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On June 12 2014 16:59 TOCHMY wrote:
Ran into a girl from my school on my way home from work. We went to school together way back, like 7-8 years ago. We grabbed coffee and talked for a while. Reminiscing.
She from out of the blue: Did you know I had a crush on you for like 4 years?
I had no idea at all. We would probably have hit it off back then.
People, tell others when you like/love them.
you can probably get it now bc she is older and knows more of what she wants
work it my man
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Life Pro Tip: when someone tells you they used to have a crush on you, they still do.
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Need some opinions on this:
Girl I like, got in contact because I know some friends. She sells me weed and is younger than me (25-18). I met her two times, both for buying stuff. Then the other day I ask her out, she accepts, we have a nice date, she tells me she has a 'boyfriend' but they have an open relationship and they date other people (so basically friends with benefits) Two hours later end in bed. Best sex in a long while o.o I drive her home (she doesn't live far from me) and the last thing she says is 'I know you jog, if you come near my house stop by! I may be alone...'
So things seem pretty good! The problem is that this girl is SUPER awkard on facebook (I don't have her number yet). It takes her 6-8 hour to read a message: it's super frustrating and throws me off by a long shot. Two days after our meeting, I texted her in the morning 'hey, how are you?'. She replied in the late afternoon 'hey good, and you??'. I then asked her if she had some weed to sell because I wanted to relax in the evening (I didn't mean nor say 'relax with you': I'm good a sticky one). Well, it's almost midnight and she didn't even read the message... wtf -.-
Any tips? I'd just like to meet her more, not interested in a serious relationship, but at least I'd like to get a reply within hours...
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theres not much to be said, you are defeating yourself by thinking about inconsequential things so much. Some people just don't look at their phone that much, others will see the message but not respond until later, etc. Doesnt mean much.
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On June 13 2014 06:36 VayneAuthority wrote:
theres not much to be said, you are defeating yourself by thinking about inconsequential things so much. Some people just don't look at their phone that much, others will see the message but not respond until later, etc. Doesnt mean much.
I think you're most probably right. It just pisses me off that it needs 12 hours for a 2 sentences exchange...
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SoSexy, some people dont check their facebook all the time & if you hit her up for weed maybe she is dry. If you want to meet her more, just jog by her house like she said imo. How do you not have her # after wheeling & dealing with this babe?
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On June 13 2014 06:43 ragnasaur wrote:
SoSexy, some people dont check their facebook all the time & if you hit her up for weed maybe she is dry. If you want to meet her more, just jog by her house like she said imo. How do you not have her # after wheeling & dealing with this babe?
I don't have the number...just didn't think about it, since until now I just wrote her on Facebook (many people here use it in a similar way to whatsapp). The jog thing is pretty ok, but it's +35 here in the day and she lives 6 km from my house...I'd be a sweaty pulp:D
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On June 13 2014 06:38 SoSexy wrote:Show nested quote +On June 13 2014 06:36 VayneAuthority wrote:
theres not much to be said, you are defeating yourself by thinking about inconsequential things so much. Some people just don't look at their phone that much, others will see the message but not respond until later, etc. Doesnt mean much. I think you're most probably right. It just pisses me off that it needs 12 hours for a 2 sentences exchange...
I doubt talking is what she is good at...? I wouldn't get to bent about it. She is in an 'open' relationship, chances are she isn't trying to read your messages when her 'open' boyfriend is around...
Expect it to be mostly a Ganj/Booty call situation where she is the one with most of the control. A girl who is going to contact you randomly for some bowls and a blow within jogging distance sounds like a sweet deal for a single guy.
I wouldn't expect much, unless the frequency picks up naturally on it's own. Even then, you can't really be sure her boyfriend is as aware of the 'open' nature of the relationship. (Guys do this kind of stuff alllll the time).
Either way I wouldn't get very invested in anything serious (sounds like your plan) just don't seem too available/needy for weedy if you want the rips and dips to continue flowing.
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On June 13 2014 06:56 GreenHorizons wrote:Show nested quote +On June 13 2014 06:38 SoSexy wrote:On June 13 2014 06:36 VayneAuthority wrote:
theres not much to be said, you are defeating yourself by thinking about inconsequential things so much. Some people just don't look at their phone that much, others will see the message but not respond until later, etc. Doesnt mean much. I think you're most probably right. It just pisses me off that it needs 12 hours for a 2 sentences exchange... I doubt talking is what she is good at...? I wouldn't get to bent about it. She is in an 'open' relationship, chances are she isn't trying to read your messages when her 'open' boyfriend is around... Expect it to be mostly a Ganj/Booty call situation where she is the one with most of the control. A girl who is going to contact you randomly for some bowls and a blow within jogging distance sounds like a sweet deal for a single guy. I wouldn't expect much, unless the frequency picks up naturally on it's own. Even then, you can't really be sure her boyfriend is as aware of the 'open' nature of the relationship. (Guys do this kind of stuff alllll the time). Either way I wouldn't get very invested in anything serious (sounds like your plan) just don't seem too available/needy for weedy if you want the rips and dips to continue flowing.
Thanks, nice reply
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On June 13 2014 06:58 SoSexy wrote:Show nested quote +On June 13 2014 06:56 GreenHorizons wrote:On June 13 2014 06:38 SoSexy wrote:On June 13 2014 06:36 VayneAuthority wrote:
theres not much to be said, you are defeating yourself by thinking about inconsequential things so much. Some people just don't look at their phone that much, others will see the message but not respond until later, etc. Doesnt mean much. I think you're most probably right. It just pisses me off that it needs 12 hours for a 2 sentences exchange... I doubt talking is what she is good at...? I wouldn't get to bent about it. She is in an 'open' relationship, chances are she isn't trying to read your messages when her 'open' boyfriend is around... Expect it to be mostly a Ganj/Booty call situation where she is the one with most of the control. A girl who is going to contact you randomly for some bowls and a blow within jogging distance sounds like a sweet deal for a single guy. I wouldn't expect much, unless the frequency picks up naturally on it's own. Even then, you can't really be sure her boyfriend is as aware of the 'open' nature of the relationship. (Guys do this kind of stuff alllll the time). Either way I wouldn't get very invested in anything serious (sounds like your plan) just don't seem too available/needy for weedy if you want the rips and dips to continue flowing. Thanks, nice reply
Happy to help Best of luck!
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On June 13 2014 06:33 SoSexy wrote:Need some opinions on this: Girl I like, got in contact because I know some friends. She sells me weed and is younger than me (25-18). I met her two times, both for buying stuff. Then the other day I ask her out, she accepts, we have a nice date, she tells me she has a 'boyfriend' but they have an open relationship and they date other people (so basically friends with benefits) Two hours later end in bed. Best sex in a long while o.o I drive her home (she doesn't live far from me) and the last thing she says is 'I know you jog, if you come near my house stop by! I may be alone...' So things seem pretty good! The problem is that this girl is SUPER awkard on facebook (I don't have her number yet). It takes her 6-8 hour to read a message: it's super frustrating and throws me off by a long shot. Two days after our meeting, I texted her in the morning 'hey, how are you?'. She replied in the late afternoon 'hey good, and you??'. I then asked her if she had some weed to sell because I wanted to relax in the evening (I didn't mean nor say 'relax with you': I'm good a sticky one). Well, it's almost midnight and she didn't even read the message... wtf -.- Any tips? I'd just like to meet her more, not interested in a serious relationship, but at least I'd like to get a reply within hours...
Jesus people who take a couple hours for a sentence to respond are really worse than hitler imo. Like if i feel like i want to try to date someone and they take a couple hours to respond every time i will drop them pretty quickly lol.
But you should try jogging by her house today or something and seeing whats up imo.
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On June 13 2014 10:51 arb wrote:Show nested quote +On June 13 2014 06:33 SoSexy wrote:Need some opinions on this: Girl I like, got in contact because I know some friends. She sells me weed and is younger than me (25-18). I met her two times, both for buying stuff. Then the other day I ask her out, she accepts, we have a nice date, she tells me she has a 'boyfriend' but they have an open relationship and they date other people (so basically friends with benefits) Two hours later end in bed. Best sex in a long while o.o I drive her home (she doesn't live far from me) and the last thing she says is 'I know you jog, if you come near my house stop by! I may be alone...' So things seem pretty good! The problem is that this girl is SUPER awkard on facebook (I don't have her number yet). It takes her 6-8 hour to read a message: it's super frustrating and throws me off by a long shot. Two days after our meeting, I texted her in the morning 'hey, how are you?'. She replied in the late afternoon 'hey good, and you??'. I then asked her if she had some weed to sell because I wanted to relax in the evening (I didn't mean nor say 'relax with you': I'm good a sticky one). Well, it's almost midnight and she didn't even read the message... wtf -.- Any tips? I'd just like to meet her more, not interested in a serious relationship, but at least I'd like to get a reply within hours... Jesus people who take a couple hours for a sentence to respond are really worse than hitler imo. Like if i feel like i want to try to date someone and they take a couple hours to respond every time i will drop them pretty quickly lol. But you should try jogging by her house today or something and seeing whats up imo.
You should try me. It takes me a couple of days sometimes to respond to texts(outside of a conversation). It's really not that important to stay on top of them.
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On June 13 2014 06:33 SoSexy wrote:Need some opinions on this: Girl I like, got in contact because I know some friends. She sells me weed and is younger than me (25-18). I met her two times, both for buying stuff. Then the other day I ask her out, she accepts, we have a nice date, she tells me she has a 'boyfriend' but they have an open relationship and they date other people (so basically friends with benefits) Two hours later end in bed. Best sex in a long while o.o I drive her home (she doesn't live far from me) and the last thing she says is 'I know you jog, if you come near my house stop by! I may be alone...' So things seem pretty good! The problem is that this girl is SUPER awkard on facebook (I don't have her number yet). It takes her 6-8 hour to read a message: it's super frustrating and throws me off by a long shot. Two days after our meeting, I texted her in the morning 'hey, how are you?'. She replied in the late afternoon 'hey good, and you??'. I then asked her if she had some weed to sell because I wanted to relax in the evening (I didn't mean nor say 'relax with you': I'm good a sticky one). Well, it's almost midnight and she didn't even read the message... wtf -.- Any tips? I'd just like to meet her more, not interested in a serious relationship, but at least I'd like to get a reply within hours...
Are you an idiot? You are asking her on fucking facebook if she can sell you pot? Like admit to a crime on a public network that saves that shit for ages? If that girl has half a brain she's gonna stay far away from all those kinds of messages. Stop trying to incriminate your girl man. It's a bad move.
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On June 13 2014 11:19 WarSame wrote:Show nested quote +On June 13 2014 10:51 arb wrote:On June 13 2014 06:33 SoSexy wrote:Need some opinions on this: Girl I like, got in contact because I know some friends. She sells me weed and is younger than me (25-18). I met her two times, both for buying stuff. Then the other day I ask her out, she accepts, we have a nice date, she tells me she has a 'boyfriend' but they have an open relationship and they date other people (so basically friends with benefits) Two hours later end in bed. Best sex in a long while o.o I drive her home (she doesn't live far from me) and the last thing she says is 'I know you jog, if you come near my house stop by! I may be alone...' So things seem pretty good! The problem is that this girl is SUPER awkard on facebook (I don't have her number yet). It takes her 6-8 hour to read a message: it's super frustrating and throws me off by a long shot. Two days after our meeting, I texted her in the morning 'hey, how are you?'. She replied in the late afternoon 'hey good, and you??'. I then asked her if she had some weed to sell because I wanted to relax in the evening (I didn't mean nor say 'relax with you': I'm good a sticky one). Well, it's almost midnight and she didn't even read the message... wtf -.- Any tips? I'd just like to meet her more, not interested in a serious relationship, but at least I'd like to get a reply within hours... Jesus people who take a couple hours for a sentence to respond are really worse than hitler imo. Like if i feel like i want to try to date someone and they take a couple hours to respond every time i will drop them pretty quickly lol. But you should try jogging by her house today or something and seeing whats up imo. You should try me. It takes me a couple of days sometimes to respond to texts(outside of a conversation). It's really not that important to stay on top of them.
Not really stay on top of them but something like 30-45 minutes i don't mind tbh. But 4+ hours between texts when you know they arent busy is pretty unacceptable imo and makes me lose interest fast.
On June 13 2014 11:21 B.I.G. wrote:Show nested quote +On June 13 2014 06:33 SoSexy wrote:Need some opinions on this: Girl I like, got in contact because I know some friends. She sells me weed and is younger than me (25-18). I met her two times, both for buying stuff. Then the other day I ask her out, she accepts, we have a nice date, she tells me she has a 'boyfriend' but they have an open relationship and they date other people (so basically friends with benefits) Two hours later end in bed. Best sex in a long while o.o I drive her home (she doesn't live far from me) and the last thing she says is 'I know you jog, if you come near my house stop by! I may be alone...' So things seem pretty good! The problem is that this girl is SUPER awkard on facebook (I don't have her number yet). It takes her 6-8 hour to read a message: it's super frustrating and throws me off by a long shot. Two days after our meeting, I texted her in the morning 'hey, how are you?'. She replied in the late afternoon 'hey good, and you??'. I then asked her if she had some weed to sell because I wanted to relax in the evening (I didn't mean nor say 'relax with you': I'm good a sticky one). Well, it's almost midnight and she didn't even read the message... wtf -.- Any tips? I'd just like to meet her more, not interested in a serious relationship, but at least I'd like to get a reply within hours... Are you an idiot? You are asking her on fucking facebook if she can sell you pot? Like admit to a crime on a public network that saves that shit for ages? If that girl has half a brain she's gonna stay far away from all those kinds of messages. Stop trying to incriminate your girl man. It's a bad move.
Ya i'd always be like, can i come see you for a bit or something. But where I love disguising what you're talking about is pretty common practice lol.
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On June 13 2014 06:38 SoSexy wrote:Show nested quote +On June 13 2014 06:36 VayneAuthority wrote:
theres not much to be said, you are defeating yourself by thinking about inconsequential things so much. Some people just don't look at their phone that much, others will see the message but not respond until later, etc. Doesnt mean much. I think you're most probably right. It just pisses me off that it needs 12 hours for a 2 sentences exchange...
What the hell man? Get something better to do. She's an 18 year old drug dealer having sex with the people she lights up. You shouldn't be monitoring when she messages you back.
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The main thing with relationships is communication. You can work out almost any problem unless it's like bad cheating by just being completely honest and saying to your partner all of your feelings. It also feels great to get feelings out no matter what it is. That's what your partner is there for hopefully.
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Guys calm down about the weed part lol. I don't explicitly say it - rather, she's the one talking way too directly about that -.- I just believe she is somewhat strange, because she looks active on Facebook (last seen 2 hours ago etc) but doesn't see the messages.. At least she could reply for the 'business' thing  I think I may jog near her house tomorrow afternoon..maybe..and deliver the LOLz if her boyfriend is there
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That seems like a dumb idea.
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On June 13 2014 15:24 SoSexy wrote:Guys calm down about the weed part lol. I don't explicitly say it - rather, she's the one talking way too directly about that -.- I just believe she is somewhat strange, because she looks active on Facebook (last seen 2 hours ago etc) but doesn't see the messages.. At least she could reply for the 'business' thing I think I may jog near her house tomorrow afternoon..maybe..and deliver the LOLz if her boyfriend is there
just relax and wait till she replies.
Or better: stalk her on- and offline! That will get you laid again for sure......
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On June 13 2014 06:33 SoSexy wrote:Need some opinions on this: Girl I like, got in contact because I know some friends. She sells me weed and is younger than me (25-18). I met her two times, both for buying stuff. Then the other day I ask her out, she accepts, we have a nice date, she tells me she has a 'boyfriend' but they have an open relationship and they date other people (so basically friends with benefits) Two hours later end in bed. Best sex in a long while o.o I drive her home (she doesn't live far from me) and the last thing she says is 'I know you jog, if you come near my house stop by! I may be alone...' So things seem pretty good! The problem is that this girl is SUPER awkard on facebook (I don't have her number yet). It takes her 6-8 hour to read a message: it's super frustrating and throws me off by a long shot. Two days after our meeting, I texted her in the morning 'hey, how are you?'. She replied in the late afternoon 'hey good, and you??'. I then asked her if she had some weed to sell because I wanted to relax in the evening (I didn't mean nor say 'relax with you': I'm good a sticky one). Well, it's almost midnight and she didn't even read the message... wtf -.- Any tips? I'd just like to meet her more, not interested in a serious relationship, but at least I'd like to get a reply within hours...
This girl is in an "open relationship" with some other guy and ended up in bed with you after your first date. Chances are she sees you as another hook up.
My suggestion is to take it casually and not get emotionally invested because chances are she isn't either. Maybe one thing will lead to another later but for now just relax and enjoy it.
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