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bkrow
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So i discovered twitter; still trying to figure out how the hell it works :p | ||
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Ack1027
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eviltomahawk
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5/5 for that. | ||
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Torte de Lini
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On November 01 2011 10:09 Ack1027 wrote: Are you an only child torte? 1 brother, 2 sisters and 2 step brothers | ||
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Probulous
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I also don't hate people but for slightly different reasons. As the cliche` goes "life is short" and I really don't have the time nor energy to cultivate any animosity or ill feelings for an extended period of time. Grudges only hurt those around you and bring you nothing except bitterness. If someone lets you down, well don't emotionally invest in them. There is a difference between actively ignoring someone and simply not valuing them. Example: One of my best friends from school recently got married, as did another close friend. Their respective wives had a tiff a couple of years ago and now refuse to be in the same building. They actively maintain the rage. Whether they hate each other is debatable but they certainly don't want to sort things out. All this does it ruin any gathering we try and organise because we have to choose between friends. I personally don't get along with one of them but I value my friendship with her husband more than any ill feeling I have towards her. I personally believe that in the strive for individual freedom that exemplifies the 21st century people have lost the ability to be truly tolerant. They equate tolerating someone with simply letting them do whatever they want. To me tolerance is the ability to see past people's faults and see how their behaviour actually affects your life. Simply ignoring there shortfalls does nothing unless you are gaining something in return. Tolerance is not only actively seeking to understand but also seeking to justify your relationship. I know this is a wall of text and may not make much sense. I just feel like your definition is far more negative than it needs to be. Hate, ill-feeling, animosity, such feelings require action to be sustained. I prefer to focus on the positives in people if only to make the effort in maintaining necessary relationships easier. I feel like we are saying the same thing but with slightly different emphasis. I can't quite put my finger on it but your approach seems to be very negative. By defining people as inherently flawed you are looking for excuses for those flaws. By doing so you choose a defeatist position. To me the flaws are generally irrelevant unless they affect you more negatively than what you gain from the relationship. Flaws are what make us human (you hint at this), to me they are the spice of life. The challenge and reward in embracing life. This is not a bad thing, it is sign that you can yet grow. Disagreements are an opportunity to test your humanity, what do their actions say about you. What does your response say about you? To me these are far more important than the actions of others. Relationships are deliciously contradictory. They are the source of most pain but also most joy; frustration and awe; ungratefullness and respect. I revel in the difficulty of relating. Again I reply to your blogs with a wall of text  As mentioned we seem to be saying the same thing. I just can't help but feel that your point is unnecessarily pessimistic. Thanks for the blog! | ||
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