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rOse_PedaL
Korea (South)450 Posts
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Angel_
United States1617 Posts
- <3 - tell her yourself next time. | ||
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r.Evo
Germany14079 Posts
Don't just tell a girl that you like her. Don't try to convince her that you're awesome. Build yourself into an awesome person and do with her what couples do. Go out, have fun, connect with each other. The major difference between a couple and friends is that they're intimate. While you do the above, don't be afraid to touch her, be flirty and sexual. | ||
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Silvertine
United States509 Posts
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JingleHell
United States11308 Posts
Just be yourself, be confident in that, and ask her out. Be direct and up front about it. Works great. Mind you, 95% of the time, if you miss your shot with a girl, you've missed it. So keep this in mind for next time. And the word "love" is dangerous early on. A good trick is to let her say it first or wait until she's trying to get you to say it. If you say it before she wants to hear it, it's over and done with. | ||
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OpticalShot
Canada6330 Posts
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r.Evo
Germany14079 Posts
On April 27 2012 10:09 JingleHell wrote: Confidence is key. I'm an arrogant asshole, but I still managed to find myself a keeper, marry her, and have a kid. The secret is to not try too hard to seem nice. Come off how you come off. If she's willing to spend time around you or talk to you, she already doesn't hate you. From there, what she needs is reasons you're better to have around than other guys. That means personality, which means not a yes-man, and not a complete Mr Nice Guy. Just be yourself, be confident in that, and ask her out. Be direct and up front about it. Works great. Mind you, 95% of the time, if you miss your shot with a girl, you've missed it. So keep this in mind for next time. And the word "love" is dangerous early on. A good trick is to let her say it first or wait until she's trying to get you to say it. If you say it before she wants to hear it, it's over and done with. While I dislike stating "just be yourself" (because most people get it wrong, not because it's a bad advice per se) and I also believe the quote for second shots is higher than that if you know what you're doing... the part about "love" is short but just plain great and important. What works great (if aiming for a relationship) is to just not talk about it. Do stuff, walk around, go out, have sex, just DO what couples do. Sooner or later she will be the one starting a conversation around the likes of "Uhm... hey... uhm... what is this exactly between us?" - No need to force down her throat that you want to marry her and make a least 20 kids with her the day you met her. And if you have the urge to do so, all it does is show that you're scared of losing something you never posessed and never will. The last part should be a clue to become more self-sufficient. | ||
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JingleHell
United States11308 Posts
On April 27 2012 10:16 r.Evo wrote: While I dislike stating "just be yourself" (because most people get it wrong, not because it's a bad advice per se) and I also believe the quote for second shots is higher than that if you know what you're doing... the part about "love" is short but just plain great and important. What works great (if aiming for a relationship) is to just not talk about it. Do stuff, walk around, go out, have sex, just DO what couples do. Sooner or later she will be the one starting a conversation around the likes of "Uhm... hey... uhm... what is this exactly between us?" - No need to force down her throat that you want to marry her and make a least 20 kids with her the day you met her. And if you have the urge to do so, all it does is show that you're scared of losing something you never posessed and never will. The last part should be a clue to become more self-sufficient. Sure, it's a blanket statement, but for the average girl blogger, it's accurate enough. Besides, it's a pretty obvious made up statistic to impart gravity. And yeah, "just be yourself" is probably about as good of advice as telling a Bronze to play better. Sorry. So instead of that: Treat her like one of the guys. If you treat her like she's made of glass and worship the ground she walks on, it screams needy. Needy=Bad. | ||
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3FFA
United States3931 Posts
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Erasme
Bahamas15899 Posts
That would be stupid. Unless you did the same as Kelso. You should probably try to kiss her, never trust girl's girlfriend. If it doesn't work, act as you were crazy and that was your last try. Where is cmen ? | ||
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Scarecrow
Korea (South)9172 Posts
^ Kissing her out of the blue is a terrible idea, at least ask her out for a coffee/movie/dinner first. Probably too late either way now, just hang out and be friends and go that route if you're still super keen. | ||
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rOse_PedaL
Korea (South)450 Posts
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Synwave
United States2803 Posts
On April 27 2012 13:40 rOse_PedaL wrote: Problem is now between us it's SO awkward we can get an Hi and that's it say "Hi, we should go to the park this weekend" or whatever is normal for you two to do as friends It mainly gets awkward when you stop at the "Hi..." part. Plus just going forward shows confidence and that is never a bad thing. | ||
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slytown
Korea (South)1411 Posts
On April 27 2012 14:53 Synwave wrote: say "Hi, we should go to the park this weekend" or whatever is normal for you two to do as friends It mainly gets awkward when you stop at the "Hi..." part. Plus just going forward shows confidence and that is never a bad thing. Parks are for stabbings and cheap sexual encounters. Hardly a good place to go for a first date with someone you like.  Edit: Anyway, you "told her you liked her"? I don't understand. Ask a girl on a date or for a cup of coffee, just to hang out and chat. Walking up to someone and saying "I like you" is weird and only happens in Jim Jarmusch movies. | ||
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sluggaslamoo
Australia4494 Posts
On April 27 2012 13:40 rOse_PedaL wrote: Problem is now between us it's SO awkward we can get an Hi and that's it Just saying "hey whatsup" probably won't work because you've tried that and the convo ends there haha, you will need to get a few sentences out before you stop getting the shakes, and can suddenly talk to her normally again. Don't worry about saying the wrong thing, say anything, because once you get the ball rolling it becomes much easier to talk to her again. Here ill give you some examples. This is in school right? When you get up off your chair and the teacher gives you homework go You: "Ahhh I hate homework! cant stand it!" Reaction 1 She *smiles You: What are you looking at  You: Anyway I'm gonna go grab a sandwich for lunch wanna come? Reaction 2 She says "Yeah, i got so much homework  "You: "Yeah our teacher gives us so much, ah man I just wanna go out. hey that reminds me I'm going out today/tomorrow/weekend" Her: Really? You: Yeah wanna come? Plan a meet with your friends Reaction 3 Her: "Yeah I'm gonna have to go home and study hard, but I love this subject so" You: "but hey you are working on X right? I know a bit about that maybe we can help each other out?" I'm not saying you should exactly mimic what I wrote, because when you are nervous that will be hard. Main thing though is that when you are in this state of mind, you end up in paralysis and think stupid things and I'm trying to give you examples to get your mind out of that paralysis. Go talk to other girls even if you don't like them (actually its better if you aren't attracted to them), talk about some stupid thing you or your friend did, or some interesting thing you did on the weekend, that will ease your mind too, and then you can talk about the exact same thing with her. If you focus on that one girl, you will get nervous about failure and that causes the paralysis. When in fact, its really hard to fail and you could get away with saying anything. Think of the positives, at least you didn't punch her in the face. Also make sure that whatever you do you are in a state of mind where you can talk without being nervous, I'm telling you if you are like this, it will be almost impossible. When you talk to your friends, do you get nervous about saying the wrong thing? No! So you should be in the same state of mind when you wanna talk to her. Maybe carry something with you that you can do with your hands, or have a talking point, carry a book, wear something that stands out, whatever. Just plain going hey will be really difficult if you have some nervousness, without a really really obvious talking point. Also who cares if she likes someone else, you can get her to like you. Hell you can get a girl to sleep with you, even if she likes someone else because she's too scared to approach that other guy, and the other guy is too scared to get the ball rolling with her. *hint Main thing is to just not give a damn, always tell yourself, "this is no big deal". Because once you start giving a damn, that's when it gets hard to talk. Remember, its - no - big - deal. EDIT: Oh and if you are in the same class with her, and there is a group assignment even if its a pair, try and create situations where you will be in her group, sit next to her, whatever. If you are good at the subject, she will be happy for you to just get up and sit next to her for the group (just make sure you do it confidently like you don't give a shit, if you do it nervously, she will feel it and become apprehensive). Makes it really easy to talk to her then. Good luck! | ||
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J.E.G.
United States389 Posts
Same thing for girls... it takes practice. don't get discouraged if she zones you... it happens to everyone at one point or another. just remember that those emotions you feel about it are just chemical reactions in your brain that don't actually mean anything. emotions aside, dating is just like starcraft, or playing an instrument, or welding, or whatever. practice makes perfect, and your bound to fuck it up a few times before you figure out. Don't worry so much and just go for it brah | ||
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Flyingsnow
Japan208 Posts
"Be yourself" is too vague in my opinion as you and whoever gives said advice probably have a different understanding of what that means. Rather, I would say be comfortable with yourself. This means that you can express yourself and what kind of person you are without having to rely on any gimmicks. You can "show" her what kind of person you are and that you're interested in her. This also however, entails that you should not fear rejection. If you can clearly express what kind of person you are and she still says no then she isn't worth the time. Just have fun, hangout, flirt and she'll see what kind of person you are. Don't overthink and over plan. Do things because you want to and not because you feel you have to. Lastly, if you're interested in someone, usually its not necessary to tell them like that so early. It's like dropping a giant weight in someone's hands and expecting them to be okay with it. Confidence. Which I feel, at least for myself, is something that one has to develop but is the key having a more interesting life. | ||
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Servius_Fulvius
United States947 Posts
On April 27 2012 09:34 rOse_PedaL wrote: Hello, Hello! This is rOse and i am here with not a complaint or a blog that i am mad about for losing in Starcraft2 This is indeed a girl blog, for which of TL enjoys. It all started 2 months ago in school. I liked this girl named Felicity ( @day9) She is very pretty and smart. I liked her for 2 months but it was only last week whereas i decided to tell her. Well I told my friend which told another friend which then told thy Felicity i was there beside him. I was scared of all the rejection that i was going to receive. but I didn't get rejected. I got Type 4 Girled. For all of those who don't know I classify girls by types Type 1 is the girl that says yes Type 2 is the girl that says no Type 3 is the girl that zones you Type 4 is the most complicated one, the girl that shall never tell you the answer between you and the girl. So I got type 4zoned it turned out ( according to her friends ) that she likes someone else. I don't know if this is the truth but I felt jealous? anger? but i decided to keep to myself. Today at school we sought eye contact I felt a feeling. Then it hit me ( CANT TELL IF LIKES ME OR SHE ACCIDENTALLY LOOKED AT MY EYE ) so felicity and I are neutrally acquainted. Last week I was friends ( i guess ) with her. Then i told her. GG NO RE. Friendship to love is a very risky move To all you TL nerds take notes. TL:DR+ Show Spoiler + jkjk you have to read the whole thing. But really all I can think of is this song ( or these ) Thanks for reading What shall i Do? Shall i give up or Shall i continue Take note that I am Asian and she is Caucasian Really no difference but i needed to throw that out So Felicity what now..? I think your primary problem is that you're dating Day9's on-again off-again girlfriend. She's dated the guy like what, 10 times in the last decade? Forget 'sloppy seconds', that's like, really nasty fourteenths. Seriously, would you trust a girl who kisses Day9 while watching a brutal death scene (a la Passion of the Christ)? Or solicit phone sex on Craigslist? Hell to the no! Forget this girl because Day9 clearly aint quitting her any time soon. + Show Spoiler + If I'm reading this correctly, you played Chinese telephone starting with the phrase "I've liked Felicity for two months". The problem here is that you let her friends tell her first. Usually with a confession of feelings there's some sort of request like "Will you be my girlfriend?" or "Will you go on a date with me?". The preferable question is "Do you want to X on Y at Z" where X = activity and location, Y = day, and Z = time. A date is very low commitment. Usually when you like someone they don't share the feelings and grow into it through a series of dates. However, the bombshell known as "I like you" carries with it a certain amount of expectations far beyond a Saturday night date. But hey, at least you manned up and told her. It sounds like she said no (at least that's my interpretation of "GG NO RE"). "NO RE" means that you move on and hit the "Find Match" button again. Oh, and your Type 1 through 4 girl gives a black and white arena that is, by nature, gray. Spend less time figuring people out (this is an impossible endeavor) and spend more time building a friendship and asking her out. | ||
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rOse_PedaL
Korea (South)450 Posts
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