EPTDating: How's your luck? - Page 962
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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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sc-darkness
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Excludos
Norway8270 Posts
On March 17 2018 18:37 sc-darkness wrote: I got 3 matches in Tinder in a day and I messaged them. No reply yet. It's been about a week. I guess not everyone is active. Sure, some people may not be interested to reply, but I don't think that's the case for all 3. This is my general experience with Tinder too. Matches are either bots or doesn't bother replying | ||
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sc-darkness
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On March 17 2018 21:01 Excludos wrote: This is my general experience with Tinder too. Matches are either bots or doesn't bother replying Yep, I think Tinder should report last seen status so you know if you should keep them matched or just cancel match. | ||
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Excludos
Norway8270 Posts
On March 17 2018 21:30 sc-darkness wrote: Yep, I think Tinder should report last seen status so you know if you should keep them matched or just cancel match. Like I mentioned earlier, I think it's because Tinder is a bit too mainstream. People use it "for fun" or to see how many matches/how popular they are, and doesn't actually have any interests in conversing with anyone on it. Doesn't mean there aren't anyone on there who isn't using it for its intended use, but they are harder to reach. A "last seen" status would have been nice indeed | ||
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IgnE
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On March 17 2018 18:37 sc-darkness wrote: I got 3 matches in Tinder in a day and I messaged them. No reply yet. It's been about a week. I guess not everyone is active. Sure, some people may not be interested to reply, but I don't think that's the case for all 3. It's actually very likely. I don't think you quite understand how casual/flakey the app is. Message 25 and come back. | ||
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bloodwhore~
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They had that functionality like 3-4 years ago. They removed it, probably because guys got mad when they could see that the girl they messaged had been on tinder a lot while still not returning any messages. | ||
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sc-darkness
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IgnE
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WarSame
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sc-darkness
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Edit: The only other thing I can think of is if I sign up for some class/hobby to meet more women. | ||
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pebble444
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GoTuNk!
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waffelz
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On March 19 2018 03:40 sc-darkness wrote: Well, the only reason I use Tinder and similar websites is because I don't know enough single women in my everyday life. The only coworkers I find attractive aren't single, and yeah... I find it awkward to talk to random girls in gym, especially when they could have a boyfriend with a lot more muscles than me. Edit: The only other thing I can think of is if I sign up for some class/hobby to meet more women. The bold part made me laugh. You probably should work on your self-confidence a bit and also on the fact that relationships usually have no correlation to muscle mass. If they have a boyfriend, it usually will not be because he got more muscles than you, but he somehow sparked their interest and they give each other something that makes it worthwhile for them to stick together, also called: a mutually beneficial and healthy relationship. Working out is good when you do it for yourself but when you only do it because you think it will get you a relationship you will have a bad time. Seeking out hobbies where you meet women are always good though, so that plan sounds good. If working out is already a hobby to you stick with it but don’t that creepy guy that hits on every girl at the gym. From what I hear from my female friends, the gym is one of those places where being able to read clues, especially when someone wants to be left alone, is even more important than it already is. Or just get some steroids, become bigger than every guy at the gym and you no longer have to worry about boyfriends with more muscles  | ||
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Artisreal
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sc-darkness
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On March 19 2018 05:19 Artisreal wrote: It's about not getting beat up though. This is what I meant. Thanks for understanding me. I didn't mean muscles -> relationship. Most of people at my gym have more muscles than me, so getting beat up is highly likely if I upset some girl's boyfriend. And you can't tell if they're single either.. | ||
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maybenexttime
Poland5838 Posts
I can attest to that. I gained 15 kg in two years, still single. :< | ||
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Excludos
Norway8270 Posts
Seeking out hobbies where you meet women are always good though, so that plan sounds good. I'm having huge problems with this exact part. I find it very difficult to get hobbies which I both find enjoyable and where I can meet other people (especially of the opposite sex, obviously). If I enjoyed dancing, that would probably be the easiest bet, but I don't. Everything nerdy is immediately out, as while there are nerdy girls out there, they have about 100x guys slobbering over them at any point in time. I do enjoy working out and bouldering/climbing, but it's difficult to meet other people there as they generally don't want to converse with others as they work out (Could be a Norwegian thing? Or maybe I'm just too introverted to strike up conversations with random women expecting them not to get annoyed if I do). | ||
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Acrofales
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IgnE
United States7681 Posts
On March 19 2018 06:49 Excludos wrote: I'm having huge problems with this exact part. I find it very difficult to get hobbies which I both find enjoyable and where I can meet other people (especially of the opposite sex, obviously). If I enjoyed dancing, that would probably be the easiest bet, but I don't. Everything nerdy is immediately out, as while there are nerdy girls out there, they have about 100x guys slobbering over them at any point in time. I do enjoy working out and bouldering/climbing, but it's difficult to meet other people there as they generally don't want to converse with others as they work out (Could be a Norwegian thing? Or maybe I'm just too introverted to strike up conversations with random women expecting them not to get annoyed if I do). Join a feminist book club. | ||
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