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Here is my 2 cents:
1) A wise thing to remember is never mess with old people at night. Just leave them alone. The older they are the earlier you leave.
2) Even a roommate might want you to leave by 11 pm. They have have to get up early and stuff.
3) Like people have said, its better to just leave and defuse the situation. It might even be a good idea to call up her uncle and apologize. A few kind words can completely disarm someone, and this minimal effort will cause your life to be less complicated. Even if you plan on getting revenge in the future, they will not expect it.
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On January 21 2009 12:33 Chill wrote:
Hmm, on second thought you and your girlfriend sound perfect for each other. I recommend marriage now.
Why thank you chill -_-;;
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so let me get this straight...you were told to leave the house by 11pm (which sounds like a perfectly reasonable time to me as its pretty late) and you decided to disobey her parents and stay and watch your girlfriend stomp around like a spoiled raging lunatic bitch smashing holes through walls, breaking down closet doors screaming and yelling and attacking her poor lil grandma all because she didn't get her way? Not to mention she is 21 years old (acting like a 3 year old who jus got her candy taken away) living in her parents house (which the uncle is paying for) the least she can do is respect their rules. And now your complaining to tl.net that your mad because they called the cops on you when you decided to disobey her parents rules in their own home?
lol and you think you got it bad? if my sisters boyfriend was told to leave and he refused my dad would be taking him out himself in a bodybag.
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On January 21 2009 12:49 Pengu1n wrote:
so let me get this straight...you were told to leave the house by 11pm (which sounds like a perfectly reasonable time to me as its pretty late) and you decided to disobey her parents and stay and watch your girlfriend stomp around like a spoiled raging lunatic bitch smashing holes through walls, breaking down closet doors screaming and yelling and attacking her poor lil grandma all because she didn't get her way? Not to mention she is 21 years old (acting like a 3 year old who jus got her candy taken away) living in her parents house (which the uncle is paying for) the least she can do is respect their rules. And now your complaining to tl.net that your mad because they called the cops on you when you decided to disobey her parents rules in their own home?
lol and you think you got it bad? if my sisters boyfriend was told to leave and he refused my dad would be taking him out himself in a bodybag.
I disobeyed because they disrespected me and also my girlfriend was already going nuts for them yelling at me for no reason. The reason why I even disobeyed also was because I wanted to make sure my girlfriend was going to be alright.
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I would of stayed to make sure her grandma was going to be alright. 
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On January 21 2009 02:07 kidd wrote:
Lol your girlfriend is quite the pyscho if from one single argument she put a hole in the wall, broke her closet, and threw a shoe box at her own grandmother... Am I missing anything.
I would hate to have that wrath focused on me, good luck with that.
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On January 21 2009 12:56 ShoCkeyy wrote:Show nested quote +On January 21 2009 12:49 Pengu1n wrote:
so let me get this straight...you were told to leave the house by 11pm (which sounds like a perfectly reasonable time to me as its pretty late) and you decided to disobey her parents and stay and watch your girlfriend stomp around like a spoiled raging lunatic bitch smashing holes through walls, breaking down closet doors screaming and yelling and attacking her poor lil grandma all because she didn't get her way? Not to mention she is 21 years old (acting like a 3 year old who jus got her candy taken away) living in her parents house (which the uncle is paying for) the least she can do is respect their rules. And now your complaining to tl.net that your mad because they called the cops on you when you decided to disobey her parents rules in their own home?
lol and you think you got it bad? if my sisters boyfriend was told to leave and he refused my dad would be taking him out himself in a bodybag. I disobeyed because they disrespected me and also my girlfriend was already going nuts for them yelling at me for no reason. The reason why I even disobeyed also was because I wanted to make sure my girlfriend was going to be alright.
... they disrespected you by asking you to leave?
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On January 21 2009 13:06 -orb- wrote:Show nested quote +On January 21 2009 02:07 kidd wrote:
Lol your girlfriend is quite the pyscho if from one single argument she put a hole in the wall, broke her closet, and threw a shoe box at her own grandmother... Am I missing anything.
I would hate to have that wrath focused on me, good luck with that.
When we get into arguments we know how to communicate. We don't yell at each other and just fix our problem right then and there.
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On January 21 2009 13:07 lilsusie wrote:Show nested quote +On January 21 2009 12:56 ShoCkeyy wrote:On January 21 2009 12:49 Pengu1n wrote:
so let me get this straight...you were told to leave the house by 11pm (which sounds like a perfectly reasonable time to me as its pretty late) and you decided to disobey her parents and stay and watch your girlfriend stomp around like a spoiled raging lunatic bitch smashing holes through walls, breaking down closet doors screaming and yelling and attacking her poor lil grandma all because she didn't get her way? Not to mention she is 21 years old (acting like a 3 year old who jus got her candy taken away) living in her parents house (which the uncle is paying for) the least she can do is respect their rules. And now your complaining to tl.net that your mad because they called the cops on you when you decided to disobey her parents rules in their own home?
lol and you think you got it bad? if my sisters boyfriend was told to leave and he refused my dad would be taking him out himself in a bodybag. I disobeyed because they disrespected me and also my girlfriend was already going nuts for them yelling at me for no reason. The reason why I even disobeyed also was because I wanted to make sure my girlfriend was going to be alright. ... they disrespected you by asking you to leave?
No, they didn't ask me to leave at first. They just lied about her uncle saying for me to leave. Then my girlfriend got upset about them lying then her mother and grandmother started to yell at me about that they're going to call the cops for me to leave now. Then that's when hell broke lose with my girlfriend because they yelled at me with out a reason and threatened to call the police. Then when they finally asked me to leave I disregarded it because I wanted to make sure my girlfriend was going to be alright.
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So the uncle didnt exactly come to you and ask you to leave. The mother came in and said "Uncle wants you to leave by 11" although he never said that. I dunno. I still cant sympathize with you, it's not your girlfriend's house - it's her mom/uncle's. =/
No matter how bad a relationship is between a daughter and mom, she's still her mom. If it wasn't for her your girlfriend would not even exist. She needs to show more respect to her mom, imo, she's 21 and living at the house rent free (i'm assuming) how can she have the audacity to scream at her for asking her bf to leave since it's getting late?
You don't really have a position in this. You're the stranger in the situation that's been asked to leave, even if the non-house-owner girlfriend asks you to stay, it would have been the proper thing for you to leave first, then question it later.
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On January 21 2009 13:15 lilsusie wrote:
So the uncle didnt exactly come to you and ask you to leave. The mother came in and said "Uncle wants you to leave by 11" although he never said that. I dunno. I still cant sympathize with you, it's not your girlfriend's house - it's her mom/uncle's. =/
No matter how bad a relationship is between a daughter and mom, she's still her mom. If it wasn't for her your girlfriend would not even exist. She needs to show more respect to her mom, imo, she's 21 and living at the house rent free (i'm assuming) how can she have the audacity to scream at her for asking her bf to leave since it's getting late?
You don't really have a position in this. You're the stranger in the situation that's been asked to leave, even if the non-house-owner girlfriend asks you to stay, it would have been the proper thing for you to leave first, then question it later.
Well I would have left if they didn't threaten me at first and yelled at me. It was just reaction to take care of my girlfriend first and that's what I tried doing.
how can she have the audacity to scream at her for asking her bf to leave since it's getting late?
Well she didn't scream at her for that, she has asked me to leave before and I had left(different day of course). It was the fact that she lied about it and then promptly yelled at me instead. Then her mother and grandmother come out of no where saying they're going to call the cops. They asked me to leave and I told them no because I wanted to make sure my gf was going to be alright, then her mother yells "YOURE NOT MARRIED TO HER GTFO" which made me more upset and what not but I still wanted to make sure she was alright. After 5mins of screaming, yelling, I left. I didn't yell back of course. Just asked why will you call the cops on me for no reason. They didn't have a reason till they asked me to leave.
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Nothing like a TL blog to set you strait.
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On January 21 2009 13:29 fight_or_flight wrote:
Nothing like a TL blog to set you strait.
Well I like to come to TL to hear other peoples opinions. Great way to learn on having an open mind.
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On January 21 2009 12:56 ShoCkeyy wrote:Show nested quote +On January 21 2009 12:49 Pengu1n wrote:
so let me get this straight...you were told to leave the house by 11pm (which sounds like a perfectly reasonable time to me as its pretty late) and you decided to disobey her parents and stay and watch your girlfriend stomp around like a spoiled raging lunatic bitch smashing holes through walls, breaking down closet doors screaming and yelling and attacking her poor lil grandma all because she didn't get her way? Not to mention she is 21 years old (acting like a 3 year old who jus got her candy taken away) living in her parents house (which the uncle is paying for) the least she can do is respect their rules. And now your complaining to tl.net that your mad because they called the cops on you when you decided to disobey her parents rules in their own home?
lol and you think you got it bad? if my sisters boyfriend was told to leave and he refused my dad would be taking him out himself in a bodybag. I disobeyed because they disrespected me and also my girlfriend was already going nuts for them yelling at me for no reason. The reason why I even disobeyed also was because I wanted to make sure my girlfriend was going to be alright.
Yes, I am sure your presence made the whole situation a LOT better for your gf...
Also, they disrespected you? You have to earn respect by acting like a man. That means being responsible and acting mature even when other adults act immature.
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On January 21 2009 14:01 Savio wrote:Show nested quote +On January 21 2009 12:56 ShoCkeyy wrote:On January 21 2009 12:49 Pengu1n wrote:
so let me get this straight...you were told to leave the house by 11pm (which sounds like a perfectly reasonable time to me as its pretty late) and you decided to disobey her parents and stay and watch your girlfriend stomp around like a spoiled raging lunatic bitch smashing holes through walls, breaking down closet doors screaming and yelling and attacking her poor lil grandma all because she didn't get her way? Not to mention she is 21 years old (acting like a 3 year old who jus got her candy taken away) living in her parents house (which the uncle is paying for) the least she can do is respect their rules. And now your complaining to tl.net that your mad because they called the cops on you when you decided to disobey her parents rules in their own home?
lol and you think you got it bad? if my sisters boyfriend was told to leave and he refused my dad would be taking him out himself in a bodybag. I disobeyed because they disrespected me and also my girlfriend was already going nuts for them yelling at me for no reason. The reason why I even disobeyed also was because I wanted to make sure my girlfriend was going to be alright. Yes, I am sure your presence made the whole situation a LOT better for your gf... Also, they disrespected you? You have to earn respect by acting like a man. That means being responsible and acting mature even when other adults act immature.
It's the same for them. They earn my respect by respecting me and all I've ever done was respect them till that happened.
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On January 21 2009 14:03 ShoCkeyy wrote:Show nested quote +On January 21 2009 14:01 Savio wrote:On January 21 2009 12:56 ShoCkeyy wrote:On January 21 2009 12:49 Pengu1n wrote:
so let me get this straight...you were told to leave the house by 11pm (which sounds like a perfectly reasonable time to me as its pretty late) and you decided to disobey her parents and stay and watch your girlfriend stomp around like a spoiled raging lunatic bitch smashing holes through walls, breaking down closet doors screaming and yelling and attacking her poor lil grandma all because she didn't get her way? Not to mention she is 21 years old (acting like a 3 year old who jus got her candy taken away) living in her parents house (which the uncle is paying for) the least she can do is respect their rules. And now your complaining to tl.net that your mad because they called the cops on you when you decided to disobey her parents rules in their own home?
lol and you think you got it bad? if my sisters boyfriend was told to leave and he refused my dad would be taking him out himself in a bodybag. I disobeyed because they disrespected me and also my girlfriend was already going nuts for them yelling at me for no reason. The reason why I even disobeyed also was because I wanted to make sure my girlfriend was going to be alright. Yes, I am sure your presence made the whole situation a LOT better for your gf... Also, they disrespected you? You have to earn respect by acting like a man. That means being responsible and acting mature even when other adults act immature. It's the same for them. They earn my respect by respecting me and all I've ever done was respect them till that happened.
I don't wanna be too hard on you, but I do think that by any way you measure it, you should have left their house when they made it plain that they wanted you to leave. By you staying and your gf throwing a tantrum, it just made you both look like younger people in adult bodies.
I also think that you are the one who should be doing the earning of respect because
1. You are younger
2. You are dating their daughter whom THEY are taking care of at the moment.
3. You were in their house. You were not on equal footing with them.
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On January 21 2009 14:10 Savio wrote:Show nested quote +On January 21 2009 14:03 ShoCkeyy wrote:On January 21 2009 14:01 Savio wrote:On January 21 2009 12:56 ShoCkeyy wrote:On January 21 2009 12:49 Pengu1n wrote:
so let me get this straight...you were told to leave the house by 11pm (which sounds like a perfectly reasonable time to me as its pretty late) and you decided to disobey her parents and stay and watch your girlfriend stomp around like a spoiled raging lunatic bitch smashing holes through walls, breaking down closet doors screaming and yelling and attacking her poor lil grandma all because she didn't get her way? Not to mention she is 21 years old (acting like a 3 year old who jus got her candy taken away) living in her parents house (which the uncle is paying for) the least she can do is respect their rules. And now your complaining to tl.net that your mad because they called the cops on you when you decided to disobey her parents rules in their own home?
lol and you think you got it bad? if my sisters boyfriend was told to leave and he refused my dad would be taking him out himself in a bodybag. I disobeyed because they disrespected me and also my girlfriend was already going nuts for them yelling at me for no reason. The reason why I even disobeyed also was because I wanted to make sure my girlfriend was going to be alright. Yes, I am sure your presence made the whole situation a LOT better for your gf... Also, they disrespected you? You have to earn respect by acting like a man. That means being responsible and acting mature even when other adults act immature. It's the same for them. They earn my respect by respecting me and all I've ever done was respect them till that happened. I don't wanna be too hard on you, but I do think that by any way you measure it, you should have left their house when they made it plain that they wanted you to leave. By you staying and your gf throwing a tantrum, it just made you both look like younger people in adult bodies. I also think that you are the one who should be doing the earning of respect because 1. You are younger 2. You are dating their daughter whom THEY are taking care of at the moment. 3. You were in their house. You were not on equal footing with them.
Ok I'm younger yes, but they should of asked politely and not threatened me like they always have.
They really don't take care of her, she basically takes care of herself, she usually buys the groceries in the house as well.
And yes it's their house I understand but they still did not respect me by just yelling at me first and then threatening me. Which is why my gf got the way she was.
EDIT: I understand that I should have acted differently, but it was in the moment and all I could of thought about was my gf being safe.
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Break up with your girlfriend.
A relationship isn't worth all this drama, trust me. No matter what. Within a few months you'll find a girl without a ton of emotional baggage.
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I can see your point of view. When people act retarded (like when they yelled at you instead of just asking you politely to leave), it is offensive and we want to push back or at least not give them what they want.
I wouldn't worry about it too much. Its over now. Hopefully your gf will get her own place soon and it will be irrelevant what they think.
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On January 21 2009 15:47 Savio wrote:
I can see your point of view. When people act retarded (like when they yelled at you instead of just asking you politely to leave), it is offensive and we want to push back or at least not give them what they want.
I wouldn't worry about it too much. Its over now. Hopefully your gf will get her own place soon and it will be irrelevant what they think.
Yea well her family doesn't want me over now ;p but other than that we're moving in together. Just trying to find a place now.
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