Hello TL ! Im not a really big , active poster on TeamLiquid at all . I tried writing a article on my favorite player Bisu , but I have the essay writing skills of a 7th grader .
Anyways . This week has been depressing . Things havent been going well with my girlfriend . She's so amazing, you know that ? She takes so much interest in the fact that I love SC/TL . She knows who my favorite player is (Bisu) , my race that I play (Protoss) , the three DIFFERENT races . I even gave her a TL shirt as a present . LOL . We've watched a couple matches together . JD vs Flying and Bisu vs BaBy WCG .
I'll fight to keep her , but I've been really down . How do you cheer yourselves up my fellow TL community members ?
I usually do it through music... the right tunes loaded up on my mp3 player and a long walk/drive just sets me off on the right path. It can be a good way of getting your head on correctly too... about what really matters and whats really going on in your relationship. What's going wrong with the girl?
Some activities I find refreshing: going for a run, then showering and eating something substantial. Listening to nice music. Playing the piano. Anything with friends.
Music, spending time with my girlfriend, friends, SC2, going for a walk, going to the gym, masturbating etc.
Definitely fight to keep your girl, girlfriends who support your interests are definitely worth it, it says alot about her imo.
That being said, don't let the little stuff get you down. Think about perspective, will any of the things that are bothering you matter in 6 months? a year? 5 years? if the answer is no then its definitely not worth worrying about.
Also, this video always cheers me up. Carl Sagan is good at making all your problems seem small and insignificant Every time I watch it I feel happy to just be alive.
Yeah, music has the ability to completely alter and/or enhance my moods. If I feel like wallowing in it I'll just blast some post rock or something else... I have a 9.8 hour playlist simply titled "melancholy" for times like that. But if I just need to get out of it and get through my day I've got music for that, too. The Decemberists never fail to cheer me up.
Also, Chill's right as far as hanging out with friends. It's incredibly hard to be down when you're around the people you love just enjoying each others company.
when i'm down i talk to my dog or put on big headphones and go for a walk. in both instances i get myself something really delicious for dinner, like these:
Its AMAZING. Sometimes I'll even just look at stuff like the NSFW pictures thread for lawls.
When I was less of a slug I'd go running or biking as well.
And lastly, sometimes thinking about why you're sad helps. Sure "life sucks", but often its something like "Wow I didn't sleep well the last 4 nights, my Seratonin is probably low and I'm just being fucked over by biology right now." Usually identifying a dumbass reason makes it feel better.
Just do something you want to do. I listen to music and look over stuff i write / write more stuff. I once told myself I'd stop bitching about life and changed my attitude almost magically, try that and do shit.
For me, just some good old thinking time to sort out some thoughts, then a little writing... then some awesome music to get me going again (upbeat and lifting music only of course). (Music only comes after I'm done feeling the 'lowest' lol)
Dude, I don't know what to tell you to make you happy because I am unable to do it myself. I am recently divorced and she was the absolute best thing that ever happened to me. And it was all my fault. I live in a constant loop of nostalgic memories that are soon followed by regret and shame. She is now in love with some other guy and all I realize is that her love could still be mine. That shit destroys me.
If this girl is special, don't fucking lose her if you can help it. Good luck.
+1 to the whole needing some cheering up. Has been some really shitty couple of days. Today alone I've been stood up by a girl, lost a good friend, gotten a cold, and generally just fucking up things on in a major way. Currently listening to relatively sad music and surfing the net, but it doesn't seem to help as much as it usually does.
Its awesome that you have a girlfriend that shows a lot of interest in Starcraft. My best friends constantly tease me when I tell them Im staying up to watch MSL/OSL/Proleague.
But when Im feeling down I usually just lay down and think or go find some of my favorite food (pho) to eat. :D Cheer up, comrade!
time alone for reflecting is really important to me sometimes. exercise is good too; once i felt shitty and i just went for a 30k bike ride at 10 at night. spending time with friends helps, but it can't be that fake a smile crap, sometimes you have to share your shittiness with your friends and they can help you sort it out. girls are good for that! happy music is good too, Fuck You has recently been putting a smile on my face!
EDIT: Oh shnap, i forgot playing my own music as well! guitar is fine and dandy sometimes, but when you really wanna get the rage/downer feeling out, you have to rock the shit out of a drum set, maybe some hard rap (i love eminem), maybe some hard rock, whatever i'm feeling. replaces stress with sweat, and leaves you feeling good!
this one's fun too, haha. You don't wanna fuck with shady. why? cause shady will fucking kill you!
I have this a playlist of music made to get me back into a happy mood, unless I feel like thinking and reflecting in which case I listen to music which goes with how I feel.
Have a nice walk. Stroll around and enjoy the outdoors. I like to separate myself from the "real world" for awhile and just try to be free from everything. Great way to just find some peace.
put on some music, go for a long walk. get a nice juicy steak, come home, and sleep. if i can't find a nice steak house nearby, i'll probably go buy a cup of coffee or something and sit on the patio or something and observe people. just let yourself wander off, don't think about anything.
first do something that you enjoy or doesn't involve much thinking and just relax. for me, i started drawing again (last time i did it was as a kid). it's simple, it's fun to do, and if you screw up, oh well. that's the one that you won't show people
then, after you're not as emotional, get your life in order. prioritize things and make a decision on what to do from there.
I go do something productive, like clean up, finish up homework, and random acts of kindness to anyone. Least it makes me feel like I'm doing something with my life.
Do something you enjoy, it's different for everybody. I find happy music really helps cheer me up.
And remember, like Chill kinda suggested, it's okay to feel bad once in a while. Sometimes we make ourselves feel worse by not allowing ourselves to feel bad. I find it really takes the power away from feeling bad if I just let myself feel a little sad or grumpy, instead of treating it like it's a big deal. Your chemistry in your brain sometimes just gets thrown off because you haven't had enough sleep or haven't been eating right or things like that. It tends to go away if you just don't make it that important.
Easy, I watch this video - This guy is my mentor when it comes to everything in life. He knows exactly what the fuck is up. Live like Dean to live large!
Hey I know you didn't come for girlfriend advice, but just have a serious sit-down talk with her, and after the talk go to your favorite restaurant. I swear you will feel better. If things start to go to an argument just say, not here to have an argument, let's stop this, and go have fun.
During the talk just get off your chest your emotions, what's been going wrong. Say you are feeling depressed about the problem, admit you are wrong about something if you are, and just let it out. Being completely transparent is the most important thing in a relationship.
I usually find talking to my friends does the trick, even if just through IM. They're as crazy as me, so even just moaning to them how awful I feel at the moment inevitably leads to either joking around, laughing, serious talk, or what have you. And if they're feeling awful, going through your own miseries together makes it more bearable.
But of course there are just those meh days where you feel awful no matter what you do and who you talk to, and all you want to do is just drink some green tea and sleep, hoping tomorrow will be better.
The easiest way is to talk to friends, online or IRL. A lot of people are suggesting music - that doesn't work for me anymore though, mostly because it's hard to find music with good lyrics. When I'm down I visit www.simplynoise.com or www.rainymood.com, put on some headphones and read a book that I've read before. It's fun revisiting, getting to know the characters again, catching yourself smiling at some line you've forgot. Re-watching some favorite movies works as well. Just have it in the background and cook dinner or something. Can't go wrong with Scent of a woman. New stuff I reserve for when my mood is better. And if you feel really good one day when things are going great, write it down and read it when times aren't as good. Hopefully it will get your mind thinking in another direction, where life is seen as a friendly place.
As for the girl situation: When you feel better, try to see yourself through her eyes. Having a b/f that loves SC is alright, but it's nothing to brag home to the parents about. If you're serious about her you need to make an effort and prove it. However, she needs to be worth it, otherwise you need to find a better girl.
Best of luck to you
On September 18 2010 15:17 Chairman Ray wrote: When I'm feeling down, I wear my bedsheet like a toga.
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Every time I watch it I feel happy to just be alive. 
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