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What's the way to make a 'formal' apology?
I've landed myself in a tough situation and need to make a grave(?) apology.
Are there components that I should include, like admission of fault, possible explanations, and some proper begging?
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Thanks, the apology will be to a teacher if that will help.
   
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It depends on why you are apologizing. There is no simple overall formula you can follow.
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well I certainly don't think a formal apology includes begging unless maybe if you've been taken to see the emperor
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lol @ travis. .
But really, as minus_human said, just be sincere. This is probably the most important thing that should come across to the person you're apologizing to.
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Haha what did you do.
I remember when I made my teacher throw a chair at me back in middle school from which she got fired.
So I dunno, anything less severe should be pretty easy to handle.
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On January 04 2010 04:27 WheelOfTime wrote: Haha what did you do.
I remember when I made my teacher throw a chair at me back in middle school from which she got fired.
So I dunno, anything less severe should be pretty easy to handle.
lol
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who are you apologizing too male/female means alot on what you havet o say
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Doesn't sound like you're actually intending to make a sincere apology when you have to ask for a formula to follow.
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amateurs.
We really need to know who you are apologizing to. as in what is the overall theme, and if it's someone you are intimate with, a judge, boss, colleague, or friend.
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just tell him/her that you're human and all humans make mistakes.
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Belgium9945 Posts
did you try to bribe him/her, try to have sex with him/her, cheated on his/her exam or plagiarize a paper for his/her class?
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On January 04 2010 04:27 WheelOfTime wrote: I remember when I made my teacher throw a chair at me back in middle school from which she got fired. How did you do that?
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acknowledgement of what you did wrong to the other person, and an apology with expression of regret.
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Dear Teacher,
I am writing this letter to address the issue which arose last week during class. I would like to formally and officially apologize for any and all feelings and emotions that may have been running through your mind during this event.
While I do have feelings for you and it is apparent you share the same, I think it is best if we take it slow. I didn't expect you to show such a great interest in me but I am still interested. I will see you after class.
Love, Pookums
P.S. The kiss in the hallway is something I'd like to repeat.
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When you apologize, do not do so in such a manner where your demeanor demands the other person to offer forgiveness. If you just blatantly apologize, with a hint of self-frustration and leave the scene/topic looking content, the other person may be more likely to forgive you on their own. Do not, under any circumstances, ask the other person for forgiveness within your apology.
EDIT: 1600 posts. It's official: I'm not that cool.
PS If you're not really sorry for what you did, like you're only apologizing for damage control purposes or are being solely fueled by guilt (guilt=/=sincere sorrow), it's pretty easy for someone to tell your apology is shit, no matter what formula you use. So, if you're not sorry, don't bother.
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Do your best and hope the don't say, "It's too late to apologize (it's tooooo lattttttteeeeee)"
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It's nothing immoral (sex with spouse? lol...), but series of misfortune which happened to me which then affected my teacher.
I don't know if I am feeling sorrow, but the situation calls for some kind of formal talks; I am quite feeling guilty though.
I'm not asking for a formula, but being a rather antisocial (don't know the word here) makes me say stupid things; I told someone that women should be discriminated when what I meant is that people should acknowledge the differences, etc. What a day that was.
Thanks for the help guys.
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Takes a special kind of dumbass to not know how to say "I'm sorry" with meaning
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On January 04 2010 07:39 MiniRoman wrote: Takes a special kind of dumbass to not know how to say "I'm sorry" with meaning
and it takes a special kind of dumbass to not know that some people just can't express feelings well.
I'm asking because I want to make sure I don't say something that's not the social norm.
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On January 04 2010 05:27 micronesia wrote:Show nested quote +On January 04 2010 04:27 WheelOfTime wrote: I remember when I made my teacher throw a chair at me back in middle school from which she got fired. How did you do that?
2 years worth of gradually built up loathing + a horribly mean prank to set off the explosion.
I guess I feel some remorse, but then again, I was just a kid, so not really.
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On January 04 2010 08:42 WheelOfTime wrote:Show nested quote +On January 04 2010 05:27 micronesia wrote:On January 04 2010 04:27 WheelOfTime wrote: I remember when I made my teacher throw a chair at me back in middle school from which she got fired. How did you do that? 2 years worth of gradually built up loathing + a horribly mean prank to set off the explosion. I guess I feel some remorse, but then again, I was just a kid, so not really.
Explosion? XD
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On January 04 2010 07:16 Wala.Revolution wrote: It's nothing immoral (sex with spouse? lol...), but series of misfortune which happened to me which then affected my teacher.
I don't know if I am feeling sorrow, but the situation calls for some kind of formal talks; I am quite feeling guilty though.
I'm not asking for a formula, but being a rather antisocial (don't know the word here) makes me say stupid things; I told someone that women should be discriminated when what I meant is that people should acknowledge the differences, etc. What a day that was.
Thanks for the help guys.
woah woah woah, do not apologize for saying something like that.
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On January 04 2010 08:42 WheelOfTime wrote:Show nested quote +On January 04 2010 05:27 micronesia wrote:On January 04 2010 04:27 WheelOfTime wrote: I remember when I made my teacher throw a chair at me back in middle school from which she got fired. How did you do that? 2 years worth of gradually built up loathing + a horribly mean prank to set off the explosion. I guess I feel some remorse, but then again, I was just a kid, so not really. I don't think that qualifies as having made her throw a chair at you although it certainly explains why she would have 'exploded' as you put it. Was she an untenured teacher?
What did you do over those two years and what was the prank?
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On January 04 2010 11:15 micronesia wrote:Show nested quote +On January 04 2010 08:42 WheelOfTime wrote:On January 04 2010 05:27 micronesia wrote:On January 04 2010 04:27 WheelOfTime wrote: I remember when I made my teacher throw a chair at me back in middle school from which she got fired. How did you do that? 2 years worth of gradually built up loathing + a horribly mean prank to set off the explosion. I guess I feel some remorse, but then again, I was just a kid, so not really. I don't think that qualifies as having made her throw a chair at you although it certainly explains why she would have 'exploded' as you put it. Was she an untenured teacher? What did you do over those two years and what was the prank? Whoopee Cushion!
OP, just say you're sorry for all the inconveniences you've caused. Being socially awkward you're probably coming off as an asshole, but you're teacher should've noticed this after spending time teaching you and should understand. Show that you're not completely indifferent and it should be ok, imo... unless you fell asleep on his cat and suffocated him in the process or something; in that case, get him a new cat, ok?
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On January 04 2010 08:11 Wala.Revolution wrote:Show nested quote +On January 04 2010 07:39 MiniRoman wrote: Takes a special kind of dumbass to not know how to say "I'm sorry" with meaning and it takes a special kind of dumbass to not know that some people just can't express feelings well. I'm asking because I want to make sure I don't say something that's not the social norm. You don't ask people on the internet about social norms at your school. Social norms vary from country to country and region to region. You're better off asking your parents or friends.
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