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She can't be cheating, she was dumped and without any genuine reason for doing so.
I can understand indecision and unsurety when it comes to relationships but planning strategy with your friend about how to dump her... Like it was a game? That's completely immature.
Lesson to be learned here is: if you casually fuck around with people's feelings, eventually you'll do it to someone you genuinely care for and you'll fuck yourself over.
Solution?
If you have a problem in a relationship, discuss it with your partner.
No one is perfect and very few people know exactly what they want 100% of the time, if there comes a point where you're dating someone and you're not sure about your feelings, whether you're doing the right thing or whether you're ready for commitment then try to understand why and at least attempt to talk about it with them before deciding that the only way to solve the problem is to break up.
Another thing and sometimes an important one.
Close friends aren't always the best people to talk to when you have a relationship problem.
Sure, they might know you better than a lot of other people but that in itself means they're less likely to give you impartial and unbiased advice.
You don't normally talk to your friends much about a relationship that's going extremely well or one where everything is working out because you don't need advice when everything's good and "Hey guys! My relationship is fine" is generally a topic unworthy of discussion.
But if you have a problem with your girlfriend, you're more likely to talk about that with your friends.
Taking into account that they're hearing about all the faults and not much of the good stuff, you need to consider seriously the advice they give.
Can you understand how talking this over with your flirty-up-to-no-good friend instead of talking properly to the girl beforehand helped to contribute to the situation you're now in?
You fell into a pattern of treating girls as something good for a short period of time but ultimately, they were all discardable if you felt bored or uncertain. You've done the same thing this time out of habit and now you're either regretful because you have genuine feelings for her or it's a case of something territorial because there's a chance that the girl you dumped will be taken by someone else.
Work out which one it is before you decide what to do next.
If you do care for her, talk to her and tell her that. Explain your feelings, if you think you made a mistake then explain it and tell her why. If things work out well, she'll understand and you'll get another chance. If things don't work out well, then hopefully you'll learn not to do the same thing again in the future.
If your concern is mainly that you dumped her and now there's a chance your friend will date her then you need to distance yourself from both of them. If you dump someone, you don't get a say in what they do afterwards or who they do it with.
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Korea (South)17174 Posts
a. ur a faggot
b. i hope ur friend fucks ur ex gf
c. ur in highschool LOL
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On September 22 2009 07:11 Rekrul wrote:
a. ur a faggot
b. i hope ur friend fucks ur ex gf
c. ur in highschool LOL
harsh ... but makes sense ...
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you know what...
you guys are absolutely right. I'm a faggot and I don't deserve another chance. Fuck, I blew it, I should seriously learn to grow the fuck up =/ thanks for all your opinions and advice.
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sometimes when you dump someone you get this surge of "maybe it could have worked out" feeling and you want to call them up to try again, regardless of what you actually felt during the relationship
in this case it just sounds like a case of hormones out of control plus your own insecurity regarding your roommate and such
thing about it is that she's probably confused and hurt and looking to talk to your roommate about insights as to what you're thinking - he might be trying to use this as an opportunity to get with her, but she might just be looking to get a handle on the situation and/or sympathetic shoulder, and there's a good chance she won't want to date your roommate just because he's associated with you
(not that girls don't fuck guys when they're feeling sad about breakups, but that these things hardly last and are petty/shallow attempts at revenge)
last thing is that your ex gf is probably doing this shit to make you jealous; girls are especially good at doing these kinds of things even unconsciously, so if you say anything expect her to deny it or not know what you're talking about
but in the end if she's pulling this kind of shit deliberately then she's not mature enough to have a relationship, end of story
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The best thing to do is meet like 3-4 girls and wait for them to come to you. Girls either like you as more than friends or they dont.. They do not play mind games like us in that sense. For example we will plan shit out and think it over when we meet a girl we really like. IF a girl meets someone she really actually likes she will make sure that she is with him asap. There is nothing you can do but be nice and be friends or just ignore her until she comes back to you (if she likes you). Any other situation is awkward because going back to friends after a relationship does NOT fucking work.
Just chill out and wait to see what happens, there is not much you can actively do to get her back unless you want to waste all your time and energy in something thats useless. Go study man, its more important.
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On September 22 2009 07:11 Rekrul wrote:
a. ur a faggot
b. i hope ur friend fucks ur ex gf
c. ur in highschool LOL
Lol at least he doesnt order his GFs
fuckin BURN.
edit: expecting some witty well thought out diss towards me or a one liner. or nothin haha :D
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On September 22 2009 07:11 Rekrul wrote:
a. ur a faggot
b. i hope ur friend fucks ur ex gf
c. ur in highschool LOL
lol
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