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On September 13 2013 02:57 Mortal wrote:Show nested quote +On September 13 2013 02:53 farvacola wrote:On September 13 2013 02:51 KaiserKieran wrote:On September 13 2013 02:49 farvacola wrote: You already said the magic words; just say "I thought we were just friends?" Her exact question is: But do you want to know? How the fuck do I answer that? Well since you don't want to be a dick about it, just be honest. Say that you do want to know, as it sounds like you value her friendship, and then say that you aren't looking to date around right now. On September 13 2013 02:52 Mortal wrote: broke up with my girlfriend of about a year just recently. honestly don't feel as bummed as i should, so i expect it was for the best of us both. too many irreconcilable differences between us. who's my next victim? FARVA? :D, if you come round Seattle ill be your wingman dawg. how's about you swing your way down to Portland? actually no, I'll make the drive. Lol, so I take it the rumors about Portland's dating scene have a token of truth? Hiking boot city?
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On September 13 2013 02:53 farvacola wrote:Show nested quote +On September 13 2013 02:51 KaiserKieran wrote:On September 13 2013 02:49 farvacola wrote: You already said the magic words; just say "I thought we were just friends?" Her exact question is: But do you want to know? How the fuck do I answer that? Well since you don't want to be a dick about it, just be honest. Say that you do want to know, as it sounds like you value her friendship, and then say that you aren't looking to date around right now. Show nested quote +On September 13 2013 02:52 Mortal wrote: broke up with my girlfriend of about a year just recently. honestly don't feel as bummed as i should, so i expect it was for the best of us both. too many irreconcilable differences between us. who's my next victim? FARVA? :D, if you come round Seattle ill be your wingman dawg.
Let me tag along so i can take notes on how to be a wingman. I'll go incognito with my trench coat and fake glasses, I'll even bring my spy notebook and invisible ink so no one will suspect anything...
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Just make sure you bring your mystery meat too, you never know how these things are gonna end up.
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in Portland, the mystery meat is a must. and no, hiking boots is WAY too generous. try Crocs with 2 pairs of staggered socks.
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I still like you as a friend either way.
good?
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On September 13 2013 03:16 KaiserKieran wrote: I still like you as a friend either way.
good? I want to keep you as a friend is better imo.
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Fuck it. Just told her I just want to be friends.
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On September 13 2013 03:06 MysteryMeat1 wrote:Show nested quote +On September 13 2013 02:53 farvacola wrote:On September 13 2013 02:51 KaiserKieran wrote:On September 13 2013 02:49 farvacola wrote: You already said the magic words; just say "I thought we were just friends?" Her exact question is: But do you want to know? How the fuck do I answer that? Well since you don't want to be a dick about it, just be honest. Say that you do want to know, as it sounds like you value her friendship, and then say that you aren't looking to date around right now. On September 13 2013 02:52 Mortal wrote: broke up with my girlfriend of about a year just recently. honestly don't feel as bummed as i should, so i expect it was for the best of us both. too many irreconcilable differences between us. who's my next victim? FARVA? :D, if you come round Seattle ill be your wingman dawg. Let me tag along so i can take notes on how to be a wingman. I'll go incognito with my trench coat and fake glasses, I'll even bring my spy notebook and invisible ink so no one will suspect anything... funny thing is, that's everyone in Portland. so much so that you'll stand out being so inconspicuous. meta.
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Just do not wear crocs mm1. Unless you're secretly Mario Batali, in which case I'm sure it'll work out fine.
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DISASTER AVERTED I REPEAT DISASTER AVERTED!!!!
GOD THIS THREAD IS AWESOME
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On top of my game and dating a foreign chick!
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User was warned for this post
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On September 13 2013 03:45 farvacola wrote: Just do not wear crocs mm1. Unless you're secretly Mario Batali, in which case I'm sure it'll work out fine. i might be mario batali.
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On September 12 2013 23:16 kaykaykay wrote: So this girl i like in school, ( she's 18. real athlete type, swims, tennis and just gives people the "I'm always improving" vibe which i find really attractive. )
During the holidays, we went out together in a group once, we had fun and everything and i tried to escalate things from there. However when school started, she has her own group of friends and I kinda botched things with a letter.
She said she lost the letter I wrote asking her out which I find it hard to believe hahaha I might be wrong though.
today we met up for some extra curricular activities and during the exercise, we had to write each other letters. She tells me to continue being mysterious, knowledgeable and confident, that I'm reliable. ( yes I help her too damn much, she's the president of my club )
how would you carry on from here? I'm trying to encourage more communication between us because I find that lacking sorely..
Advice keenly needed.
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asking for a girl friend
how do you get across to a guy that you are just studying and having coffee as friends and not as a date
what is the general consensus oh tL citizens
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On September 13 2013 10:52 kaykaykay wrote:Show nested quote +On September 12 2013 23:16 kaykaykay wrote: So this girl i like in school, ( she's 18. real athlete type, swims, tennis and just gives people the "I'm always improving" vibe which i find really attractive. )
During the holidays, we went out together in a group once, we had fun and everything and i tried to escalate things from there. However when school started, she has her own group of friends and I kinda botched things with a letter.
She said she lost the letter I wrote asking her out which I find it hard to believe hahaha I might be wrong though.
today we met up for some extra curricular activities and during the exercise, we had to write each other letters. She tells me to continue being mysterious, knowledgeable and confident, that I'm reliable. ( yes I help her too damn much, she's the president of my club )
how would you carry on from here? I'm trying to encourage more communication between us because I find that lacking sorely.. Advice keenly needed.
Just ask her out in person. Though the letter was a nice idea and a lot of girls would find that really sweet and charming. Asking in person shows more confidence and you're gonna have to deal with her eventually.
Just get her alone for like 3-5min and then just go for it. You can go from there depending on her response and how she reacts. Ask her to go do something together or just straight up ask her to be your gf haha. Haven't been in highschool for awhile but more than a few HS relationships I knew of started pretty bluntly lol.
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On September 13 2013 11:47 VayneAuthority wrote: asking for a girl friend
how do you get across to a guy that you are just studying and having coffee as friends and not as a date
what is the general consensus oh tL citizens I don't think you can really go for coffee with a guy(or vice versa, whichever way you swing for whichever gender) and not have it at least somewhat assumed there is something more.
I'd just straight up say it, but I lack tact as a matter of fact.
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On September 13 2013 11:47 VayneAuthority wrote: asking for a girl friend
how do you get across to a guy that you are just studying and having coffee as friends and not as a date
what is the general consensus oh tL citizens
I think it's pretty clear that it won't be a date as long as studying is the focus of your meeting. If I were to ask a girl to study with me over cofee or whatever I wouldnt think of it as a date but rather to get to know her better to decide if I wanted to date her, and then ask more directly to hang out.
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On September 13 2013 11:47 VayneAuthority wrote: asking for a girl friend
how do you get across to a guy that you are just studying and having coffee as friends and not as a date
what is the general consensus oh tL citizens
do the worst thing you can to him, treat him as a brother
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Tinder is out for Android now! Gonna give this a go.
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On September 13 2013 12:51 Jonoman92 wrote: Tinder is out for Android now! Gonna give this a go. Oh fuk LOL. I feel like this could be the beginning of some terribly hilarious thread stories.
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