EPTAsk a bunch of girls what they think (instead of a predominantly male video game forum). This is why you have female friends. Ask your mom if you have to. If they all tell you similar things, you can confidently act accordingly.
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igotmyown
United States4291 Posts
Ask a bunch of girls what they think (instead of a predominantly male video game forum). This is why you have female friends. Ask your mom if you have to. If they all tell you similar things, you can confidently act accordingly. | ||
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DeepCorrupted
United States84 Posts
You only have to because you tell yourself that you have to, I used to be extremely shy and wouldn't tell girls what's up, the only way to break that habit is to go all in. If you keep telling yourself you have to do things the way you do your life will never get better. The girl seems to at least have some interest and even if she doesn't, simply putting it out there that you're interested will serve you no harm. The worst possible situation is that you two stop talking for a while because you feel awkward or she does, and that's really not as bad as having feelings of regret for years. I most likely will go for it. Not to worry about me chickening out. I'm doing this because i HAVE to calm myself down haha. I'm all nervous about it but talking about it calms me down no worried :D | ||
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DeepCorrupted
United States84 Posts
On June 21 2011 03:25 igotmyown wrote: Even if you know nothing about girls, there's an easy, non-anxiety provoking way to find out. Ask a bunch of girls what they think (instead of a predominantly male video game forum). This is why you have female friends. Ask your mom if you have to. If they all tell you similar things, you can confidently act accordingly. oi... I just wanted to talk about it hahaha. Besides. i have talked to a bunch of girls already. as i will say AGAIN. i'm nervous about it. talking about it calms me down | ||
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d(O.o)a
Canada5066 Posts
On June 21 2011 03:27 DeepCorrupted wrote: I most likely will go for it. Not to worry about me chickening out. I'm doing this because i HAVE to calm myself down haha. I'm all nervous about it but talking about it calms me down no worried :D Yeah but you have nothing to be worried about, either she has feelings for you or not that's life. You might as well make plans to see her tonight assuming you're both available because the sooner you get it out of your way the sooner you can stop worrying. | ||
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tenacity
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DeepCorrupted
United States84 Posts
On June 21 2011 03:29 d(O.o)a wrote: Yeah but you have nothing to be worried about, either she has feelings for you or not that's life. You might as well make plans to see her tonight assuming you're both available because the sooner you get it out of your way the sooner you can stop worrying. i'm in korea right now and i get to see her for an entire week for bible camp... lol | ||
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DeepCorrupted
United States84 Posts
On June 21 2011 03:30 tenacity wrote: Have you ever had a girlfriend before? better answer would be i've had 2 and A LOT of things with girls | ||
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jellyfish
United States149 Posts
On June 21 2011 03:19 d(O.o)a wrote: I disagree with this, they've obviously known each other for a long time and delaying it longer will not only strain him, but also can have the unintentional repercussion of the girl losing interest. I guess it's hard to judge for sure because we don't have the whole story...I was just going off my own...involved...experience with Korean American church girls, which is that sometimes, some of them flirt just to flirt. They don't necessarily have a clear intention. Some of the behaviors op reports (e.g. demanding jewelry, gifts from korea) are stuff that some of my friendgirls did/do even when they were too scared to follow through. Also, I don't see why a girl would lose interest so long as his behavior/responses don't plateau...I assumed from the op that he's been too confused/timid to reciprocate, and that therefore he should start there. If anything, that should flatter her at the very least and draw out her real intentions. If she's actually interested, it'll prevent her from freaking out like Korean American church girls are wont to do. :edit: woop, seems your mind is made up. good luck, sir! | ||
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DeepCorrupted
United States84 Posts
On June 21 2011 03:33 jellyfish wrote: I guess it's hard to judge for sure because we don't have the whole story...I was just going off my own...involved...experience with Korean American church girls, which is that sometimes, some of them flirt just to flirt. They don't necessarily have a clear intention. Some of the behaviors op reports (e.g. demanding jewelry, gifts from korea) are stuff that some of my friendgirls did/do even when they were too scared to follow through. Also, I don't see why a girl would lose interest so long as his behavior/responses don't plateau...I assumed from the op that he's been too confused/timid to reciprocate, and that therefore he should start there. If anything, that should flatter her at the very least and draw out her real intentions. If she's actually interested, it'll prevent her from freaking out like Korean American church girls are wont to do. :edit: woop, seems your mind is made up. good luck, sir! hahaha wells kinda made up.. im either gonna straight up ask/confess (gotta decide) or take it slow and flirt back... haha but either way i'm going for it... just dont know which way XDXDXD | ||
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tenacity
1587 Posts
On June 21 2011 03:31 DeepCorrupted wrote: better answer would be i've had 2 and A LOT of things with girls lol, then there is nothing you have to worry about. you're a baller. | ||
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DeepCorrupted
United States84 Posts
On June 21 2011 03:36 tenacity wrote: lol, then there is nothing you have to worry about. you're a baller. hehehe i'm not much of a baller  thanks for your advice ^^ | ||
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Golgotha
Korea (South)8418 Posts
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DeepCorrupted
United States84 Posts
On June 21 2011 03:39 Golgotha wrote: lol im sure someone already said this but look at the post made by ilovekittens. also...Are You Korean? LOLZ yes. i am korean. dont LOLZ at me. -____- | ||
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tdynasty
Canada220 Posts
Classic case of overanalyzing you're feelings and you're interactions with her. I used to have alot of scenarios like this. Since i'm pretty good looking and where I live girls are somewhat expecting you to initiate relationship. The way that I am is not amazing for dating. I'm picky and really only like a girl once every other year. Almost all my relationships began from friendly interactions like you were saying, sometimes drawn out over a long period of time. The best way to get a Girlfriend is to have a long "hang-out" session with her. Do something that compliments talking, you want to trigger long-term conversations. At this point, focus on the conversation not you're feelings. Girls like confidence, forget about you're feelings. Wait for a good moment and make a "ONE MOVE" Something like, sitting directly next to her. You have initiate physical contact, my advise is one small move, if that goes well. Then Proceed in for a Kiss. My advice, don't ask her anything. Show you're feelings and see how she responds. Talking about feelings is seen as weakness in almost all humans. Showing you're feelings is strength. And in relationships humour is always a win, talking about feelings is never funny. Avoid all feelings conversations until you are married. Otherwise you are doing it wrong! | ||
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RedJustice
United States1004 Posts
All of these men in the thread advising you to just kiss her are pretty dumb. Unless it is a situation clearly inviting physical contact and kissing, don't just randomly kiss a girl. Even if it was a friend of mine, I would be incredibly disgusted and put off by that kind of behavior. That kind of invasive behavior is so very rude and physically intimidating. For many women, it raises the red flag: he's initiating intimate/sexual actions that I never agreed to and am not comfortable with, gtfo. If you at all not sure if she wants to be kissed, ask her. She will probably think it is cute of you. | ||
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DeepCorrupted
United States84 Posts
On June 21 2011 04:04 RedJustice wrote: Oh and one more thing... All of these men in the thread advising you to just kiss her are pretty dumb. Unless it is a situation clearly inviting physical contact and kissing, don't just randomly kiss a girl. Even if it was a friend of mine, I would be incredibly disgusted and put off by that kind of behavior. That kind of invasive behavior is so very rude and physically intimidating. For many women, it raises the red flag: he's initiating intimate/sexual actions that I never agreed to and am not comfortable with, gtfo. If you at all not sure if she wants to be kissed, ask her. She will probably think it is cute of you. hahaha i wasn't planning to. thanks for the heads up  | ||
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SaYyId
Portugal277 Posts
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DeepCorrupted
United States84 Posts
On June 21 2011 04:18 SaYyId wrote: Who gives a fuck about girls? As a matter of fact, who gives a fuck about having a relationship with anyone? And still, people ask me about my mysanthropic tendencies... well obviously. i do ^^ | ||
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SaYyId
Portugal277 Posts
Don't mind me. I am different. | ||
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DeepCorrupted
United States84 Posts
haha its okay | ||
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