EPT[Follow Up] Girl Problem - Chapter 2 - Page 3
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des
United States507 Posts
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kCiNNiCk
United Kingdom313 Posts
Go 2 dates without a kiss its old fashioned Go 3 and your a homo!  I gotta admit bro, fucking nice job! Get in there my son! , i really enjoyed reading your post, and i hope it all goes well. You may not have got the reactions you wanted but her even agreeing to go Starbucks with you for that lunch meant that she atleast didnt mind being with you  . | ||
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Refrain[FriZ]
Canada4337 Posts
On February 14 2005 13:54 pooper-scooper wrote: I warned you in our last PM that you shouldn't take any excuse to chicken out, and you didn't! Way to go! Hi pooper, nice to see you've followed up with my situation. Don't think that there weren't times in which I thought about backing out. There were many. But I fought them off =] On February 14 2005 13:54 pooper-scooper wrote: War's not over, ohhh and yes you should ask her again, anytime you can. Gonna have to think over the books thing... don't think it is a great sign, but it could just be nervousness, I'll ask my female housemates (I live with two girls). Female friends cock-block like a frieght train. Don't sweat it. Make your intentions (notice I didn't say get mushy with feelings and scare her) known as soon as you are remotely comfortable doing it. I would have made it clear when I asked her, but to each his own. hm the books thing I don't know. She really likes the books and we chatted about them for a while. It is a bookstore, you know. I don't know how fast I should let my intentions be known. I don't want to rush her. How do I tell if she's ready for it or not? If I go out too many times it will be more like "close friends" than boyfriend/girlfriend. I don't think it was too clear when I asked her. I'm pretty sure I didn't ask it like a date. I thought about adding: "...to starbucks, just the two of us.", but I didn't. | ||
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SweeTLemonS[TPR]
11739 Posts
I'd say to ask her again on Wednesday, to whereever, and then, if all goes well, ask her out on a real date after school on another day. Don't do it the same day, you want her to miss you if she's really liking you. Ask her to a movie, or something on Friday, or lunch on Saturday. Don't go straight for dinner. | ||
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pooper-scooper
United States3108 Posts
On February 14 2005 14:03 Refrain[FriZ] wrote: Hi pooper, nice to see you've followed up with my situation. Don't think that there weren't times in which I thought about backing out. There were many. But I fought them off =] hm the books thing I don't know. She really likes the books and we chatted about them for a while. It is a bookstore, you know. I don't know how fast I should let my intentions be known. I don't want to rush her. How do I tell if she's ready for it or not? If I go out too many times it will be more like "close friends" than boyfriend/girlfriend. I don't think it was too clear when I asked her. I'm pretty sure I didn't ask it like a date. I thought about adding: "...to starbucks, just the two of us.", but I didn't. I edited my previous post, my housemates say its fine, and she did show them to you later rather than just read them. Your good. My only advice is don't wait too long, you'll only make yourself CRAZY. | ||
Hot_Bid
Braavos36402 Posts
something not blatantly romantic but somewhat chick-y can't think of any off the top of my head, other than "sideways" (guaranteed to like this one, most girls) and get some food or whatever... don't build it up too much | ||
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Refrain[FriZ]
Canada4337 Posts
On February 14 2005 13:54 pooper-scooper wrote: Edit: PS. Your gonna have to come up with a place to go, none of us know the area around your school. Can you break on to the roof of the building, cause that's always fun. Other than that, I really don't know what is around your school. i can definitely not see a movie; it will take a long time to get there, and it will take a long time itself. maybe friday, seeing as how things go. I was thinking of lunch on wednesday, you know. I was going to ask her to go to lunch with me on Wednesday. (Should I ask her tomorrow? Since she brings her lunch, I don't want to make her not eat it) Area around my school is basically Toronto. Lots of stuff. Lots of food places. Sushi/Chinese/ Pizza pizza etc. like, a lot really if you have any suggestions on what would be a good date lunch for 2nd "date"(since first one wasn't clear to be a date) tell me/ some more high-end dining ones/ lots of stores and shops / uhh, not sure... if any of you live in downtown toronto, PM me and I'll give you more info. | ||
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Ghardo
Germany1685 Posts
 you only live once, so act in the way you won't regret later on. | ||
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Hot_Bid
Braavos36402 Posts
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SweeTLemonS[TPR]
11739 Posts
On February 14 2005 14:22 Hot_Bid wrote: man you need to live in new york... there's SO many options Fuck NY, Chicago is so much better. | ||
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0x64
Finland4654 Posts
You have to go for emergency friendship killer. Stop TALKING to her, do not contact her in anyway. She will come and ask what's up. And then you will tell her that you don't want to just be friends 1-0 gg no re | ||
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Cambium
United States16368 Posts
What school? | ||
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Refrain[FriZ]
Canada4337 Posts
On February 14 2005 14:37 0x64 wrote: You are already on the freaking friendship for her... You have to go for emergency friendship killer. Stop TALKING to her, do not contact her in anyway. She will come and ask what's up. And then you will tell her that you don't want to just be friends 1-0 gg no re oh fuck, you reallythink so? If I do that, I'm like, 85-90% sure she will just be like, "shrug, whatever". I mean, our experience wasn't exactly sensationally amazing. She might just shrug it off. I kind of disagree with "tell her you don't want to just be friends..." | ||
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Cambium
United States16368 Posts
On February 14 2005 14:39 Refrain[FriZ] wrote: oh fuck, you reallythink so? If I do that, I'm like, 85-90% sure she will just be like, "shrug, whatever". I mean, our experience wasn't exactly sensationally amazing. She might just shrug it off. I kind of disagree with "tell her you don't want to just be friends..." Yeah, I think she's simply treating you as a friend at the moment. I did this type of stuff with a girl a while back (we chilled almost everyday after school). We are still good friends, but nothing more. If you really want to develope a relationship with this girl, ask her out on a REAL date, not too many of those small "dates". | ||
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0x64
Finland4654 Posts
On February 14 2005 14:39 Refrain[FriZ] wrote: oh fuck, you reallythink so? If I do that, I'm like, 85-90% sure she will just be like, "shrug, whatever". I mean, our experience wasn't exactly sensationally amazing. She might just shrug it off. I kind of disagree with "tell her you don't want to just be friends..." Oh well, she is not avoiding your company so it is already a good point for you. But you are really risking friendship if you don't take some dramatic action now, if she would want to be with you, she would make it obvious... If she realized how much she likes you, she would had probably dodged the starbuck trip. But remember, this is different for every person, if you enjoy her company as a friend then well you should tell her how you feel... Get a yes/no (probably a "i dont know, im so surprised didnt saw that coming"). If she spam you in the face with a no, then diplomatly negociate a friendship and then start hitting every girl around, her friends etc... and ask her for tips in a humourous way.. (like bad sex jokes at strange time . Most important is that you show her how confident you really are and that you would take her when she is ready... Meanwhile just use her | ||
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0x64
Finland4654 Posts
And seriously there is no problem in being to nice... Even be overly nice. But see her the less possible, so she might actually wait to see you (cauz you are nice and fun.. Yeah!) | ||
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ahk-gosu
Korea (South)2099 Posts
be nice. looking at her is good but dont stare. know when to change the subject into something sexual or personal. jokes are good. eases the mood. when the time is right, just tell her. that you think she is really pretty or something. some kinda compliment. your stressing too much. just be confident and dont be a jerk. she will like you. girls look at personality more than looks. unless they are shallow. this girl obviously wouldnt mind a peice of you (whichever peice it may be). gl | ||
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pooper-scooper
United States3108 Posts
On February 14 2005 14:18 Refrain[FriZ] wrote: i can definitely not see a movie; it will take a long time to get there, and it will take a long time itself. maybe friday, seeing as how things go. I was thinking of lunch on wednesday, you know. I was going to ask her to go to lunch with me on Wednesday. (Should I ask her tomorrow? Since she brings her lunch, I don't want to make her not eat it) Area around my school is basically Toronto. Lots of stuff. Lots of food places. Sushi/Chinese/ Pizza pizza etc. like, a lot really if you have any suggestions on what would be a good date lunch for 2nd "date"(since first one wasn't clear to be a date) tell me/ some more high-end dining ones/ lots of stores and shops / uhh, not sure... if any of you live in downtown toronto, PM me and I'll give you more info. Lunch Wed is good if followed up with a movie this weekend sounds like a good idea. PS. Don't see "Hitch" for the movie Edit: To those worried about ruining friendships. I am good friends with two girls that I've shot down. It just takes maturity to deal with it on both sides. | ||
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Daishi
United Kingdom110 Posts
I figure, make it obvious what you want to do. What's she going to do - say no? So what? If she says yes, it's ALL KINDS of hassle out the way. Ambivilous is bad. Incidentally, I don't mean "wanna come round mine and watch porn?" kind of obvious, but more like "let's go do something that's obviously a date, something that Daishi can't think of as he's spoilt by being able to go out to dinner or the pub for his dates". Ice scating? Too cold to sit in the park and be rude about joggers. I'm sure you'll be able to think of something. | ||
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0x64
Finland4654 Posts
If telling about how you feel to someone make him/her freak out then he might have not been a even been good as a friend. Btw, is it usual to have girls coming back on you after turning you down... I can't seems to figure out the pattern behind this ? For me it's been 50-50% in those situation~~ | ||
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