EPTParent rage blog pt 6 - Page 2
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PaPaLung
Canada51 Posts
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Zim23
United States1681 Posts
On December 29 2010 12:35 Froadac wrote: Yeah. Issue is if I say, fine, I should probably do some work, they say I'm obviously bullshitting :/ Yeah them saying you're bullshitting is another example of an insult that should be ignored. It's not as easy as it sounds, but it's so doable. Eventually you figure out what to say to defuse them, and at the same time you figure out what sets them off. Again, not going to happen overnight, but you gotta start somewhere. Gonna stop polluting the thread. We can PM for any further discussion. The above post is OK if you want to lose your relationship with your parents. I didn't want to do that so I learned how to live with it. | ||
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LuckyMacro
United States1482 Posts
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PaPaLung
Canada51 Posts
The above post is OK if you want to lose your relationship with your parents. I didn't want to do that so I learned how to live with it. My relationship with my parents is great now, I don't live anywhere near them, we see each other regularly and get along fine. If you stop putting up with thier bullshit, they will stop dishing it out. Learning to "live with it" is the easy way out. Demand some respect. | ||
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beetlelisk
Poland2276 Posts
On December 29 2010 12:40 Zim23 wrote: Yeah them saying you're bullshitting is another example of an insult that should be ignored. It's not as easy as it sounds, but it's so doable. Eventually you figure out what to say to defuse them, and at the same time you figure out what sets them off. Again, not going to happen overnight, but you gotta start somewhere. Gonna stop polluting the thread. We can PM for any further discussion. The above post is OK if you want to lose your relationship with your parents. I didn't want to do that so I learned how to live with it. It may mean your situation wasn't bad enough to break contacts. It probably means there were good things in your relations, other than listening to bullshit. And if there are good things in Froadac's situation they most probably aren't worth being called a worthless piece of shit. Can you please tell me what made you endure in your situation? If getting money for college is the only thing holding him there, it can be done by suing them and they will have to pay whether they like it or not. I didn't sue my father only because I did not want nor need his money. Will post about that once I'm done writing. | ||
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GGitsJack
New Zealand426 Posts
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Salv
Canada3083 Posts
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beetlelisk
Poland2276 Posts
On December 29 2010 14:23 Salv wrote: I don't know how you Asians put up with this shit, seriously. He's not Asian  | ||
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Froadac
United States6733 Posts
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beetlelisk
Poland2276 Posts
I will paste this for the time being, I need to to go to sleep: I should write about this before going on my comment in the part 5 because there are differences in your situation now and my back then, thus making them slightly different situations. There are things that need different approach because of that. Long story short, fuck, there is no need to clarify anything O_O You aren't held back by guilt and doubts (as much) as I was so you don't need to go through the maze they create - trying to understand what is wrong with them and trying to make things better by talking with them. You can go directly to limiting and hopefully, completely eliminating from your life the abusive bullshit they make you endure. Did you go to your friend's house? | ||
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Froadac
United States6733 Posts
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KissBlade
United States5718 Posts
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Krigwin
1130 Posts
Regardless, you need to get the fuck out of there. Trust me, I've seen and dealt with too many of these situations to know exactly how this could end. You need to pack your shit and leave. I know too many people exactly like your mother (my mom was that type also) to know how this plays out. You need to get out of there, and you need to do it before things degenerate to a point where they are no longer salvageable. Whether or not you want to break all ties is up to you, a lot of people seem to think family is sacred and worth keeping up with no matter what they did, but I don't subscribe by that nonsense. Not even your own parents. But no matter what kind of gameplan you want to go by, to repair things with your parents or else make it on your own or whatever, you're not going to be able to do anything until you get some breathing space, and that's not going to happen while you're still there. Also, be careful with the "ignore them" strategy. Some people get really good at that and the incessant bitching of their parents becomes just white noise, but I've seen too many domestic cases to know it doesn't always play like that for everyone, and you don't want to be one of the cases where something drastic happens. | ||
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NIIINO
Slovakia1320 Posts
Cause you are awesome, we all on TL are awesome and it better stay that way. Maybe this will change you and when you will be big boy and have kids you will love em and protect em from people like your mom. Or your mom just need someone to talk with. like friends or you. maybe all that bitching is "calling for a help" and its way how to keep with you. And yea sometimes i got this psycho ideas sorry :D | ||
Gatsbi
United States1134 Posts
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Froadac
United States6733 Posts
Then posted on facebook I'd shit on the floor. She accused me of delinquency, and when I countered by saying I could be smoking and drinking she said it doesn't matter what others do. | ||
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Z3kk
4099 Posts
Did matters start to deteriorate only recently (i.e. this year or so), or has it always been crazy to this degree, and you've recently started to stop taking so kindly to such flagrant parental verbal abuse? | ||
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beetlelisk
Poland2276 Posts
On December 30 2010 10:05 Froadac wrote: She is fucking psycho right now. Reiterated that I'm definitely a fucking useless piece of shit. Then posted on facebook I'd shit on the floor. She accused me of delinquency, and when I countered by saying I could be smoking and drinking she said it doesn't matter what others do. Dude... I wrote the last PM without refreshing your blog so I didn't read this. This is breaking law right there. You definitely need to find a psychologist and I'm thinking hard if police psychologist will be the best option. Wiki has a list of US Police departments http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_U.S._state_and_local_law_enforcement_agencies Find yours and look for the contact info. Even if wiki has only names and doesn't have contact information to them, google should give you the results. This is batshit insane! | ||
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Froadac
United States6733 Posts
It's deteriorated, but it wasn't ever really good | ||
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blade55555
United States17423 Posts
On December 29 2010 10:27 Zoler wrote: Wow this sounds horrible, like torture. I really appreciate my parents now, letting me do whatever I want as soon as I was around 15. lol me too thank god for awesome parents :D. | ||
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