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Manimal_pro
Romania991 Posts
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Kukaracha
France1954 Posts
On June 27 2012 02:52 rhs408 wrote: It took me a long time in life to learn this important lesson about women - no matter what they may say to the contrary, they LIKE to be treated bad. They don't want a guy to be "nice" to them. I think this more goes for women in their early twenties and younger, older/more mature women have had enough relationships with "bad boys" that they are more accepting (or even looking for!) of a "nice" guy. The old saying is true though - nice guys finish last. If you're like me though, knowing this fact doesn't help a whole lot - I can't help but treat women well, it's just who I am/the way I was raised. Women looking for a nice guy are much harder to find, but they're out there... just be patient. This is bullshit. It's a common misconception that many foreveralones have. Woment don't like to be treated badly (it's pretty damn sexist to believe such things, too), they like confidence, much like we do. Most men who qualify themselves as "nice guys" are simply bland, passive, unconfident and uninteresting individuals who find their biggest quality to be kindness. But hey, many people are nice. My neighbour's grandma is very nice. Does it make you want to date her? If your only obvious quality is "being a nice guy", that means that you're simply not going to be sexually attractive. There's no excitement, there's no thrill. Would you want to date an ugly fat girl just because she's "nice"? Maybe you can fall in love with her if she has other qualities. Hell, maybe she's especially nice, she goes to Africa to help starving children, but in this case she's not just nice, she's Mother Theresa. This whole idea about girls wanting bad boys (and some do like bad boys just like some guys like dumb sluts) comes from the fact that confident, interesting individuals will care less about hurting your feelings, because they don't need you. They don't constantly seek other's approval. This is where the "bad boy" label comes from. Women don't like to be treated bad; women like to be treated equally. They don't need a white knight following them around - well, some do, but then again some girls do appreciate the psycho-boyfriend act. | ||
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Hidden_MotiveS
Canada2562 Posts
On June 29 2012 06:12 Kukaracha wrote: This is bullshit. It's a common misconception that many foreveralones have. Woment don't like to be treated badly (it's pretty damn sexist to believe such things, too), they like confidence, much like we do. Most men who qualify themselves as "nice guys" are simply bland, passive, unconfident and uninteresting individuals who find their biggest quality to be kindness. But hey, many people are nice. My neighbour's grandma is very nice. Does it make you want to date her? If your only obvious quality is "being a nice guy", that means that you're simply not going to be sexually attractive. There's no excitement, there's no thrill. Would you want to date an ugly fat girl just because she's "nice"? Maybe you can fall in love with her if she has other qualities. Hell, maybe she's especially nice, she goes to Africa to help starving children, but in this case she's not just nice, she's Mother Theresa. This whole idea about girls wanting bad boys (and some do like bad boys just like some guys like dumb sluts) comes from the fact that confident, interesting individuals will care less about hurting your feelings, because they don't need you. They don't constantly seek other's approval. This is where the "bad boy" label comes from. Women don't like to be treated bad; women like to be treated equally. They don't need a white knight following them around - well, some do, but then again some girls do appreciate the psycho-boyfriend act. I don't know if it's the best example to say that we don't want to find someone who's just nice. There's certain degrees of niceness, and I think quite a lot of people really think of that as the most important quality. Of course as long as ages are similar, genders are right, there is some physical attraction, and there are no language or large cultural/social barriers. Confession. My boss wants me to work another year for coop. It's a great company. I just don't know if I should. My best friend is living somewhere else. My friends are living elsewhere. I want to do coop for school ALL my friends are. I just think I'll get really bored at this company when the other intern goes back to school. I'll have no one to talk to. Also I don't fully trust or like my boss because she gets angry when people are slow and is thinking of firing the consultant that is helping me get data (to be sure the consultant is slow but also skilled at what he does). | ||
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brian
United States9641 Posts
classic case of correlation =! causality. | ||
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Kukaracha
France1954 Posts
Being "a nice guy" is actually the norm. The foreveralones simply use that term to describe a submissive and obsessive behaviour. But go on, believe whatever you want, it's women's fault because they're crazy because they have a vagina and bla bla bla... | ||
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bigwig123
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Destro
Netherlands1206 Posts
On June 29 2012 09:13 Kukaracha wrote: Not at all. But you will once learn that almost everyone is nice, especially to cute ladies, and that there is such a thing as "too nice". Being "a nice guy" is actually the norm. The foreveralones simply use that term to describe a submissive and obsessive behaviour. But go on, believe whatever you want, it's women's fault because they're crazy because they have a vagina and bla bla bla... This a thousand times over. There is overly nice guys that get friend zoned yes. There are assholes who actually treat women like shit yes. But just because you are confident, your own person and treat women like equals (instead of putting them on a pedestal) does not put you in the second category. Its quite interesting that men who are submissive to women in order to be "nice" put themselves in a higher standard then confident men who treat women as equals. | ||
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RaspberrySC2
United States168 Posts
Be a Good Guy. Chicks dig Good Guys. | ||
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Ashakyre
United States99 Posts
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Sitinte
United States499 Posts
I got it done after a few minutes, and my dad gave me a sheepish grin and thanked me, and apologized that a son like me should have a "stupid" father like him. I really hate myself sometimes. | ||
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FeUerFlieGe
United States1193 Posts
This realization is very motivating but I feel like it could be too late to hit this goal. Now don't get me wrong, there are schools in state that are great and that I would be fine with attending, but I really want to leave. It is very exciting though to know that I have an entire year to make the most of even if it doesn't result in me grasping my dream. | ||
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FullNatural
United States180 Posts
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Incompl
United States8 Posts
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GRCJH
Canada76 Posts
I don't give a fuck what girls like because I already have the best girlfriend in the world. She's the sexiest, funniest girl I've ever met and when I walk around with her on my arm after a night of heavy drinking/ stoned sleeplessness and look like trash she still makes me feel like a million bucks just for being me. My $0.02. Don't try to be nice guy/ good guy/ mean guy if you already know you're not. | ||
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Iranon
United States983 Posts
On June 30 2012 10:51 Incompl wrote: I listen to Simon and Garfunkel on a regular basis. Um. That's not much of a confession. I eat bagels on a regular basis. | ||
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Crying
Bulgaria778 Posts
I hate people who are not hygenic | ||
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Kenpachi
United States9908 Posts
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Nikon
Bulgaria5710 Posts
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WhiteDog
France8650 Posts
On June 29 2012 06:12 Kukaracha wrote: This is bullshit. It's a common misconception that many foreveralones have. Woment don't like to be treated badly (it's pretty damn sexist to believe such things, too), they like confidence, much like we do. Most men who qualify themselves as "nice guys" are simply bland, passive, unconfident and uninteresting individuals who find their biggest quality to be kindness. But hey, many people are nice. My neighbour's grandma is very nice. Does it make you want to date her? If your only obvious quality is "being a nice guy", that means that you're simply not going to be sexually attractive. There's no excitement, there's no thrill. Would you want to date an ugly fat girl just because she's "nice"? Maybe you can fall in love with her if she has other qualities. Hell, maybe she's especially nice, she goes to Africa to help starving children, but in this case she's not just nice, she's Mother Theresa. This whole idea about girls wanting bad boys (and some do like bad boys just like some guys like dumb sluts) comes from the fact that confident, interesting individuals will care less about hurting your feelings, because they don't need you. They don't constantly seek other's approval. This is where the "bad boy" label comes from. Women don't like to be treated bad; women like to be treated equally. They don't need a white knight following them around - well, some do, but then again some girls do appreciate the psycho-boyfriend act. lol so your counter argument is that nice guy are uninteresting ? I've came by a ton of interesting nice guy. It's true women like confidence... they also like to be dictated. They don't like bad guy for sure, but they like men that do for them or tell them to do, as much as they want to be feminists and be freed from their education, it's still deeply rooted in them. The breadwinner is still, in their eyes, the archetype of a man. If you want to be successful with your woman, just be, from time to time (not always), the archetype of "manliness" in the most crude sense and think egoistically. I love how in today's world, women will always be in a situation to criticise men and at the same time glamorize themselves (yes I want to be treated "equally"... lol this does not concern the couple at all). | ||
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~ava
Canada379 Posts
On May 06 2013 19:49 WhiteDog wrote: lol so your counter argument is that nice guy are uninteresting ? I've came by a ton of interesting nice guy. It's true women like confidence... they also like to be dictated. They don't like bad guy for sure, but they like men that do for them or tell them to do, as much as they want to be feminists and be freed from their education, it's still deeply rooted in them. The breadwinner is still, in their eyes, the archetype of a man. If you want to be successful with your woman, just be, from time to time (not always), the archetype of "manliness" in the most crude sense and think egoistically. I love how in today's world, women will always be in a situation to criticise men and at the same time glamorize themselves (yes I want to be treated "equally"... lol this does not concern the couple at all). | ||
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