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@SoSexy
First, the moment you hear she has a boyfriend you take a step back. You don't go fucking with peoples' relationships, you wait for them to become single before you make a move. That's just basic decency.
Second, she said no as her secondary decision. Which you can kinda compare to a rape case. A girl says yes let's have sex and then when the time comes and you're eagerly jamming that condom on, she changes her mind. You respect her decision and don't force yourself upon her.
Apply that to this decision she has made and leave her alone. If she ends things with her bf and still wants something with you, she'll come to you.
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I went on a date yesterday. Not really sure where I should start. The "date" was basically netflix and chill. I'm pretty sure I won't be interested in anything long term with her, I don't think we really match personality wise. Her body is practically perfect though. Not to mention that she got out of a relationship 2 months ago and mentioned that she doesn't really want to have a monogamous relationship. Seemed like she was interested in an open relationship though.
I feel like I might want to test it, or just have a short non serious relationship with her or some shit. I might just be thinking with my penis though :D.
Does anyone have any experience with open relationships?
Do you think that you need to "in love" to have open relationship?
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If an open relationship works its because the two don't really care about eachother that much. If you two really care about eachother than openly fucking other people is gonna hurt someone.
Trust me bro if you want to keep it open, keep it casual.
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On July 29 2017 20:00 bloodwhore~ wrote:
I went on a date yesterday. Not really sure where I should start. The "date" was basically netflix and chill. I'm pretty sure I won't be interested in anything long term with her, I don't think we really match personality wise. Her body is practically perfect though. Not to mention that she got out of a relationship 2 months ago and mentioned that she doesn't really want to have a monogamous relationship. Seemed like she was interested in an open relationship though.
I feel like I might want to test it, or just have a short non serious relationship with her or some shit. I might just be thinking with my penis though :D.
Does anyone have any experience with open relationships?
Do you think that you need to "in love" to have open relationship?
To the questions:
- Plenty.
- Erhm, yes. Otherwise it's just friends with benefits, which people tend to confuse with an open relationship for some reason. It's not the same.
If you don't want to be in a relationship with her longterm, just don't have a relationship with her because your penis tells you to. Test the waters to see if there is place for a friend with benefits and go from there instead of entangling yourself into something you probably won't enjoy.
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Yeah, there is no need to dive so deep down I agree  ! I'll just go with the flow.
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Yeah way overthinking
Hang out have fun hook up
as long as you're enjoying yourself it's all good
There's nothing to think about this early on anyways
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On July 29 2017 20:00 bloodwhore~ wrote:
I went on a date yesterday. Not really sure where I should start. The "date" was basically netflix and chill. I'm pretty sure I won't be interested in anything long term with her, I don't think we really match personality wise. Her body is practically perfect though. Not to mention that she got out of a relationship 2 months ago and mentioned that she doesn't really want to have a monogamous relationship. Seemed like she was interested in an open relationship though.
I feel like I might want to test it, or just have a short non serious relationship with her or some shit. I might just be thinking with my penis though :D.
Does anyone have any experience with open relationships?
Do you think that you need to "in love" to have open relationship?
Actually, an Open Relationship is very exciting and non-commitment. It makes you know what you want in a relationship. Tested and tried 
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So you mean you guys were spending a lot of time together and staying at eachothers place all the time and sometimes be like oh no honey I can't take care of the cat tonight because I'm going to fuck someone else? Hard to imagine for me an open relationship works if you get to that level of "seriousness"..
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Finally found exactly what I was looking for.
Girl my age, funny, smart, kind, awesome family, kickass job, perfect ass, very natural look and a joy to be around. Slightly socially shy just like I am. We've only been dating for like three months, but she's moving in with me next month, and I couldn't be more excited.
Naturally, when things are so perfect, I'm expecting the worst to happen, but I'm working hard at suppressing those worries for now and just living in the moment.
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my last date was ... well depends on what counts as a DATE, i would say my last date was 2011 but when u only count like going out drinking or dinner then it was 2007
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oh man i need some real life i guess i never knew its so long
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On July 31 2017 15:51 B.I.G. wrote:
So you mean you guys were spending a lot of time together and staying at eachothers place all the time and sometimes be like oh no honey I can't take care of the cat tonight because I'm going to fuck someone else? Hard to imagine for me an open relationship works if you get to that level of "seriousness"..
It may not work for you, but it does work for others. If you don't want anything to do with that or don't like the idea, that's fine. Others feel they get more out of all their relationships that way.
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Well first of all to each their own ofcourse so whatever makes you happy, but so far every person I know that's been in an open relationship before always ended up admitting that maybe they we're more like good friends with benefits than really in love or something. Kinda like with my stance on male - female platonic relationships being rare a ton of people end up admitting to some catch "maybe he was more in love with me than I with him" or "we're great (platonic) friends now but we used to hook up all the time".
Exceptions are always there ofcourse but a true open relationship is something I haven't yet encountered..
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On July 31 2017 19:29 B.I.G. wrote:
Well first of all to each their own ofcourse so whatever makes you happy, but so far every person I know that's been in an open relationship before always ended up admitting that maybe they we're more like good friends with benefits than really in love or something. Kinda like with my stance on male - female platonic relationships being rare a ton of people end up admitting to some catch "maybe he was more in love with me than I with him" or "we're great (platonic) friends now but we used to hook up all the time".
Exceptions are always there ofcourse but a true open relationship is something I haven't yet encountered..
You're probably pretty young then I'd wager. I could've said the same thing when I was 19. In my thirties, that's no longer true.
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Making any sort of generalization regarding the interior lives of others is always going to be fraught with difficulty. I'd wager that there are all sorts of folks/relationships doing the "open" thing. Personally, the folks I know that "make it work" are atypical in other ways that similarly beg the "is this actually working for you?" type questions, so I avoid them altogether.
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Always nice when people make assumptions about the person you are based on one or two posts. Kinda reminds me of that dude that used to post in here suggesting people that had girl troubles to take regular showers to then proceed uploading pictures of himself and his girlfriend in (i guess) an attempt to show that obviously he was quite the catch so he knew what he was talking about.
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Yeah, asserting that someone must belong to some kind of predefined group in order for them to hold a particular opinion is not a very productive way to have a conversation.
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Sorry, I worded this poorly. Let my rephrase it: I used to think the same way before I got more life experience and encountered more people living in many different types of relationships. It changed my own views about monogamous relationships too.
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Well I'm 29 now and obviously that is by no means old enough to truly talk about "experience" but I'm basing it on what I've seen. Obviously I see how I could be wrong but I'm kinda hoping someone to explain me how it DOES work because, again, in my experience there was always a big "but" attached to those open relationships.
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At least talking about friendship (*not* open relationships) I don't see problems having girl-friends in a very platonic way. I'm not attracted to her, she's not to me, we are great friends (and we have been for some years, never hooked up). It's fun to not only have male friends, the perspective you get from female friends is quite different.
Clearly if one of the two is more attracted, the friendship may be not possible, but I don't think it's "impossible" in general.
I don't comment on open relationships because I have no experience (and I feel I would judge the topic only from my very personal perspective, which is likely limited)
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On July 31 2017 21:53 B.I.G. wrote:
Well I'm 29 now and obviously that is by no means old enough to truly talk about "experience" but I'm basing it on what I've seen. Obviously I see how I could be wrong but I'm kinda hoping someone to explain me how it DOES work because, again, in my experience there was always a big "but" attached to those open relationships. it works because cucks are real.
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