TL - Quit smoking team! - Page 18

On May 31 2011 07:32 Spekulatius wrote:
If you wanna get addicted, keep going for some time. And do it regularly, like after each meal. Or when stressed. Or after shopping. Have one with your coffee.

On May 31 2011 04:45 AutomatonOmega wrote:
Grats to everyone who's been successfully quitting.

I'm one of the 2 people in the known universe that made it past the age of 30 without having ever actually touched a cigarette to his lips.

Shit's gross man.

Although, I've taken in enough second-hand smoke to drop a mastodon.

On June 23 2010 15:14 CatZ.root wrote:
<4 days without smoking, how do i join tl quit smoking team?

On May 31 2011 10:50 Probulous wrote:
Alright, this may be a little

I don't smoke. Never have, never will. Completely personal decision.

However, my best mate has been a longtime smoker, and goes through about a pack a day. He insists that he does it because he wants to. He admits he is addicted and has resigned himself to having a shorter life span, with a lower quality of life. In short he has no incentive to stop.

This leaves me in the following position. I am acutely aware of the damage smoking is doing to him. I am also aware that he would feel better without cigarettes. I really want him to stop, he is an amazing person and I believe his addiction is hurting him. If I had to guess, his belief that he cannot quit is affecting his self-belief with other aspects of his life. Or to put it differently, he would have more confidence if he quit. I am not going to write an essay as to why I think that is the case, suffice it to say that this is what I believe to be true.

So what do I do?

My original response when he started smoking was to get up in face about it. That was 9 years ago. It clearly didn't work. So I gave up trying to make him stop, it was a choice between the friendship and accepting he wanted to smoke. No choice there.

I want him to quit for his own sake but I everytime I raise the issue he gets shitty. He obviously wants to keep smoking and I know telling him to stop is counter-productive. He is also fully aware of the consequences of smoking.

It is frustrating and seriously disappointing to see him throw away his health. There just doesn't seem to be anything I can do.

Sorry for the wall of text, but this is a complicated situation. The information about Carr's book looks good, maybe I'll drop him a copy.

Thanks TL

Edit: Maybe PM if this is too off topic.

On May 31 2011 10:50 Probulous wrote:
Alright, this may be a little

I don't smoke. Never have, never will. Completely personal decision.

However, my best mate has been a longtime smoker, and goes through about a pack a day. He insists that he does it because he wants to. He admits he is addicted and has resigned himself to having a shorter life span, with a lower quality of life. In short he has no incentive to stop.

This leaves me in the following position. I am acutely aware of the damage smoking is doing to him. I am also aware that he would feel better without cigarettes. I really want him to stop, he is an amazing person and I believe his addiction is hurting him. If I had to guess, his belief that he cannot quit is affecting his self-belief with other aspects of his life. Or to put it differently, he would have more confidence if he quit. I am not going to write an essay as to why I think that is the case, suffice it to say that this is what I believe to be true.

So what do I do?

My original response when he started smoking was to get up in face about it. That was 9 years ago. It clearly didn't work. So I gave up trying to make him stop, it was a choice between the friendship and accepting he wanted to smoke. No choice there.

I want him to quit for his own sake but I everytime I raise the issue he gets shitty. He obviously wants to keep smoking and I know telling him to stop is counter-productive. He is also fully aware of the consequences of smoking.

It is frustrating and seriously disappointing to see him throw away his health. There just doesn't seem to be anything I can do.

Sorry for the wall of text, but this is a complicated situation. The information about Carr's book looks good, maybe I'll drop him a copy.

Thanks TL

Edit: Maybe PM if this is too off topic.

On May 31 2011 10:50 Probulous wrote:
Alright, this may be a little

I don't smoke. Never have, never will. Completely personal decision.

However, my best mate has been a longtime smoker, and goes through about a pack a day. He insists that he does it because he wants to. He admits he is addicted and has resigned himself to having a shorter life span, with a lower quality of life. In short he has no incentive to stop.

This leaves me in the following position. I am acutely aware of the damage smoking is doing to him. I am also aware that he would feel better without cigarettes. I really want him to stop, he is an amazing person and I believe his addiction is hurting him. If I had to guess, his belief that he cannot quit is affecting his self-belief with other aspects of his life. Or to put it differently, he would have more confidence if he quit. I am not going to write an essay as to why I think that is the case, suffice it to say that this is what I believe to be true.

So what do I do?

My original response when he started smoking was to get up in face about it. That was 9 years ago. It clearly didn't work. So I gave up trying to make him stop, it was a choice between the friendship and accepting he wanted to smoke. No choice there.

I want him to quit for his own sake but I everytime I raise the issue he gets shitty. He obviously wants to keep smoking and I know telling him to stop is counter-productive. He is also fully aware of the consequences of smoking.

It is frustrating and seriously disappointing to see him throw away his health. There just doesn't seem to be anything I can do.

Sorry for the wall of text, but this is a complicated situation. The information about Carr's book looks good, maybe I'll drop him a copy.

Thanks TL

Edit: Maybe PM if this is too off topic.