You're going to get bogged down with shitty advice here. It doesn't matter where you go. If you think you will enjoy a movie and drinks with her, then go for it. 70% of attracting is a girl is demonstrating confidence, so just be confident in yourself and your decisions.

All the best!

Wr3k

Canada2533 Posts

July 26 2010 21:14 GMT

#22

On July 27 2010 06:06 moon` wrote:
Haha thanks for the advice everyone!

Yeah, I've read everywhere (google nerd) that movies are bad first-dates. But bleh! Haha. I was reallly excited to take her to Disneyland with my friends (cuz it's a group thing) but my parents are really anal about the $$$ involved (hence, being asian). Haha, I'll try to be myself and show her my dry, witty humor :p

@caucasianasian: Nahh, I'm still far away but we both can drive finally. ^^

Yes, another dating help blog. Emphasis on nerds being mostly men, around teenager years =.=

Edit: I was also thinking about taking her to walk around the beach and just checking out stores and stuff! But that seems kind of far and more serious of an outing :\

Honestly a movie is alright provided you do something where you are interacting as well. It also has the benefit of not being intimidating. If you go for dinner or do something that is very intimate on the first date it could end up being awkward if she isn't a really sociable person. My fave first date ideas are stuff like bowling or mini-golf, where the interaction is there, but you have something fun to do as well.

Also, read chills advice. Thinking about this shit too much isn't good for anyone.

iloahz

United States964 Posts

July 26 2010 21:14 GMT

#23

yea I would suggest not going to movies on first date. I think on first date you guys need to have a lot of talking, a lot of that feeling of "being together" if know what I mean. Watching a movie, especially inception which is like 2.5 hours long, after the movie you guys are gonna be confused and exhausted and she'll probably just want to go home. After the first date however, going to the movies may be a good idea because you've grown more comfortable with each other and a date without a lot of talk seems more acceptable too.

ondik

Czech Republic2908 Posts

July 26 2010 21:14 GMT

#24

window-shopping? SERIOUSLY? ............... god I can't stress enough how this thing annoys me when girls do it and I never thought I would see a guy who's willing to do it. Yea, I know (I HOPE) it's because you want to get the girl, but come one!

Other than that your plan seems to be ok. ieatkids5 is kinda right about the movies but i don't think it's big deal in your case as you know each other since elementary school. That is actually huge benefit because you have pretty good conversation starter.

I wish you good luck but I believe you don't even need it though

she contacted you first, it seems like she enjoyed chatting with you via messengers and agreed to go out.. ethat means she's probably interested. Thing about it an hour before the date while being freaked out

news

892 Posts

July 26 2010 21:15 GMT

#25

Did you invite her yet? Think about something else, movies are great but like many people mentioned you should rather try and communicate with her first. So if you are not confident instead you should be looking for something part talking/part activity, like bowling or going out on a fun trip to see the whales or w/e else inhabits the area. This will help with being uncomfortable if you don't know what exactly to talk about.

Djzapz

Canada10681 Posts

July 26 2010 21:18 GMT

#26

Girls don't understand Inception so =(

chaoser

United States5541 Posts

July 26 2010 21:35 GMT

#27

the zoo or park for a picnic or a museum is pretty good

N.geNuity

United States5112 Posts

July 26 2010 21:58 GMT

#28

If she drinks coffee just chill at starbucks. Assuming you make her laugh or at least smile then it's all good.

Also, ice skating seems like a good idea. But I'm assuming you can't since it's the middle of the summer for the US.

kainzero

United States5211 Posts

July 26 2010 22:15 GMT

#29

On July 27 2010 06:14 ondik wrote:
window-shopping? SERIOUSLY? ............... god I can't stress enough how this thing annoys me when girls do it and I never thought I would see a guy who's willing to do it. Yea, I know (I HOPE) it's because you want to get the girl, but come one!

It works if you're the one who wants to shop. Clothes and fragrances are good for it.

moon`

United States372 Posts

July 26 2010 23:33 GMT

#30

Hmm.. well that's why I wanted to go drinking boba with her.. to get some interaction going :\ Yes, yes movies are "bad" but it's little pressure for both parties.

ANYWAY, idk about TL advice being bad I liked the first few posts

Thanks for feedback.

Edit: Oh, and by window shopping I meant just walking around looking at stuff and talking. Don't see what's so bad about that o-O

Kyuukyuu

Canada6263 Posts

July 26 2010 23:44 GMT

#31

If you aren't experienced I would definitely not recommend a movie. You'll most likely just be awkward and quiet the whole time, before, during, and after, and that sucks and kills the mood for the rest of whatever you have planned. "Little pressure" is kind of like boring and not memorable tbh

Then again that's just me :D I hate talking during movies

edit: as for window-shopping, a little bit on the lame side but who knows?

moon`

United States372 Posts

July 26 2010 23:57 GMT

#32

On July 27 2010 08:44 Kyuukyuu wrote:
If you aren't experienced I would definitely not recommend a movie. You'll most likely just be awkward and quiet the whole time, before, during, and after, and that sucks and kills the mood for the rest of whatever you have planned. "Little pressure" is kind of like boring and not memorable tbh

Then again that's just me :D I hate talking during movies

edit: as for window-shopping, a little bit on the lame side but who knows?

^haha yeah. :p any idea where a good place would be? maybe a park, but idk wtheck we'd do =.=

Butigroove

Seychelles2061 Posts

July 27 2010 00:03 GMT

#33

My favorite first date to take girls on is for icecream & a walk. Its cheap, delicious, and fun.

Whatever you do, just have fun!

Cr4zyH0r5e

Peru1308 Posts

July 27 2010 01:06 GMT

#34

What Chill said.
Just be confident (she won't bite you) smile a lot and be yourself. Wherever you decide to go remember the most important thing: You're there to have fun, not because she's the only girl in the world for you and you need to secure your future with her.

Count9

China10928 Posts

July 27 2010 01:25 GMT

#35

I remember when I was going on my first date ever and taking the girl to a movie, a friend of mine (also a girl) just said, "You're taking her somewhere where you don't talk to each other for a hour and a half? Are you stupid?" Lol, I dunno, that date was such a disaster I erased it from my memory but I thought I'd share that quote.

Linx_101

Canada166 Posts

July 27 2010 02:20 GMT

#36

Are skating rinks even opened year-round?

nayumi

Australia6499 Posts

July 27 2010 04:22 GMT

#37

Ask her to join you watching SPL PO between SKT and STX :/

That's romance for me ...

OmniEulogy

Canada6600 Posts

July 27 2010 04:37 GMT

#38

Dinner and a movie is always good. Don't listen to people who say movies are terrible -.- Unfortunate that your broke, borrow 50-60 bucks from your parents? lol You have a nice dinner go to the movie and the other stuff you mentioned will be fine. As long as you have a good time. I'm speaking from experience. Let us know how it turns out

Just don't be awkward lol

I will also add. Yes Yes people talking is important *rolls eyes* thats what dinner, before the movie, after the movie ect. are for. Movie also gives you something to TALK about afterwards. lol

Tazza

Korea (South)1678 Posts

July 27 2010 05:40 GMT

#39

Movies sound great, and maybe dinner after that. I think this girl really likes you. I mean, she sent an fb message after not seeing each other for a very long time. Hopefully it works out between u 2

gamecrazy

United States421 Posts

July 27 2010 05:47 GMT

#40

Since she went out of her way to message you on FB after years of losing contact, I think your options are good. As for date ideas, that boba place probably would have been good. But you said it yourself, that plaza has a lot of good fobby things. Trust your own instincts here and take her there!! Then you can ask her if she's watched Inception and take her to the movies. I assume you're a senior and you drive. (But you're broke.) Go borrow some money and good luck.

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