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On June 11 2015 19:59 bloodwhore~ wrote:
Also, I have matched with a another girl from my university, she is studying the same major as I do (computer science). She isn't a girl I'm spending any time with otherwise and I almost never see her. She has been doing a lot of stuff with the university so I think she is behind in the school work because of it so it wouldn't be the end of the world if I fuck this up. She has written "If you cite a random programming language I'm yours." in her bio so I'm thinking of playing on that.
Python is the correct answer, for obvious reason. Ask her if she wants to see your mad python skills.
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python's not going to be random enough.
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On June 11 2015 19:59 bloodwhore~ wrote:I feel like I've begun to take Tinder less seriously now. When I got Tinder I thought I'd try to get a girlfriend but I think those odds are fairly to extremely low so I'm thinking of either just (try) fucking someone or getting a fuck buddy. More stories I guess. Another girl started talking to me, after a couple of messages I asked her why she was on Tinder, she responded with "wasting time and some chill guy to hang with". I responded with that I basically wanted a friend to be intimate with. She said that one thing shouldn't exclude the other. I've been keeping the conversation kinda lewd, and yesterday, well tonight, I told her that I think we should defile each other soon. She is acting all "oh you think that huh?  " etc. Hard to tell if she is actually interested in it. I responded with "Don't you? " to my defiling each other question. She hasn't answered yet, but she hasn't been on Tinder since then either. Also, I have matched with a another girl from my university, she is studying the same major as I do (computer science). She isn't a girl I'm spending any time with otherwise and I almost never see her. She has been doing a lot of stuff with the university so I think she is behind in the school work because of it so it wouldn't be the end of the world if I fuck this up. She has written "If you cite a random programming language I'm yours." in her bio so I'm thinking of playing on that. I feel like I want to just have fun with her, I'm really uncertain if her match with me was serious or just wanted to find out waht I thought about her. I'm thinking I'll go with one of the following options: 1. Pulling some really cheesy one liner, like "I'm normally async but I'm still waiting for you." 2. Opening with like "What a deadlock. I don't know if you were serious with this match and neither do you." I'm leaning towards option number 2, either way I'd probably ask what she was serious and if she was serious I'll ask what she was out after on Tinder so I can play my cards right. Thoughts?
Wait. Are you a virgin?
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On June 11 2015 19:59 bloodwhore~ wrote:I feel like I've begun to take Tinder less seriously now. When I got Tinder I thought I'd try to get a girlfriend but I think those odds are fairly to extremely low so I'm thinking of either just (try) fucking someone or getting a fuck buddy. More stories I guess. Another girl started talking to me, after a couple of messages I asked her why she was on Tinder, she responded with "wasting time and some chill guy to hang with". I responded with that I basically wanted a friend to be intimate with. She said that one thing shouldn't exclude the other. I've been keeping the conversation kinda lewd, and yesterday, well tonight, I told her that I think we should defile each other soon. She is acting all "oh you think that huh? " etc. Hard to tell if she is actually interested in it. I responded with "Don't you? " to my defiling each other question. She hasn't answered yet, but she hasn't been on Tinder since then either. Also, I have matched with a another girl from my university, she is studying the same major as I do (computer science). She isn't a girl I'm spending any time with otherwise and I almost never see her. She has been doing a lot of stuff with the university so I think she is behind in the school work because of it so it wouldn't be the end of the world if I fuck this up. She has written "If you cite a random programming language I'm yours." in her bio so I'm thinking of playing on that. I feel like I want to just have fun with her, I'm really uncertain if her match with me was serious or just wanted to find out waht I thought about her. I'm thinking I'll go with one of the following options: 1. Pulling some really cheesy one liner, like "I'm normally async but I'm still waiting for you." 2. Opening with like "What a deadlock. I don't know if you were serious with this match and neither do you." I'm leaning towards option number 2, either way I'd probably ask what she was serious and if she was serious I'll ask what she was out after on Tinder so I can play my cards right. Thoughts?
Tinder can be okay for a one night stand if that's what ur looking for, I hooked up with some 38 yr old lady at her place after a couple of tinder messages
But if ur a virgin I wouldnt recommend it
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I wouldn't put so much thought into your tinder matches. I've done both those thoughtful personal funny first messages and also just boring "hey whats up" first messages and honestly haven't noticed a difference in response rate.
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On June 12 2015 09:27 Calanthe wrote:
python's not going to be random enough.
It's not about being random, it's about the double entendre, lol.
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Got a hot date with a girl from my law class tomorrow. It's gonna be gooooooddddd 
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On June 12 2015 11:14 farvacola wrote:Got a hot date with a girl from my law class tomorrow. It's gonna be gooooooddddd
Going to show her your briefs?
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Sadly, my briefs these days are confidential. But yes, she won't be making a claim upon which relief cannot be granted.
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On June 12 2015 10:47 killa_robot wrote:Show nested quote +On June 12 2015 09:27 Calanthe wrote:
python's not going to be random enough. It's not about being random, it's about the double entendre, lol.
You could say "This is sort of random: Bogobogo" and see if she gets it.
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Okay so the first girl in my last post has not answered. I guess she is not interested.
I did however take contact with yet another girl who started talking to me before. Told her that I wanted a fuck buddy and she seemed interested, we're going to meet up one day when we are both free.
On June 12 2015 09:43 IgnE wrote:
Wait. Are you a virgin?
UHHHH busted. Not for much longer though hopefully
On June 12 2015 10:07 Aveng3r wrote:
But if ur a virgin I wouldnt recommend it
There is no stopping this yolo train.
Being a virgin isn't something that has bothered me at all, if I wanted just to lose it I would have done it a long time ago. However now I don't really give a shit anymore. I'm more worried that it will scare her away. Do you think I should tell her before or after. During is probably a very bad idea.
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^ Just get it done with(losing virginity). One thing you can relate video games to real life is: experience is good and more experience is better.
Not sure what your personal agenda is since I jumped into this sub late, but I think you just need to be honest about your virginity. Put yourself in her situation, there isn't inherently anything bad about being a virgin. Yes it might imply things such as premature ejacuation and just overall clumsiness.
However, it also comes with its benefits too. If she is a dominant sexual partner she might like the idea of breaking someone in. If you are eager to please and she isn't some kind of dead fish in bed then it should work out just fine. Also means you're supposedly pure. (lol, you better still wear a hat though for your sake)
So definitely tell her your situation, and its not because you're some kinda crazy shut in or something. Just losing your virginity wasn't really your top priority in life as it was for most teenage boys.
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On June 12 2015 17:14 bloodwhore~ wrote:Okay so the first girl in my last post has not answered. I guess she is not interested. I did however take contact with yet another girl who started talking to me before. Told her that I wanted a fuck buddy and she seemed interested, we're going to meet up one day when we are both free. UHHHH busted. Not for much longer though hopefully Show nested quote +On June 12 2015 10:07 Aveng3r wrote:
But if ur a virgin I wouldnt recommend it There is no stopping this yolo train. Being a virgin isn't something that has bothered me at all, if I wanted just to lose it I would have done it a long time ago. However now I don't really give a shit anymore. I'm more worried that it will scare her away. Do you think I should tell her before or after. During is probably a very bad idea.
I dunno honestly the first time I had sex she was also a virgin so there wasn't any experience barrier or anything, but if ur confident and ready to go than I guess being honest with her won't cause any harm
But if u seem hesitant and or unsure of ur self and then u tell her right before ur about to get started it might change things and make her uncomfortable
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I can't really see why it is important for her to know? Whatever you decide, just don't declare your undying love to her immediately after...
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On June 12 2015 09:27 Calanthe wrote:
python's not going to be random enough.
Random doesn't mean unknown though 
Also, I'd much rather have my manhood be referred to as a Python than having a girl rate it as a C++...
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On June 12 2015 18:07 shouldbeworking wrote:
^ Just get it done with(losing virginity). One thing you can relate video games to real life is: experience is good and more experience is better.
He will surely be surprised at just how little dexterity he has at level one.
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On June 12 2015 17:14 bloodwhore~ wrote:
Being a virgin isn't something that has bothered me at all, if I wanted just to lose it I would have done it a long time ago. However now I don't really give a shit anymore. I'm more worried that it will scare her away. Do you think I should tell her before or after. During is probably a very bad idea.
I would tell her first... plenty of women find it cute or endearing or respectable or exciting, rather than running away. Or they don't really give a shit.
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On June 13 2015 00:40 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:Show nested quote +On June 12 2015 17:14 bloodwhore~ wrote:
Being a virgin isn't something that has bothered me at all, if I wanted just to lose it I would have done it a long time ago. However now I don't really give a shit anymore. I'm more worried that it will scare her away. Do you think I should tell her before or after. During is probably a very bad idea. I would tell her first... plenty of women find it cute or endearing or respectable or exciting, rather than running away. Or they don't really give a shit.
Agreed. If you don't tell her, she's probably going to assume your shit in bed and had no clue what you were doing. It's going to make things awkward during sex too because she's going to assume you know what you're doing and it's gonna be weird when you can't even put it in... Just tell her right before the fact so she has a clue on how to proceed.
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On June 13 2015 11:33 Zooper31 wrote:Show nested quote +On June 13 2015 00:40 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On June 12 2015 17:14 bloodwhore~ wrote:
Being a virgin isn't something that has bothered me at all, if I wanted just to lose it I would have done it a long time ago. However now I don't really give a shit anymore. I'm more worried that it will scare her away. Do you think I should tell her before or after. During is probably a very bad idea. I would tell her first... plenty of women find it cute or endearing or respectable or exciting, rather than running away. Or they don't really give a shit. Agreed. If you don't tell her, she's probably going to assume your shit in bed and had no clue what you were doing. It's going to make things awkward during sex too because she's going to assume you know what you're doing and it's gonna be weird when you can't even put it in... Just tell her right before the fact so she has a clue on how to proceed.
I think you should tell her ONLY if she seems really experienced and the kind of girl who would like to take control in the situation. Sex is both exiting and very scary for woman, even not virgin ones, and saying something like that will def put most of them off; you can tell her afterwards.
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