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On March 08 2013 04:41 phipsL wrote:
So i already posted here but i thought i might do an update. Well, it isnt an update since nothing has changed so im still thinking my destiny doesnt want me to get a date
Don't listen to those using "she isn't comfortable enough with you to be alone with you" as an excuse for not going out with you on a 1-on-1 date. You're in public. How alone can you be? She only said yes because she couldn't think of an excuse to say no that wouldn't hurt your feelings. Girls are like that. Move on to the next girl.
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If you are going on a first date, the movies is a bad idea... unless you already know the person well enough. I find that if you don't talk or interact on the date often, you don't get a good experience to get to know that person. I choose dinner or a sports game, but dinner is better since my date can hear me.
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On March 08 2013 08:45 Pleiades wrote:
If you are going on a first date, the movies is a bad idea... unless you already know the person well enough. I find that if you don't talk or interact on the date often, you don't get a good experience to get to know that person. I choose dinner or a sports game, but dinner is better since my date can hear me.
A really fun date is to go out to the zoo or just an outing place that is open where two people can spend a lot of time together without easily getting bored. Sports games would be a good second date if you know she likes a certain sport, I hate movie dates unless the two are already a solid couple since that requires a lot of NOT making bonds that are vocal.
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On March 08 2013 03:53 fox77 wrote:
Ok so I have a story to tell. There is this girl in my University class I like I asked her out for a date and she said yes. 2 days later I texted her to pick her up at the University Campus I send her a text she says she's there and I can pick her up and her friend as well. That was NOT part of the plan, but I go along anyways I take her friend since I know her friend and shes in our class. Ok guys so I have a question why would she do this? Is it because she doesn't trust me and she needs protection for her friend? Did she bring her friend so she could get feedback from her friend? Anyways is this a good/bad sign that she wanted to bring along her friend?
It means she didn't know how she would feel about you and wanted an easy way out. Basically, if she gets bored she'll turn her attention to her friend, or use her as a sort of buffer between the two of you. She could just be shy, or she could have really low expectations for you. Not a great sign, but not unrecoverable.
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I am really in luck with dating recently. Breaking up after a 11 years long relationships. It took me a year just to move on, that is after she's married to another man.
Well, anyway, I know this girl a few years back but we are just normal friends since we were both in a relationship. I really like her though. She broke up with her bf about the time I broke with my gf. Just last month, I though I would give it a shot since we've been talking and doing some stuffs together.
All went well  since we both have feeling for each other. After knowing only one person for 11 years, having close interact with another the soul is AMAZING, really. I've missed out so much, I am gonna treasure this oppotunity.
Good luck to guys too :D.
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On February 23 2013 05:11 nShade wrote:I invited a girl over to watch a movie after a couple of days of going out. I really set the mood well, got some red whine..and popcorn, dimmed the lights. Everything was perfect! We sat down on the confy couch, surrounded by many pillows and we played the movie (a romantic comedy) Then a funny scene comes up.... ...We started laughing and I had THE LOUDEST FUCKING FART. Then she wanted to leave.  Help. (This is not a joke.)
Hahahahahha!!!!....
so she just left? You didn't get a little pissed off that she just decided to get up and leave after all that prep from you? I would have given her some shit for wanting to leave, and then if she still left I would have walked her out, grabbed my garden hose, and sprayed her down as she got into her car.
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On March 08 2013 03:53 fox77 wrote:
Ok so I have a story to tell. There is this girl in my University class I like I asked her out for a date and she said yes. 2 days later I texted her to pick her up at the University Campus I send her a text she says she's there and I can pick her up and her friend as well. That was NOT part of the plan, but I go along anyways I take her friend since I know her friend and shes in our class. Ok guys so I have a question why would she do this? Is it because she doesn't trust me and she needs protection for her friend? Did she bring her friend so she could get feedback from her friend? Anyways is this a good/bad sign that she wanted to bring along her friend?
has anyone ever described you as rapey looking
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On March 08 2013 23:59 QuanticHawk wrote:Show nested quote +On March 08 2013 03:53 fox77 wrote:
Ok so I have a story to tell. There is this girl in my University class I like I asked her out for a date and she said yes. 2 days later I texted her to pick her up at the University Campus I send her a text she says she's there and I can pick her up and her friend as well. That was NOT part of the plan, but I go along anyways I take her friend since I know her friend and shes in our class. Ok guys so I have a question why would she do this? Is it because she doesn't trust me and she needs protection for her friend? Did she bring her friend so she could get feedback from her friend? Anyways is this a good/bad sign that she wanted to bring along her friend? has anyone ever described you as rapey looking
Pro-tip: Rapey and Creepy are code for ugly.
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On March 08 2013 03:53 fox77 wrote:
Ok so I have a story to tell. There is this girl in my University class I like I asked her out for a date and she said yes. 2 days later I texted her to pick her up at the University Campus I send her a text she says she's there and I can pick her up and her friend as well. That was NOT part of the plan, but I go along anyways I take her friend since I know her friend and shes in our class. Ok guys so I have a question why would she do this? Is it because she doesn't trust me and she needs protection for her friend? Did she bring her friend so she could get feedback from her friend? Anyways is this a good/bad sign that she wanted to bring along her friend?
This is exactly what happened to me at one point. Message was received.
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On March 08 2013 08:45 Pleiades wrote:
If you are going on a first date, the movies is a bad idea... unless you already know the person well enough. I find that if you don't talk or interact on the date often, you don't get a good experience to get to know that person. I choose dinner or a sports game, but dinner is better since my date can hear me.
I dunno i always try to talk to them a bunch before we actually do go out, that way you know more about her/get a feel for her ahead of time. Makes it alot less awkward if you know something about each other before deciding to just go out.
That being said just doing what she likes to do/going on a walk or something usually is the best it hink.
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On February 23 2013 05:11 nShade wrote:I invited a girl over to watch a movie after a couple of days of going out. I really set the mood well, got some red whine..and popcorn, dimmed the lights. Everything was perfect! We sat down on the confy couch, surrounded by many pillows and we played the movie (a romantic comedy) Then a funny scene comes up.... ...We started laughing and I had THE LOUDEST FUCKING FART. Then she wanted to leave. Help. (This is not a joke.)
Sorry man, sounds like you 'blew' your chance.
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Bag of hot air if you ask me.
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I find that now that I've started work again I notice that I need a relationship. When I come home to an empty place after a long day at work, I just need affection.
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On March 12 2013 09:42 Firestorm wrote:
I find that now that I've started work again I notice that I need a relationship. When I come home to an empty place after a long day at work, I just need affection.
Could always get a cat or a dog.
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Long story short; found myself in a situation with work and uni where going out wasn't really an option the next couple of months and being singe I thought I'd give net dating a try. Made a profile, been chatting and meeting some cool women and then after a few months without really finding anything worth more than a couple of dates this AMAZING woman contacts me.
We've been mailing last 4-5 days - long ass mails, and I've been telling her personal stuff and she's been doing the same that I didn't think I'd ever do with someone I've never met - let alone this short amount of time. My problem is that she's had a rough year, dad died and shit and she's rather reluctant about meeting up - which I'm fine with (kinda) she really could be the (next) one, but I'm starting to get a feeling that I might be friendzoning myself already. So my question is - how do I get her to wanting to meet up with me, before I talk myself into the dreaded zone and does anyone have some awesome tips they wanna share about net dating in general?
Thanks in advance!
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On March 14 2013 05:43 Calliopee wrote:
Long story short; found myself in a situation with work and uni where going out wasn't really an option the next couple of months and being singe I thought I'd give net dating a try. Made a profile, been chatting and meeting some cool women and then after a few months without really finding anything worth more than a couple of dates this AMAZING woman contacts me.
We've been mailing last 4-5 days - long ass mails, and I've been telling her personal stuff and she's been doing the same that I didn't think I'd ever do with someone I've never met - let alone this short amount of time. My problem is that she's had a rough year, dad died and shit and she's rather reluctant about meeting up - which I'm fine with (kinda) she really could be the (next) one, but I'm starting to get a feeling that I might be friendzoning myself already. So my question is - how do I get her to wanting to meet up with me, before I talk myself into the dreaded zone and does anyone have some awesome tips they wanna share about net dating in general?
Thanks in advance!
You have to meet up simple as that. Try skyping or something along those lines so you can talk to each other in real-time and see each others faces. After that, aim to meet at some public place etc. Maybe inbetween your two locations wherever you are, hopefully nearby. Her biggest worry is that you are a major creeper and that it's safe to actually meet you irl. Show her you're a normal person and meet in public where she will be comfortable. If needed tell her she can bring a friend, this is just to set her mind at ease at meeting up. After the intial interaction and she realizes you're safe to be around and not a rapist then you can actually go on dates alone together lol.
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On March 08 2013 12:37 Caphe wrote:I am really in luck with dating recently. Breaking up after a 11 years long relationships. It took me a year just to move on, that is after she's married to another man. Well, anyway, I know this girl a few years back but we are just normal friends since we were both in a relationship. I really like her though. She broke up with her bf about the time I broke with my gf. Just last month, I though I would give it a shot since we've been talking and doing some stuffs together. All went well since we both have feeling for each other. After knowing only one person for 11 years, having close interact with another the soul is AMAZING, really. I've missed out so much, I am gonna treasure this oppotunity. Good luck to guys too :D.
dating for 11 years o_0, pretty fucking long time bro lolol
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Today I asked out this girl in my Group Communications class to dinner over sprink break and she said "I dont know mabye later ill let you know"
Can anybody interpret if that is a yes or no or mabye or is it just a nice way of saying fuck off? Im so confused -_-;
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On March 22 2013 06:58 Ubiquitousdichotomy wrote:
Today I asked out this girl in my Group Communications class to dinner over sprink break and she said "I dont know mabye later ill let you know"
Can anybody interpret if that is a yes or no or mabye or is it just a nice way of saying fuck off? Im so confused -_-;
Nice way of shaking you off. Do you have her number or did she give you a way to get a hold of her? If so she was just busy and she actually wants to see you. If not you can try to ask her again and see if she "decided" but more likely than not she's alrdy decided and it's no.
If a girl likes you and wants to spend time with you she will make time available and won't deny anything you suggest to do together.
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