I'm sure all of you are excited about the release of SC2. But as the excitement of SC is understandably justified (11 years of waiting), I've come to recently know a girl that's taken my eyes off SC in general :p
Now, before you scream at me for committing heresy to the highest degree, let me tell you how we got to know each other. I knew her since elementary school and had always had a crush on her *-* But by that time, I was a simple little boy who did not know anything and moved to another city. After numerous years and becoming a senior, I get a FB message one day from this girl who I haven't seen in years. Anyway, to make a long story short we chatted a bunch through MSN and AIM (webcam, etc yes yes I'm lame), but I finally got the guts to ask her out this week.
My question to you guys is: What should I do? I have no dating experience whatsoever, but my thoughts were to take her to the movies (watching Inception which I hear is epically epic), then take her to get a drink at the mall where the theater is and just window-shop (i is broke). I was also thinking of taking her to this one place which has awesome boba/fruit drinks (yes, I'm asian) but that place closed down. However, there are still lots of places to hang about at that plaza (it's FOB central).
What's your take on what I should do? I know I haven't had much experience with girls and such, but I seriously like her and would like her to enjoy her time with me if I can make that possible :p Thanks for your advice TL!
Honestly, I don't think it matters too much where you go. Just make sure to be courteous, make her laugh, don't check your cellphone too much, never text someone else, be engaging, and just Show Who YOU Are.
And if you are the awesome guy we know you are, then everything will turn out fine and she'll be wanting a second date very soon
If you see inception make sure you understand the plot line before you go so you don't look stupid by not understanding it, personally I would advise skipping Inception in favor of renting Black Dynamite. Besides that just be yourself, have fun, don't be nervous.
imo movies arent very good for first dates. not a lot of talking, both of you are focused on the movie instead of each other. its ok for later dates though, just not first. i took a white chick out to an exotic asian restaurant and she loved it (she was into that stuff), and we had a lot to talk about cuz i could explain all this cool stuff to her about the different foods. it's good for conversation starters, and itll often lead to other subjects that will get you two talking (which is what you want).
after that, we danced in the rain (it was raining reaallly hard). we only had 1 umbrella, which was a good thing lol.
ok this might sound like shitty and half-assed advice. It is. However, you should trust me, this is very legitimate advice. It doesn't matter what you do, just don't be nervous. Be cool, collect, and show that you are confident and comfortable with her. For a first date, movies are really lame to be honest. Do something where you guys can interact together, boba is good, but I'd say something more like bowling with drinks, or a beach trip.
Dang, thought I'd be the first response, but looks like everyone basically said the same thing. Fuck going to the movies It's more of a thing to do after you guys already like each other, and have established a connection, or just something you'd go to with a friend.
Movies, especially epic, complicated and heavy movies like Inception can be OK if you both like it and can have an animated discussion about it afterwards.
Remember, its not really WHAT you do that is important, its the level and quality of your interaction that counts.
I know its summer, but Ice Skating is imo an excellent date 'thing to do'.
[If you can't skate, then stop whatever you're doing right now, find someone who can, drag them to the nearest rank and force them to teach you for hours-straight]
Here's why:
Ice skating is a physical activity. If you're not at the stage to hold hands or bash into eachother maybe its not the best activity. Its quite nice though because falling flat on your ass is a very A. humbling and B. funny experience [tho she could possible get hurt].
As long as she's confident enough to not only stick to the walls and let you guide/lead you its great. If you're capable of course, you can A. show off B. help her/support her/take care of her (girls absolutely adore this type of attention) and C. Embarrass yourself. If you can at some point look quite silly, it'll really relax her because at least she looks better than one guy on the ice.
What you'll need to balance is making her look good (+ +), to some extent making yourself look bad to make her more comfortable and look good (+), but not actually embarrassing her by falling very badly/being awkward ( ' ^^ whoops I touched you there and you feel uncomfortable o well ' ) and not making a scene.
Girls like guys that are funny, humble (can take a fall), who are real and not stuck-up assholes (do not be all "yeah Imma uber sk8ter check out teh skillz" -> fail), who take care of them and help them (please for the love of God don't laugh AT her. laughing at yourself is good and fine, but you'll make her feel uncomfortable and inadequate if you 'demean' her by laughing at her), and lastly who are generally good-natured and fun to be around. GL HF
Be interesting, don't just say things like 'That was a cool movie ehh?'. Look at the movie in depth and show some intelligence instead of just pointing out cool scenes afterwards. Maybe read up on some interesting facts about the movie and impress her. Too many people think that going to the movies is a free easy date.
Main thing is to be talkative, funny, intelligent, etc. Girls love that. It's only your first date, keep it simple.
I'm guessing you moved back and are far away anymore?
Anyways, you can really do anything. Dinner and a movie is normal and fine. But you can do things like going to the park, going bowling, really you can do anything. I liked this one girl and I rented a plane (I have my pilots license) and flew her over her house and shit which she really enjoyed.
On July 27 2010 05:53 bITt.mAN wrote: GO ICE SKATING!
Movies, especially epic, complicated and heavy movies like Inception can be OK if you both like it and can have an animated discussion about it afterwards.
Remember, its not really WHAT you do that is important, its the level and quality of your interaction that counts.
I know its summer, but Ice Skating is imo an excellent date 'thing to do'.
[If you can't skate, then stop whatever you're doing right now, find someone who can, drag them to the nearest rank and force them to teach you for hours-straight]
Yeah, I've read everywhere (google nerd) that movies are bad first-dates. But bleh! Haha. I was reallly excited to take her to Disneyland with my friends (cuz it's a group thing) but my parents are really anal about the $$$ involved (hence, being asian). Haha, I'll try to be myself and show her my dry, witty humor :p
@caucasianasian: Nahh, I'm still far away but we both can drive finally. ^^
Yes, another dating help blog. Emphasis on nerds being mostly men, around teenager years =.=
Edit: I was also thinking about taking her to walk around the beach and just checking out stores and stuff! But that seems kind of far and more serious of an outing :\
Don't go to a movie. It's two+ hours of silence and you'll probably end up discussing it with her. She could do that with her friends. Start off with dinner and wine :3
EPT
It's more of a thing to do after you guys already like each other, and have established a connection, or just something you'd go to with a friend.
