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Just started college few days ago. I have to say this is so much better than highschool, study with people of your level, everyone is friendly etc... So there are 5 boys and 14 girls in my class, and there is this girl that caught my attention. I don't know if she has any feelings for me, but there always seem to be something going on between us, even thought we've just barely had two very short conversation.
Some "exprienced" people told me dating a classmate is not a good idea, because if you break up it will be really awkward having to see each other everyday. I've never been in a serious relationship before, so I have 0 exp in this. Help!
Edit: This is probably the reply that best describe my situation:
On September 22 2009 21:50 Integra wrote:
Don't date her. Girls are really flexible when it comes to social situations and they don't really worry that much about it. However with that said we also have you, and after what you typed it's obvious you won't be able to coop with that kind of situation, in fact It wouldn't surprise me if you are so terrified of that particular outcome that you would worry and think so much about it that the outcome would be the only viable one since it's the the most dominant "reality" that is perceived by you.
In short, NO, don't date her, you will only fuck it up anyway since you have no confidence in yourself.
 
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I don't know if she has any feelings for me, but there always seem to be something going on between us, even thought we've just barely had two very short conversation. "always" ? 
It's not always akward to see your ex everyday. I broke up with my ex after 3 years of being together, and we both are in a new relationships now, but we are still very good friends with each other.
It's akward to see some other ex-girlfriends tho, and my present gf is a bit jealous becouse I'm still in contact my ex.
If you really like her, then why not. go ahead and see what happens. You both propably have lots of different courses where you don't see each other so it shouldn't be that akward.
Gl & hf!
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Don't. Trust me. If you do happen to break up or have a big fight, I promise you, the next day at school is gonna be awkard as fuck. I've fallen into that trap 2 times now.
Since you're in college, there should be plenty of other chicks to go around with
Sleeping with her or making out once or twice, is not that bad. But the relationsship part is gonna kill you.
/ Hippie
Edit: So, 2 completely different opinions right off the bat ^^ GL buddy
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Yeah i agree, there is enough fish in the school pool, so dont look in the class pool...
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Hang out with her and get to know her better before you ask her out.
Honestly dating her wouldn't be as bad as people make it out to be as long as you're mature enough to maintain some space between the two of you during class and if you end up going to the same study groups and the like. Just take things slowly.
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If you like her go for it.
I used to have to go to school with one ex, and work with another one at night. It's awkward for a while but you'll get over it.
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Sweden1225 Posts
So what if it would be awkward after a break-up? No reason not to try it out. Either it works out or you will go through some awkward period but come out an experience richer, that's how you grow.
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dude just go for it who gives a shit if you see her everyday at class just be a man
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Shouldn't let a classroom limit who you want to be with. Ideally the relationship would last longer than the class anyways right? so even if it did end bad hopefully you wouldn't be in the same class. Though I've never understood why that would be awkward unless you dump her ass while she's still madly in love or something.
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Isn't really a problem with dating a classmate, but talk to her a bit more before you decide you wanna go out with her. I doubt two very short conversations are much to go by...
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I wouldnt let others put you off. Ive dated a girl from my 1st year law class for 3 years now - and we couldnt be happy. The law faculty is very insular, and there have been some messy couple breakups before within the small community, and while it has been akward for all of their friends, people will get over it.
If you plan on an actual relationship with the girl, it isnt necessarily bad thing, as long as you treat her well - be aware that dating someone so early into college life means that any friends you make will be made as part of a couple - just be weary of that.
If all you want is some action, as others have said, hit up the rest of the community.
GL, HF.
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On September 22 2009 20:09 rA.Hippie wrote:
Don't. Trust me. If you do happen to break up or have a big fight, I promise you, the next day at school is gonna be awkard as fuck. I've fallen into that trap 2 times now.
Dude your relationships must have really sucked if a few days of awkwardness outweigh the hole relationship.
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I tried that once. We didn't get in a relationship but were dating regularly. And then for some reason we just stopped. And then the next semester just sucked, couldn't concentrate at all in that class, and didn't learn a damn thing. Mind was elsewhere!
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On September 22 2009 19:55 Garnet wrote:
Just started college few days ago. I have to say this is so much better than highschool, study with people of your level, everyone is friendly etc... So there are 5 boys and 14 girls in my class, and there is this girl that caught my attention. I don't know if she has any feelings for me, but there always seem to be something going on between us, even thought we've just barely had two very short conversation.
Some "exprienced" people told me dating a classmate is not a good idea, because if you break up it will be really awkward having to see each other everyday. I've never been in a serious relationship before, so I have 0 exp in this. Help!
Don't date her. Girls are really flexible when it comes to social situations and they don't really worry that much about it. However with that said we also have you, and after what you typed it's obvious you won't be able to coop with that kind of situation, in fact It wouldn't surprise me if you are so terrified of that particular outcome that you would worry and think so much about it that the outcome would be the only viable one since it's the the most dominant "reality" that is perceived by you.
In short, NO, don't date her, you will only fuck it up anyway since you have no confidence in yourself.
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go for it if u truly like her...
just be your self man!GL HF
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On September 22 2009 21:50 Integra wrote:Show nested quote +On September 22 2009 19:55 Garnet wrote:
Just started college few days ago. I have to say this is so much better than highschool, study with people of your level, everyone is friendly etc... So there are 5 boys and 14 girls in my class, and there is this girl that caught my attention. I don't know if she has any feelings for me, but there always seem to be something going on between us, even thought we've just barely had two very short conversation.
Some "exprienced" people told me dating a classmate is not a good idea, because if you break up it will be really awkward having to see each other everyday. I've never been in a serious relationship before, so I have 0 exp in this. Help! Don't date her. Girls are really flexible when it comes to social situations and they don't really worry that much about it. However with that said we also have you, and after what you typed it's obvious you won't be able to coop with that kind of situation, in fact It wouldn't surprise me if you are so terrified of that particular outcome that you would worry and think so much about it that the outcome would be the only viable one since it's the the most dominant "reality" that is perceived by you. In short, NO, don't date her, you will only fuck it up anyway since you have no confidence in yourself.
wow way to bring the worst out of what he types
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On September 22 2009 21:50 251 wrote:
I tried that once. We didn't get in a relationship but were dating regularly. And then for some reason we just stopped. And then the next semester just sucked, couldn't concentrate at all in that class, and didn't learn a damn thing. Mind was elsewhere!
It really saddens me when you can be dating someone without being in a relationship with them. Were you friends with benefits... without being friends? What sort of non-relationship did you have?
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this is college, not highschool, that class you're taking last a semester, thats not that big of a deal, id say go for it, worst case u see her like once or twice a week for what, 3 months? lol
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When you break up with her, you can ease the awkwardness by porking one of your other classmates
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Bearded Elder29906 Posts
Haven't read single post here but answering to Your question.
FORGET IT. Do not EVER date with a classmate. I swear, trust me dude, nothing good is coming out of this...
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