EPTThat situation was a bit different since she was still a minor...
To be completely honest, I am generally terrible when it comes to a *girl's parents. My appearance generally isn't all that encouraging from their perspective, I guess.
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PH
United States6173 Posts
That situation was a bit different since she was still a minor... To be completely honest, I am generally terrible when it comes to a *girl's parents. My appearance generally isn't all that encouraging from their perspective, I guess. | ||
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EsX_Raptor
United States2802 Posts
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CommanderFluffy
Taiwan1059 Posts
"supper ultra christian people"  gg dude | ||
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Frits
11782 Posts
And your girlfriend needs to calm down, how old is she? 12? Stop being a dumb stereotypical teen and learn to adapt to other people's environment. If her mom is threatening with calling the cops Im pretty sure you have overstayed your welcome. Now whenever you will come over it's going to be incredibly awkward. Maybe her mom just had a bad day. "BOOHOO FUCK YOU YOU'RE NOT MY DAD" What if you had to take care of your brother's home, would you think it was reasonable if some kid refused to leave when it's getting late? edit: Stop bringing religion into this, just stop. | ||
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EsX_Raptor
United States2802 Posts
Real Christians are not like that, we love other people and want to share God's love for them. | ||
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intoyourrainbOW
United States168 Posts
On January 21 2009 02:24 Chill wrote: ? When this was going on you weren't holding your girlfriend back and trying to calm her down? Or leaving? Seriously. Throwing a shoebox at an old lady? (seriously NOT cool) Breaking a closet? Throwing weights into walls? Your gf has issues. But are you really 20? It seems like you didn't do anything but stand back and watch like a pussy. Dude, grow some balls. And why mention her parents are "supper ultra" Christians, like that has ANY relavence to what happened? Keep that kind of bullshit to yourself plz. | ||
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Chromyne
Canada561 Posts
On January 21 2009 03:29 CommanderFluffy wrote: sounds to me like your gf's crazy, then i read, "supper ultra christian people" gg dudeSo first you thought she was crazy. Then the apparent religious background of the parents made you realize that their telling him to be out of the house by 11 PM cease to have merit. Her disrespect and violence was suddenly justified and she became the victim. Please help me understand this. On January 21 2009 03:32 Frits wrote: Wow this is a bunch of dumb shit, when a person asks you to leave their house you do it, no questions asked, you just leave and diffuse the situation. Just say goodbye to your girlfriend and come back another time. Agreed. Whether they're insane or "Christian" is irrelevant in this context. You are on their property and you should respect them and that fact. Your girlfriend doesn't seem to know much respect either. She doesn't care if her uncle is paying for the [expenses of the] house? She should be glad her parents/relatives love (it could be something else, this is just a placeholder at the moment) her enough to let her stay with that attitude. | ||
cgrinker
United States3824 Posts
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Savio
United States1850 Posts
Also, if she wants to do what she wants, she needs to get her own place. As long as she lives with Mommy and Daddy (or anyone else who owns the house and is paying for it), she can't complain about their rules. That's like trying to have the privileges of adulthood without taking the responsibilities of adulthood. EDIT: Frits is right. Your gf sounds like a child and you should have left right away. | ||
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arbiter_md
Moldova1219 Posts
And I disagree with those who think she is 12. I think she is the only who did the right thing. That's what you have to do to that type of parents. You have to show them their place from the beginning, otherwise they will do the same shit over and over again. Maybe she overreacted, but that's definitively the right attitude about this. And the big losers from all this shit is again her parents. Because,. no matter what will happen to this relation, soon she will get a job and will have her life. And soon after that, those parents will start to miss her. | ||
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dekuschrub
United States2069 Posts
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Raithed
China7078 Posts
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Xeofreestyler
Belgium6776 Posts
to those saying his girlfriend is a psycho: maybe think about the fact that there's probably a history of arguments and fighting? anyway good luck with this man, wouldnt wanna be in that kind of situation | ||
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Zapdos_Smithh
Canada2620 Posts
It's easier said than done to just "ignore it b/c we are old enough", b/c she lives w/her parents. I would just try to get on the parents' good side and spend more time @ your house instead of her house. | ||
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sprawlers
Norway439 Posts
In short your girlfriend is psycho. | ||
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Chromyne
Canada561 Posts
On January 21 2009 04:21 arbiter_md wrote: That's what happens when there's no tolerance in the world. I mean, had any of you four, any kind of tolerance, and the things would have been fine. Now, the idiots of the house of course are her parents. Unfortunately, there are many parents that don't understand yet, that a 20 years old girl has the right for private life. The problem is, they think they have the right to decide about her life just because they give her some fucking house and food. I have to disagree. The daughter is living in a house that is not her own, the owners obviously tolerate her enough to let her stay in a place she's not paying for. And they are not "deciding about her life." They are giving her rules that she must abide by as long as she is under their roof. They should have kicked her out long ago, because she obviously does not need their housing or food (if she did, she does not seem grateful in the slightest). And I disagree with those who think she is 12. I think she is the only who did the right thing. That's what you have to do to that type of parents. You have to show them their place from the beginning, otherwise they will do the same shit over and over again. Maybe she overreacted, but that's definitively the right attitude about this. And the big losers from all this shit is again her parents. Because,. no matter what will happen to this relation, soon she will get a job and will have her life. And soon after that, those parents will start to miss her. I think you have the roles reversed. I must admit that if I were to come from a worldview where respect, specifically for family and parents, is not valued, then I would have to agree with you. Parents can be abusive, but children can also be plain brats. The blame could be on both sides, but that doesn't justify bad behavior on either party. | ||
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FREEloss_ca
Canada603 Posts
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VooDank
Canada252 Posts
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Naib
Hungary4904 Posts
On January 21 2009 03:32 Frits wrote: Wow this is a bunch of dumb shit, when a person asks you to leave their house you do it, no questions asked, you just leave and diffuse the situation. Just say goodbye to your girlfriend and come back another time. What you're doing is basically setting yourself up for never getting along with those people. They have every right to tell you to leave, no matter how unreasonable it seems to you. And your girlfriend needs to calm down, how old is she? 12? Stop being a dumb stereotypical teen and learn to adapt to other people's environment. If her mom is threatening with calling the cops Im pretty sure you have overstayed your welcome. Now whenever you will come over it's going to be incredibly awkward. Maybe her mom just had a bad day. "BOOHOO FUCK YOU YOU'RE NOT MY DAD" What if you had to take care of your brother's home, would you think it was reasonable if some kid refused to leave when it's getting late? edit: Stop bringing religion into this, just stop. I don't fully agree with this post here. First part theoretically would be fine, but you don't just walk out on your gf in a situation / environment like that, or you're a shitty person. Yes, she should calm down. But as others have mentioned the past history of fights may have had a huge role here. Yes, you should've helped to try and diffuse the situation, but not by leaving. Ok, you tried, and they were unreasonable, but I'm not sure you tried the right way (although asking "why teh haet?!" sounds fine to me)...maybe it isn't the right way for those people. "What if you had to take care of your brother's home, would you think it was reasonable if some kid refused to leave when it's getting late?" Well, guess what, I'm pretty sure he didn't just go and tell her uncle "Fuck off you twat you can't order me around" because OP's post pretty much shows he (while being upset for right reasons) still knows the basic rules of respect. I think it was more like "she doesn't want me to leave, please state a reason / talk this over with her / etc. " which, imo again, is perfectly fine. Having a set time of you leaving beforehand sounds like a better idea (if her parents are that overprotective / strict / abusive / dumb / zealous / whatever) to avoid situations like these... I think if she didn't just explode by the first sentence like "me wantsie meh boyfriand ovar here, you no tell me!" and acted a bit mature, or if she didn't, should you have stepped in to tone things down and politely ask, this wouldn't have escalated. I still think it's rude to just wanting to throw you out, expressing you're not really wanted over there at all... But your girlfriend is also almost equally at fault for this, and so are you a tiny bit (but I'm pretty sure it's easy to analyze the situation afterwards, in the heat of the moment I don't think I would've acted a lot different - I would protect my gf even from her own parents / uncle / whatever, should the need arise). I'm glad if it works out for you though, she seems to have suffered enough there from what you describe. I'm pretty sure the reason for loving her isn't that she acts like a psycho  Should be a lot better if you can work moving together out, good luck! | ||
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Frits
11782 Posts
On January 21 2009 04:39 Xeofreestyler wrote: Ermm to those saying his girlfriend is a psycho: maybe think about the fact that there's probably a history of arguments and fighting? anyway good luck with this man, wouldnt wanna be in that kind of situation The story starts with the girls uncle coming in and "acting like her dad", which warrants a "fuck off" from his girlfriend. Seriously, what does "acting like her dad" mean anyway, and how is an uncle not allowed to act like someone's dad? And how is telling that someone has to leave at 11pm unreasonable in your own house? It's not like if her dad was there she'd be acting any differently, it's just some lame excuse. I also don't think there's a history of fighting at all, she just sounds like an egotistical person. | ||
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