Probably most women don't think like this, I don't know, but I abhor traditional romantic things. As in, it actually elicits very strong feelings of disgust. Not sure why. There's been a couple of moments in my life that I thought would have been perfect for a proposal. The common denominator for me was nature- something beautiful to look at I guess.

Standing on a roof in the snow looking out over the city. Lying on top of a car looking at the stars in the countryside. Watching a thunderstorm from the 21st floor through floor to ceiling windows. At the beach at 2 am with a full moon.

Anyway, none of that getting down on one knee crap for me. In my perfect world a proposal would be a long period of sitting and enjoying where we were in quiet, and then: "Let's get married." And I'd say "ok" and we'd go home and go to bed happy.

BlindSC2

United Kingdom435 Posts

January 31 2012 12:05 GMT

#22

On January 31 2012 20:42 RedJustice wrote:
Probably most women don't think like this, I don't know, but I abhor traditional romantic things. As in, it actually elicits very strong feelings of disgust. Not sure why. There's been a couple of moments in my life that I thought would have been perfect for a proposal. The common denominator for me was nature- something beautiful to look at I guess.

Standing on a roof in the snow looking out over the city. Lying on top of a car looking at the stars in the countryside. Watching a thunderstorm from the 21st floor through floor to ceiling windows. At the beach at 2 am with a full moon.

Anyway, none of that getting down on one knee crap for me. In my perfect world a proposal would be a long period of sitting and enjoying where we were in quiet, and then: "Let's get married." And I'd say "ok" and we'd go home and go to bed happy.

Yes, a thousand times yes.

Velr

Switzerland10761 Posts

January 31 2012 12:07 GMT

#23

On January 31 2012 20:36 Lennon wrote:
I wouldn't. Marriage is for women.

This.
If she wants to, she asks and then it's ok (or not).

Thats actually how it "happened" to my father (and my mother

Tobberoth

Sweden6375 Posts

January 31 2012 12:11 GMT

#24

I wish my girlfriend shared your opinion since that's exactly how my proposal was.

My girlfriend was very happy, she has still said we have to do it again in a more spectacular fashion

EvilTeletubby

Baltimore, USA22254 Posts

January 31 2012 12:14 GMT

#25

That only works on nerdy gamer chicks.

Mentalizor

Denmark1596 Posts

January 31 2012 12:15 GMT

#26

On January 31 2012 21:07 Velr wrote:

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This.
If she wants to, she asks and then it's ok (or not).

Are you kidding me? I guess you haven't found the right one then. I'd have no problem marrying my girl. Heck, I've even asked if she's expecting me to propose since we've been together for 6½years. She isn't expecting anything though.

However, I'll wait untill I'm sure I'll get a yes

exog

Norway279 Posts

January 31 2012 12:18 GMT

#27

I did it in a rowing boat on a lake in a park in Berlin

A very strong moment, i even felt an out-of body experience

AmericanUmlaut

Germany2578 Posts

January 31 2012 12:20 GMT

#28

I made a scavenger hunt for my wife; I knocked on the door, and when she opened it there was a chocolate egg with the first clue inside. Each clue led to another clue hidden along the banks of the Rhine (we lived in Bonn at the time) and was somehow related to an experience we'd had together, and the final clue led her to me, with suit and flowers, waiting to propose to her.

It went over very well. She actually just put the egg in the fridge initially, so it could have been a disaster, but then she went looking around the apartment building for me thinking I was hiding somewhere and found the second clue by sheer luck. She didn't find the first clue until we actually got back home after I proposed.

Blardy

United States290 Posts

January 31 2012 12:21 GMT

#29

On January 31 2012 20:36 Lennon wrote:
I wouldn't. Marriage is for women.

This, I don't ever plan on getting married as there's no real benefit to getting married. There's only negative effects.

Bazzyrick

United Kingdom361 Posts

January 31 2012 12:21 GMT

#30

On January 31 2012 18:46 Nalas wrote:
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I would definitely be more traditional. I would also never do it in a public forum because, as someone mentioned before, I wouldn't want to add any extra pressure to the situation.

I mean check this guy out:

Ouch... can't say I feel sorry for him though.
Proposing to a woman at a basketball game? With air horns going off? Bit stupid tbh.
Yea public is out of the question. Relationships are very personal, you both need to be alone for something like this imho.
I also wouldnt want any pressure on her and also, due to me wanting it in a place of natural beauty, you dont want background people noises. Just you, her, the ring and a beautiful setting.

Nesquik

United Kingdom600 Posts

January 31 2012 12:24 GMT

#31

On my death bed. Let's see if she says yes now.

DR.Ham

Netherlands621 Posts

January 31 2012 12:30 GMT

#32

On January 31 2012 21:21 Blardy wrote:

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This, I don't ever plan on getting married as there's no real benefit to getting married. There's only negative effects.

What are the negative effects which don't count for a defacto relationship?

Rannasha

Netherlands2398 Posts

January 31 2012 12:51 GMT

#33

My wife and I just discussed that it would be a good time to get married a few years ago. Makes much more sense than a proposal, where you push a life-changing decision into a spur of the moment thing as the other party has to immediately give an answer (because "i don't know yet" is almost as bad as a "no"). So at some point we just decided it was time.

Of course, before we told that to everyone else, I managed to surprise her by making my WoW character /kneel before hers, open a trade window and traded a ring with flavour text "Will you marry me?" to her (http://www.wowhead.com/item=7340).

CaM27

Belgium392 Posts

January 31 2012 18:07 GMT

#34

At Disney Land, on Space Mountain o.O

NoodleFish

South Africa198 Posts

January 31 2012 18:22 GMT

#35

On January 31 2012 21:51 Rannasha wrote:
My wife and I just discussed that it would be a good time to get married a few years ago. Makes much more sense than a proposal, where you push a life-changing decision into a spur of the moment thing as the other party has to immediately give an answer (because "i don't know yet" is almost as bad as a "no"). So at some point we just decided it was time.

I guess usually when you wanna propose, you should have discussed the possibility with your significant other. You want to at least know where you stand with the person. Just cos she/he knows you plan to marry them one day, doesn't mean she won't be surprised when or how you ask. I hope this thread fills up a bit more, I'm looking for ideas

I really like the scavenger hunt one though

DarkPlasmaBall

United States44561 Posts

January 31 2012 18:26 GMT

#36

On January 31 2012 20:36 Lennon wrote:
I wouldn't. Marriage is for women.

Only for women? How exactly does that work?

Chill

Calgary25981 Posts

January 31 2012 18:28 GMT

#37

Nice try girlfriend. You'll have to do better than that.

Risen

United States7927 Posts

January 31 2012 18:29 GMT

#38

On February 01 2012 03:28 Chill wrote:
Nice try girlfriend. You'll have to do better than that.

For some reason I see this as Chill responding to his girlfriend making the post, and I can't stop laughing hahahaha

RageBot

Israel1530 Posts

January 31 2012 18:32 GMT

#39

On January 31 2012 20:36 Lennon wrote:
I wouldn't. Marriage is for women.

HardlyNever

United States1258 Posts

January 31 2012 18:35 GMT

#40

I decided several years ago that I would want to propose at the fountain in front of the Pantheon in Rome, preferably at night. If you have been there at night, you might understand why.

It has additional meaning with the GF I am with now, but even if it isn't her, I think I'd still like to do it there. It is somewhat public, but you could do it fairly privately, as there are a lot of things going on there at once, you wouldn't necessarily be the center of attention.