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I picked up a lunch shift at the restaurant I work at and of course lunch shift on a Thursday so it was pretty slow. But there were two girls who sat at the sushi bar, both of them quite attractive. They ordered a bit of sake, one of them I checked her ID and she was 21 (me too) and the other was a bit older (maybe 30) and the asshole I am I didn't bother checking her ID (lol).
I wasn't especially chatty with them but I was nice like I am to every customer. Towards the end of their meal I'm about to hand them their check and the older one says, "so are you single, cause my friend here happens to be single." We have a little bit of banter and I end up giving the girl my number and end up getting a 30% tip.
After spending all day wondering whether or not she would actually hit me up I got a text from her during my dinner shift.
I have a date on Monday. 
So glad I covered that shift.
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On May 24 2013 14:46 slam wrote:I picked up a lunch shift at the restaurant I work at and of course lunch shift on a Thursday so it was pretty slow. But there were two girls who sat at the sushi bar, both of them quite attractive. They ordered a bit of sake, one of them I checked her ID and she was 21 (me too) and the other was a bit older (maybe 30) and the asshole I am I didn't bother checking her ID (lol). I wasn't especially chatty with them but I was nice like I am to every customer. Towards the end of their meal I'm about to hand them their check and the older one says, "so are you single, cause my friend here happens to be single." We have a little bit of banter and I end up giving the girl my number and end up getting a 30% tip. After spending all day wondering whether or not she would actually hit me up I got a text from her during my dinner shift. I have a date on Monday. So glad I covered that shift.
Gotta love f&b right, so many chances to chat up the ladies 
On a personal note: after my train wreck of a first relationship I didn't let any girl get close romantically for almost six years... Every time I slept with a girl or things started to look more serious I completely lost all interest and got out asap. Now I have been dating a girl for two months or so and I actually start liking her more and more. Too bad there is an expiration date on this. Still, it's good to be reminded that a good relationship is actually possible
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Man do girls act horny after drinks are they really super horny with alcohol? Most of my exes had this attribute its pretty strange...
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On May 25 2013 04:02 bloopie wrote:
Man do girls act horny after drinks are they really super horny with alcohol? Most of my exes had this attribute its pretty strange...
Don't you get horny when you're drunk?
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On May 25 2013 04:08 TOCHMY wrote:Show nested quote +On May 25 2013 04:02 bloopie wrote:
Man do girls act horny after drinks are they really super horny with alcohol? Most of my exes had this attribute its pretty strange... Don't you get horny when you're drunk?
No?
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On May 25 2013 04:10 Kontys wrote:Show nested quote +On May 25 2013 04:08 TOCHMY wrote:On May 25 2013 04:02 bloopie wrote:
Man do girls act horny after drinks are they really super horny with alcohol? Most of my exes had this attribute its pretty strange... Don't you get horny when you're drunk? No?
I do :O
E: what I'm getting at is, yes, girls do get horny when they're drunk, not all, but some/most/a few
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On May 25 2013 04:11 TOCHMY wrote:Show nested quote +On May 25 2013 04:10 Kontys wrote:On May 25 2013 04:08 TOCHMY wrote:On May 25 2013 04:02 bloopie wrote:
Man do girls act horny after drinks are they really super horny with alcohol? Most of my exes had this attribute its pretty strange... Don't you get horny when you're drunk? No? I do :O E: what I'm getting at is, yes, girls do get horny when they're drunk, not all, but some/most/a few
Alcohol lowers peoples impulse control generally, so i wouldnt say people generally get horny from alcohol (might be the case for some individuals). They are just more likely to act on their feeling of hornyness because they dont care or dont even think about consequence that mightve stopped them from doing it sober.
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On May 24 2013 14:01 sunprince wrote:Show nested quote +On May 24 2013 11:02 TheFish7 wrote:Goddamnit, The female I have been crushing on at work has told me she is leaving the company and moving to Manhattan (I work in Connecticut) Now the good news is that I live in the Bronx so that is actually closer to me, but the bad news is that I feel like we will probably not talk again after next week if I do not take some drastic action. We only met a few weeks ago so this is pretty shitty timing. I suppose I have to either get her digits or ask her out before she leaves. I am sure she'd give me her number if I just asked but I am not looking for a friendship I want to be clear I am looking for a date and/or sex. I am afraid asking for her number right before she leaves is going to come across as I either want her as like a business contact or I want to creep on her or some shit. Any ideas? I am despairing over here.  Needs more context for better tailored advice. How has your interaction been so far? Already flirtatious, or what? You don't really need to be clear about anything. All you're looking to do is hang out with her over drinks, and you can escalate from there. What you don't want to do is essentially tell her while at work that you want to date/hook up.
Well, I wouldn't say flirtatious. But I do get positive vibes from her, for example, I went to find her the other day in the cafeteria and she was talking to her boss and some interns- when I showed up she gave me a huge smile from across the room and left the conversation to come talk to me. Another time a big group of us went out together for burgers and beers, and she sat next to me and we had some nice conversation (about work, school, sports we used to play, etc.), but it was friendly, not flirty. Thing is, we've only known each other for about 3 weeks since we work on opposite sides of a large builidng. The only reason we found each other at all is because we both play for the company softball team and the season started 3 weeks ago. So I've had little time to work with and now I have to make a move of some kind. I guess the plan right now is to just be casual and ask if she'd like to hang out sometime. I'll post the results
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I guess the plan right now is to just be casual and ask if she'd like to hang out sometime. I'll post the results.
Surely you mean to just be casual and tell her that you'd like to hang out with her there and then, right? =P
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On May 25 2013 05:39 r.Evo wrote:Show nested quote +I guess the plan right now is to just be casual and ask if she'd like to hang out sometime. I'll post the results. Surely you mean to just be casual and tell her that you'd like to hang out with her there and then, right? =P
This.
You literally don't need anything more than: "Hey, I was gonna grab a drink after work, come join me!"
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To what extent do you guys feel one should indulge in a girl's bullshit? In this case the girl I'm dating suddenly acting all jealous of the fact I have female friends.. is the appropriate reaction something like suck it up or more along the lines of 'don't worry they're nothing but friends'? For the record she has male friends she hangs out with and I'm completely fine with it.
Edit: she's also on her period btw.
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Her being on her peroid means absolute shit. Unless she brings it up every single time she's on it or something. I'd tell her their just friends etc and then if she persists you can mention she has male friends so why can't you have female?
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On May 25 2013 15:01 B.I.G. wrote:
To what extent do you guys feel one should indulge in a girl's bullshit? In this case the girl I'm dating suddenly acting all jealous of the fact I have female friends.. is the appropriate reaction something like suck it up or more along the lines of 'don't worry they're nothing but friends'? For the record she has male friends she hangs out with and I'm completely fine with it.
Edit: she's also on her period btw.
How do you feel about jealousy as a concept? If you're one of those types who like that she's getting jealous "in general" but not in this case, then it's more along your second idea. If you don't like the fact that she's jealous at all, then it's also along the line of your second idea, but more sternly. Don't let her blame her period, women get away with too much shit already that way.
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Nah she's not blaming her period, I just mentioned it because I remember all too well how it would turn my older sister into the spawn of Satan every month. I guess I don't mind a bit of reasonable jealousy (like if she would see me talk to a strange girl), the problem I guess is that woman rarely are reasonable when it comes to emotions..
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My good manly gentlemen,
I need a second (or third) opinion of my current situation.
I met this girl at work. As a bit of background, both of us have quite adverse views to dating in the work place, so when we initially met it was as colleagues and eventually friends. That said, there's always been great chemistry between us, and we flirt to a silly extent all the time. Perhaps in the back of my mind I always thought about dating him sometime, so I've been quite careful not to become "that really friendly" guy.
Anyway, I know that she wants to be asked "to be dated" in a nice old fashioned way, and I have some ideas how to go about that (I am thinking of cooking, which is a big deal in Singapore since no one cooks).
The one sort of spanner in the works is that I recently discovered that she tried seeing another guy recently. It wasn't much (4 dates), and it didn't work out in the end. So this really raises two things:
(1) Am I correct about my read on her that she likes me? (well this is the easy question, and can be resolved by asking)
(2) How long should I wait before coming in, seeing that she just stopped seeing another person (however brief and inconsequential that was)?
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Got friendzoned hard last night, by the girl I've been in love with for two years.
FML
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On May 25 2013 23:48 Psychonian wrote:
Got friendzoned hard last night, by the girl I've been in love with for two years.
FML
that sucks dude. Well at least now you know that she isn't in to you and you can totally go date other people =)
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On May 25 2013 23:58 levelping wrote:Show nested quote +On May 25 2013 23:48 Psychonian wrote:
Got friendzoned hard last night, by the girl I've been in love with for two years.
FML that sucks dude. Well at least now you know that she isn't in to you and you can totally go date other people =)
Time for alcohol!
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On May 25 2013 23:48 Psychonian wrote:
Got friendzoned hard last night, by the girl I've been in love with for two years.
FML
imo you friendzoned yourself by not telling her for two years^^.
learn something from this for the next time. so it wasnt for nothing
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On May 26 2013 02:20 Snotling wrote:Show nested quote +On May 25 2013 23:48 Psychonian wrote:
Got friendzoned hard last night, by the girl I've been in love with for two years.
FML imo you friendzoned yourself by not telling her for two years^^. learn something from this for the next time. so it wasnt for nothing
I agree with this. The friend zone isn't some unfortunate roll of the dice, it's you're fault. You're love must have not been that strong to wait 2 years to man up.
Though the story you gave us was very simple. Perhaps more detail would enlighten us on the situation.
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