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On December 19 2011 00:24 Cubu wrote: I think this goes against the nature of what marriage is truely supposed to be, a formal union between a man and a woMAN, not woMEN. it's every man's (unspoken) fantasy
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On December 19 2011 00:30 HwangjaeTerran wrote:Show nested quote +On December 19 2011 00:19 Nightfall.589 wrote:On December 19 2011 00:17 mdb wrote: I wonder why polygamy is illegal Two reasons. 1. Kids occasionally getting married off to cult leaders. 2. Mainstream religious organisations feel insecure about anything besides the concept of heterosexual monogamous marriage. It certainly isn't stopping cults from destroying children. And religious organizations should have no say on people who don't belong in their cult. That's like Apple suing you for violating user rights for services you haven't used. Show nested quote +On December 19 2011 00:24 doubled wrote:On December 19 2011 00:17 mdb wrote: I wonder why polygamy is illegal There is a very good reason polygamy is illegal. If it is not, we end up with the same situation as with money, 1% of the men would have more than 50% of the women. And this is also what happened in ancient societies, leaders would have harems of hundreds of women while farmers would be single for their entire life. This is not a stable ground for a society. Monogamy makes sure that everybody at least has the potential to get a mate. So marriage is just a system to force women act against their nature? LOL But well I guess if prostitution was legalized 80% of men wouldn't even give shit about a stable sex partner. Why do you say that? Prostitution has been legal for thousand of years and definitely more than 20% of males gave a shit, no reason they would stop nowadays.
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On December 19 2011 00:44 flowSthead wrote:Show nested quote +On December 19 2011 00:24 doubled wrote:On December 19 2011 00:17 mdb wrote: I wonder why polygamy is illegal There is a very good reason polygamy is illegal. If it is not, we end up with the same situation as with money, 1% of the men would have more than 50% of the women. And this is also what happened in ancient societies, leaders would have harems of hundreds of women while farmers would be single for their entire life. This is not a stable ground for a society. Monogamy makes sure that everybody at least has the potential to get a mate. That's a bold claim. Do you have proof for that?
Here are some research article on the subject, you can get them via ProQuest if you have a subscription (usually via your university):
- Koch, John; Kickasola, Joseph N, Polygamy: A matter for public law or private policy - Best article I found on the subject by far.
- Loughead, Lisa, The perception of polygamy in early modern England - Goes over the causes briefly, and also explains the causes for it being illegal in current society.
Some free articles on the matter, these are informal though.
Disclaimer: Only skimmed the articles, better than wiki though. 
Edit2: Tried to find something on how China is pretty much fucked as they have 100~ million men left over who won't be able to find women to marry, and why this is a huge problem for society (hordes sexually frustrated men... you only need to start up COD to find out what that is like) but seems not much has been written about it yet.
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let people do whatever they want, government should stay the fuck out of the bedroom
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On December 19 2011 01:08 doubled wrote:Show nested quote +On December 19 2011 00:44 flowSthead wrote:On December 19 2011 00:24 doubled wrote:On December 19 2011 00:17 mdb wrote: I wonder why polygamy is illegal There is a very good reason polygamy is illegal. If it is not, we end up with the same situation as with money, 1% of the men would have more than 50% of the women. And this is also what happened in ancient societies, leaders would have harems of hundreds of women while farmers would be single for their entire life. This is not a stable ground for a society. Monogamy makes sure that everybody at least has the potential to get a mate. That's a bold claim. Do you have proof for that? Here are some research article on the subject, you can get them via ProQuest if you have a subscription (usually via your university): - Koch, John; Kickasola, Joseph N, Polygamy: A matter for public law or private policy - Best article I found on the subject by far.
- Loughead, Lisa, The perception of polygamy in early modern England - Goes over the causes briefly, and also explains the causes for it being illegal in current society.
Some free articles on the matter, these are informal though. Disclaimer: Only skimmed the articles, better than wiki though.  Edit2: Tried to find something on how China is pretty much fucked as they have 100~ million men left over who won't be able to find women to marry, and why this is a huge problem for society (hordes sexually frustrated men... you only need to start up COD to find out what that is like) but seems not much has been written about it yet.
Cool, thanks for the articles. It is an interesting idea, although it doesn't seem to imply that the idea is to let everyone have a chance (the poor single farmer) but rather that it becomes difficult to repress the violence of the young. Those without tend to violence against those with and thus polygamy would seem to encourage this type of violence. I wonder how that would relate to our more modern world since physical strength and wealth of food are no longer as important as they were in ancient societies.
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On December 19 2011 01:20 flowSthead wrote:Cool, thanks for the articles. It is an interesting idea, although it doesn't seem to imply that the idea is to let everyone have a chance (the poor single farmer) but rather that it becomes difficult to repress the violence of the young. Those without tend to violence against those with and thus polygamy would seem to encourage this type of violence. I wonder how that would relate to our more modern world since physical strength and wealth of food are no longer as important as they were in ancient societies.
Well as I said, we'll find out in a few years with China (or Thailand or wherever they will import their wives from).
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Do keep in mind though in this discussion that the women in question are you know, people, and not simply a commodity with which to placate otherwise violent youth.
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On December 19 2011 00:24 doubled wrote:There is a very good reason polygamy is illegal. If it is not, we end up with the same situation as with money, 1% of the men would have more than 50% of the women. And this is also what happened in ancient societies, leaders would have harems of hundreds of women while farmers would be single for their entire life. This is not a stable ground for a society. Monogamy makes sure that everybody at least has the potential to get a mate. Lol evolution shouldn't allow everybody to get a mate. Legalize polygamy!!!
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Polygamy is only legal in the UK IF the marriage happened on foreign soil.
I.E - If they married in the UK its illegal -- If they married in another country its legal.
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So in the UK, polygamy is illegal...unless you believe in it?
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On December 19 2011 01:26 Haemonculus wrote: Do keep in mind though in this discussion that the women in question are you know, people, and not simply a commodity with which to placate otherwise violent youth.
I don't think the implication was that women were a commodity. Rather, the argument goes that people naturally form hierarchical societies, whether they male or female dominated, and that those in the top have a disproportionate amount of power and wealth. If you are a member of the secondary gender (commonly women, although sometimes men), you will want to associate yourself with those in power for your own benefit or for the benefit of your family.
The youth will generally be more likely to upheave the status quo, and they are likely to desire a change if they see their own rise as difficult to attain, which in a classic power structure is always going to be difficult.
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On December 19 2011 01:31 thezanursic wrote:Show nested quote +On December 19 2011 00:24 doubled wrote:On December 19 2011 00:17 mdb wrote: I wonder why polygamy is illegal There is a very good reason polygamy is illegal. If it is not, we end up with the same situation as with money, 1% of the men would have more than 50% of the women. And this is also what happened in ancient societies, leaders would have harems of hundreds of women while farmers would be single for their entire life. This is not a stable ground for a society. Monogamy makes sure that everybody at least has the potential to get a mate. Lol evolution shouldn't allow everybody to get a mate. Legalize polygamy!!! I'm not sure if farmers are the ideal target for natural selection. We might run out of food.
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On December 19 2011 00:24 doubled wrote:There is a very good reason polygamy is illegal. If it is not, we end up with the same situation as with money, 1% of the men would have more than 50% of the women. And this is also what happened in ancient societies, leaders would have harems of hundreds of women while farmers would be single for their entire life. This is not a stable ground for a society. Monogamy makes sure that everybody at least has the potential to get a mate. Wow, that is one perspective I've never even considered before!
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It's illegal because you get a lot of single parent raised kids which isn't a good thing.
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On December 19 2011 00:25 Skilledblob wrote:Show nested quote +On December 19 2011 00:21 theBALLS wrote:On December 19 2011 00:17 mdb wrote: I wonder why polygamy is illegal Not for Islam. Up to 4 wives you can have, at least in my side of the globe. isn't it more like you can have as many wives as you want as long as you can give every wife the same support?
Its actually both of you 2 together , you are allowed up to 4 as long as you can treat them equally and support them as long as you (the man) have a legit reason for doing so , something most Muslims forget.
Personally speaking , I aint got nothing against polygamy as long as the woman has no problem with it .
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On December 19 2011 00:24 doubled wrote:There is a very good reason polygamy is illegal. If it is not, we end up with the same situation as with money, 1% of the men would have more than 50% of the women. And this is also what happened in ancient societies, leaders would have harems of hundreds of women while farmers would be single for their entire life. This is not a stable ground for a society. Monogamy makes sure that everybody at least has the potential to get a mate.
what if there are more men then women? or the other way around? to ensure everyone gets a single mate, are we going to kill babys?
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On December 19 2011 01:55 GoBackToGo wrote:Show nested quote +On December 19 2011 00:24 doubled wrote:On December 19 2011 00:17 mdb wrote: I wonder why polygamy is illegal There is a very good reason polygamy is illegal. If it is not, we end up with the same situation as with money, 1% of the men would have more than 50% of the women. And this is also what happened in ancient societies, leaders would have harems of hundreds of women while farmers would be single for their entire life. This is not a stable ground for a society. Monogamy makes sure that everybody at least has the potential to get a mate. what if there are more men then women? or the other way around? to ensure everyone gets a single mate, are we going to kill babys?
That's actually the main reason its allowed in Islam. During those times, because of how violent Arabia was, men used to die out plenty. So there tended to be more women then men, and so polygamy was allowed to ensure everyone has the change to get a mate
Ofc, the reality is different
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On December 19 2011 01:42 flowSthead wrote:Show nested quote +On December 19 2011 01:26 Haemonculus wrote: Do keep in mind though in this discussion that the women in question are you know, people, and not simply a commodity with which to placate otherwise violent youth. I don't think the implication was that women were a commodity. Rather, the argument goes that people naturally form hierarchical societies, whether they male or female dominated, and that those in the top have a disproportionate amount of power and wealth. If you are a member of the secondary gender (commonly women, although sometimes men), you will want to associate yourself with those in power for your own benefit or for the benefit of your family. The youth will generally be more likely to upheave the status quo, and they are likely to desire a change if they see their own rise as difficult to attain, which in a classic power structure is always going to be difficult. I'm aware that's not the intention, or how it was meant to come across, but I see a lot of iffy language and plain silly assumptions in this thread.
If we legalize polygamy, 1% of the men will end up with 50% of the women? In today's world, really?
Monogamy enforced to ensure that everyone has the fair chance to get a mate? The implications of this of course is that everyone deserves a mate, should be granted equal access to one, etc, ignoring personal merits, blah blah.
Women will decide to all marry the same rich guy if they were given the opportunity?
Women are naturally drawn to men of power, so all normal men would be screwed?
We also seem to only mention polygyny. Polyandry would also likely be legal if we're legalizing polygamy, no?
From a *historical* standpoint, some of these are true. In a world in which women are not allowed to own property or hold any influence in the public sphere, and whose only option for protection/sustenance is to get married, then sure, marrying a rich old man is a fantastic option for increasing your quality of life.
I just find the notion that enforced laws regarding marriage norms being the only reason 50% of women haven't all married Warren Buffet a little silly. Similarly the idea that such laws in place are good because otherwise it wouldn't be fair to all the "normal" *men* also seems silly.
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On December 19 2011 01:23 doubled wrote:Show nested quote +On December 19 2011 01:20 flowSthead wrote:... Cool, thanks for the articles. It is an interesting idea, although it doesn't seem to imply that the idea is to let everyone have a chance (the poor single farmer) but rather that it becomes difficult to repress the violence of the young. Those without tend to violence against those with and thus polygamy would seem to encourage this type of violence. I wonder how that would relate to our more modern world since physical strength and wealth of food are no longer as important as they were in ancient societies. Well as I said, we'll find out in a few years with China (or Thailand or wherever they will import their wives from). I believe it's Vietnam that is one of the bigger exporter of wives.
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Polygamy is illegal in the sense that you don't have the right to marry several people, that's fine. I don't see what's the problem if someone wants to live with two girlfriends or if a woman has her lover at home. That's really nobody's business.
Now, if it's legal to have two boyfriends, and it is, and legal to live with two men, and it is, I don't see why you couldn't live with your two boyfriends.
If we talk about marriage as an institution, that's obviously an other problem.
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