The "Steven Syndrome" - guys becoming wimps... - Page 2

On June 15 2011 12:01 Fauxseude wrote:
Well time to reread half of it because when you said "Candy" I thought you were talking about actual sugary chocolate treats.

On June 15 2011 14:05 Impulsa wrote:
I almost got pulled into this syndrome like two years ago. I ended up not talking to the girl who gave me "candy". BROS BEFO HOEZ 4 LYFE.

On June 15 2011 11:57 Thereisnosaurus wrote:
Funnily enough, one of the side effects of being a super nice guy is that though I don't get much 'candy' () that little I do get is generally relaxed without much expectation.The girls I know are all awesome, chill and smart. I think this syndrome you're talking about is symptomatic not of genuinely nice guys, but of guys who are kind of desperate, and notnice enough to be able to keep themselves independent.

since I've always been able to make my decisions objectively and shrug off peer pressure or the feminine version of that, I've never had a problem. Girls who want to use me don't get anywhere, or at least they only get what I'm happy to give them, and that means I can maintain relationships along with the rest of my life fairly comfortably.

So I don't think every guy is bound to fall into a servile heap the first time a girl rubs up against him. in a sense it is those most inclined to try and manipulate the situation who are most vulnerable to being manipulated themselves.

On June 15 2011 11:22 jcroisdale wrote:
Happens' to' everyone' at' least' once.

On June 15 2011 17:34 dakalro wrote:
Everyone changes and becomes a slave to actual love. The only thing you can do is try and find a girl that you actually want to change for and that will not want changes you wouldn't make if not in love.

On June 15 2011 18:17 heishe wrote:


That's really really bad advice. If you give up things you love for a woman, you'll never be happy in your life. The first few months will be OK, but after that, when the regularity of everyday life settles into your relationship, you will get really unhappy about the things you gave up and what you turned them in for.

A women shouldn't be together with you in spite of what you do and love, but because of it. If your partner ever wants to change anything significant about things that you do or about your personality(unless it's obviously a bad thing that you had hidden from them a long time, i.e. addiction to heavy drugs or some shit like that), there's already something inherently wrong in the relationship and you should consider breaking it off right then and there.

Of course this doesn't include simple things like sitting down while peeing. If your girlfriend wishes so hard to go out with you to some fancy place, there's nothing wrong in making her wish come true and going to that fancy place.

On June 15 2011 11:57 Thereisnosaurus wrote:


Funnily enough, one of the side effects of being a super nice guy is that though I don't get much 'candy' () that little I do get is generally relaxed without much expectation.The girls I know are all awesome, chill and smart. I think this syndrome you're talking about is symptomatic not of genuinely nice guys, but of guys who are kind of desperate, and notnice enough to be able to keep themselves independent.

since I've always been able to make my decisions objectively and shrug off peer pressure or the feminine version of that, I've never had a problem. Girls who want to use me don't get anywhere, or at least they only get what I'm happy to give them, and that means I can maintain relationships along with the rest of my life fairly comfortably.

So I don't think every guy is bound to fall into a servile heap the first time a girl rubs up against him. in a sense it is those most inclined to try and manipulate the situation who are most vulnerable to being manipulated themselves.

On June 15 2011 21:25 dakalro wrote:


You do realize you will change when you love someone, without you even noticing it, without her even asking and you will be oh so happy for a few years. The whole point is to get to know the woman before you commit your heart and figure out what her likes/dislikes are - compatibility.

I never said change everything or even change anything important, I just said change. If you love her you will be trained without even noticing it and will be a happy puppy for quite some time.

You consider things like sitting down while peeing simple? )) I know a guy that would rather pee on his knees than sit, he's just extremely uncomfortable with it, tell him changing is simple.

I don't know about feeling miserable. I've seen what I would consider really strong men turn to lambs when in love and being so very very happy, just seems that it's a very powerful drug and I avoid it like the plague, especially after my own experiences. I've also seen that this infatuation only lasts a couple of years or so and that's when you start to wake up and figure out if you are ok with your new self or not.

On June 15 2011 21:29 LonelyIslands wrote:
I think the post above me has said it best. Do you really expect to hang around with your group of friends for the rest of your life looking at girls as evil bitches who come to steal you away from the nest. People fall in love, and everyone's love is different. If your friend is really happy, knows what is going on, I would be happy for him as well. Nothings stopping you from picking up the phone and still talking to him, or, in this robot designed and run matrix of ours we call 2011, text him.