On January 31 2012 20:36 Lennon wrote: I wouldn't. Marriage is for women.
This, I don't ever plan on getting married as there's no real benefit to getting married. There's only negative effects.
I have no plans to ever marry. I had a gf for 2.5 years who begged me to marry her and have children nearly every week. I'm totally in love with her but the time wasnt right. A month ago she dumped me and I'm unsure if she was just tired of waiting or something else happened...idk. She made me promise to never leave her. Fuck marriage.
On February 19 2012 16:50 Mrvoodoochild1 wrote: Hopefully I marry a nerd that appreciates Sc2. So in a dream scenario, I would propose to my wife at an MLG during a match. It would be Idra v MC and when Idra lost, instead of gging he would type "will you marry X" and I would fall to my knee and give her the ring.
On January 31 2012 18:02 Arunu wrote: proposed to my GF last June, we're getting married this June. We've been together for 11 years now (i'm 32) and the time " felt right "
Sank to the knees while we were on a holiday trip to turkey. Was on a pier at the beach after we had dinner in the evening. There was no one around since it was late so the setting was quite nice.
she did not see it comming at all , neither did her parents when i went asking for her hand , old fashioned style.
Was a good day and i'm very much looking forward to it.
On February 19 2012 15:31 Silentness wrote: I proposed to her in broken Korean. It was pretty lame because she couldn't even understand my Korean so I just said fuck it and told her in English.
She's still mad at me after our marriage because she said the proposal was retarded. I kind of agree it wasn't really romantic. I did it at a Korean BBQ joint and I didn't even have a ring. (I'm a broke bastard at the moment)
So now she's using my mom's old ring (my dad bought my mom a new one), but it's too big for her finger. My mom said I could go re-size the ring, but I'm just going to save up and buy her a nice wedding ring later on.
Maybe when I have some moolah I'll surprise her with a nice marriage anniversary party or something.
That's fucking sad man.
lol I'm definitely no Don Juan. She shed a couple tears and said yes. I mean I caught her off surprise and she had to catch her breath because it came out of nowhere. I agree though I'm an asshole.
On January 31 2012 18:46 Nalas wrote: I would definitely be more traditional. I would also never do it in a public forum because, as someone mentioned before, I wouldn't want to add any extra pressure to the situation.
I mean check this guy out:
Oh my God, that guy has got to be scarred for life.
I don't understand the appeal or reasoning for guys to ask in public. Personally I'd do it in private, even if I knew the answer would be a yes. Although everyone who's mentioning trails of petals etc etc, doesn't that just come across as really cheesy?
hahaha T-Mac is like... "I GOT NEXT"
Haha your not an asshole, and I do think your genuine, but Korean bbq? Come on. There exists many better and FREE ways. (Korean BBQ is expensive yo)
I dont know how yet, but what I do know is that, when it's gonna happen, it not gonna be in a standard way for sure, that's the only thing I can say. It aint gonna be some put the ring in her glass of champagne stuff.
So last spring my friend decided to propose to his longtime girlfriend (9 years). He called me and some other friends the day before and told us he would need everyone to participate. He made a 20 meters (70 feet) long banner that said in huge red letters "..., will you marry me". The plan was to get his girlfriend on top of the "bavaria", a huge statue, of which you can climb stairs inside to get on top where there is a small viewpoint inside the statues head. What you see is a huge empty space, where the Oktoberfest usually takes place. However there are always lots and lots of people around and when he got his girlfriend to get up the statue, we rolled out the banner and suddenly hundreds of people started shouting. She looked outside, saw the banner, turned around and there he was on one knee asking the question. She said yes, everyone was happy, we went celebrating, everything was great and then 2 month later she dumped him.
On February 01 2012 10:43 whatthefat wrote: Was in Italy with my girlfriend over summer. Couldn't pass up the opportunity to propose on a gondola in Venice. She cried with happiness, accepted, then told me it was a stupid place to propose because how awkward would the rest of the tour have been had she said no. And that's why she's awesome, haha.
You should have replied "if you said no I would've just pushed you off," and proceed to laugh hysterically.
On a related note, my ideal proposal would be on a balcony, with her and a bottle of wine, enjoying the silence of each other's company. Then I'd casually ask "wanna get married?."
On January 31 2012 20:36 Lennon wrote: I wouldn't. Marriage is for women.
This, I don't ever plan on getting married as there's no real benefit to getting married. There's only negative effects.
I have no plans to ever marry. I had a gf for 2.5 years who begged me to marry her and have children nearly every week. I'm totally in love with her but the time wasnt right. A month ago she dumped me and I'm unsure if she was just tired of waiting or something else happened...idk. She made me promise to never leave her. Fuck marriage.
Hmmm... I think it's definitely acceptable if someone doesn't "believe in marriage" and hence doesn't want to ever get married in their life, but it's gonna be hard as hell to find a woman who will share that.
Most people want to get married eventually, and in the case of women it's even less likely to find one that doesn't care about marriage.
Personally, I do want to get married at some point in my life, but I guess I will know when the time and the person is right. I do expect my marriage to last forever though. I'm used to a "traditional nuclear family", my parents rarely even fight (that I know of, maybe they're really private about it), and as far as I've known they've never thought about separating or divorcing, so I'd like my own marriage to follow on their example.
On January 31 2012 20:42 RedJustice wrote: Probably most women don't think like this, I don't know, but I abhor traditional romantic things. As in, it actually elicits very strong feelings of disgust. Not sure why. There's been a couple of moments in my life that I thought would have been perfect for a proposal. The common denominator for me was nature- something beautiful to look at I guess.
Standing on a roof in the snow looking out over the city. Lying on top of a car looking at the stars in the countryside. Watching a thunderstorm from the 21st floor through floor to ceiling windows. At the beach at 2 am with a full moon.
Anyway, none of that getting down on one knee crap for me. In my perfect world a proposal would be a long period of sitting and enjoying where we were in quiet, and then: "Let's get married." And I'd say "ok" and we'd go home and go to bed happy.
You say you abhor traditional romantic things, yet all the scenarios you list as positive places for a proposal are traditionally romantic things. Any natural place, alone, together; I think most people would find that romantic.
On February 19 2012 21:14 flothere wrote: So last spring my friend decided to propose to his longtime girlfriend (9 years). He called me and some other friends the day before and told us he would need everyone to participate. He made a 20 meters (70 feet) long banner that said in huge red letters "..., will you marry me". The plan was to get his girlfriend on top of the "bavaria", a huge statue, of which you can climb stairs inside to get on top where there is a small viewpoint inside the statues head. What you see is a huge empty space, where the Oktoberfest usually takes place. However there are always lots and lots of people around and when he got his girlfriend to get up the statue, we rolled out the banner and suddenly hundreds of people started shouting. She looked outside, saw the banner, turned around and there he was on one knee asking the question. She said yes, everyone was happy, we went celebrating, everything was great and then 2 month later she dumped him.
Wow what the fuck... he went through all that trouble and she dumped him? I don't know your friend's relationship story, but got damn I hope she wasn't an asshole. No offense...
I've had my fair share of materialistic girlfriends. They fucking sucked. There's nothing worse than a woman that only has dollar signs in her eyes or unrealistic dreams.
On February 20 2012 06:53 jodogohoo wrote: i'd construct a thesis and write a 30 page paper arguing the benefits of marrying me.
You should probably give her just the abstract.
lol.
actuall guys. i tried to ask a girl out on the bus once. i was like, "hey if your possbily interested in a relationship, lets start a relationship." or something like that. and she was like.... "lolwut". then i was like, "trust me, the benefits will outweigh any costs you can think of" then she was like.... "lololololololololol" and yeah it didn't turn out very well for me. but that's because she can't appreciate my anaylsis... which wasn't actually supported by anything. but anywas... yeah.... /ramble
Proposing is a directive of the social programming most people are running in their heads. They should wake up instead of blindly following their directives, there is no need for this. People not understanding this are utterly stupid.
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