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Poll: What should i do?
(Vote): Fuck it, find myself another girl.
(Vote): Turn emo to gain pity.
(Vote): Get back with her and hope everything is normal once again.
(Vote): Forget about her and fuck both of them.
(Vote): Go die.
First things first, when it comes to relationships, I'm a total fucktard. Honestly, every relationship i get into, the pattern goes like:
(1) Meeting girl
(2) Sweet talking
(3) Alot of MSN convos
(4) Go out
(5) Cheers!
(6) Break up after 2 weeks
I'm a decent looking guy...introverted and studious 8) ugh and i totally explode in a relationship and am always the one who breaks hearts. But whatever past is in the past and there's really nothing to do about it except FUCKING LEARN, which i can't seem to FUCKING DO. FUCK!
The issue at hand here is that I've been going out with a girl for 3 months now...well...i was going out with her. I gotta say, this girl makes me feel so different from all the previous ones that i had. We just...get along so damn well it's unbelievable. So then she's in grade 12 and I'm a first year living with my dormmate. About a week ago, i fucking broke up with her..why? I honestly have no fucking clue what the fuck i was doing.
My dormmate (call him Mr.X) and I are sort of like..the flirty type of guys up to no good. So he helped me stage the setting for me to break up...and basically we came up with the plan that I always hang out with another girl. On the same night, Mr.X was having a convo with my ex- (Ms. Y), and everything went according to plan..and i told her, half-dizzyly, that my feeling for her has died (which is not true), so she told me it was over and told me to have a nice life. Oh man, this line just completely blew me away. My old self would just shrug this off and pretend no shit has happened. But for the rest of the week I've been tormented by this line. Then I realized something...i really really love her..and want to spend my life with her.
So then, I asked her to give me another chance (telling her i miss her and she means the whole world to me, which is goddamn true as hell). She replies: "I need some time to think it over." (Which i assume to be the answer "no you wont get a chance.", opinions guys?)
HOW-FUCKING-EVER, I found out that Mr.X, using my sherlock holmes skills, that this son of a gun has been talking to Ms.Y ALOTLOTLOT on msn, and even SKYPED. They even talked on the phone until it literally exploded (and the phone bill as well). She would hide in the school bathroom JUST TO HAVE A PHONE CONVO with him. So i naturally wtf'ed. But Mr.X has a gf TOO! (altho he said he doesnt really like her).
So tonight will be the night where everything will be revealed. Ms.Y said to me that I have to be online cuz apparently she will make her final decision tonight O_O
Btw i suspect something is going on between X and Y... there's no fucking way a girl would go over her phone bill to talk to a guy she barely knows.
Here is my breakdown of what will happen tonight and in the near future:
(1) She gets back with me, and talk alot to him (makes me jealous), possibility of cheating???
(2) She gets back with me, Mr.X stays together with his gf
(3) She gets back with me, Mr.X breaks up with his gf. Possibility of cheating again between X and Y.
(4) She doesnt get back with me, Mr.X stays with his gf.
(5) She doesnt get back with me, Mr.X breaks up with his gf and go out with Ms.Y to confirm my suspicions.
Sigh, i really love this girl and i don't want to lose her.. ;'( so...guys...any suggestions or insights on the situation? and what should i do?
 
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They probably want to make u jealous and im more convencied of this if ur Mr X friend knows u still really love her.
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On September 22 2009 04:12 ffswowsucks wrote:
They probably want to make u jealous and im more convencied of this if ur Mr X friend knows u still really love her.
Yes he does know that I really love her. But the problem is...are they both in on this? or just Ms.Y?
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I get that feeling that you already know what you should do and should have done. Not sure what you can do before she gives you an answer, but if she says yes you better run with it.
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You shouldnt have included ''go die'' option, guess what will win?
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On September 22 2009 04:16 Jakalo wrote:
You shouldnt have included ''go die'' option, guess what will win?
Thinking the same thing... + Show Spoiler +I'm waitin' on you... It'd be a pleasure
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"fuck it, find yourself another girl"
fo sho, dont get oneitis
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you guys are so inconsiderate ;(
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Get another girl man. Don't get that disease, what's it called again ... oh onegina ... yea :/
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You made your bed, now sleep in it.
Three months and you feel like you want to spend the rest of your life with her? Are you serious? ...
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You'll never win her back acting like a remorseful puppy begging for a treat. Live strong and let her know the option is still there, but let her make the choice: you or him. At this point its all you can do. If she takes you back out of pity she will cheat or dump you anyway, so yeah...
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Calgary25990 Posts
[13:55] @Kennigit[Out]> i was walking down the street
[13:55] @zatic> speaking of girls
[13:55] @Kennigit[Out]> and was eating ice cream
[13:55] @Kennigit[Out]> but i got bored of it
[13:55] @Kennigit[Out]> so i threw it on the ground
[13:55] @Kennigit[Out]> then i realzied something
[13:55] @Kennigit[Out]> i really like ice cream
[13:56] @Kennigit[Out]> what should i do?
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Just remember what girls look like on the inside.
My advice to you is to PM Falcynn about a lifestyle change.
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Dude... you already blew it. Maybe this time you can actually learn something?
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On September 22 2009 05:25 Chill wrote:
[13:55] @Kennigit[Out]> i was walking down the street
[13:55] @zatic> speaking of girls
[13:55] @Kennigit[Out]> and was eating ice cream
[13:55] @Kennigit[Out]> but i got bored of it
[13:55] @Kennigit[Out]> so i threw it on the ground
[13:55] @Kennigit[Out]> then i realzied something
[13:55] @Kennigit[Out]> i really like ice cream
[13:56] @Kennigit[Out]> what should i do?
Very fitting...
You get no sympathy for me, mr maestro.
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You realized you really loved her. Then you saw Mr. X and her talking constantly.
You sure you didn't mix up the order?
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You are an idiot. You fucked up. Now you are paying the price. Hopefully you wont be such an idiot in the future. Learn from your mistakes.
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break it off. She sounds like she's already emotionally cheating on you what with skype/msn many hours, and you've already fucked around with her feelings by dumping her for no reason. If you dont know why you're repeating that pattern with relationships, check yourself into therapy before you fuck up another relationship.
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Katowice25012 Posts
You don't love her. You're mad she just totally owned you.
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EPIC DRAMA ON THE INTERNET
Seriously that decision she's going to make sounds like the Bachelorette show.
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She can't be cheating, she was dumped and without any genuine reason for doing so.
I can understand indecision and unsurety when it comes to relationships but planning strategy with your friend about how to dump her... Like it was a game? That's completely immature.
Lesson to be learned here is: if you casually fuck around with people's feelings, eventually you'll do it to someone you genuinely care for and you'll fuck yourself over.
Solution?
If you have a problem in a relationship, discuss it with your partner.
No one is perfect and very few people know exactly what they want 100% of the time, if there comes a point where you're dating someone and you're not sure about your feelings, whether you're doing the right thing or whether you're ready for commitment then try to understand why and at least attempt to talk about it with them before deciding that the only way to solve the problem is to break up.
Another thing and sometimes an important one.
Close friends aren't always the best people to talk to when you have a relationship problem.
Sure, they might know you better than a lot of other people but that in itself means they're less likely to give you impartial and unbiased advice.
You don't normally talk to your friends much about a relationship that's going extremely well or one where everything is working out because you don't need advice when everything's good and "Hey guys! My relationship is fine" is generally a topic unworthy of discussion.
But if you have a problem with your girlfriend, you're more likely to talk about that with your friends.
Taking into account that they're hearing about all the faults and not much of the good stuff, you need to consider seriously the advice they give.
Can you understand how talking this over with your flirty-up-to-no-good friend instead of talking properly to the girl beforehand helped to contribute to the situation you're now in?
You fell into a pattern of treating girls as something good for a short period of time but ultimately, they were all discardable if you felt bored or uncertain. You've done the same thing this time out of habit and now you're either regretful because you have genuine feelings for her or it's a case of something territorial because there's a chance that the girl you dumped will be taken by someone else.
Work out which one it is before you decide what to do next.
If you do care for her, talk to her and tell her that. Explain your feelings, if you think you made a mistake then explain it and tell her why. If things work out well, she'll understand and you'll get another chance. If things don't work out well, then hopefully you'll learn not to do the same thing again in the future.
If your concern is mainly that you dumped her and now there's a chance your friend will date her then you need to distance yourself from both of them. If you dump someone, you don't get a say in what they do afterwards or who they do it with.
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Korea (South)17174 Posts
a. ur a faggot
b. i hope ur friend fucks ur ex gf
c. ur in highschool LOL
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On September 22 2009 07:11 Rekrul wrote:
a. ur a faggot
b. i hope ur friend fucks ur ex gf
c. ur in highschool LOL
harsh ... but makes sense ...
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you know what...
you guys are absolutely right. I'm a faggot and I don't deserve another chance. Fuck, I blew it, I should seriously learn to grow the fuck up =/ thanks for all your opinions and advice.
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sometimes when you dump someone you get this surge of "maybe it could have worked out" feeling and you want to call them up to try again, regardless of what you actually felt during the relationship
in this case it just sounds like a case of hormones out of control plus your own insecurity regarding your roommate and such
thing about it is that she's probably confused and hurt and looking to talk to your roommate about insights as to what you're thinking - he might be trying to use this as an opportunity to get with her, but she might just be looking to get a handle on the situation and/or sympathetic shoulder, and there's a good chance she won't want to date your roommate just because he's associated with you
(not that girls don't fuck guys when they're feeling sad about breakups, but that these things hardly last and are petty/shallow attempts at revenge)
last thing is that your ex gf is probably doing this shit to make you jealous; girls are especially good at doing these kinds of things even unconsciously, so if you say anything expect her to deny it or not know what you're talking about
but in the end if she's pulling this kind of shit deliberately then she's not mature enough to have a relationship, end of story
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The best thing to do is meet like 3-4 girls and wait for them to come to you. Girls either like you as more than friends or they dont.. They do not play mind games like us in that sense. For example we will plan shit out and think it over when we meet a girl we really like. IF a girl meets someone she really actually likes she will make sure that she is with him asap. There is nothing you can do but be nice and be friends or just ignore her until she comes back to you (if she likes you). Any other situation is awkward because going back to friends after a relationship does NOT fucking work.
Just chill out and wait to see what happens, there is not much you can actively do to get her back unless you want to waste all your time and energy in something thats useless. Go study man, its more important.
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On September 22 2009 07:11 Rekrul wrote:
a. ur a faggot
b. i hope ur friend fucks ur ex gf
c. ur in highschool LOL
Lol at least he doesnt order his GFs
fuckin BURN.
edit: expecting some witty well thought out diss towards me or a one liner. or nothin haha :D
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On September 22 2009 07:11 Rekrul wrote:
a. ur a faggot
b. i hope ur friend fucks ur ex gf
c. ur in highschool LOL
lol
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