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On June 05 2014 17:14 SixStrings wrote:
I'm not worried about a pregnancy. I didn't come inside her (well, I did, but not in a way that could get her pregnant), and by the time she would notice she'd be back in Japan anyway.
I was just worried because her English was absolutely terrible, she didn't know loads of basic words, but she knew what 69 meant.
wat
69 is numbers not words
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On June 05 2014 17:14 SixStrings wrote:
I'm not worried about a pregnancy. I didn't come inside her (well, I did, but not in a way that could get her pregnant)
What?
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On June 05 2014 17:14 SixStrings wrote:
and by the time she would notice she'd be back in Japan anyway.
is it possible to ban someone for beeing a horrible human beeing?
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On June 05 2014 17:58 Snotling wrote:Show nested quote +On June 05 2014 17:14 SixStrings wrote:
and by the time she would notice she'd be back in Japan anyway.
is it possible to ban someone for beeing a horrible human beeing?
ya thats real shitty
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Obviously I wasn't serious, but I was warned to stop being an asshole, so I'll refrain from sharing these stories from now on.
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Northern Ireland25281 Posts
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So, today I confessed to my crush about my feelings. Things are pretty 50/50 at the moment, so wish me luck, bros.
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I wish you luck, but you better keep us updated ! Still waiting for Talron's end of story...
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On June 05 2014 21:08 MagmaPunch wrote:
So, today I confessed to my crush about my feelings. Things are pretty 50/50 at the moment, so wish me luck, bros.
I think we´ve discussed this a lot of times before. From my personal experience, you should not do that as long as you are just "friends" or sth. like that. The reason is simple; I believe that, if you are into her and she is into you, there is no need for any sort of confession since there are multiple signs of attraction. Like kissing, having sex, spending lots of time together and so on. And on the other hand, if she´s not willing to kiss you/have sex/meet you then theres also no need to confess, because what do you expect to change?
An exception to this would be if you guys had an affair or sth like that and suddenly you fell in love with her. But things beeing 50/50 does sound like you´re trying to "convince" her.
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On June 05 2014 21:35 Cynry wrote:
I wish you luck, but you better keep us updated ! Still waiting for Talron's end of story...
Oh well ... I'll just let you know, that I am pretty damn happy with how things went. However I don't have much time these days due to exams coming up soon. I'll post the whole story, once I find some time.
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On June 05 2014 23:18 Talron wrote:Show nested quote +On June 05 2014 21:35 Cynry wrote:
I wish you luck, but you better keep us updated ! Still waiting for Talron's end of story... Oh well ... I'll just let you know, that I am pretty damn happy with how things went. However I don't have much time these days due to exams coming up soon. I'll post the whole story, once I find some time.
That's great then ! GL with your exams too
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Northern Ireland25281 Posts
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On June 06 2014 00:07 Wombat_NI wrote:
Talron confirmed baller
dating experts and cynics weep
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Northern Ireland25281 Posts
Tbf there's only so much you can surmise from a forum post when it's referring to a 3+ year platonic relationship, with all the accumulated effects of every interaction that's occurred over that time span
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I had a very, very, good first date today with a girl I met online. The area I live is a bunch of cities all considered part of the same 'region' and she lives in a city somewhat far from the one I live in. I had to wake up a few hours earlier than I normally do and drive a half hour to meet her up there. She and I had texted a bit in the prior days, and had a full conversation in Spanish, a language she is fluent in and I know a decent amount in, and had a lot of common interests, so I had high hopes, but I know enough not to have any expectations. I don't know the city she lives in for shit, so I got a bit lost trying to find the place we were to meet, but I found it eventually. At first it was awkward since she was kind of quiet, but I had kind of high hopes, so I persisted. We had lunch, and then walked to the nearby park where we sat and watched the ducks in the pond for an hour or so. Conversation was good and, like I said, we had a good deal in common. It was really nice. I had a feeling she wanted me to make a move, but I have a policy against kissing people I just met, so I didn't. I wanted to stay a while longer, but I had to go to work, sadly, so we made plans to get together 'soon' so I can cook dinner for her (cooking is my passion) and we're going to watch princess bride, a mutual favorite movie. I texted her a little while ago to confirm that we can do it monday, and she seemed really excited. Sealed the deal with a bit of a corny joke. She wanted me to make thai food for her, since she's never had it. I called the potential date "Princess Thai'd." Puns are my specialty. I'm quite excited about all this, but doing my absolute best to stay realistic.
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Netherlands6181 Posts
On June 06 2014 15:42 LeeDawg wrote:
I had a very, very, good first date today with a girl I met online. The area I live is a bunch of cities all considered part of the same 'region' and she lives in a city somewhat far from the one I live in. I had to wake up a few hours earlier than I normally do and drive a half hour to meet her up there. She and I had texted a bit in the prior days, and had a full conversation in Spanish, a language she is fluent in and I know a decent amount in, and had a lot of common interests, so I had high hopes, but I know enough not to have any expectations. I don't know the city she lives in for shit, so I got a bit lost trying to find the place we were to meet, but I found it eventually. At first it was awkward since she was kind of quiet, but I had kind of high hopes, so I persisted. We had lunch, and then walked to the nearby park where we sat and watched the ducks in the pond for an hour or so. Conversation was good and, like I said, we had a good deal in common. It was really nice. I had a feeling she wanted me to make a move, but I have a policy against kissing people I just met, so I didn't. I wanted to stay a while longer, but I had to go to work, sadly, so we made plans to get together 'soon' so I can cook dinner for her (cooking is my passion) and we're going to watch princess bride, a mutual favorite movie. I texted her a little while ago to confirm that we can do it monday, and she seemed really excited. Sealed the deal with a bit of a corny joke. She wanted me to make thai food for her, since she's never had it. I called the potential date "Princess Thai'd." Puns are my specialty. I'm quite excited about all this, but doing my absolute best to stay realistic.
That is cute  made me smile. Good luck! Keep us updated, sounds like you've found a good one.
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On June 06 2014 16:46 dravernor wrote:Show nested quote +On June 06 2014 15:42 LeeDawg wrote:
I had a very, very, good first date today with a girl I met online. The area I live is a bunch of cities all considered part of the same 'region' and she lives in a city somewhat far from the one I live in. I had to wake up a few hours earlier than I normally do and drive a half hour to meet her up there. She and I had texted a bit in the prior days, and had a full conversation in Spanish, a language she is fluent in and I know a decent amount in, and had a lot of common interests, so I had high hopes, but I know enough not to have any expectations. I don't know the city she lives in for shit, so I got a bit lost trying to find the place we were to meet, but I found it eventually. At first it was awkward since she was kind of quiet, but I had kind of high hopes, so I persisted. We had lunch, and then walked to the nearby park where we sat and watched the ducks in the pond for an hour or so. Conversation was good and, like I said, we had a good deal in common. It was really nice. I had a feeling she wanted me to make a move, but I have a policy against kissing people I just met, so I didn't. I wanted to stay a while longer, but I had to go to work, sadly, so we made plans to get together 'soon' so I can cook dinner for her (cooking is my passion) and we're going to watch princess bride, a mutual favorite movie. I texted her a little while ago to confirm that we can do it monday, and she seemed really excited. Sealed the deal with a bit of a corny joke. She wanted me to make thai food for her, since she's never had it. I called the potential date "Princess Thai'd." Puns are my specialty. I'm quite excited about all this, but doing my absolute best to stay realistic. That is cute made me smile. Good luck! Keep us updated, sounds like you've found a good one.
I dunno. People who have a policy about not kissing on the first date sound like the kind of people who make up fake policies so that they don't have to be uncomfortable. Do I kiss her or don't I? Well I don't have to worry about that since I have a policy on it.
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On June 06 2014 16:46 dravernor wrote:Show nested quote +On June 06 2014 15:42 LeeDawg wrote:
I had a very, very, good first date today with a girl I met online. The area I live is a bunch of cities all considered part of the same 'region' and she lives in a city somewhat far from the one I live in. I had to wake up a few hours earlier than I normally do and drive a half hour to meet her up there. She and I had texted a bit in the prior days, and had a full conversation in Spanish, a language she is fluent in and I know a decent amount in, and had a lot of common interests, so I had high hopes, but I know enough not to have any expectations. I don't know the city she lives in for shit, so I got a bit lost trying to find the place we were to meet, but I found it eventually. At first it was awkward since she was kind of quiet, but I had kind of high hopes, so I persisted. We had lunch, and then walked to the nearby park where we sat and watched the ducks in the pond for an hour or so. Conversation was good and, like I said, we had a good deal in common. It was really nice. I had a feeling she wanted me to make a move, but I have a policy against kissing people I just met, so I didn't. I wanted to stay a while longer, but I had to go to work, sadly, so we made plans to get together 'soon' so I can cook dinner for her (cooking is my passion) and we're going to watch princess bride, a mutual favorite movie. I texted her a little while ago to confirm that we can do it monday, and she seemed really excited. Sealed the deal with a bit of a corny joke. She wanted me to make thai food for her, since she's never had it. I called the potential date "Princess Thai'd." Puns are my specialty. I'm quite excited about all this, but doing my absolute best to stay realistic. That is cute made me smile. Good luck! Keep us updated, sounds like you've found a good one.
the guy cooks, makes puns and likes Princess Bride, she's the lucky one obv! good luck for your dinner date mate!
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Yes yes, puns are indeed your specialty. What's up with the policy thing? Sounds kinda weird. Each situation is different and it makes sense to me to just wing it and make case by case calls.
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Netherlands6181 Posts
I dunno, first date decisions like to kiss or not to kiss don't really matter to me. If there is going to be a second date then there is always an opportunity to kiss then. If there isn't going to be one then I would be glad I didn't bother.
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