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Alright guys, you know that girl that is beautiful,sexy,smart and you think she is into you. Well I have a messed up tale.
A little background information. The chick in question I have known this chick for three years from high school. We were not super close in high school, but we weren't just acquaintances either. We hung out and had a few good discussions and laughs during high school. I message her on facebook to see what she has been doing for you know the past year since I last saw her. Mind you, she friended me on facebook and not the other way around so yeah. That is the background time for some messed up stuff guys.
Alright, so it started with a facebook chat message. We talk about what we were doing in college and things of that nature. During the conversation she brings up troubles with guys which happened to make her tell me she was single. I asked for her number so that I could get in contact with her and maybe hang out with her.
The next part is the most messed up part really. For two months of texting back and forth, now im not bragging but when it comes to women I am "smooth". I put it in quotation marks cause I am only sometimes smooth. So, I would compliment her on pictures things she liked ect ect ect. However, I have a huge weakness that most people have an advantage in. I am terrible when it comes to conversations over the internet/phone after a period of time. This means, I like meeting in real life so that I can hang out and get closer with people in general, not just get close with girls im interested in.
I waited a long time asking her if she was free week after week. She didn't even try to give me the time so I could set up something for us to meet(edit this is more accurate). Honestly there was two reasons why.
One, she wanted to stay single. Two, this only makes sense because of number one mind you, she was scared of not being single anymore or turning me down. These reasons are only because I have known her for three years. If it was someone else, there could be hundreds of reasons really. ( I came up with ideas where we could meet up.) I have to add this or it just makes it seem like I wasn't even trying which I was.
Now, during this two month period. I have girls being interested in me, but I am trying to stay single so I can meet up with her since she is a really cool chick. This was torture by the way during that period. However, I am now most likely not single anymore. I say most likely because the girl that gave me the time of day has not made it official and we have not figured certain things out.
I made this blog to say guys if a girl is interested in you, but you supposedly want to give a chance to someone else. Go for the chick that gives you the time of day. If it is the one you want, go for that one. If it is the girl you are just interested in, go for her. Being ignored and having a girl absolutely not want to hang out with you is just the worse. I know, it was two months of pain.
Now do not get me wrong. There are sometimes legitimate reasons for chicks to not be able to meet up with you. However, if a chick does not try at all to meet up with you. You should move on. If she was interested in you, but playing hard to get. That's her fucking fault and you are in no way responsible for that. Sucks for her but what can you do?
edit: I will have another blog as soon as the girl I am currently getting together with becomes official. It will be a blog about how day9 changed the way I approached women and why I am thankful for day9.
edit 2: Apparently she was busy. Fuck me right? Prefer if your gentle though.
  
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So someone who knew you added you to Facebook and you automatically assume she is interested in having a relationship with you despite the fact she made it pretty clear (at least from the perspective you've given us) that she wasnt, and you're upset?
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On October 06 2013 12:53 ReignSupreme. wrote:
So someone who knew you added you to Facebook and you automatically assume she is interested in having a relationship with you despite the fact she made it pretty clear (at least from the perspective you've given us) that she wasnt, and you're upset?
No, I am upset that someone who I have known for three years did not want to hang out with me at all after two months. She was a cool chick that I was interested in that I wanted to be single just in case something were to happen. If we ended up as friends, I would of been fine with that. However, two months of her not giving me any time to be able to hang out with her. It really eats away at you. It is like you just messaged a friend you were cool with in high school who you may not have been super close with, but you wanted to hang out with that friend since he was a cool dude. This is the same only that it is a girl instead.
That and the text messages were making her seem interested. Mind you two months of texting is quite a bit of texting.
Edit: Like for instance she texted Hey there  with a smiley face. That automatically means she wants the D.
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maybe she has really high standards if shes so cool/pretty
like, higher standards than what you are
also maybe you should know what girls are like, was it her leading you on or did you lead yourself on? you were just assuming that she liked you more than she did
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It's better to learn now than later to just get over girls that aren't interested in you. Even people who eventually get married to their first crush often date around before going back to the first crush. Good job on that.
Erh.. I mean rabble rabble burn the heretic! How dare he post a blog?!
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you are mad because she doesn't want to hang out with you?
she doesn't owe you jack shit
thats borderline scary that you feel this way
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On October 06 2013 15:13 opsayo wrote:
you are mad because she doesn't want to hang out with you?
she doesn't owe you jack shit
thats borderline scary that you feel this way
Are you serious or just trolling? If trolling, HA. If serious, let me laugh harder. First of all, I never said she owed me anything. Second, if a girl texts you and messages you back and forth for over two months, you would think there would be plans to go hang out. Of course I would be mad after two months if there was no plans or literally anything that says we will hang out. Lastly im banning you the next time im on here from my threads. I do not want children in here who know nothing about relationships. Especially the spanish inquisition. No one ever expects them.
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On October 06 2013 14:50 FFGenerations wrote:
maybe she has really high standards if shes so cool/pretty
like, higher standards than what you are
also maybe you should know what girls are like, was it her leading you on or did you lead yourself on? you were just assuming that she liked you more than she did
Well, alot of girls are interested in me. I wouldn't consider myself model quality but 7.8-8.2/10 on the looks scale. If my hair is short I drop down to a 7.4-7.6/10. I would consider myself a decent looking dude. As far as quality of who I am, I would meet all her standards except maybe in the money department but she is a cool chick so I didn't really care about that.
As far as being lead on it is more or less me feeling that way instead of how it actually went down. It was weird how it went down so I cannot really say which was leading on which you know. However, it was me more of being a hurry to meet with her that made me more annoyed than ever. I had other girls interested in me and there was no way in hell that i was going to stay single for very long(it just happens that you get a girl). That was the main issue that was with it. Also, it felt like she seemed to think that I would always be available to her looking back on it. At least it seemed that way. Which would explain why she wasn't so inclined to meet up with me. Despite that, I managed about two months of staying single which was incredible, at least it is to me.
Just the circumstances and the overall position I was in made it worse. Which is why I had to rant a bit at the end of my blog.
edit: I am actually model quality. Especially lego model quality. Have you seen how sexy some of those lego bionicles look? MMMMMMMM
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Just because a girl adds you on Facebook and texts you for two months doesn't mean she has any romantic interest in you. Girls will not often blatantly tell you "Hey, I'm not into you, if that's why you're texting me, stop pls." That's awkward as hell. Plus, most girls like having casual conversations with guys, and/or getting attention. You can definitely judge through a girl's texts if she's into you. I'm sure she was giving you signs, but you might not have picked them up.
Now, during this two month period. I have girls being interested in me, but I am trying to stay single so I can meet up with her since she is a really cool chick. This was torture by the way during that period. However, I am now most likely not single anymore. I say most likely because the girl that gave me the time of day has not made it official and we have not figured certain things out.
I made this blog to say guys if a girl is interested in you, but you supposedly want to give a chance to someone else. Go for the chick that gives you the time of day. If it is the one you want, go for that one. If it is the girl you are just interested in, go for her. Being ignored and having a girl absolutely not want to hang out with you is just the worse. I know, it was two months of pain
Secondly, I don't like your whole attitude that being single for 2 months is torture or two months of pain, especially while other girls are asking you out, and it looks like you even went out with a girl during the time. You really need to develop a sense of independence and not have your emotional well being rest on a woman, especially one that you aren't even dating.
Now, during this two month period. I have girls being interested in me, but I am trying to stay single so I can meet up with her since she is a really cool chick. This was torture by the way during that period. However, I am now most likely not single anymore. I say most likely because the girl that gave me the time of day has not made it official and we have not figured certain things out.
Lastly, you dated a girl for a while, fully expecting that you will finally unite with your ideal girl after 2 months. Was she just a backup option to you? You post this blog complaining about how you were supposedly led on by some girl, and yet, you lead on some girl to the point of the relationship almost being official. Were you just going to drop in one day and say "Hey listen, this other girl and I have been planning to hook up for 2 months now, and you're just here because being single is torture for me. Cya!" That's really cruel tbh.
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Maybe she can tell that you want to get with her and isn't interested. And the only reason why she hasn't told you straight up is because she'd have to assume things to do that.
And maybe she just doesn't like hanging out with you.
Or maybe she's just been really busy and really wants you so you should spend another two months texting her.
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On October 06 2013 15:28 HappyCamper wrote:I do not want children in here who know nothing about relationships.
are you banning yourself from your own threads then rofl
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I was reserving judgement but the rating of your looks with a non integer has pushed me over the edge.
5 stars.
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a pic of u and her would help TL.net analyze much more accurately
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On October 06 2013 15:28 HappyCamper wrote:Show nested quote +On October 06 2013 15:13 opsayo wrote:
you are mad because she doesn't want to hang out with you?
she doesn't owe you jack shit
thats borderline scary that you feel this way if a girl texts you and messages you back and forth for over two months, you would think there would be plans to go hang out. Of course I would be mad after two months if there was no plans or literally anything that says we will hang out.
Who would think? You thought this, or assumed I should say... and you know what they say about assumptions XD
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Protip: the window of opportunity with about any chick is like 1-2 weeks, NOT 2 FUCKING MONTHS!
This blog really made me scratch my head. in confusion...
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Ignored for 2 months?
Dude, try 2 years.
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On October 06 2013 15:28 HappyCamper wrote:Show nested quote +On October 06 2013 15:13 opsayo wrote:
you are mad because she doesn't want to hang out with you?
she doesn't owe you jack shit
thats borderline scary that you feel this way I do not want children in here who know nothing about relationships.
I'm surprised you can talk down to anyone after chatting up a girl online for 2 months and getting nowhere.
Girl #2 must be thrilled to be the back-up plan.
On October 06 2013 12:29 HappyCamper wrote:
I fucking tried giving you chance after chance to hang out but you wouldn't even fucking try. FUCK YOU.
I'd say it's her loss... but it really isn't.
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