On February 01 2012 06:43 forsooth wrote: Divorces can often result in men getting financially buttfucked for decades by the court system. At least in the States.
Please consider that marriage laws in the US are there for a very good reason... to provide security and protection for the woman. If not for these there are many losers out there who would not take it seriously and just marry, get what they want and divorce the next day.
As long as I live in the USA I don't see myself getting married, ever. If a divorce does happen you are just fucked for years, which is bullshit. Soon as I am living in a better country with sane laws then sure, if I love someone enough then we would get married. I am not getting on one knee with a diamond ring that costs too much though.
Mmm I'm not exactly super excited about it, and I'd rather not get married ($_$), but I'm sure I'd change my mind after a while. God knows I'll make a blog here the day it happens though...
Nowadays you have to be so wary of issues with a getting a divorce. I'd probably do my best to be romantic, but only after many, many... many years, to make sure. ^^
On February 01 2012 06:43 forsooth wrote: Divorces can often result in men getting financially buttfucked for decades by the court system. At least in the States.
Please consider that marriage laws in the US are there for a very good reason... to provide security and protection for the woman. If not for these there are many losers out there who would not take it seriously and just marry, get what they want and divorce the next day.
He didn't say he wanted no laws, he just doesn't want to be buttfucked. There's a difference between not protecting women at all, and giving them 99% of the man's wealth at the time, and all the money he'll ever make for the rest of his life. ^^
On February 01 2012 07:42 ElMeanYo wrote: To all you nerds saying 'marriage is for women' and 'i'll never get married', I just have to chuckle. You just haven't met the right one yet. Once you do, it's a no-brainer. All other women become inconsequential and you can't imagine spending your life with anyone else. By the way, if you DONT feel this way about your woman, that is a big red flag.
I proposed to mine on a cruise ship, it was the best night of our lives. If you are ever going to put any effort into a single romantic night in your life, your marriage proposal is it. It is something that you will hear about from your wife long after you have forgotten the details (she won't, trust me), so make it fantastic.
I don't believe one needs to marry to be with someone for the rest of their life. If you're truly going to be together then you shouldn't have to worry about just "dating". The woman shouldn't mind unless she just wants a ring, a wedding and a last name.
I wrote a 5 stanza poem about our relationship that ended with a proposal. I took her to a nearby monastary that has a ton of property and a pretty large lake. On the last bridge with a bench in the middle we sat down and I started reading the poem. We were completely alone. On the last stanza, I got down on one ring and proposed! She loved it.
And for all the guys who think diamonds are too $$$, moisannite is a terrific option, and is what I got for my fiance.
Gay nerd here who cannot maintain a relationship for more than a month. About 95 percent of guys prefer women, 90 percent of the gays at my school are not my type, 90 percent of the ones that do interest me, I am afraid to ask out...I am so fucked and that is just a relationship not to mention marriage.
But yeah, forget the expensive stuff, my philosophy on love should not be determined by money, but by your feelings. A restaurant sounds wonderful but forget the diamond ring, that just sounds...financially harmful...and if that is a good way to love someone....then wow.
Discuss the issue in private, slowing hnting at it and building up certainty so I could make a spectacle out of it with the foreknowledge that she'd say yes
so tristan since in my opinion you are asking this because you ask TL this question because you are thinking about popping the question soon yourself, here is some advice good old mr. Shakur gave us (with some adaptations to make it more SFW) A weak man does what he can, A real man does what he wants. Just do it.
On February 01 2012 06:43 forsooth wrote: Divorces can often result in men getting financially buttfucked for decades by the court system. At least in the States.
Please consider that marriage laws in the US are there for a very good reason... to provide security and protection for the woman. If not for these there are many losers out there who would not take it seriously and just marry, get what they want and divorce the next day.
You talk like women don't do that.. Lol.
Despite the retarded laws in the US, I think i'll still marry. Dunno about all of this public stuff, i'd prefer private.. And, natural. Not forced. Just a preference of mine - nothing intricate. On the beach, moon out, 2 am, etc.
On February 01 2012 06:43 forsooth wrote: Divorces can often result in men getting financially buttfucked for decades by the court system. At least in the States.
Please consider that marriage laws in the US are there for a very good reason... to provide security and protection for the woman. If not for these there are many losers out there who would not take it seriously and just marry, get what they want and divorce the next day.
Did you know that in the US, it's the woman who files for divorce over 70% of the time? Regardless, I'm not in favor of a system that says "you made a choice that you later changed your mind about, time to leave your husband and make him pay half or more of his income and hand over a ton of his assets regardless of what he has to say about the matter". If something like spousal abuse, infidelity, or some kind of actual breaking of the vows taken at marriage takes place, I can understand alimony being involved. But this "growing apart" and "irreconcilable differences" shit is just silly. If she wants to leave, she can leave. That doesn't mean she's entitled to alimony or a house/car/whatever she had no part in paying for. I'm getting off topic, so I'll shut up now.
I wouldn't. I'm definitely not the type of woman who fixates on the perfect wedding (or any wedding at all tbh.) I don't really see the point of marriage (for myself anyway.) I do think it's fun when people find interesting/creative ways to propose to their partners though.
On January 31 2012 18:46 Nalas wrote: I would definitely be more traditional. I would also never do it in a public forum because, as someone mentioned before, I wouldn't want to add any extra pressure to the situation.
On January 31 2012 18:02 Arunu wrote: proposed to my GF last June, we're getting married this June. We've been together for 11 years now (i'm 32) and the time " felt right "
Sank to the knees while we were on a holiday trip to turkey. Was on a pier at the beach after we had dinner in the evening. There was no one around since it was late so the setting was quite nice.
she did not see it comming at all , neither did her parents when i went asking for her hand , old fashioned style.
Was a good day and i'm very much looking forward to it.
11 years? Nice! hope you have a happy life together :D
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