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On May 30 2014 02:33 gruff wrote:Show nested quote +On May 30 2014 02:26 barbsq wrote:On May 30 2014 02:09 Rho_ wrote:On May 30 2014 02:01 Plansix wrote:On May 30 2014 01:54 Falling wrote:majority of the people don't exactly know that we are, fundamentally all "PUA"s. Unless your definition of PUA is radically different then mine, then that is quite some projection of your values on the whole of humanity. But I think this thread has derailed far enough. Back on topic *cracks whip. All right, we will keep our comic stylings I check. Apparently CA is now trying to draft a law for a gun restraining order to allow families to remove fire arms from the possession of troubled loved ones. That seems the most sensible solution I've heard in a while. Do you have a link with details? Do the police take care of removing the firearms? That does seem like an ok idea. that actually does make a lot of sense to me as well. This way, it's not a situation of 'oh noes, big bad gov't is taking away my guns', and it also makes sense that families would be most fit to make the judgement of whether or not someone should own a gun. The biggest problem with gun laws that I've had is that general government bans simply A) don't work very well, and B) don't really address the fact that it's people killing each other, not guns killing people. I could def get behind a policy where family members and loved ones can, i guess, basically petition to have firearms removed from an individual if they feel as though the individual poses a threat. It would also makes the whole process more focused, which I like. Not all would be in such a position to have a caring family though. true. But it would help some people, and do so without affecting the rest of the population. Also, I don't think creating a policy to take care of all individuals and all situations is productive.
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On May 30 2014 02:38 barbsq wrote:Show nested quote +On May 30 2014 02:33 gruff wrote:On May 30 2014 02:26 barbsq wrote:On May 30 2014 02:09 Rho_ wrote:On May 30 2014 02:01 Plansix wrote:On May 30 2014 01:54 Falling wrote:majority of the people don't exactly know that we are, fundamentally all "PUA"s. Unless your definition of PUA is radically different then mine, then that is quite some projection of your values on the whole of humanity. But I think this thread has derailed far enough. Back on topic *cracks whip. All right, we will keep our comic stylings I check. Apparently CA is now trying to draft a law for a gun restraining order to allow families to remove fire arms from the possession of troubled loved ones. That seems the most sensible solution I've heard in a while. Do you have a link with details? Do the police take care of removing the firearms? That does seem like an ok idea. that actually does make a lot of sense to me as well. This way, it's not a situation of 'oh noes, big bad gov't is taking away my guns', and it also makes sense that families would be most fit to make the judgement of whether or not someone should own a gun. The biggest problem with gun laws that I've had is that general government bans simply A) don't work very well, and B) don't really address the fact that it's people killing each other, not guns killing people. I could def get behind a policy where family members and loved ones can, i guess, basically petition to have firearms removed from an individual if they feel as though the individual poses a threat. It would also makes the whole process more focused, which I like. Not all would be in such a position to have a caring family though. true. But it would help some people, and do so without affecting the rest of the population. Also, I don't think creating a policy to take care of all individuals and all situations is productive. Yes and rather than creating some weird blanket law, this involves human interaction and decision making. It doesn't increase existing gun law, but makes a system where someone's gun license can be revoked if they display dangerous behaviors. It seems like a very targeted law.
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his shrink must've been a dick; leading him on just to squeeze out a book or to have some psychiatric crap published.
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If someone is unstable enough that people are afraid they are going to hurt someone with their guns, taking away their guns is probably just the first thing we should be doing. Like many people said there are other avenues for violence and these people need help.
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On May 30 2014 02:20 Cynry wrote:Wow, I studied that a long time ago, but let me try. All book long, the main character tries to get in "bourgeoisie", which was the class under nobles, basically rich people with their silly manners (at that time). So all he does is try to emulate said manners, getting advice from "experts" of all kind. But in the end, all he does is making these experts a bit richer. He's getting fooled, and that was all I said  Now, to further expand on that and PUA (can't believe I got dragged in talking about that..), I would think that the same thing is happening in some form. PUA moslty profits those who sell stuff about it. Those who achieve "girls" (I haaaaate that way of seeing stuff but whatever) are most likely just a bit more confident than they would be without PUA techniques, and that can be the difference between actually trying and seeing you as a loser from the start. That's just my point of view, of course, and I don't know much about PUA. Nor do I want to, I achieved a good level of confidence for my own sake, not to pick up girls. Edit : actually, he was a bourgeois trying to become a noble. Same stuff, different class, irrelevant.
I would take this concept further. Le Bourgeois Gentilhomme was an aristocratic satire (Moliere wrote for a court audience) of the socially ambitious bourgeoisie. Monsieur Jourdan was a bourgeois who attempted to ape aristocratic tastes and manners and made a fool of himself, because he was attempting to acquire by education what was naturally acquired by birth. Written in a different social context, Monsieur Jourdan would have been a lampoon of the emancipated Jew.
The situation of a base figure pretending to be higher than his nature is not only the essence of this comedy; it is the essence of all comedy. However, for the comedy to work, that figure must not only be base, he must be unaware of his baseness. What makes the character of Monsieur Jourdan work is his obliviousness.
When that character loses his obliviousness, and realises his baseness, the pathos of the play is transformed from the comic to the tragic. The response of the audience turns from laughter to hushed sympathy at the plight of pride brought low. Shakespeare's Timon of Athens is such an example of this.
When I first saw Rodger's youtube videos, I thought he was ridiculous as well; a puffed up loser. Reading his manifesto though, I became aware of his awareness, and the figure doesn't quite seem so funny anymore.
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On May 30 2014 03:28 MoltkeWarding wrote:Show nested quote +On May 30 2014 02:20 Cynry wrote:Wow, I studied that a long time ago, but let me try. All book long, the main character tries to get in "bourgeoisie", which was the class under nobles, basically rich people with their silly manners (at that time). So all he does is try to emulate said manners, getting advice from "experts" of all kind. But in the end, all he does is making these experts a bit richer. He's getting fooled, and that was all I said  Now, to further expand on that and PUA (can't believe I got dragged in talking about that..), I would think that the same thing is happening in some form. PUA moslty profits those who sell stuff about it. Those who achieve "girls" (I haaaaate that way of seeing stuff but whatever) are most likely just a bit more confident than they would be without PUA techniques, and that can be the difference between actually trying and seeing you as a loser from the start. That's just my point of view, of course, and I don't know much about PUA. Nor do I want to, I achieved a good level of confidence for my own sake, not to pick up girls. Edit : actually, he was a bourgeois trying to become a noble. Same stuff, different class, irrelevant. I would take this concept further. Le Bourgeois Gentilhomme was an aristocratic satire (Moliere wrote for a court audience) of the socially ambitious bourgeoisie. Monsieur Jourdan was a bourgeois who attempted to ape aristocratic tastes and manners and made a fool of himself, because he was attempting to acquire by education what was naturally acquired by birth. Written in a different social context, Monsieur Jourdan would have been a lampoon of the emancipated Jew. The situation of a base figure pretending to be higher than his nature is not only the essence of this comedy; it is the essence of all comedy. However, for the comedy to work, that figure must not only be base, he must be unaware of his baseness. What makes the character of Monsieur Jourdan work is his obliviousness. When that character loses his obliviousness, and realises his baseness, the pathos of the play is transformed from the comic to the tragic. The response of the audience turns from laughter to hushed sympathy at the plight of pride brought low. Shakespeare's Timon of Athens is such an example of this. When I first saw Rodger's youtube videos, I thought he was ridiculous as well; a puffed up loser. Reading his manifesto though, I became aware of his awareness, and the figure doesn't quite seem so funny anymore. Link to manifesto for anyone curious to read it: http://www.scribd.com/doc/225960813/Elliot-Rodger-Santa-Barbara-mass-shooting-suspect-My-Twisted-World-manifesto
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@MoltkeWarding I assume you didn't think I was drawing any parallel between Jourdain and Rodger, because you just did that on your own. Although it wasn't my point, I like where you took that concept, but I never thought of Rodger as funny or ridiculous. Both are vain and capricious, Jourdain wants to get to a better position, Rodger wanted to get out of negative one (being virgin). Not sure there's much more to that though.
About his manifesto, how expanded was his self awareness ? Did he saw what was the issue with girls, which I assume was his attitude ? Did he saw that his reactions to all this and consequent plans were...crazy ?
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There is very little in any of the material Rogers produced that suggests that his self-awareness comes anywhere near that of Timon of Athens or Monsieur Jourdan. Life imitates art both in truth and illusion.
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On May 30 2014 04:21 Cynry wrote: @MoltkeWarding I assume you didn't think I was drawing any parallel between Jourdain and Rodger, because you just did that on your own. Although it wasn't my point, I like where you took that concept, but I never thought of Rodger as funny or ridiculous. Both are vain and capricious, Jourdain wants to get to a better position, Rodger wanted to get out of negative one (being virgin). Not sure there's much more to that though.
About his manifesto, how expanded was his self awareness ? Did he saw what was the issue with girls, which I assume was his attitude ? Did he saw that his reactions to all this and consequent plans were...crazy ?
He made awareness that he was getting love from his mother, stepmother, or any womanly figure in his life. And then he further notices how there were one specific type of guys were getting love from girls that he wasn't getting.
In his YouTube video and manifesto, it was a constant theme for him that sort realized that plans were a bit over-the-top but he radically justified on the reason for a such "necessity".
He had this Utopian, communist ideology that men and women are the same that he wanted to create and was hoping that this act could make it more "positive" for the society.
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On May 30 2014 04:27 farvacola wrote: There is very little in any of the material Rogers produced that suggests that his self-awareness comes anywhere near that of Timon of Athens or Monsieur Jourdan. Life imitates art both in truth and illusion.
On the contrary, Rodger's writing betrays self-awareness if nothing else. His autobiography is a self-examination even more than a self-justification. If he had not ended his writing with the determination to carry out his rampage, it would be a fact universally acknowledged, but that he ends upon this determination does not negate his search for why he was doing so. He was able to do that with a fairly detached eye.
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Thing is, all that to me is just his "crazy delirium" (lack of better word) going further and deeper. Building some sort of reasoning to justifiy your mindset and acts isn't self awareness. Self awareness would be something like "I am an overall attractive guy, if I can't get girls there's probably something wrong with me that I haven't seen yet". Anything like that in his manifesto ?
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On May 30 2014 05:02 Cynry wrote: Thing is, all that to me is just his "crazy delirium" (lack of better word) going further and deeper. Building some sort of reasoning to justifiy your mindset and acts isn't self awareness. Self awareness would be something like "I am an overall attractive guy, if I can't get girls there's probably something wrong with me that I haven't seen yet". Anything like that in his manifesto ?
It was mentioned numerous of time that he finds differences between him and the guys that were getting girls. I don't specific remember if he mentioned anything specific regarding it but it was a direct quote that he considered them to be "brutes". And to elucidate, he is probably referring to those "frat boys".
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On May 30 2014 05:02 Cynry wrote: Thing is, all that to me is just his "crazy delirium" (lack of better word) going further and deeper. Building some sort of reasoning to justifiy your mindset and acts isn't self awareness. Self awareness would be something like "I am an overall attractive guy, if I can't get girls there's probably something wrong with me that I haven't seen yet". Anything like that in his manifesto ?
I do not see how that question is demonstrably different from what he pursued in his memoirs. The question is merely seeking answers, which he did. The existence of the question does not imply however the existence of an answer. When the existence of an answer is presumed, that leads to rationalisation.
We are also dealing with a festering depression which no amount of rationalisation would mend, lest that rationalisation could be proven useful as well as logical. You could contemplate your sadness all you want, but that does not necessarily deprive you of your sadness.
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I don't think you can say he was self aware, except perhaps in the last few moments of his life. I also reject the notion of this murderer as a comic/tragic figure.
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On May 30 2014 05:13 MoltkeWarding wrote:Show nested quote +On May 30 2014 05:02 Cynry wrote: Thing is, all that to me is just his "crazy delirium" (lack of better word) going further and deeper. Building some sort of reasoning to justifiy your mindset and acts isn't self awareness. Self awareness would be something like "I am an overall attractive guy, if I can't get girls there's probably something wrong with me that I haven't seen yet". Anything like that in his manifesto ? I do not see how that question is demonstrably different from what he pursued in his memoirs. The question is merely seeking answers, which he did. The existence of the question does not imply however the existence of an answer. When the existence of an answer is presumed, that leads to rationalisation.
I guess my question then is : where was he seeking answers ? Was he putting himself in the victim position, which seems to be the case (that's because of what was done to me, that's because women are dumb and thus reject me etc) or did he ever consider himself to be the problem ?
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This discussion brought me a memory of an old satirical drawing:
A man and a woman sit together by the table: M: Sigh... I wonder... Why on Earth everyone I know hates me? W: Maybe because you're ugly, narcissistic, condescending jerk? M: There must be some other reason...
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Agreed. His life is sad, but most murders lives are in some way. It doesn't make up for the fear and horror he inflicted on the people he killed. He stabbed his roommate to death. He also expressed a desire to kill his 6 year old step brother. Not matter how sad his life was, it doesn't justify the fear and pain he inflicted on his victims.
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On May 30 2014 05:28 Cynry wrote:Show nested quote +On May 30 2014 05:13 MoltkeWarding wrote:On May 30 2014 05:02 Cynry wrote: Thing is, all that to me is just his "crazy delirium" (lack of better word) going further and deeper. Building some sort of reasoning to justifiy your mindset and acts isn't self awareness. Self awareness would be something like "I am an overall attractive guy, if I can't get girls there's probably something wrong with me that I haven't seen yet". Anything like that in his manifesto ? I do not see how that question is demonstrably different from what he pursued in his memoirs. The question is merely seeking answers, which he did. The existence of the question does not imply however the existence of an answer. When the existence of an answer is presumed, that leads to rationalisation. I guess my question then is : where was he seeking answers ? Was he putting himself in the victim position, which seems to be the case (that's because of what was done to me, that's because women are dumb and thus reject me etc) or did he ever consider himself to be the problem ?
Well given the fact that on the last two or three pages of his 'manifesto' he talks about putting all women in concentration camps while he is the lone ruler of the world I don't think he has taken that thought into consideration.
This guy was batshit insane. He may have been lucid enough to understand that he had a pretty rough time in his life, but he clearly needed medical help and should have never had access to firearms.
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On May 30 2014 05:29 Plansix wrote: Agreed. His life is sad, but most murders lives are in some way. It doesn't make up for the fear and horror he inflicted on the people he killed. He stabbed his roommate to death. He also expressed a desire to kill his 6 year old step brother. Not matter how sad his life was, it doesn't justify the fear and pain he inflicted on his victims.
His life wasn't even that sad.
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On May 30 2014 05:37 Rho_ wrote:Show nested quote +On May 30 2014 05:29 Plansix wrote: Agreed. His life is sad, but most murders lives are in some way. It doesn't make up for the fear and horror he inflicted on the people he killed. He stabbed his roommate to death. He also expressed a desire to kill his 6 year old step brother. Not matter how sad his life was, it doesn't justify the fear and pain he inflicted on his victims. His life wasn't even that sad.
From our perspectives, it might not have been, but he felt tortured by his life. No amount of wealth or privilege can do anything about that if you're unhappy with more or less every aspect of your life. I suppose saying that his life was sad doesn't quite capture the full reality of it, but he definitely was.
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