EPT[Follow Up] Girl Problem - Chapter 2 - Page 9
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ItchReliever
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FakeSteve[TPR]
Valhalla18444 Posts
On February 14 2005 20:23 Hot_Bid wrote: prototypical i dont think you know what this word means? define 'prototype' and all will be clear  | ||
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Refrain[FriZ]
Canada4337 Posts
post any universal GIRL SIGNALS and wtf they mean here. UNIVERSAL MEANING. THEY. ARE. 99% true. thanks. i'll update tomorrow, maybe new topic this one is already huge TT sorry mods =] | ||
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SweeTLemonS[TPR]
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Bill307
Canada9103 Posts
On February 14 2005 20:29 ItchReliever wrote: i have recently adapted a philosophy that goes -> i will not treat anyone differently because of their gender. so i have been refusing to open doors for girls, not picking up dropped pencils, etc. turns out this philosophy only wields negative effects. That's because you're being an ass? You shouldn't need "a reason" to do small, nice favours for people, since it should be an enjoyable thing to do. I'd do those kinds of things for anyone, the only exception being if they had seriously pissed me off at some point and I had not forgiven them for it. | ||
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Bill307
Canada9103 Posts
On February 14 2005 20:35 Refrain[FriZ] wrote: Guys i'm going to bed like ASAP post any universal GIRL SIGNALS and wtf they mean here. UNIVERSAL MEANING. THEY. ARE. 99% true. thanks. i'll update tomorrow, maybe new topic this one is already huge TT sorry mods =] http://warbucket.com/site/encyc/view_entry.php?id=99 That should be self-explanatory .Also, since you remind me of me, I expect that as long as you are in this state -- unsure about how she feels about you -- you will wonder if every little thing she does is a signal or not. So be prepared to see this coming -- you've probably started doing it already (if not, then maybe I'm wrong, you're not that much like me, and therefore you're lucky ). And be warned: none of those things are definitive signals: in fact, she doesn't even realize she's sending you any. If you keep wondering whether this or that is a sign that she does / does not want to be in a relationship with you, then you will smother yourself to death by anxiety. The solution, you ask? Don't think about it. If you have to think about whether or not something was a signal, then there is a very good chance that it was not. Example: here is a situation where you should not have to ask whether or not something is a signal: she starts holding your hand as you're walking/sitting together. If this does not immediately signal to you that she is interested in you, then you are in trouble.By the way, I'm under the weak impression that a lot of typical girl "signals" and "hints" involve body language. Is this true? e.g. Maybe if they are interested in you, they will also feel nervous when you guys are together, so as a result they will start unconsciously revealling their nervousness through their body language? Or perhaps they will intentionally do certain things with their body to try and get their signal across? This is all just me speculating, of course. | ||
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ItchReliever
2489 Posts
On February 14 2005 20:59 Bill307 wrote: That's because you're being an ass? You shouldn't need "a reason" to do small, nice favours for people, since it should be an enjoyable thing to do. I'd do those kinds of things for anyone, the only exception being if they had seriously pissed me off at some point and I had not forgiven them for it. you reach for a pencil somebody dropped even if it's closer to them? how is that logical? | ||
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Bill307
Canada9103 Posts
On February 14 2005 21:18 ItchReliever wrote: you reach for a pencil somebody dropped even if it's closer to them? how is that logical? Here is an example where it makes sense: the pencil is well within your reach and it's only slightly closer to them. So you pick it up for them: it should make them happier that you're doing them a favour, and you happier because you are making them happier. Therefore, it is a logical thing to do. As for varying distances and measures of convenience, use common sense, doing the kind thing when in doubt because it leads to an overall increase in happiness for both of you. Of course, this only applies if you are both normal human beings, for whom these acts will make you both happier. If it doesn't make you happier to see a random person happier, then you are fucked up (edit: or you are depressed or pissed off at the time, but I won't start "patching up" every "leak" in this post because that is ridiculous: I only did this one because sometimes I have felt mad and at those times I did not want to help those around me). If you live in some fucked up place where courtesy generally makes people less happy, then I can see why you would object to doing these things. | ||
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Chibi[OWNS]
United Kingdom10597 Posts
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Chibi[OWNS]
United Kingdom10597 Posts
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ItchReliever
2489 Posts
but here is a question, do you treat girls differently than you treat guys? if so why? | ||
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Chibi[OWNS]
United Kingdom10597 Posts
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BigBalls
United States5354 Posts
You need to be able to read her. some girls are aggressive, some are passive aggressive, some are passive and some are just laid back. find out which kind she is and attack | ||
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Bill307
Canada9103 Posts
On February 14 2005 21:51 ItchReliever wrote: lol bill i think you're taking me the wrong way. i wasn't trying to argue that doing nice things for others is bad. i probably didn't express myself well. but here is a question, do you treat girls differently than you treat guys? if so why? In response to the first part: yeah, I guess =/. In response to the second part: I try not to, but most girls invoke emotions in me that persuade me to treat them better than guys. So there are situations where I'll be nicer to a girl than to a guy, but I hope that the difference is small, e.g. I might try a little harder to pick something up for a girl than for a guy. | ||
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AFireInside
United States6 Posts
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TheGreenBeret
United Kingdom548 Posts
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Hot_Bid
Braavos36402 Posts
edit: i mean the first quality you look at when meeting new people | ||
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SweeTLemonS[TPR]
11739 Posts
Secondly: It's the rule. Men and women cannot be friends, because the sex part always gets in the way. A man cannot be friends with a woman he finds attractive because he always wants to have sex with her. There is an amendment to that rule, and that is that men and women can be friends if they are both already involved with other people, because it takes the pressure of possible involvment off. No, that's not right either, because then the person you're already involved with feels there's something missing from the relationship and you have to go outside to get that. You tell them no, and then they accuse you of being secretly attracted to the friend, and you probably are, I mean, come on, let's face it. | ||
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TruthBringer
United States578 Posts
On February 14 2005 11:02 ItchReliever wrote: lololol i'm trembling with excitement will refrain succeed? will he fail? only time will tell! This is still my favorite post in this thread. We will be receiving an update about today's events soon . . . | ||
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Zorglub1
Denmark532 Posts
On February 15 2005 13:27 SickofLife wrote: First off: Ack, Stimey had like 5000 in less time than I've been here, and I don't even have 4k yet. He would have passed FA, I'm sure. Secondly: It's the rule. Men and women cannot be friends, because the sex part always gets in the way. A man cannot be friends with a woman he finds attractive because he always wants to have sex with her. There is an amendment to that rule, and that is that men and women can be friends if they are both already involved with other people, because it takes the pressure of possible involvment off. No, that's not right either, because then the person you're already involved with feels there's something missing from the relationship and you have to go outside to get that. You tell them no, and then they accuse you of being secretly attracted to the friend, and you probably are, I mean, come on, let's face it. Theres an exception to rule #2: If you allready had sex/relationship with her and you dont want it again, then its possible to be really good friends. | ||
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