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caruso
Profile Blog Joined October 2010
Germany733 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-09-20 14:35:53
September 20 2011 13:26 GMT
#1
Hey guys,

after my orphan-troll, something a little more serious, but a lot more tedious.
This is asking dating advice on the internet, and I'm aware about serious repercussions this can have.

I'm about to hit my 24th year on this planet and I have never been on a date.
Not that I haven't had girls, but that's kind of the problem.
I met my first serious GF when I was 16, but we met in school and we never really dated.
We just met up to fuck, moved in together after a couple of months and lived together for 5 years.

So at the age when other guys learn how to approach women, I simply did not.

After we split up, I never really was fond of getting to know new people.
I had some one-night-stands and a couple of longer sexual relationships, but nothing serious anymore and again I've never dated. I've never even approached a girl or initiated a talk.
Once I walked in a brothel, but I was doubtful as to the hygiene of the prostitutes, so I left without purchasing anything.

So yeah, here I am, 24 years old, solo, no idea how to approach women, below average looking (I'd say 3,5 / 10. Not immediately repelling, but you wouldn't look longer than needed) and not interested in clubbing and such. Pretty much socially retarded.

I considered online-dating, but it feels rather pathetic and you have to upload a picture, and looks aren't my forte, as mentioned.

My hobbies don't exactly make me a pussy-magnet either. I like books, I play a couple of instruments and I play Starcraft. Also I move to another town every year or so, so friends are hard to come by.

So yeah, what to do to get my dating going?



€: Most advice here revolves around being confident, a trait I simply lack.

There are no two ways around it. I find most girls much to pretty to even talk to them, which really sucks. Once someone gets the ball rolling, I'm fine, but it's impossible to initiate anything.
If you suggest to look out for uglier girls then, give it up. Pretty much every girl I see has something beautiful about her so that doesn't help in the slightest.

**
Deleted User 101379
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
4849 Posts
September 20 2011 13:30 GMT
#2
Well, you could do the same i did when i was 21 (though in the more modern facebook-variant):

Go on facebook.
Search for:
- Female
- 20+
- Living in your city
- Single

Then message every girl with "hey, how are you?" until one responds. Ask for a date. If no => next.

Yes, i was a desperate virgin at that age :p
caruso
Profile Blog Joined October 2010
Germany733 Posts
September 20 2011 13:32 GMT
#3
On September 20 2011 22:30 Morfildur wrote:
Well, you could do the same i did when i was 21 (though in the more modern facebook-variant):

Go on facebook.
Search for:
- Female
- 20+
- Living in your city
- Single

Then message every girl with "hey, how are you?" until one responds. Ask for a date. If no => next.

Yes, i was a desperate virgin at that age :p



Haha, desperate situations call for desperate measures, I guess.
How did that work out for you?
OpticalShot
Profile Blog Joined October 2009
Canada6330 Posts
September 20 2011 13:33 GMT
#4
Wait who says instruments aren't pussy magnets? My go-to weapon of choice for picking up chicks during high school was the music room piano.

So with that, my advice for you is to use your musical talent... in any way possible. I'm sure you can find a way, GLHF!
[TLMS] REBOOT
Cubu
Profile Blog Joined February 2011
1171 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-09-20 13:35:48
September 20 2011 13:34 GMT
#5
dude trying to get dating advice from TL is as bad as trying to get legal advice here.
caruso
Profile Blog Joined October 2010
Germany733 Posts
September 20 2011 13:35 GMT
#6
On September 20 2011 22:34 Cubu wrote:
dude trying to get dating advice from TL is as bad as trying to get legal advice here.


I suppose so, but it's really entertaining.
QuanticHawk
Profile Blog Joined May 2007
United States32075 Posts
September 20 2011 13:37 GMT
#7
forget finding you a date, i'd like to hear more about how you had a live in gf for five years and didn't spend a mother fuckin' dime on taking her to dinner once. You turned the game on it's ear and fucked the shit out of it for free. The fuck?
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Deleted User 101379
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
4849 Posts
September 20 2011 13:42 GMT
#8
On September 20 2011 22:32 caruso wrote:
Show nested quote +
On September 20 2011 22:30 Morfildur wrote:
Well, you could do the same i did when i was 21 (though in the more modern facebook-variant):

Go on facebook.
Search for:
- Female
- 20+
- Living in your city
- Single

Then message every girl with "hey, how are you?" until one responds. Ask for a date. If no => next.

Yes, i was a desperate virgin at that age :p



Haha, desperate situations call for desperate measures, I guess.
How did that work out for you?


Well, it ended up in a 6 year relationship because my now ex-gf thought "hey, he wants a date and is fine with my best friend being there, too. Free food and drinks for us" -.-

However, i wouldn't do that again eventhough i'm now single again since more than 2 years in which i had 1 date after which she didn't speak to me again -.-

I'm in a similar situation with moving a lot and therefor not having any friends and no social life, doubt it will ever change so i'm preparing myself for a "forever alone" life :-/
caruso
Profile Blog Joined October 2010
Germany733 Posts
September 20 2011 13:43 GMT
#9
On September 20 2011 22:37 Hawk wrote:
forget finding you a date, i'd like to hear more about how you had a live in gf for five years and didn't spend a mother fuckin' dime on taking her to dinner once. You turned the game on it's ear and fucked the shit out of it for free. The fuck?


Well, we lived together, so it wasn't exactly for free.
Worth it though, she was way way way hotter than me, to this day I don't know why someone like that would even talk to me. Come to think of it, she made more money than me and thus paid for most of our stuff.

But I don't want to reminisce (yay to me if that's spelled properly).
Horrde
Profile Joined March 2010
Canada302 Posts
September 20 2011 13:44 GMT
#10
On September 20 2011 22:37 Hawk wrote:
forget finding you a date, i'd like to hear more about how you had a live in gf for five years and didn't spend a mother fuckin' dime on taking her to dinner once. You turned the game on it's ear and fucked the shit out of it for free. The fuck?


I agree.

You are a master. It's been a week and I'm getting the shit bitched out at me because 'we don't go anywhere.'
marttorn
Profile Blog Joined May 2011
Norway5211 Posts
September 20 2011 13:45 GMT
#11
I honestly can't be bothered to spend like 20 min on a really clever, elaborate troll post here so.

Yeah, good luck with that man
memes are a dish best served dank
ChampionZerg
Profile Joined September 2011
United States19 Posts
September 20 2011 13:46 GMT
#12
Don't ever think for a second that you dont deserve the person you are with....
And with guys...looks dont mean anything...Be a man and walk up and talk to every girl youre attracted to...regardless of the outcome youll learn something
"Fuck you, pay me"
caruso
Profile Blog Joined October 2010
Germany733 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-09-20 13:47:46
September 20 2011 13:46 GMT
#13
On September 20 2011 22:44 Horrde wrote:
Show nested quote +
On September 20 2011 22:37 Hawk wrote:
forget finding you a date, i'd like to hear more about how you had a live in gf for five years and didn't spend a mother fuckin' dime on taking her to dinner once. You turned the game on it's ear and fucked the shit out of it for free. The fuck?


I agree.

You are a master. It's been a week and I'm getting the shit bitched out at me because 'we don't go anywhere.'


Yeah I'm awesome. I didn't fuck for 3 months now, but yeah, I should wear a shirt saying "pussy destroyer".

Come on guys, advice!
Deleted User 101379
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
4849 Posts
September 20 2011 13:51 GMT
#14
On September 20 2011 22:46 caruso wrote:
Show nested quote +
On September 20 2011 22:44 Horrde wrote:
On September 20 2011 22:37 Hawk wrote:
forget finding you a date, i'd like to hear more about how you had a live in gf for five years and didn't spend a mother fuckin' dime on taking her to dinner once. You turned the game on it's ear and fucked the shit out of it for free. The fuck?


I agree.

You are a master. It's been a week and I'm getting the shit bitched out at me because 'we don't go anywhere.'


Yeah I'm awesome. I didn't fuck for 3 months now, but yeah, I should wear a shirt saying "pussy destroyer".

Come on guys, advice!


Hmm... for advice...
Well, if you are a programmer, you could take over my job.
Access to currently 143 Terrabyte HD porn (... and i hate 99.999% of all porn stuff -.-)

Sorry, thats the best i can do :p
caruso
Profile Blog Joined October 2010
Germany733 Posts
September 20 2011 13:52 GMT
#15
On September 20 2011 22:51 Morfildur wrote:
Show nested quote +
On September 20 2011 22:46 caruso wrote:
On September 20 2011 22:44 Horrde wrote:
On September 20 2011 22:37 Hawk wrote:
forget finding you a date, i'd like to hear more about how you had a live in gf for five years and didn't spend a mother fuckin' dime on taking her to dinner once. You turned the game on it's ear and fucked the shit out of it for free. The fuck?


I agree.

You are a master. It's been a week and I'm getting the shit bitched out at me because 'we don't go anywhere.'


Yeah I'm awesome. I didn't fuck for 3 months now, but yeah, I should wear a shirt saying "pussy destroyer".

Come on guys, advice!


Hmm... for advice...
Well, if you are a programmer, you could take over my job.
Access to currently 143 Terrabyte HD porn (... and i hate 99.999% of all porn stuff -.-)

Sorry, thats the best i can do :p


Haha, thanks but no thanks.

Porn grosses me out.
RubiksCube
Profile Blog Joined March 2009
Germany259 Posts
September 20 2011 13:54 GMT
#16
First of all, you will be insecure about how to approach women. This doesnt mix very well with women sensing fear in you. So you have to do something about that. Drastic.

Go out for a month or so and say "Hi" to every female you meet on the street. You can take it even further if you don't "dress up", just go as your own unshaven self with your gaming apparel or something.

This will help, because if you're dressed up in a club you'll feel much better and are already used to talking to females who don't know you. Once you got over that step you only need interesting topics you can basically bring up with any random stranger. Like "I'm sorry, can I ask you a question, my friend and I have this debate and I'd like to get a female opinion on this". Than ask her something extremely general, like "If it's okay to still be friends with an ex although you're already in a new relationship" or "Who lies more, men or women" or something like that. Try to just have a friendly conversation with her, be the one who keeps the discussion going, make it interesting. Once you get a couple of positive signals in body language, like her laughing, smiling or touching her hair, say something like "Hey that was really nice, you brought a lot of insight to this from another perspective". Be ready to go on, than when she answers, turn around again and say "Yea, was nice meeting you. You seem pretty cool, we should go drink something sometime" and ask for her number.
DreamChaser
Profile Blog Joined February 2011
1649 Posts
September 20 2011 14:03 GMT
#17

My hobbies don't exactly make me a pussy-magnet either. I like books, I play a couple of instruments and I play Starcraft. Also I move to another town every year or so, so friends are hard to come by.

Right there your golden you can basically hit on any girl and tell yourself well im not going to see them even if i fuck this up. Sometimes thats all you need is that confidence booster dont worry about how you look im a 6/7 and i've seen my friends whos a 4/5 get WAY more girls than me how? He just doesn't give a shit he's confident in what he does he knows he aint good lookin but he gets way hot girls. Confidence, and don't talk to girls hoping to date them women just know and will run away.
Plays against every MU with nexus first.
Ghin
Profile Blog Joined January 2005
United States2391 Posts
September 20 2011 14:05 GMT
#18
You can take me on a date if you're desperate. You're paying though.
Legalize drugs and murder.
caruso
Profile Blog Joined October 2010
Germany733 Posts
September 20 2011 14:08 GMT
#19
On September 20 2011 23:05 Ghin wrote:
You can take me on a date if you're desperate. You're paying though.


Sorry, not into dudes so much. If I turn gay after my mid-life crisis, I'll send you a PM, though.
EdSlyB
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Portugal1621 Posts
September 20 2011 14:10 GMT
#20
On September 20 2011 22:33 OpticalShot wrote:
Wait who says instruments aren't pussy magnets? My go-to weapon of choice for picking up chicks during high school was the music room piano.

So with that, my advice for you is to use your musical talent... in any way possible. I'm sure you can find a way, GLHF!


Hell yeah!!

I did the same. My ace was always the piano in the rehearsal room where my wind band played. Played some rock /soft ballads the ladies would be very relaxed and impressed:

Ladies - "Those fingers are very flexible..."
Me - "You know that I play the sax too? You have to see my tongue work, baby...!"

Music is the key to life. Play /listen music and you'll live better and happier.
aka Wardo
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