Envy me. *brag*

I'm in one of those tender-cant-get-enough-of-each-other-give-and-ask-for-sweet-kisses-soft caresses-and-tender-affection-nonstop relationships that you speak of.

But in all seriousness, thanks for the heads up. I'll make sure to savor my time extra carefully now for the next few years (just turned 20).

Yggdrasil Leaf

221 Posts

July 15 2010 19:23 GMT

#22

On July 16 2010 04:18 Man.Magic wrote:
There is a point in one's life where everything becomes average and mundain. Nostalgia is nice every now and again but it is what fuels our hubrous later in life.

Hubrous?

Yggdrasil Leaf

221 Posts

July 15 2010 19:24 GMT

#23

On July 16 2010 04:19 SoManyDeadLings wrote:
Envy me. *brag*

I'm in one of those tender-cant-get-enough-of-each-other-give-and-ask-for-sweet-kisses-soft caresses-and-tender-affection-nonstop relationships that you speak of.

But in all seriousness, thanks for the heads up. I'll make sure to savor my time extra carefully now for the next few years (just turned 20).

Haha. Enjoy.

baller

527 Posts

July 15 2010 19:25 GMT

#24

is it with michelle?

Z3kk

4099 Posts

July 15 2010 19:33 GMT

#25

On July 16 2010 04:25 baller wrote:

Show nested quote +

is it with michelle?

AHAHA baller never fails to crack me up. I was thinking the exact same thing.

I've never been with someone, for various reasons, but I know what you're talking about, Leaf/OP.

exalted

United States3612 Posts

July 15 2010 19:39 GMT

#26

yeah baller rocks lol

i'm searching and reading all of his posts right now

Hidden_MotiveS

Canada2562 Posts

July 15 2010 19:46 GMT

#27

Lol I read through the whole OP, great post. It sounds like you're married. I think therefore you should look up how married couples deal with this issue.

Servius_Fulvius

United States947 Posts

July 15 2010 19:59 GMT

#28

On July 16 2010 01:50 Yggdrasil Leaf wrote:
For a very long time now I haven't met a girl that actually excites me, that arouses the passions of love, that makes me think about her all the time, that makes me want to know everything about her mind and body, that makes me want to jump in happiness like a bawdy satyr with a flute along the flowery countryside...

I'm not surprised that you haven't found a girl that you're satisfied with. You preseneted a very mature perspective on life. Random high school boys, even the mature ones, don't have the experience to know these things. No, you're not a boy, you are a man who has let his past experiences shape how you see the world. If you're looking for girls, then you're looking in the wrong place. You need a woman.

I'm actually glad to see that you have a standard that is based on feelings of love, not just carnal pleasure. It's important that if you meet someone that you enforce said standard. Yes, this could mean passing up a night of meaningless sex. If you know already that it isn't going to do anything for you then don't do it.

A fulfilling relationship, though something you have to work on, isn't an exact science. There's no cookie-cutter checklist that says you should pursue a certain person. Keep some concrete standards, but don't get so specific that your 'dream woman' is nothing but a figment of all your romantic fantasies. She will be who she is. My advice is to work on yourself, keep an eye open to women that have the potential to be something great, but do NOT make your sole purpose in life to find this person. It's been my personal experience and the experience of many friends that when we stop looking and learn to love ourselves that we unintentionally find who we're looking for.

checo

Mexico1364 Posts

July 15 2010 20:04 GMT

#29

Im 21 just now im with the women i love and man i would like to spend my life with her, she gives me everything you talk about, perhaps its a littlel son to talk this big but even when i hadn't been with many women it just feel so right with her all the time is fun, nice, lovely.

Before her i haven't met a girl that it would get this thinks of me i was like=> Love you said??? I don't believe in that...

Now im like Love??? I have it and i like it ^^

You guys will find a girl that makes those things go back on you, no need to look for a girl you will met her no matter what ^^

Pathology

Canada132 Posts

July 15 2010 20:34 GMT

#30

I've only ever felt the "innocent love" OP mentions once. I remember being on the couch just lying down together and mumbled some stupid line and ending up kissing her. Heart in throat type thing, probably never forget that night. All we did is make out and after a while drift in and out of sleep comfortably, and after I remember her saying, "I was surprised you didn't try to do anything else". Ever since then I notice in my own relationship's and others there seems to be a huge emphasis on getting laid and whatnot. Sex/physical affection (for some people) has seemingly been corrupted and it's meaning undermined. It saddens me to think of it as just a biological function that happens to feel nifty.

I'm not sure of the cause, but I have to say OP I miss all those feelings as well

I want the meaning and shy nervousness back.

Risen

United States7927 Posts

July 15 2010 20:53 GMT

#31

I'm just turning 21 and I feel like this :/

I'm, of course, younger and probably not even close to how you're feeling it just sucks losing that innocence I had. Never even knew I had it until it was gone :/

Flying Duck

18 Posts

July 15 2010 21:53 GMT

#32

Pfft, brag-blog. One day you'll be 60+ and you'll long for the days when you could get it up.

Yggdrasil Leaf

221 Posts

July 15 2010 21:57 GMT

#33

On July 16 2010 04:46 Hidden_MotiveS wrote:
Lol I read through the whole OP, great post. It sounds like you're married. I think therefore you should look up how married couples deal with this issue.

lol

Yggdrasil Leaf

221 Posts

July 15 2010 21:57 GMT

#34

On July 16 2010 06:53 Flying Duck wrote:
Pfft, brag-blog. One day you'll be 60+ and you'll long for the days when you could get it up.

my first troll

YPang

United States4024 Posts

July 15 2010 22:02 GMT

#35

maybe you just masturbate too much, and lost all your lust that way.

sLiniss

United States849 Posts

July 15 2010 22:06 GMT

#36

I think you just gotta find the right lady.

But are you complaining about sex or having a relationship? Or both. But understand they are not the same.

Count9

China10928 Posts

July 15 2010 23:42 GMT

#37

God damn it. Without this thread I probably wouldn't have realized it for a few years. Fuck. I hate introspection, now I feel the same /sigh

gchan

United States654 Posts

July 16 2010 02:17 GMT

#38

I've recently actually come to this conclusion myself. The sad part is that if you talk to older married couples (including your parents), most of them just settled. I think we're part of a new generation where we don't necessarily feel the need to "just settle." On the flip side though, I think as I get older, I just seem to care less about most things (including relationships). I guess the combination of caring less + interest in women declining (at least in the carnal way) leads to "just settling." Servius put it nicely in that you should work on yourself, but keep an open mind. That is the general lifestyle I am following now and I guess I'll see where it takes me in the future.

PS. Try dating older women (if you haven't already).

deathgod6

United States5064 Posts

July 16 2010 03:08 GMT

#39

We all want to find that true love. I know I do. <3