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Another won't hurt right? Yeah this is a girl blog haha.
I'm hoping TL's vast girl experience can help me out here. So like, I know this girl, and no I will not tell you her name or post any pictuers. I met her after we got put on the same USTA Junior Team Tennis team.
Here's some background. She's a year older than me (haha yeah I know, w/e). She's going to be a senior and I'm going to be a junior in high school. Anyways, she's played tennis since she was 6 and she is REALLY good. Like, only 2 guys at my school can beat her. I can't beat her. Her rating is at least 3.5 but she can compete at a 4.0 level. I'm a weak 3.5. She also likes playing violin in her free time. I play viola myself. She's in all the advanced classes (she just took calculus as a junior) She's Japanese and I'm Chinese (ironic, huh). Lastly, she is HOT.
Anyways, over the summer, we played on the same JTT team and she was our girls singles and I was the boys singles. However, our coach needed a good mixed doubles team so we were put together to play mixed doubles (hell yes!) We did EXTREMELY well together. We worked really well together and went undefeated for this season (8 wins, 0 losses, 2 ties). The ties were from sectionals where the format allows for a tie. She told me she really liked playing doubles with me.
Naturally, what's a guy suppose to do when he plays mixed doubles with a really hot Japanese girl who is phenomenal at tennis, athletic, really outgoing, and has the same interest as him. I started to really like her.
Now I'm not good looking, just average. I'm skinny (I'm asian so duh). I'm pretty athletic just not super strong. I consider myself to excell pretty well in academics (3.97 GPA while still taking many honors/ap classes). I'm pretty sociable and I know how to make girls laugh but I'm not a baller or anything. Me and her, we text sometimes and we always chat like on change overs during our matches and while were watching our teammates play.
Anyways, our season is over and our team is going to the beach soon. I'm probably not going to get a chance alone with her haha.
Help me TL! What should I do next?
Edit: She just broke up with her bf like a month ago. But she told me she thinks he's a player and a "douche"
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You should ask her out on a date!
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Stare at her face and look for any reactions.
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Let the relationship naturally take its course. Talk when you feel like, go out when you feel like, try to be atentive wether the idea you have about her is starting to take over the relationship that's growing between you two; this nullifies whatever relationship you have with her and it becomes about how you can use her to cement an ideal you have about yourself.
Be atentive, that's all, to what grows between you. Don't rush, listen to what you feel without running into judging it as good or bad. Remember that life is relationship, learn from it. If you feel anxious stop and observe where does the anxiousness come from. Know to listen, watch her, learn from her, look at the little things.
Just dont go into it with a goal in mind. If you do, she will just be a tool in the proyection of whatever image of yourself you're trying to build, which isnt bad, but it is a type of approach that narrows down what this relationship can grow to.
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On August 05 2010 13:56 canucks12 wrote: Stare at her face and look for any reactions.
don't do it
go out with her more often, like out to eat etc. you sound like a good guy, so just act natural and do your own thing. Sounds like you're at least pretty funny, so this should go well if you don't go over the top or have harsh competition ;p
lastly, gotta be more confident. Don't think of yourself as "skinny" or weak etc., just play and think of your strengths instead.
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train tennis win a grand slam title and then propose
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you sound like a nice dude who isn't totally socially inept so honestly I think doing whatever you feel is right will work out.
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you HAVE to make sure you have the right stats not to bring shame to her family. she took calculus her junior year, that means she is smart, so you need to boost your GPA to at least a 4.2 to be on an equal level with her. you are already at a severe disadvantage because she is better than you at tennis. in order to make up for the imbalance, you must tell her family you have a high level CCP membership in addition to your american passport to make yourself more desirable. any other achievements that you have accomplished make sure to let her know so that you will have a better chance with her. I cannot imagine a 4.0 USTA Junior Team girl dating a weak 3.5 with a GPA below a 4.0. you have your work cut our for you
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On August 05 2010 14:06 TommyGG wrote: you HAVE to make sure you have the right stats not to bring shame to her family. she took calculus her junior year, that means she is smart, so you need to boost your GPA to at least a 4.2 to be on an equal level with her. you are already at a severe disadvantage because she is better than you at tennis. in order to make up for the imbalance, you must tell her family you have a high level CCP membership in addition to your american passport to make yourself more desirable. any other achievements that you have accomplished make sure to let her know so that you will have a better chance with her. I cannot imagine a 4.0 USTA Junior Team girl dating a weak 3.5 with a GPA below a 4.0. you have your work cut our for you
rofl this made me laugh so much
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Start throwing eraser bits at her. When she turns around and looks at you, just look away like you are completely innocent. Once she looks away again, continue. Try to get through an entire eraser before she gets irritated and tells you to quit it.
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what you should do next is have this closed and never post another girl blog on tl
seriously man some times you just gotta figure things out for yourself in life, and this is one of those things.
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On August 05 2010 14:09 Chairman Ray wrote: Start throwing eraser bits at her. When she turns around and looks at you, just look away like you are completely innocent. Once she looks away again, continue. Try to get through an entire eraser before she gets irritated and tells you to quit it.
LOL WTF?
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On August 05 2010 14:09 Chairman Ray wrote: Start throwing eraser bits at her. When she turns around and looks at you, just look away like you are completely innocent. Once she looks away again, continue. Try to get through an entire eraser before she gets irritated and tells you to quit it. If you're not gonna ask her out on a date or something, you should definitely consider this.
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Personally I find these blogs entertaining - makes me feel like a Dr. Phil or Montel (lolol). You seem to already have the basic necessities for making this relationship advance, all you got to do is gauge her interest and go from there. Take chances...
On July 28 2010 00:50 Chill wrote: Smash them fuckin' titties. You are a stallion.
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lol eraser bits
tell her you like her and ask her out:
a)she says no. too bad, she doesnt like you (yet), try again some other time b)she says yes. YES! TIME TO GET SOME CLUNGE! just kidding, go out and have fun
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On August 05 2010 13:56 Beloth(OD) wrote: You should ask her out on a date!
MADNESS
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On August 05 2010 13:56 Beloth(OD) wrote: You should ask her out on a date! Hahaha this made me laugh :D
I mean, what do you want us to say? If you want to go out with her, ask.
Also, does anyone else find it annoying that people throw in random stuff like "I have a 3.97 GPA" and "I'm asian!" in their blogs? It's irrelevant and it really doesn't distinguish you from half of Teamliquid, I'm afraid.
Edit: I just reread comments and TommyGG expressed my feelings much more cleverly than I could!
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On August 05 2010 14:30 nbaker wrote: Hahaha this made me laugh :D I mean, what do you want us to say? If you want to go out with her, ask. Also, does anyone else find it annoying that people throw in random stuff like "I have a 3.97 GPA" and "I'm asian!" in their blogs? It's irrelevant and it really doesn't distinguish you from half of Teamliquid, I'm afraid. Edit: I just reread comments and TommyGG expressed my feelings much more cleverly than I could!
Nah, it provides some context, he might think the girl thinks it's important that he excels academically. Besides, the 1/2 on TL with 4.0 GPA would just think, "pfft, 3.97, what a noob".
Anyway, OP, you have to realize, girls in general don't mind going on dates, as long as she doesn't find you repulsive, she'll probably say "yes", so ask away. Pick a place where you can have a decent conversation.
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tits
or gtfo.
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On August 05 2010 14:45 funkie wrote: tits
or gtfo.
User was warned for this post
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