood War
• Airneanach15
• Michael_bg 10
• FirePhoenix3
• STPLYoutube
• ZZZeroYoutube
• BSLYoutube
Dota 2
• Ler82
Counter-Strike
• Shiphtur267
Other Games
• imaqtpie842
• tFFMrPink 10
Upcoming Events
RSL Revival
14h 34m
Maestros of the Game
21h 34m
BSL Team Wars
23h 34m
Afreeca Starleague
1d 14h
Snow vs Sharp
Jaedong vs Mini
Wardi Open
1d 15h
Sparkling Tuna Cup
2 days
Afreeca Starleague
2 days
Light vs Speed
Larva vs Soma
LiuLi Cup
3 days
The PondCast
4 days
Korean StarCraft League
6 days
[ Show More ]
[BSL 2025] Weekly
6 days
BSL Team Wars
6 days
Liquipedia Results

Completed

Proleague 2025-09-10
SEL Season 2 Championship
HCC Europe

Ongoing

BSL 20 Team Wars
KCM Race Survival 2025 Season 3
BSL 21 Points
ASL Season 20
CSL 2025 AUTUMN (S18)
LASL Season 20
RSL Revival: Season 2
Maestros of the Game
Chzzk MurlocKing SC1 vs SC2 Cup #2
FISSURE Playground #2
BLAST Open Fall 2025
BLAST Open Fall Qual
Esports World Cup 2025
BLAST Bounty Fall 2025
BLAST Bounty Fall Qual
IEM Cologne 2025
FISSURE Playground #1

Upcoming

2025 Chongqing Offline CUP
BSL Polish World Championship 2025
BSL Season 21
SC4ALL: Brood War
BSL 21 Team A
SC4ALL: StarCraft II
EC S1
SL Budapest Major 2025
BLAST Rivals Fall 2025
IEM Chengdu 2025
PGL Masters Bucharest 2025
MESA Nomadic Masters Fall
Thunderpick World Champ.
CS Asia Championships 2025
ESL Pro League S22
StarSeries Fall 2025
TLPD

1. ByuN
2. TY
3. Dark
4. Solar
5. Stats
6. Nerchio
7. sOs
8. soO
9. INnoVation
10. Elazer
1. Rain
2. Flash
3. EffOrt
4. Last
5. Bisu
6. Soulkey
7. Mini
8. Sharp
Sidebar Settings...

Advertising | Privacy Policy | Terms Of Use | Contact Us

Original banner artwork: Jim Warren
The contents of this webpage are copyright © 2025 TLnet. All Rights Reserved.