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On October 10 2011 02:36 xDaunt wrote:Show nested quote +On October 10 2011 01:51 ixi.genocide wrote:
Im a 300lb gamer with an IQ of 130 and some people consider me a reclusive sociopath.... I don't mix well with people. I also like being a dick to people. I would never hurt any girl and i am not the jealous type what so ever.
I like one girl in high school that was 4 years younger than me and also the neice of one of the people I played mtg with (Found out about that after I started to talk to her), I ended up being scared off because of age and still regret it. Outside of that I haven't had an imotional connection to anyone in years, I don't go out and I would rather just learn stuff on the internet than do anything else. I am also dirt poor and this recession hasn't helped what so ever, can't even afford to have a girlfriend because of the quality of life that i would want to uphold.
I have a question for this thread- I am about as big as Chris farley, how many girls would actually consider being with me? I don't care for bs answers, hopefully I can find a proper response. Not many. I'm sure that there's at least one girl out there who would consider it, but you've basically removed yourself from consideration by most girls out there. Bluntly stated, you're going to have give yourself a makeover to get into the game and get some consideration. Seven years ago, I wasn't in too dissimilar of a situation as you are in, other than that I was "only" 230 pounds. I finally decided that I had had enough, and worked on completely changing my life. It took about a year and a half to slim down and, probably more importantly, refine my rather awkward social skills with regards to women. Fortunately, I was a quick study, but it still was a rough process. EDIT: Also consider what type of girl you're willing to date. If you don't mind dating fatter girls, then you'll find it easier to find someone who's compatible. I wasn't willing to date fat girls and had fairly unreasonably high standards when I was dating. As such, I had to work a little bit harder to bring myself up to par with what I wanted.
or he can just get filthy rich ...
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On October 10 2011 00:52 MasterMonkey wrote:Ever been on a date with a Chinese girl? In China?! + Show Spoiler +I took a girl out about a month ago here in Shanghai, China. I'm American and she is Chinese which isn't a problem because my Chinese was good enough to speak with her and her English was good enough to fill in the gaps.
Well dinner went great and the food was awesome! (Did I mention I live in China?) I paid the bill and we went for a walk together. We walked and walked and walked and it was a great time all the while she was laughing at my ridiculous jokes and things were going smoothly.
We're on our way back to her place so I can drop her off (like gentlemen are supposed to!) and she steps right onto a piece of broken glass.... All of a sudden, blood is GUSHING out of her foot and I'm asking bystanders to help us out with tissues they have and where the nearest hospital is. They tell us where the nearest hospital is and I hail the first cab I see and I throw her in with the blood flowing. We get to the hospital in just a few minutes and we dash into the "emergency" room (slow as hell!) and she gets seen by a doctor who treats it pretty well but she doesn't opt for stitches. I'm no doctor but holy hell did she need stitches haha. Well I was with her at the hospital for 2 hours then we caught a cab home and I had to practically carry her up the stairs to her apartment and got her in her room safely and got her some water and food to eat since she lost so much blood and she gives me a goodnight kiss and I'm out the door.
On my way home I was in disbelief about what had happened and decided the night was still young enough to drink myself silly and have a good laugh about it. The next day I asked her about her foot and she said it was doing well and was thankful for my help. Later that evening, I was in the middle of a game of SCII and she called me at 1am. Well of course I couldn't answer! I was in the middle of a VERY important game as a Protoss against a Terran and if I made the tiniest mistake, my immortals would be attacking marines right?! So after the game I send her a text to see what's up. She immediately texts me back and says "Thank you so much for helping me the other night, I just wanted to hear the sound of your voice before I went to sleep"
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It had been a day after a first date and she wanted to hear the sound of my voice before she went to sleep?
Haven't talked to her since.
Yes, that was a hilarious story. Never get in the way of a man and his sc2.
A little story of a date, years ago. My advice: go buy "How to get a date worth keeping" by Henry Cloud. Worth its weight in gold IMO. Proof? I'm married now. 
+ Show Spoiler +I've had my share of interesting dates but one sticks out the most. My cousin invited me to a reception for a big diplomat from Vietnam. It had very high security like secret service ear things. Anyways, it was held at this super nice resort St. Regis. At the dinner reception, I spotted this cute girl out of my peripheral vision. I was like "what the hell?. I'll chit chat with her, what's there to lose." So I ended up talking to her and she seemed nice. I asked for her number and she gave it to me. Fast forward a week, I ask her out on a date to the movies. We meet up in front of the theatre and at first I don't recognize her. I remember at the reception, she had makeup on and nice clothes and she looked cute. While at the movies, she looked "not so cute". I was like rubbing my eyes to see if it was true. The date ended out decent as I tried to hide my surprise. In the end, I kept talking to her but I don't think she was interested in me. lol
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I once flew to Lisbon for a fourth date with someone...we broke up about 3 months later :<
(We are now back together though. Just sayin')
As for other date stories:
I was pulled over by police, and arrested (and later let go; by later, I mean 15 mins) because they'd been tipped off that the car I was driving was stolen. Had her in the car when I got pulled over for "drunk driving" while being the designated driver on a night out too. She was a bit of a jynx...broke up after she had a weird attention seeking pregnancy scare...
I had someone's ex appear on a date, and he attached himself to me and her, which was a bit...interesting. He then pointed out all the faults that he thought he could get away with, acted like a prize cunt, and was just generally a complete idiot. I didn't pull (though, he did, lol) the girl in the end, but given what she's turned out like now (Oh facebook, how I love thee) I think I got the better deal :D
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On October 10 2011 02:03 The KY wrote:Show nested quote +On October 10 2011 01:47 tluser111 wrote:
Everytime i talk with a girl i have no idea what topics to bring up and conversation just seem to stuck at one point. ... EDIT: Someone above mentioned being the 'jealous type' and oh god I have that problem. If a girl I'm with or even interested in even laughs at another guys joke I am filled with seething rage and envy...
I have a problem of being the opposite. I find "real life" (the social part :>) to be mind numbingly boring. A consequence of this is that I pay little to no attention to people for any extended period of time, I need constant stimulation. I've noticed girls do quite absurd things to try to get my attention (Wow did that sound like I am Day[9] with the ladies, no, I haven't been with many but the few that have shown interest ) which simply does not interest me.
From my experience they've gotten very frustrated.
They don't happier when I tell them I find them boring.
Maybe this isn't exactly opposite to your problem. But I figure the envying is kind of a problem of giving them too much attention, perhaps?
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On October 10 2011 02:49 humbre wrote:Show nested quote +On October 10 2011 02:36 xDaunt wrote:On October 10 2011 01:51 ixi.genocide wrote:
Im a 300lb gamer with an IQ of 130 and some people consider me a reclusive sociopath.... I don't mix well with people. I also like being a dick to people. I would never hurt any girl and i am not the jealous type what so ever.
I like one girl in high school that was 4 years younger than me and also the neice of one of the people I played mtg with (Found out about that after I started to talk to her), I ended up being scared off because of age and still regret it. Outside of that I haven't had an imotional connection to anyone in years, I don't go out and I would rather just learn stuff on the internet than do anything else. I am also dirt poor and this recession hasn't helped what so ever, can't even afford to have a girlfriend because of the quality of life that i would want to uphold.
I have a question for this thread- I am about as big as Chris farley, how many girls would actually consider being with me? I don't care for bs answers, hopefully I can find a proper response. Not many. I'm sure that there's at least one girl out there who would consider it, but you've basically removed yourself from consideration by most girls out there. Bluntly stated, you're going to have give yourself a makeover to get into the game and get some consideration. Seven years ago, I wasn't in too dissimilar of a situation as you are in, other than that I was "only" 230 pounds. I finally decided that I had had enough, and worked on completely changing my life. It took about a year and a half to slim down and, probably more importantly, refine my rather awkward social skills with regards to women. Fortunately, I was a quick study, but it still was a rough process. EDIT: Also consider what type of girl you're willing to date. If you don't mind dating fatter girls, then you'll find it easier to find someone who's compatible. I wasn't willing to date fat girls and had fairly unreasonably high standards when I was dating. As such, I had to work a little bit harder to bring myself up to par with what I wanted. or he can just get filthy rich ...
Hah, yes, that's always a solution to not getting laid enough. However, having a lot of money can be problematic with regards to finding a permanent relationship if you're not disciplined. Rich guys attract a lot of women with ill intentions. Let's face it, pussy clouds our judgment at times.
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On October 10 2011 01:51 AudionovA wrote:
Relationships? BAH i would never give up that much freedom. ;P
Hahaha so true.
I have had some luck with my most recent realationship and i enjoyed being in it. We still try to talk but I'm not sure if we will back get together. She left to go to the military for like 9 months so we write like once a week. But we broke up about 2 months before she left..... and it really felt like i was free, once again. Even though I enjoyed being with her but... it was weird. ahah
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On October 10 2011 02:51 sirkyan wrote:Show nested quote +On October 10 2011 02:03 The KY wrote:On October 10 2011 01:47 tluser111 wrote:
Everytime i talk with a girl i have no idea what topics to bring up and conversation just seem to stuck at one point. ... EDIT: Someone above mentioned being the 'jealous type' and oh god I have that problem. If a girl I'm with or even interested in even laughs at another guys joke I am filled with seething rage and envy... I have a problem of being the opposite. I find "real life" (the social part :>) to be mind numbingly boring. A consequence of this is that I pay little to no attention to people for any extended period of time, I need constant stimulation. I've noticed girls do quite absurd things to try to get my attention (Wow did that sound like I am Day[9] with the ladies, no, I haven't been with many but the few that have shown interest ) which simply does not interest me. From my experience they've gotten very frustrated. They don't happier when I tell them I find them boring. Maybe this isn't exactly opposite to your problem. But I figure the envying is kind of a problem of giving them too much attention, perhaps?
I do try and walk a careful line between seeming interested and seeming like I don't care, because women can be like cats - the more you try to go towards them the more they run away. But show a certain amount of casual indifference and they'll be all up on your lap (this analogy breaks down very soon).
But it's true that the male libido is like being chained to a mad man, and my stupid brain spends the whole time going 'There she is! Grab her! Tell her she's pretty! Ask her to marry you! Fuck, she turned slightly away you stupid fucking cunt you're going to die alone! Is she talking to someone else? KILL HIM. KILL HIM NOW.'
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This one chick I meet in college, I got her McDonald's frys and that got me a first date. The next night I slept with her and we decided to give it a serious try. We spent almost everyday together, literally because we lived on the same block. And I LOVED that. But I decided to move to a different place and she goes out with friends, gets drunk, and sleeps with her former boss. Were trying to work it out but things aren't going that well, to say the least and to save a TON of space.
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On October 10 2011 02:24 elimzkE wrote:Eh, I'm a student studying rendering techniques and newtonian physics at university in Australia. Girls in Australia haven't adjusted to the fact that technology has taken over a large portion of everyone's lives, so I'm viewed as a general geek with no life. Despite the fact I'm social every weekend, I'm mannered, I have a great sense of humour and (I'd like to think) I'm somewhat smart, as soon as I mention to Australian girls what I'm studying at uni I never get spoken to again. Learning Japanese now and am probably going to move to Japan after I finish my degree. I know for sure I'll have more luck there as I went there last year and girls swooned at the simple fact I had curly hair 
Japanese people are pretty xenophobic, so I'd be careful if I were you.
Girls who take interest in you because of your curly hair probably aren't worth looking into, unless they have other qualities.
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On October 10 2011 03:00 The KY wrote:Show nested quote +On October 10 2011 02:51 sirkyan wrote:On October 10 2011 02:03 The KY wrote:On October 10 2011 01:47 tluser111 wrote:
Everytime i talk with a girl i have no idea what topics to bring up and conversation just seem to stuck at one point. ... EDIT: Someone above mentioned being the 'jealous type' and oh god I have that problem. If a girl I'm with or even interested in even laughs at another guys joke I am filled with seething rage and envy... I have a problem of being the opposite. I find "real life" (the social part :>) to be mind numbingly boring. A consequence of this is that I pay little to no attention to people for any extended period of time, I need constant stimulation. I've noticed girls do quite absurd things to try to get my attention (Wow did that sound like I am Day[9] with the ladies, no, I haven't been with many but the few that have shown interest ) which simply does not interest me. From my experience they've gotten very frustrated. They don't happier when I tell them I find them boring. Maybe this isn't exactly opposite to your problem. But I figure the envying is kind of a problem of giving them too much attention, perhaps? I do try and walk a careful line between seeming interested and seeming like I don't care, because women can be like cats - the more you try to go towards them the more they run away. But show a certain amount of casual indifference and they'll be all up on your lap (this analogy breaks down very soon). But it's true that the male libido is like being chained to a mad man, and my stupid brain spends the whole time going 'There she is! Grab her! Tell her she's pretty! Ask her to marry you! Fuck, she turned slightly away you stupid fucking cunt you're going to die alone! Is she talking to someone else? KILL HIM. KILL HIM NOW.'
You're funny with self-distance anyway.
To note is that I have little to no interest in sex with any girl (or boy, or anything for that matter). When I'm with they I enjoy their company as such, the joy just fades and I have no interest in going further. That may be the difference. I don't know. I wouldn't call myself asexual however.
I'd love to feel like you though, it must be tonnes of fun if you have that kind of self distance during the times you feel like it. It'd be a good laugh after analysis :D.
Indifference doesn't bring anyone a laugh. I'd love to be able to make people laugh from the way I act.
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I envy you. Let me tell you why.
I have been with many different kinds of girls.
I know this will sound a little vain, but I am a quite attractive male. I work out a lot, am quite built naturally, and have an attractive face. A lot of people (my friends included) get jealous or upset from the attention that I sometimes get from females. Rarely do I go through a period of time that I am not having sex on a regular basis with at least one girl. This might sound great, and in a way it is. But it has one giant negative.
I see people together, guys with girls, worshiping that girl as if she is the most important thing in the universe. As if the man wants nothing but to be able to have that girl next to him forever. I cant find that. No matter what girl I am with, I always wonder what else I could have, and when that what else comes along quite frequently it makes it difficult to enjoy the one you are with. I have never loved a girl in my life, and I want to, desperately.
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Someone get the duct tape, the Girl Blogs section has leaked into General!
Bro, you're on a website for a game aimed at males of the 18-35 demographic, and posted a thread for single disillusioned young men. We've all got the same opinion.
I'll let my main man Louis CK field this one:
"It's hard to really look at someone and go 'Maybe something nice will happen'. I know too much about life to have any optimism. I know even if it's nice, it's going to lead to shit. I know if you smile at somebody and they smile back, you've just decided something shitty is going to happen. You might have a nice couple of dates but then she'll stop calling you back and that'll feel shitty. Or you'll date for a long time and then she'll have sex with one of your friends or you will with one of hers and that will be shitty. Or you'll get married and it won't work out and you'll get divorced and split your friends and money and that's horrible. Or you'll meet the perfect person who you love infinitely and you even argue well and you grow together and you have children and then you get old together and then she's gonna die.
That's the best case scenario, is that you're gonna lose your best friend and then just walk home from D'agostino's with heavy bags every day and wait for your turn to be nothing also."
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I recently met a girl, and she asked for my number/mail. 3 or 4 days later she calls me and invites me to a date that day. I had a very powerful flu so I declined. 2 days later I called her, and invited her over. She asked me if I could call her back cuz she was busy. I call her back and she declined cuz she had plans with her boyfriend. I wtfed and lol'd. Afterwards she cheated on her bf with me lol.
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Have not had a relationship in 8 years and could care less. I have tryed a little, asking a few girls out for dinner etc but have gotten turned down. guess people dont like free food.
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I started dating rather late in life, and my first few relationships ended rather shitty. im 25 now and would say i have more than made up for my late start in the last few years.
ive noticed the moment i got sort of disconnected in relationships--just not caring as much, my success with women has skyrocketed. im not at the point in life where i want any overly serious, so i think my mindset is pretty beneficial as it lets me soberly assess the situation and sidestep any scummy chicks trying to bring unnecessary drama into my life.
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On October 09 2011 15:41 TheBatman wrote:
One time I thought I dated a girl, but it turns out she was just waving to someone else across the room
then you have a sad definition of what dating means.
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I was on one "date" in the last 2 years and she never replied to the message i sent a day later, so i guess i'm quite unlucky.
Didn't even bother trying to find dates or talking to women since a year, wouldn't work out anyways.
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Never had a relationship that lasted over a week, first two were because they were total bitches, the third one was because I was a total douche, but even tho I have been trying to fix things, it never worked out. Back in high school apparently a lot of girls had crushes on me, but I was always a complete dumbass and never really noticed. Now that im in college, there isn't anyone for me :/
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Hm well lets see, im at a school with 10,000 undergrads and i know less than 40 girls. Basically it just sucks
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On October 10 2011 03:15 HawaiianPig wrote:Someone get the duct tape, the Girl Blogs section has leaked into General! Bro, you're on a website for a game aimed at males of the 18-35 demographic, and posted a thread for single disillusioned young men. We've all got the same opinion. I'll let my main man Louis CK field this one: "It's hard to really look at someone and go 'Maybe something nice will happen'. I know too much about life to have any optimism. I know even if it's nice, it's going to lead to shit. I know if you smile at somebody and they smile back, you've just decided something shitty is going to happen. You might have a nice couple of dates but then she'll stop calling you back and that'll feel shitty. Or you'll date for a long time and then she'll have sex with one of your friends or you will with one of hers and that will be shitty. Or you'll get married and it won't work out and you'll get divorced and split your friends and money and that's horrible. Or you'll meet the perfect person who you love infinitely and you even argue well and you grow together and you have children and then you get old together and then she's gonna die. That's the best case scenario, is that you're gonna lose your best friend and then just walk home from D'agostino's with heavy bags every day and wait for your turn to be nothing also."
Or you die first.
Poof! The guy who you quoted wasn't that smart. Or maybe the good times are worth the bad times?
I'd pick someone else to quote.
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